what are you doing right now?

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

I have just sent the full draft. My advisor is wonderful and thorough. She will send it back with what to revise, but I do think I'm pretty close to being done. My defense is August 3rd. 

[teen persuasion]

Just catching up on everyone's drama!

Home late after going to Shakespeare in the Park - they did Measure for Measure. It's the last week for this play. They set it in Verona CALIFORNIA in the 1940's, so added a few characters like the singing Hathaway Sisters. Lots of zoot suits, swing dancing, a bugle solo, and jazz. Lucio was over the top flamboyant - he's up on the desk, below.

[finnime]

Good morning, thoughtful and caring invisipeeps, supporting each other through difficult relationships that call for PPE (or not). Glad you're on the side of the angels here. Welcome to Monday. I hope your day is stressless and provides you comfort from the enemy in whatever shape that exists in your life.

Going to be rainy here today. I have plans to sort out things for the next show and to start to get ready for a trip to see DD. Need to get her started packing. She is my own personal difficult relationship.

Yesterday again was overcast, although not foggy. I saw a Great Egret, admiring her reflection in the water.

[daisylu]

Jul 9, 2023 17:53:36 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Jul 9, 2023 16:58:45 GMT -5 Opti said:

Also, this is not just a possible diss of you but putting your son in an awkward position. Maybe they had a fight, and he did not want to share that?

I suppose that's possible; I don't know though. DS is brutally honest. I don't think he'd make up a reason to cover up for something else. It's just not who he is. 

People can surprise you. DH is a brutally honest person, but I know for a fact that when I was struggling with issues with alcohol he never told a soul and covered for me south his family on some occasions like this.

[daisylu]

Aggravated. Told DH that I thought the water softener wasn't working properly last week (when he was off) because my hair felt weird after showering. His reply was "I haven't heard any alarms". I let it go, but should know better. Went to get a bath last night before bed and you could clearly smell sulphur. 😡

DH agreed, checked the softener, and saw that alarms were silenced - which is something that he often does when there is an issue in the early morning when he is running out to work. He worked on it and forced it to run last night and now I have to force it twice today.

[giramomma]

Couldn't sleep last night?

Upset enough about the work week that I'm ready to cry, despite getting an anxiety attack over coming back home yesterday? It hit, right on cue, as the garage door opened.

Back so bad I can't move?

Why, yes, hello Monday.

I am perfectly fine. Everything is great.

[toomuchreality]

Jul 10, 2023 5:24:32 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Aggravated. Told DH that I thought the water softener wasn't working properly last week (when he was off) because my hair felt weird after showering. His reply was "I haven't heard any alarms". I let it go, but should know better. Went to get a bath last night before bed and you could clearly smell sulphur. 😡

DH agreed, checked the softener, and saw that alarms were silenced - which is something that he often does when there is an issue in the early morning when he is running out to work. He worked on it and forced it to run last night and now I have to force it twice today.

Ugh. Now what? Do you need to have a technician come out? Can DH fix it? Do you have to replace it?

[toomuchreality]

Jul 10, 2023 6:30:47 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Couldn't sleep last night?

Upset enough about the work week that I'm ready to cry, despite getting an anxiety attack over coming back home yesterday? It hit, right on cue, as the garage door opened.

Back so bad I can't move?

Why, yes, hello Monday.

I am perfectly fine. Everything is great.

Hugs ♡

[NoNamePerson]

Jul 10, 2023 6:30:47 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Couldn't sleep last night?

Upset enough about the work week that I'm ready to cry, despite getting an anxiety attack over coming back home yesterday? It hit, right on cue, as the garage door opened.

Back so bad I can't move?

Why, yes, hello Monday.

I am perfectly fine. Everything is great.

[minnesotapaintlady]

You would think I would have learned by now not to start a movie after 10pm on a work night, but here we are. 

[daisylu]

Jul 10, 2023 6:35:11 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

Jul 10, 2023 5:24:32 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Aggravated. Told DH that I thought the water softener wasn't working properly last week (when he was off) because my hair felt weird after showering. His reply was "I haven't heard any alarms". I let it go, but should know better. Went to get a bath last night before bed and you could clearly smell sulphur. 😡

DH agreed, checked the softener, and saw that alarms were silenced - which is something that he often does when there is an issue in the early morning when he is running out to work. He worked on it and forced it to run last night and now I have to force it twice today.

Ugh. Now what? Do you need to have a technician come out? Can DH fix it? Do you have to replace it?

