what are you doing right now?

[toomuchreality]

Sept 7, 2023 10:45:59 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Sept 7, 2023 10:36:37 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I'm going to look at this today. I'm still leaning towards the KS townhouse, but we'll see.

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Interesting setup.  I'm intrigued by the center area.  Is it a big "central park" or another private property?  No address, so it seems like park.

The block I grew up on, looked like this. The center was a field, owned by various people living around the perimeter. The movie, The Sandlot was filmed there, at one end of the field.
I didn't know that, when I saw the movie the first time. But the houses looked SO familiar! I decided that the houses in other areas/states, looked much more like where I lived than I expected. -Nope. I really recognized the back of the houses, from playing in that field, all those years ago!

I believe it's still a field, except for the end where they made the baseball field, for the movie. I should drive by and see if I can see any difference. I wonder how people gain access? When I lived there, you had to go through someone's yard. We just climbed the fence in our backyard. My brother caught the field on fire once... our dad was a fireman. It didn't go over real well.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Trying to figure out my next project.  I'm too used to having something in my hands in the evening to do.  

[finnime]

Sitting in the living room thinking of what I need to do in the next 2 days. Mainly I'm just sitting. I should take advantage of the new water heater and do laundry and take a shower, but after I've decided if I'm going to take Franklin the Dog for a walk. It's a bit warm for my tastes. We do get a good breeze, but still.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

The smoke and then whatever else is in the air is messing with my sinuses.

I had such bad congestion last night I couldn't sleep. I was in a lot of pain and puffy.

Found Sudafed decongestant and that help but my eyeballs still hurt and won't stop watering.

I'm hiding in the house with all the windows closed.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Sept 7, 2023 17:12:06 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

The smoke and then whatever else is in the air is messing with my sinuses.

I had such bad congestion last night I couldn't sleep. I was in a lot of pain and puffy.

Found Sudafed decongestant and that help but my eyeballs still hurt and won't stop watering.

I'm hiding in the house with all the windows closed.

I'm having a horrible problem with allergies right now.  So far, the combo of bendryl and Panaday eye drops seems to be beating back most of my symptoms, but neither last as long as they should (according to the package).  I need to make another run to Costco and pick up another box of Panaday.  It's not cheap, but it works.

[giramomma]

Well, I was not rejected today.

Tomorrow is another day.<snort>

[Pink Cashmere]

I just learned that Horseface recently tested positive for COVID. I think I posted here that Tuesday morning, the day we had the appointment with the funeral home, Brother texted Mister saying he was very sick. Brother has not been tested, but if Horseface has/had it, that’s probably what’s wrong with him too. 

Brother did make it to the appointment at the funeral home, almost an hour late. And then we were all in that little office, with him seated in the middle, sitting between Mister and I and Aunt D and her husband. 

Idk how the timing works, but now Mister is questioning if that’s how his Dad ended up with pneumonia and not being able to breathe on his own and needing oxygen. I have no idea, and I’m not trying to figure it out. Either way, the end result is the same, that their Dad died. Mister doesn’t need any more reasons to be upset with his brother, so I am not encouraging that line of thought. 

I am about ready to just go to bed and try again tomorrow. Even though tomorrow probably won’t be much better.

[Pink Cashmere]

I reached out to Aunt D today, asking if they were planning to have a repast or gather after the burial. She said she’d asked Mister about it and he said that after it was over, he just wanted to go home and go to bed. As far as I’m concerned, that’s that on that, we can come home and he can go to bed or do whatever might soothe his nerves.

BUT, I expressed concern that some of the family might show up at our home anyway, just because that is where they gathered after his Mom’s burial. I don’t like unannounced guests and will look at you from a window while you are ringing my doorbell and still act like I’m not home, and refuse to open the door. 

But I’m not sure that is an appropriate in a time like this. I’m not sure how I should handle it if that happens. If I do answer the door, I’m good with being clear that Mister is resting and will not be disturbed regardless, and I will tackle and fight anybody that insists on going to the private part of our home, to try to speak to him. Even if I let somebody inside, the public and private areas of our house are very clearly defined. Our children and my grandchildren are the only people that are welcome in the private parts of our home. 

