what are you doing right now?

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Well, it looks like retirement was short lived for TD.  He’s out getting drug tested, starts back after Labor Day.  

[Deleted]

Aug 31, 2023 13:32:34 GMT -5 notagain said:

Glad to hear that weltz is still here, but has anyone seen anything from opti

I've seen Opti post over on the Politics board

[Pink Cashmere]

Mister’s Dad is in ICU and has pneumonia in both lungs and a UTI. They are giving him the max amount of oxygen they can, and his oxygen level is still low. His heart rate and blood pressure are low. They don’t think he will improve and said the family needs to start thinking about making some decisions about how they want them to proceed.

Same thing they told Mister and I when they called him to come to the hospital with his Mom. That they were doing everything they could and she wasn’t responding. She was gone in less than 48 hours.

His heart rate increased a couple of times while we were there. When it did, he would “wake up” and open his eyes, but he wasn’t really focused on anything. The last time, they stayed open for a while. When we were leaving, Mister was standing beside him and told him he was leaving but he’d be back. His Dad made eye contact with him and nodded his head. 

I wanted to burst into tears, because it reminded me of how grateful I was when my Grandmother woke up briefly, and knew I was there. I will never forget her sticking her tongue out at me when I walked in the room, and how glad I was to have that memory replace the one from when I saw her the day before. Today, I was grateful that Mister’s Dad made eye contact with him and nodded, because he hadn’t been responding, and might not again. 

One of his Dad’s oldesr sisters came up there while we were there, the same one that helped Mister figure out what to do when his Mom passed. Talking to her, it turned out that Dad didn’t go to the ER last night, he’s been there since Tuesday morning. Nobody told Mister. His Aunt was shocked that he didn’t know, and mouthed to me when Mister wasn’t looking “That’s crazy!” with a frown on her face. I’m sure meant that it’s crazy his brother didn’t tell him.

I know Mister didn’t know his Dad was in the hospital because yesterday when he was at work, he told me he was going to stop by his Dad’s house to see how he was doing when he got off work. When he got off work, he called me and said nobody was answering any of the phones, so he figured they might be sleeping and was just going on home. Even though Mister had been calling him, he didn’t hear from his brother until he got up for work this morning and saw his brother had text him at 1am.

We don’t even know how the hospital got Mister’s number to call him this morning, because the whiteboard in his Dad’s room had phone numbers for the sister that was there today, favorite niece (another sister’s daughter) and Mom’s best friend. Mister’s Aunt was appalled to see the friends’ name and number on there, because she’s a little crazy. Aunt erased all of that and put Mister and his brother’s names and phone numbers on there. Then she asked Mister if she could put hers back on there, and he said of course.

Baby sister even knew Mister was in the hospital since Tuesday, and she lives in another state. I understand them not calling Mister themselves, assuming his brother had told him. Why didn’t he?!

My nerves are really bad. I’m so sad for Mister.

[bean29]

Jerseygirl- good to hear from you- hope you start feeling better/can keep food down soon.
Pink- hope Mister can work everything out with Mr. Messy.
Chiver-I completely agree on older appliances, which is why I have hesitated to replace my 18 year old appliances...but I am ready to throw in the towel soon.
Rayoflyte- hope everything works out with Ray llc,

Eta:  I came here to comment that I talked to Fidelity Investments about how my HSA will work and decided to transfer my entire HSA balance to them.  We do direct deposit funding of our HSA accounts, so I asked if I could do that, and they gave me a prefix for my account and the routing number.  I entered it, should find out next week if it works.     The bank than handles our direct deposit says the prenote doesn't really do anything, so we just do live changes.  We haven't had any issues yet, so hopefully it will work out.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Aug 31, 2023 15:00:04 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Mister’s Dad is in ICU and has pneumonia in both lungs and a UTI. They are giving him the max amount of oxygen they can, and his oxygen level is still low. His heart rate and blood pressure are low. They don’t think he will improve and said the family needs to start thinking about making some decisions about how they want them to proceed.