But I also think I would feel awkward if I can’t offer any guests that might pop up, at least some snacks or whatever. But as of today, I also don’t feel like going to the grocery store.

[finnime]

I'm sorry, Pink. It keeps getting piled higher and deeper at your door.

[finnime]

Pink Cashmere, can arrangements be made at a nearby restaurant to serve at least coffee and some sweets? Maybe sandwiches? I'm most familiar with that sort of arrangement, which serves to let the bereaved not have to work extremely hard when they are not up for it.

[daisylu]

Sept 7, 2023 17:45:12 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I reached out to Aunt D today, asking if they were planning to have a repast or gather after the burial. She said she’d asked Mister about it and he said that after it was over, he just wanted to go home and go to bed. As far as I’m concerned, that’s that on that, we can come home and he can go to bed or do whatever might soothe his nerves.

BUT, I expressed concern that some of the family might show up at our home anyway, just because that is where they gathered after his Mom’s burial. I don’t like unannounced guests and will look at you from a window while you are ringing my doorbell and still act like I’m not home, and refuse to open the door. 

But I’m not sure that is an appropriate in a time like this. I’m not sure how I should handle it if that happens. If I do answer the door, I’m good with being clear that Mister is resting and will not be disturbed regardless, and I will tackle and fight anybody that insists on going to the private part of our home, to try to speak to him. Even if I let somebody inside, the public and private areas of our house are very clearly defined. Our children and my grandchildren are the only people that are welcome in the private parts of our home. 

But I also think I would feel awkward if I can’t offer any guests that might pop up, at least some snacks or whatever. But as of today, I also don’t feel like going to the grocery store.

Many funeral homes now have rooms for a repast, where you can prepay for a buffet with snack sandwiches and salad. Is that an option? Aunt D's husband was ready to help pay for the funeral, maybe he could front it until ya'll are ready to deal with it? But yes, nobody needs to be in your home especially the way Mister is doing.

[busymom]

Sept 7, 2023 17:55:39 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Sept 7, 2023 17:45:12 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I reached out to Aunt D today, asking if they were planning to have a repast or gather after the burial. She said she’d asked Mister about it and he said that after it was over, he just wanted to go home and go to bed. As far as I’m concerned, that’s that on that, we can come home and he can go to bed or do whatever might soothe his nerves.

BUT, I expressed concern that some of the family might show up at our home anyway, just because that is where they gathered after his Mom’s burial. I don’t like unannounced guests and will look at you from a window while you are ringing my doorbell and still act like I’m not home, and refuse to open the door. 

But I’m not sure that is an appropriate in a time like this. I’m not sure how I should handle it if that happens. If I do answer the door, I’m good with being clear that Mister is resting and will not be disturbed regardless, and I will tackle and fight anybody that insists on going to the private part of our home, to try to speak to him. Even if I let somebody inside, the public and private areas of our house are very clearly defined. Our children and my grandchildren are the only people that are welcome in the private parts of our home. 

But I also think I would feel awkward if I can’t offer any guests that might pop up, at least some snacks or whatever. But as of today, I also don’t feel like going to the grocery store.

Many funeral homes now have rooms for a repast, where you can prepay for a buffet with snack sandwiches and salad. Is that an option? Aunt D's husband was ready to help pay for the funeral, maybe he could front it until ya'll are ready to deal with it? But yes, nobody needs to be in your home especially the way Mister is doing.

     Yes.  When an old friend lost her mother, they had the entire gathering and service at the funeral home, including cake afterwards.  I'd never seen it done that way, but why not?  At least (hopefully) you shouldn't have groups of people at your house.

[NoNamePerson]

Sept 7, 2023 17:59:48 GMT -5 busymom said:

Sept 7, 2023 17:55:39 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Many funeral homes now have rooms for a repast, where you can prepay for a buffet with snack sandwiches and salad. Is that an option? Aunt D's husband was ready to help pay for the funeral, maybe he could front it until ya'll are ready to deal with it? But yes, nobody needs to be in your home especially the way Mister is doing.

     Yes.  When an old friend lost her mother, they had the entire gathering and service at the funeral home, including cake afterwards.  I'd never seen it done that way, but why not?  At least (hopefully) you shouldn't have groups of people at your house.

That’s the way it was when I attended my EXSIL’s funeral last year. Made it easy on her two children 

[Deleted]

Sept 7, 2023 17:28:04 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I just learned that Horseface recently tested positive for COVID. I think I posted here that Tuesday morning, the day we had the appointment with the funeral home, Brother texted Mister saying he was very sick. Brother has not been tested, but if Horseface has/had it, that’s probably what’s wrong with him too. 

Brother did make it to the appointment at the funeral home, almost an hour late. And then we were all in that little office, with him seated in the middle, sitting between Mister and I and Aunt D and her husband. 

Idk how the timing works, but now Mister is questioning if that’s how his Dad ended up with pneumonia and not being able to breathe on his own and needing oxygen. I have no idea, and I’m not trying to figure it out. Either way, the end result is the same, that their Dad died. Mister doesn’t need any more reasons to be upset with his brother, so I am not encouraging that line of thought. 

I am about ready to just go to bed and try again tomorrow. Even though tomorrow probably won’t be much better.

Brother sure shows his true nature, doesn't he, showing up sick (and he's not stupid enough not to realize it's likely Covid), exposing his family to it.  He sure wasn't too sick to be texting Mister about getting his $$, was he?  I'm so sorry all this mess is still on your plate.  I think you and Mister are handling the food issue perfectly.  

[Deleted]

We are all packed and ready to leave tomorrow morning.  I dread the 2 a.m. alarm but that's how it goes.  I'm really looking forward to being some place a little cooler

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 7, 2023 17:49:48 GMT -5 finnime said:

Pink Cashmere , can arrangements be made at a nearby restaurant to serve at least coffee and some sweets? Maybe sandwiches? I'm most familiar with that sort of arrangement, which serves to let the bereaved not have to work extremely hard when they are not up for it.

That is a good idea, but not what is customary here. Traditionally, the family gathers either at the church or at an immediate family member’s home.

I am very new to this kind of thing, so while I do like the idea of gathering at a restaurant, who pays? I will not ASSume that other people will pay for whatever they order, and not leave Mister with the tab. Another scenario where I might need bail money.

Mister told his Aunt that he would like to just come home and go to bed. She respects that and so do I. We can have it said at the funeral that there will be no repast. That won’t necessarily stop people from coming to our house anyway, though. And I feel like there is a good chance that that will probably happen. 

I’m good on protecting Mister and not letting anyone disturb him if he’s resting in the back of the house. I will put folks out of my house and kick ass, to protect his peace. 

I just wrestle with do I ignore the doorbell, which would wake Mister up even if he is sleeping in the back of the house, and if I don’t ignore it, how rude I am willing to be as far as having uninvited guests in my house, knowing that they do mean well. A good hostess would have food to offer guests, and I just don’t feel like dealing with that. My refrigerator is mostly empty, we haven’t even bought groceries for ourselves, let alone trying to provide food for anyone else. We went and bought the steaks I grilled for DS yesterday, and some broccoli because he likes my broccoli.

Idk what’s in the deep freezer in the garage, but whatever is out there, I am willing to cook so that Mister and I can eat, but not to try to feed his extended family and random people.

Nor am I willing to agree or encourage Mister to try to figure it out. He’s said he wants to just come home and go to bed, and dammit, that’s what Imma insist he be able to do. 

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

The funeral home where we had MILs service has a room like a church hall that you cab use for a reception. They serve sandwiches, chips, tea etc. It's all built into the funeral costs.

I liked it it was super easy and took stress off everyone.

My SIL and the church ladies ramped up for my mom. I made sure to write them thank you notes. I would have been up a shit creek without them.

If Mister decides to do nothing that is his decision. Someone else can host at another place if they want to.

I'd answer the door and politely say Mister is resting now is not a good time. Accept condolences, cards or whatever they bring and keep a list so if Mister wants he knows who to thank.

Then get less polite the more insistent people get as needed.