Same thing they told Mister and I when they called him to come to the hospital with his Mom. That they were doing everything they could and she wasn’t responding. She was gone in less than 48 hours.

His heart rate increased a couple of times while we were there. When it did, he would “wake up” and open his eyes, but he wasn’t really focused on anything. The last time, they stayed open for a while. When we were leaving, Mister was standing beside him and told him he was leaving but he’d be back. His Dad made eye contact with him and nodded his head. 

I wanted to burst into tears, because it reminded me of how grateful I was when my Grandmother woke up briefly, and knew I was there. I will never forget her sticking her tongue out at me when I walked in the room, and how glad I was to have that memory replace the one from when I saw her the day before. Today, I was grateful that Mister’s Dad made eye contact with him and nodded, because he hadn’t been responding, and might not again. 

One of his Dad’s oldesr sisters came up there while we were there, the same one that helped Mister figure out what to do when his Mom passed. Talking to her, it turned out that Dad didn’t go to the ER last night, he’s been there since Tuesday morning. Nobody told Mister. His Aunt was shocked that he didn’t know, and mouthed to me when Mister wasn’t looking “That’s crazy!” with a frown on her face. I’m sure meant that it’s crazy his brother didn’t tell him.

I know Mister didn’t know his Dad was in the hospital because yesterday when he was at work, he told me he was going to stop by his Dad’s house to see how he was doing when he got off work. When he got off work, he called me and said nobody was answering any of the phones, so he figured they might be sleeping and was just going on home. Even though Mister had been calling him, he didn’t hear from his brother until he got up for work this morning and saw his brother had text him at 1am.

We don’t even know how the hospital got Mister’s number to call him this morning, because the whiteboard in his Dad’s room had phone numbers for the sister that was there today, favorite niece (another sister’s daughter) and Mom’s best friend. Mister’s Aunt was appalled to see the friends’ name and number on there, because she’s a little crazy. Aunt erased all of that and put Mister and his brother’s names and phone numbers on there. Then she asked Mister if she could put hers back on there, and he said of course.

Baby sister even knew Mister was in the hospital since Tuesday, and she lives in another state. I understand them not calling Mister themselves, assuming his brother had told him. Why didn’t he?!

My nerves are really bad. I’m so sad for Mister.

Hazarding a guess Mister knows brother hasn't exactly been taking care of their dad and you've mentioned he has a temper.  In these situations people don't always act logically.  That does not make it okay or forgivable but it's a part of human nature unfortunately.

If Mister's number is anywhere on paperwork from previous times Mr. Messy has been to the doctor that is how they found it and contacted him.  If the other people who were on the list weren't answering the hospital will usually keep going through whatever numbers they have till someone responds.

Or people didn't want to stress him out.   

It could be any one of numerous things. 

[TheOtherMe]

Aug 31, 2023 11:54:44 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Aug 31, 2023 11:28:30 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

Yes it is and blood clots can also be.  Sounds like pulmonary embolism and they can be deadly, too.  


  

And the blood clot was most likely the result of the CHF and the heart not pumping properly. 

I joined a blood clot support group after my two superficial clots this year.  

I had no idea that serious surgery can be a cause of clotting because people tend to not move because of the pain.  

Some people have a tendency to clot due to inherited genes that they don't know about.

Some people seem to recover easily.  Some people never fully recover and, sadly, some people do die.

[NastyWoman]

Aug 31, 2023 15:19:19 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Aug 31, 2023 15:00:04 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Mister’s Dad is in ICU and has pneumonia in both lungs and a UTI. They are giving him the max amount of oxygen they can, and his oxygen level is still low. His heart rate and blood pressure are low. They don’t think he will improve and said the family needs to start thinking about making some decisions about how they want them to proceed.

Same thing they told Mister and I when they called him to come to the hospital with his Mom. That they were doing everything they could and she wasn’t responding. She was gone in less than 48 hours.

His heart rate increased a couple of times while we were there. When it did, he would “wake up” and open his eyes, but he wasn’t really focused on anything. The last time, they stayed open for a while. When we were leaving, Mister was standing beside him and told him he was leaving but he’d be back. His Dad made eye contact with him and nodded his head. 

I wanted to burst into tears, because it reminded me of how grateful I was when my Grandmother woke up briefly, and knew I was there. I will never forget her sticking her tongue out at me when I walked in the room, and how glad I was to have that memory replace the one from when I saw her the day before. Today, I was grateful that Mister’s Dad made eye contact with him and nodded, because he hadn’t been responding, and might not again. 

One of his Dad’s oldesr sisters came up there while we were there, the same one that helped Mister figure out what to do when his Mom passed. Talking to her, it turned out that Dad didn’t go to the ER last night, he’s been there since Tuesday morning. Nobody told Mister. His Aunt was shocked that he didn’t know, and mouthed to me when Mister wasn’t looking “That’s crazy!” with a frown on her face. I’m sure meant that it’s crazy his brother didn’t tell him.

I know Mister didn’t know his Dad was in the hospital because yesterday when he was at work, he told me he was going to stop by his Dad’s house to see how he was doing when he got off work. When he got off work, he called me and said nobody was answering any of the phones, so he figured they might be sleeping and was just going on home. Even though Mister had been calling him, he didn’t hear from his brother until he got up for work this morning and saw his brother had text him at 1am.

We don’t even know how the hospital got Mister’s number to call him this morning, because the whiteboard in his Dad’s room had phone numbers for the sister that was there today, favorite niece (another sister’s daughter) and Mom’s best friend. Mister’s Aunt was appalled to see the friends’ name and number on there, because she’s a little crazy. Aunt erased all of that and put Mister and his brother’s names and phone numbers on there. Then she asked Mister if she could put hers back on there, and he said of course.

Baby sister even knew Mister was in the hospital since Tuesday, and she lives in another state. I understand them not calling Mister themselves, assuming his brother had told him. Why didn’t he?!

My nerves are really bad. I’m so sad for Mister.

Hazarding a guess Mister knows brother hasn't exactly been taking care of their dad and you've mentioned he has a temper.  In these situations people don't always act logically.  That does not make it okay or forgivable but it's a part of human nature unfortunately.

If Mister's number is anywhere on paperwork from previous times Mr. Messy has been to the doctor that is how they found it and contacted him.  If the other people who were on the list weren't answering the hospital will usually keep going through whatever numbers they have till someone responds.

But this begs the question why Mister's brother contacted him about the 401k yet could not be bothered to mention that their dad was in the hospital. Was he trying to figure out how much, if anything, he could count on inheriting? Very strange behavior if you ask me

[chiver78]

Aug 31, 2023 15:00:04 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

<snip> 

I wanted to burst into tears, because it reminded me of how grateful I was when my Grandmother woke up briefly, and knew I was there. I will never forget her sticking her tongue out at me when I walked in the room, and how glad I was to have that memory replace the one from when I saw her the day before. Today, I was grateful that Mister’s Dad made eye contact with him and nodded, because he hadn’t been responding, and might not again. 
<snip>

sending you a HUGE hug right now. I also have a memory like this of my Nana during her last hospital stay. I helped her eat lunch that last day she was coherent, and realized that she was slipping out as I left to go back to work. I thought she was just tired from the activity, but that wasn't it. we chatted so much while she ate, until she started slipping. she passed two days later, but never regained coherency. 

[minnesotapaintlady]

I'm trying to be excited about having tomorrow off, but it's going to kind of suck really.  I have to get up at normal time and get Carrot to school like normal, and remember to drop off a bag on his dad's porch since I won't be able to pick him up from school, then go home and get older son and get him to Minneapolis by 11:30am driving the van with no AC.  Once we get there I have to just park myself somewhere on campus with my laptop or something and wait for 3 hours for him to finish his training before heading to his new rental and unloading all his crap...in the heat...then drive myself home with no AC.  Maybe start all this at 7am and home by 7pm?  Fun!  It would be nice if while he was in class I could just go unload everything at the new house, but he's not allowed to get the key and have access to the place until after noon and he'll be in his training until 3.