Could Aunt D or perhaps your son help corral people and herd then off the porch so you aren't doing it solo? If I was closer I'd help I can be quite scary when enforcing boundaries. In a polite way of course.😉

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 7, 2023 18:32:50 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

Sept 7, 2023 17:28:04 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I just learned that Horseface recently tested positive for COVID. I think I posted here that Tuesday morning, the day we had the appointment with the funeral home, Brother texted Mister saying he was very sick. Brother has not been tested, but if Horseface has/had it, that’s probably what’s wrong with him too. 

Brother did make it to the appointment at the funeral home, almost an hour late. And then we were all in that little office, with him seated in the middle, sitting between Mister and I and Aunt D and her husband. 

Idk how the timing works, but now Mister is questioning if that’s how his Dad ended up with pneumonia and not being able to breathe on his own and needing oxygen. I have no idea, and I’m not trying to figure it out. Either way, the end result is the same, that their Dad died. Mister doesn’t need any more reasons to be upset with his brother, so I am not encouraging that line of thought. 

I am about ready to just go to bed and try again tomorrow. Even though tomorrow probably won’t be much better.

Brother sure shows his true nature, doesn't he, showing up sick (and he's not stupid enough not to realize it's likely Covid), exposing his family to it.  He sure wasn't too sick to be texting Mister about getting his $$, was he?  I'm so sorry all this mess is still on your plate.  I think you and Mister are handling the food issue perfectly.  

When Brother text Mister Tuesday morning, saying he was sick, Mister and I both thought he was must making excuses to not come to the appointment at the funeral home. He was not present any of the times we were making arrangements for their Mom, so we thought he was just being with the shit again. 

But if Horseface tested positive for COVID, I guess Brother might really have been feeling terrible for real.

He still has not told Mister himself, that Horseface has or had COVID. I got that information from another little birdie that volunteered the info.

I’m not dwelling on it, but I think it is interesting that the family dynamics are such that people are willing to tell me things, instead of just telling Mister. Mister’s temper seems to be legendary among his family and family friends, since several people have told me about it, but nobody has ever said that he acts a fool over family issues. From what I understand, Mister maybe use to act a fool in the streets, but never with his family. 

[minnesotapaintlady]

The evenings of watching downloads in the van waiting for my kid have begun.

37 weeks till summer.

[TheOtherMe]

Sept 7, 2023 17:12:06 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

The smoke and then whatever else is in the air is messing with my sinuses.

I had such bad congestion last night I couldn't sleep. I was in a lot of pain and puffy.

Found Sudafed decongestant and that help but my eyeballs still hurt and won't stop watering.

I'm hiding in the house with all the windows closed.

I hope that is what is messing with me today.

[ners]

Safe travels soupandstew


Good to see you back weltschmerz

Continue prayers for you & mister Pink Cashmere

daisylu Hope the night sweat subside.

[TheOtherMe]

I'm sorry Pink that things are so difficult for you and Mister.  

[wvugurl26]

Pink I would just add on to the announcement that there will be no repast and no guests received at your home after. I think it's perfectly acceptable to want to just go home. He's sacrificed a lot to take care of his parents, now what he wants and his feelings should be the priority not anyone else.

After my grandma's visitation, 7 of us went to Texas Roadhouse. It was one of the only things open that late and one of grandma's favorites. My dad's best friend since at least high school insisted he was paying the bill. No one fought him. But there was only 7 of us.

I had a catered meal at the Moose Lodge after the funeral the next day. We got the space for free and a hell of a discount on the meal because one of my cousins is an officer there and volunteers countless hours. My DH paid for that.

[Peace77]

Sept 7, 2023 16:53:21 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

Trying to figure out my next project.  I'm too used to having something in my hands in the evening to do.  

Did you finish the baby blanket?