[minnesotapaintlady]

Aug 31, 2023 15:09:32 GMT -5 bean29 said:

Jerseygirl- good to hear from you- hope you start feeling better/can keep food down soon.
Pink- hope Mister can work everything out with Mr. Messy.
Chiver-I completely agree on older appliances, which is why I have hesitated to replace my 18 year old appliances...but I am ready to throw in the towel soon.
Rayoflyte- hope everything works out with Ray llc,

Eta:  I came here to comment that I talked to Fidelity Investments about how my HSA will work and decided to transfer my entire HSA balance to them.  We do direct deposit funding of our HSA accounts, so I asked if I could do that, and they gave me a prefix for my account and the routing number.  I entered it, should find out next week if it works.     The bank than handles our direct deposit says the prenote doesn't really do anything, so we just do live changes.  We haven't had any issues yet, so hopefully it will work out.

I have an HSA with Fidelity and really like them.  I have to do payroll contributions into HSA Bank through work, but once or twice a year depending on how much it's building up I'll transfer a chunk over to Fidelity. 

[TheOtherMe]

Aug 31, 2023 15:00:04 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I wanted to burst into tears, because it reminded me of how grateful I was when my Grandmother woke up briefly, and knew I was there. I will never forget her sticking her tongue out at me when I walked in the room, and how glad I was to have that memory replace the one from when I saw her the day before. Today, I was grateful that Mister’s Dad made eye contact with him and nodded, because he hadn’t been responding, and might not again. 

I have a similar memory of my mom.  I have pretty much blocked out the memories of the next 3 days.  

It was my Saturday to take my parents lunch.  I picked it up at DQ and went over.  Mom ate everything, which was unusual.  An aunt had died and dad was wanting me to take him to the funeral on Monday.  Mom was bad enough that I didn't want to.


While we were eating mom was thinking out loud.  She said she didn't think it was a good idea for me to take dad out of town because the nurse had said her time was very short.  She said she didn't want to have someone call me while we were gone and tell me she was worse because she would worry the entire time I was driving.  Dad was fine with that and quit asking me to take him to that funeral.


Mom lost consciousness that afternoon and passed on the Monday.   So she was worrying about me as one of her last thoughts.  


I got a hug and kiss good bye without knowing it was the last one.    

[Pink Cashmere]

Aug 31, 2023 15:26:56 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Aug 31, 2023 15:00:04 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

<snip> 

I wanted to burst into tears, because it reminded me of how grateful I was when my Grandmother woke up briefly, and knew I was there. I will never forget her sticking her tongue out at me when I walked in the room, and how glad I was to have that memory replace the one from when I saw her the day before. Today, I was grateful that Mister’s Dad made eye contact with him and nodded, because he hadn’t been responding, and might not again. 
<snip>

sending you a HUGE hug right now. I also have a memory like this of my Nana during her last hospital stay. I helped her eat lunch that last day she was coherent, and realized that she was slipping out as I left to go back to work. I thought she was just tired from the activity, but that wasn't it. we chatted so much while she ate, until she started slipping. she passed two days later, but never regained coherency. 

[Pink Cashmere]

Aug 31, 2023 15:42:44 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

Aug 31, 2023 15:00:04 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I wanted to burst into tears, because it reminded me of how grateful I was when my Grandmother woke up briefly, and knew I was there. I will never forget her sticking her tongue out at me when I walked in the room, and how glad I was to have that memory replace the one from when I saw her the day before. Today, I was grateful that Mister’s Dad made eye contact with him and nodded, because he hadn’t been responding, and might not again. 

I have a similar memory of my mom.  I have pretty much blocked out the memories of the next 3 days.  

It was my Saturday to take my parents lunch.  I picked it up at DQ and went over.  Mom ate everything, which was unusual.  An aunt had died and dad was wanting me to take him to the funeral on Monday.  Mom was bad enough that I didn't want to.


While we were eating mom was thinking out loud.  She said she didn't think it was a good idea for me to take dad out of town because the nurse had said her time was very short.  She said she didn't want to have someone call me while we were gone and tell me she was worse because she would worry the entire time I was driving.  Dad was fine with that and quit asking me to take him to that funeral.


Mom lost consciousness that afternoon and passed on the Monday.   So she was worrying about me as one of her last thoughts.  


I got a hug and kiss good bye without knowing it was the last one.    

[andi9899]

Aug 31, 2023 15:26:28 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Aug 31, 2023 15:19:19 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Hazarding a guess Mister knows brother hasn't exactly been taking care of their dad and you've mentioned he has a temper.  In these situations people don't always act logically.  That does not make it okay or forgivable but it's a part of human nature unfortunately.

If Mister's number is anywhere on paperwork from previous times Mr. Messy has been to the doctor that is how they found it and contacted him.  If the other people who were on the list weren't answering the hospital will usually keep going through whatever numbers they have till someone responds.

But this begs the question why Mister's brother contacted him about the 401k yet could not be bothered to mention that their dad was in the hospital. Was he trying to figure out how much, if anything, he could count on inheriting? Very strange behavior if you ask me

I would love to be a fly on the wall when Mister asks his brother this question.

[bean29]

Mich - you keep telling us TD is retiring, and he keeps going back to work.  Lol.

Pink - I missed your comment right above my last post that Mister's Dad is in the Hospital again.  I can't believe no one let him know his dad was back in the hospital.  Sending Prayers for your family.

MPL- that sucks.  I suppose there is no where close to where you live that you could rent a van or a truck with a/c?  yesterday the temps were fairly cool in MKE, but we are heading back up into the 90's for the weekend.

[giramomma]

Big hugs pink.

[Pink Cashmere]

Aug 31, 2023 15:26:28 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Aug 31, 2023 15:19:19 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Hazarding a guess Mister knows brother hasn't exactly been taking care of their dad and you've mentioned he has a temper.  In these situations people don't always act logically.  That does not make it okay or forgivable but it's a part of human nature unfortunately.

If Mister's number is anywhere on paperwork from previous times Mr. Messy has been to the doctor that is how they found it and contacted him.  If the other people who were on the list weren't answering the hospital will usually keep going through whatever numbers they have till someone responds.

But this begs the question why Mister's brother contacted him about the 401k yet could not be bothered to mention that their dad was in the hospital. Was he trying to figure out how much, if anything, he could count on inheriting? Very strange behavior if you ask me

I went back to my posts here and my texts from Mister. Yesterday morning I text Mister and asked how his Dad was doing. He said, “he’s back at home” I asked, so he’s doing better now? Mister sent me a screen shot where he’d texted his brother asking about their Dad, and Brother’s reply was “DAD: nothing’s wrong” then in the same text, started talking about “while he’s alive”, he needs Mister to put his (Mister’s) name on their Dad’s 401k, since he has POA.

How the fuck was “nothing wrong” when their Dad was in ICU?! And now the “while he’s alive” makes sense. He already knew their Dad was in really bad shape. 

Lord, please don’t let Mister think to look back at his texts, because for whatever reason, his brother was blatantly lying to him. I most certainly will not bring it to his attention. 

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Leaning back towards no on taking the micro position.  I've been gathering some intel and I am not liking some of the personnel stuff I've heard.  Plus their director just got fired which means everything is in limbo now.  I am not sure I want to switch with that much change going on.

My boss boss boss boss here in my current department does want to develop me and we're moving forward with the new tippy top guy's agenda which involves expected career development.  I have also been asked what would I like them to do so I will stay here vs move upstairs so I have a small bit of leverage right now.

I would like to see if the chemistry/micro team develops.  Bossx4 is really interested in having me on that team because I am one of the few people who does understand both biology and chemistry.  Would a new micro director be interested?  IDK.

As Gira pointed out my decision doesn't mean it has to be forever.  There will likely be eventually another position open in time.  Choosing now not to take the tech position doesn't mean I can't take one later or perhaps next time I might even qualify to be an Associate.