[countrygirl2]

We went to our endocrinologist appointment today. 

the NP is concerned as DD's blood pressure was 88/62, he said too low.  Mine was 98/72, I wonder because that is lower than normal for me. It was 106/72 the day before, hum. We have an appt with her heart doc on the 2nd of Oct, they suggested I try to get her in before that. I will call tomorrow morning. Her glucose, cholesterol and all that is perfect, but, both she and I had elevated ast/sgot but we had elevated eosinophils also. I told him I am worrying it was that paint we were exposed too. Even though I ventilated and aired the house, I worried, we likely should have gone to sons or a hotel for a couple of days. But he didn't want to say it was that for sure. So he told us both to stop her statin and my Nexlizet till our next visit in 3 months and in 5 weeks we are being tested again for just that. We will go back to the doc too for a check. Whatever it is, kind of worries me. She is going to stay on .50mgs of ozempic. She has now lost 70 pounds. She is 5'3" and 125 pounds now, he said everything is looking good, she only dropped a pound so that is ok too. It is keeping her glucose perfect. He told me I could do .25 or .50 whichever, he did say the higher dose helps protect the heart. But being on the lower has really helped my constipation issues, however, I'm finding that my sugar lows seem to be coming back some and I'm finding myself having to eat something more frequently to keep it from happening.  While in Washington, I dropped 4 pounds, I'm sure here and the different eating they will be back.

I asked if there was something they could do for osteoarthritis and they said sadly no. It just doesn't get the attention it should for people. She said I might talk to my other physician and see if he would try meloxicam that it might help more than duloxetine.  When I see my GP I'm going to see if they will xray my right hip, I want to at least know if the pain is from arthritis or something else. 

Hubs said they will have the results of the biopsies on the 15th. He said he has a tumor there, his urine stream has been a problem for awhile. I tried to get him to go before, but he didn't till he saw his GP and had blood work.  They took biopsies of the tumor and he said about 8 places altogether. I said did that hurt, he said it got pretty uncomfortable, for him to say that, it hurt. So until than nothing as to what they do, if anything.

Getting old is such fun. Just have plenty of insurance is all I can say. He has $1800 deductible. I have the coverage where mine is covered, so it won't hit us too hard. I have plan F, he has G, both are good policies.

DD goes back to the neurologist tomorrow, finally done for this week. Next week only 2 appointments.

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 7, 2023 19:03:27 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

The funeral home where we had MILs service has a room like a church hall that you cab use for a reception. They serve sandwiches, chips, tea etc. It's all built into the funeral costs.

I liked it it was super easy and took stress off everyone.

My SIL and the church ladies ramped up for my mom. I made sure to write them thank you notes. I would have been up a shit creek without them.

If Mister decides to do nothing that is his decision. Someone else can host at another place if they want to.

I'd answer the door and politely say Mister is resting now is not a good time. Accept condolences, cards or whatever they bring and keep a list so if Mister wants he knows who to thank.

Then get less polite the more insistent people get as needed.

Could Aunt D or perhaps your son help corral people and herd then off the porch so you aren't doing it solo? If I was closer I'd help I can be quite scary when enforcing boundaries. In a polite way of course.😉

DS would be happy to do something like that, but he can be so nice/nasty, that Mister’s family might not ever speak to him again. Never mind the fact that DS is gay and he might answer the door wearing long hair and some heels and a fresh manicure, and tell folks what’s up in his deep voice. 

I don’t think Mister’s family is ready for that.

I’m his Mom, and I’m not always ready for it on the rare occasions that he shows up making a statement about who he is.

But that’s my baby and Imma love him regardless.

I prefer to avoid all of that potential drama, because no matter how DS dresses, it’s clear that he is gay, and I will most definitely put hands on anybody that disrespects him because of that. DS knows how to fight, he has had to fight to defend himself for years, against people that had a problem with him just because he is gay. He has fought while he was in high school, times that I never even knew about until DD told me after they were young adults, and she told me how DS got jumped sometimes by a few boys several times and he was successful defending himself even when it was a few males “jumping” him. 

I’ve still not ever mentioned what DD told me about DS fighting, to him. If he wanted me to know about it, he would’ve told me himself, and he still hasn’t. 

My people are not very receptive to people like my son, so I’d rather not create a situation where I am provoked to punch somebody in their throat, in my home or on my front porch. 

So having DS try to run interference is not a good idea.