I don't want to make the same mistake of leaping into something because people talked me into it thinking I was too scared to decide myself.  I am looking at as many angles as I can. Since these are both the same title it is comparing apples to apples pretty much.  The Assoicate position would have been a no brainer.  A lateral move with no upgrades whatsoever is not.

I'm not assured to move up there either there has to be a position open just like down here.  If there was an actual track like I started as a tech and in X amount of months I moved up like an apprenticeship again a no brainer.  But that's not how it works.  I could end up being even more stuck up there.

[Pink Cashmere]

Aug 31, 2023 15:49:39 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Aug 31, 2023 15:26:28 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

But this begs the question why Mister's brother contacted him about the 401k yet could not be bothered to mention that their dad was in the hospital. Was he trying to figure out how much, if anything, he could count on inheriting? Very strange behavior if you ask me

I would love to be a fly on the wall when Mister asks his brother this question.

Honestly, I wouldn’t. I don’t see that going any way other than bad or very bad.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Aug 31, 2023 16:01:25 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Aug 31, 2023 15:26:28 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

But this begs the question why Mister's brother contacted him about the 401k yet could not be bothered to mention that their dad was in the hospital. Was he trying to figure out how much, if anything, he could count on inheriting? Very strange behavior if you ask me

I went back to my posts here and my texts from Mister. Yesterday morning I text Mister and asked how his Dad was doing. He said, “he’s back at home” I asked, so he’s doing better now? Mister sent me a screen shot where he’d texted his brother asking about their Dad, and Brother’s reply was “DAD: nothing’s wrong” then in the same text, started talking about “while he’s alive”, he needs Mister to put his (Mister’s) name on their Dad’s 401k, since he has POA.

How the fuck was “nothing wrong” when their Dad was in ICU?! And now the “while he’s alive” makes sense. He already knew their Dad was in really bad shape. 

Lord, please don’t let Mister think to look back at his texts, because for whatever reason, his brother was blatantly lying to him. I most certainly will not bring it to his attention. 

Should we be ready to post Mister's bail because I think going to jail for a beat down on his brother is worth it.  I would DESTROY my brother if he ever did something like that.

[minnesotapaintlady]

Aug 31, 2023 15:52:44 GMT -5 bean29 said:

MPL- that sucks.  I suppose there is no where close to where you live that you could rent a van or a truck with a/c?  yesterday the temps were fairly cool in MKE, but we are heading back up into the 90's for the weekend.

Oh, I'm sure I could rent something, but I'm too cheap.    If I really wanted AC we could unload everything from the van (it's packed with all but the front 2 seats removed) and get the trailer out of the shed and load it all up in there and tow it with the Fridge, but I'd rather deal with no AC then go through all that.  It probably won't be too bad for the drive up in the morning anyhow.  Looks like it is supposed to hit 91 tomorrow, then 100 on Sat and Sun. 

[Pink Cashmere]

Aug 31, 2023 16:03:53 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Aug 31, 2023 16:01:25 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I went back to my posts here and my texts from Mister. Yesterday morning I text Mister and asked how his Dad was doing. He said, “he’s back at home” I asked, so he’s doing better now? Mister sent me a screen shot where he’d texted his brother asking about their Dad, and Brother’s reply was “DAD: nothing’s wrong” then in the same text, started talking about “while he’s alive”, he needs Mister to put his (Mister’s) name on their Dad’s 401k, since he has POA.

How the fuck was “nothing wrong” when their Dad was in ICU?! And now the “while he’s alive” makes sense. He already knew their Dad was in really bad shape. 

Lord, please don’t let Mister think to look back at his texts, because for whatever reason, his brother was blatantly lying to him. I most certainly will not bring it to his attention. 

Should we be ready to post Mister's bail because I think going to jail for a beat down on his brother is worth it.  I would DESTROY my brother if he ever did something like that.

It’s possible. I’m not really joking either.