[jerseygirl]

When my dad passed, my mom was exhausted after helping him . Just cremated him to his wish. About 3 months later Had a memorial service snd went to mom’s house after . I wanted to get a caterer but mom wanted to cook potato salad etc. Mom still felt guilty about cremation even though it was his wish. Think by preparing food she felt she had ‘done right by him’. Both she and my MIL collapsed after their long time spouses passed after long illness.
Funeral home took the coterge? Of cars for FIL on a trip through his home town. Our driver for MIL her son daughter and their spouses kept telling us - last time FIL will pass this place, this etc etc. Thought that was excruciating for MIL. Poor old lady[brbr]More usual in our family is a mass, go to burial then on to restaurant for a repast. Immediate family takes care of costs. Think having repast at church hall is nice but haven’t seen this at any Catholic Churches here in NJ. Wondering why not cause the churches all have gyms/halls
Our best friend’s husband passed and she had caterer come to her house after mass. Even though catered ilhaving all those family friends was way too stressful for her.

[azucena]

Sept 7, 2023 19:04:22 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Sept 7, 2023 18:32:50 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

Brother sure shows his true nature, doesn't he, showing up sick (and he's not stupid enough not to realize it's likely Covid), exposing his family to it.  He sure wasn't too sick to be texting Mister about getting his $$, was he?  I'm so sorry all this mess is still on your plate.  I think you and Mister are handling the food issue perfectly.  

When Brother text Mister Tuesday morning, saying he was sick, Mister and I both thought he was must making excuses to not come to the appointment at the funeral home. He was not present any of the times we were making arrangements for their Mom, so we thought he was just being with the shit again. 

But if Horseface tested positive for COVID, I guess Brother might really have been feeling terrible for real.

He still has not told Mister himself, that Horseface has or had COVID. I got that information from another little birdie that volunteered the info.

I’m not dwelling on it, but I think it is interesting that the family dynamics are such that people are willing to tell me things, instead of just telling Mister. Mister’s temper seems to be legendary among his family and family friends, since several people have told me about it, but nobody has ever said that he acts a fool over family issues. From what I understand, Mister maybe use to act a fool in the streets, but never with his family. 

Did you tell Aunt D that she has been exposed?

[jerseygirl]

countrygirl, eosinophils often increase due to allergies. Common in spring or with seasonal allergies

[daisylu]

Sept 7, 2023 19:49:34 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Sept 7, 2023 19:03:27 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

The funeral home where we had MILs service has a room like a church hall that you cab use for a reception. They serve sandwiches, chips, tea etc. It's all built into the funeral costs.

I liked it it was super easy and took stress off everyone.

My SIL and the church ladies ramped up for my mom. I made sure to write them thank you notes. I would have been up a shit creek without them.

If Mister decides to do nothing that is his decision. Someone else can host at another place if they want to.

I'd answer the door and politely say Mister is resting now is not a good time. Accept condolences, cards or whatever they bring and keep a list so if Mister wants he knows who to thank.

Then get less polite the more insistent people get as needed.

Could Aunt D or perhaps your son help corral people and herd then off the porch so you aren't doing it solo? If I was closer I'd help I can be quite scary when enforcing boundaries. In a polite way of course.😉

DS would be happy to do something like that, but he can be so nice/nasty, that Mister’s family might not ever speak to him again. Never mind the fact that DS is gay and he might answer the door wearing long hair and some heels and a fresh manicure, and tell folks what’s up in his deep voice. 

I don’t think Mister’s family is ready for that.

I’m his Mom, and I’m not always ready for it on the rare occasions that he shows up making a statement about who he is.

But that’s my baby and Imma love him regardless.

I prefer to avoid all of that potential drama, because no matter how DS dresses, it’s clear that he is gay, and I will most definitely put hands on anybody that disrespects him because of that. DS knows how to fight, he has had to fight to defend himself for years, against people that had a problem with him just because he is gay. He has fought while he was in high school, times that I never even knew about until DD told me after they were young adults, and she told me how DS got jumped sometimes by a few boys several times and he was successful defending himself even when it was a few males “jumping” him. 

I’ve still not ever mentioned what DD told me about DS fighting, to him. If he wanted me to know about it, he would’ve told me himself, and he still hasn’t. 

My people are not very receptive to people like my son, so I’d rather not create a situation where I am provoked to punch somebody in their throat, in my home or on my front porch. 

So having DS try to run interference is not a good idea.

I would love to your DS dressed to nines, defending your home! 🤣