My days stay mixed up, I didn’t realize until I just looked at my texts, that it was YESTERDAY morning that Brother said nothing was wrong with their Dad, and started talking about money, and their Dad was already in ICU. I am shook. I cant wrap my mind around that. Because what in the world?! Who DOES that kind of shit?!

If Mister puts the timing together, I am afraid he might lose it. Whyyyyyy would his brother do that?!

[toomuchreality]

Hugs, for all that want/need them. ❤

minnesotapaintlady- UGH. Try not to have too much fun, doing all that, in the heat. 🥵 I hope the temps are cooler for you.
You're a good mom.
How's your horse doing? (Gus?) Have you noticed much improvement since he's been getting regular ferrier visits?
I'd be a wreck if I had to sit in my car for 3 hours! Good luck.

[lurkyloo]

Aug 31, 2023 15:09:32 GMT -5 bean29 said:

Jerseygirl- good to hear from you- hope you start feeling better/can keep food down soon.
Pink- hope Mister can work everything out with Mr. Messy.
Chiver-I completely agree on older appliances, which is why I have hesitated to replace my 18 year old appliances...but I am ready to throw in the towel soon.
Rayoflyte- hope everything works out with Ray llc,

Eta:  I came here to comment that I talked to Fidelity Investments about how my HSA will work and decided to transfer my entire HSA balance to them.  We do direct deposit funding of our HSA accounts, so I asked if I could do that, and they gave me a prefix for my account and the routing number.  I entered it, should find out next week if it works.     The bank than handles our direct deposit says the prenote doesn't really do anything, so we just do live changes.  We haven't had any issues yet, so hopefully it will work out.

I’ve forgotten, are you guys self-employed?  I would prefer to do direct deposit to Fidelity but if I do it through payroll deduction then it’s also invisible to SS and Medicare taxes, so an extra 7.45% tax savings.  Of course, it is also possible that this move would slightly decrease your eventual SS check. YMMV 

[lurkyloo]

Aug 31, 2023 15:55:43 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Big hugs pink.

That is just crazy.  Thinking of you Pink, and wishing you both the best.  I am sorry to hear about Mr Messy’s deterioration.

[notagain]

Hugs Pink and mister

[Pink Cashmere]

Mister is going back to the hospital. I am going with him. I think his brother is there. Well, he said he’d just got there about an hour ago, that doesn’t mean he’s still there though. Not that I can do anything with Mister if he loses his temper, since he’s bigger and stronger than me. 

Plus, I just don’t want Mister to be alone. When we were there earlier, I whispered in his ear and asked him if he wanted me and his Aunt and cousin who was there to step out and give him a few minutes alone with his Dad. Before I even finished the question, he was shaking his head no.

[NastyWoman]

Struggling to stay awake. After my record breaking sleep yesterday I have now been awake for 26 hours. ButI have to make it for another 6-7 hours just to get back into a regular schedule. I have done weird and/or despised things like vacuuming the living room. Yes that was needed but there is a reason I have a cleaning lady. Today however I needed the noise and the activity more. 

I did go grocery shopping but postponed the laundry for another day. I just need to come up with ideas to get through these next couple of hours. If I take a nap now, that will be it...

[minnesotapaintlady]

Aug 31, 2023 16:15:16 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

Hugs, for all that want/need them. ❤

minnesotapaintlady - UGH. Try not to have too much fun, doing all that, in the heat. 🥵 I hope the temps are cooler for you.
You're a good mom.
How's your horse doing? (Gus?) Have you noticed much improvement since he's been getting regular ferrier visits?
I'd be a wreck if I had to sit in my car for 3 hours! Good luck.

Well, I don't actually have to just sit in the car if I don't want to. We'll be on campus so I can go for a walk or hang out in the bookstore.  Take my laptop and hang out here...just like any other day.

Gus is, "ok".  Not great.  He has his good days and bad days, and is definitely lame some of them, but not anything like he was where he could barely walk, so I guess that's good.  He had a stretch there back in July when he was acting 100%, but the past month or so he's declined some.

[taz157]

Pink - Sending big virtual ((((hugs)))) your and Mister’s way.