It is only about 3 years old. The intake screen sometimes gets clogged with gunk from the well and needs to cleaned in order to draw water. He cleaned it last night, but likely silenced the alarm weeks ago. No tech needed, but possibly new husband. 🤣

[wvugurl26]

Vacation has come to an end. I have 4 days to unpack and do laundry. This weekend we take DH's parents to their hometown. FIL's sister has retired and her children are throwing a surprise party. At least I was able to rebook the hotel room yesterday and save $110.

I thought June was going to do me in. July may do it with being out of town every single weekend.

8 more hours on the road to get home. I have snacks and blankets.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Jul 10, 2023 6:30:47 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Couldn't sleep last night?

Upset enough about the work week that I'm ready to cry, despite getting an anxiety attack over coming back home yesterday? It hit, right on cue, as the garage door opened.

Back so bad I can't move?

Why, yes, hello Monday.

I am perfectly fine. Everything is great.

[finnime]

giramomma, big hugs for you.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

In a bit of humor, I want this mug so bad.  It summarizes pretty much everything going on.


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For you non lab folks


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[skeeter]

Jul 10, 2023 7:11:07 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

You would think I would have learned by now not to start a movie after 10pm on a work night, but here we are. 

Hope the movie was worth (good enough) to make up for all the extra coffee you'll need today!

[swamp]

I got. Allen into work last night at 10. Then I had to wait to
process another dude. Dude 2 was a yeller. I got home at 1. Couldn’t sleep until 2.

I had to have my dad at the hospital for a minor outpatient procedure at 8:15. I struggled to get up at 7:30.

I am now a huge pansy.

[skeeter]

Jul 9, 2023 16:20:49 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

countrygirl2   There's an old, old saying that "he who pays the fiddler, calls the tunes" and your family dynamic is a perfect example of that axiom.  You and your husband give your son an incredible amount of financial assistance, so of course you feel you should be a dominant voice in his life and relationships.  His wife does not bring home a cash income, so of course neither he nor you feel her wishes are relevant.  Your family dynamic is what I call "transactional", with input and control based on who pays for what.  Your "gifts" such as a greenhouse or a sewing machine come with major strings attached, a requirement that the recipient use the item as you wish them too.  That's not actually a gift, that's a bribe.  

When you write about your son and DIL's problems, it's such a sad echo of your and your husband's relationship.  Obviously that relationship impacted your son, and he is repeating his family history.  Perhaps your grandson will be the break-out generation that finds a better path.

Personally, I really hope you're right, but I have my doubts.  Even if he finds a better path in that particular area, he still is going to have some major problems socially.  Instead of spending his summer vacation stuck in a trailer most of the time with an elderly grandmother and a disabled aunt, he should be interacting with other children.  There were plans in place for him to play soccer this summer, but looks like they got scraped when grandma swooped in again.  Poor kid is going to have a rough life ahead, maybe not financially, but in lots of other areas.

I can't help but wonder if when he goes back to school in the fall whether or not his teacher has the kids write a short essay about how they spent the summer.  His would make a guidance counselor/social worker do a double take.

[lurkyloo]

All the hugs, gira 

[taz157]

Jul 10, 2023 6:30:47 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Couldn't sleep last night?

Upset enough about the work week that I'm ready to cry, despite getting an anxiety attack over coming back home yesterday? It hit, right on cue, as the garage door opened.

Back so bad I can't move?

Why, yes, hello Monday.

I am perfectly fine. Everything is great.

((((Hugs))))

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Jul 10, 2023 8:46:30 GMT -5 skeeter said:

Jul 9, 2023 16:20:49 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

countrygirl2   There's an old, old saying that "he who pays the fiddler, calls the tunes" and your family dynamic is a perfect example of that axiom.  You and your husband give your son an incredible amount of financial assistance, so of course you feel you should be a dominant voice in his life and relationships.  His wife does not bring home a cash income, so of course neither he nor you feel her wishes are relevant.  Your family dynamic is what I call "transactional", with input and control based on who pays for what.  Your "gifts" such as a greenhouse or a sewing machine come with major strings attached, a requirement that the recipient use the item as you wish them too.  That's not actually a gift, that's a bribe.  

When you write about your son and DIL's problems, it's such a sad echo of your and your husband's relationship.  Obviously that relationship impacted your son, and he is repeating his family history.  Perhaps your grandson will be the break-out generation that finds a better path.

Personally, I really hope you're right, but I have my doubts.  Even if he finds a better path in that particular area, he still is going to have some major problems socially.  Instead of spending his summer vacation stuck in a trailer most of the time with an elderly grandmother and a disabled aunt, he should be interacting with other children.  There were plans in place for him to play soccer this summer, but looks like they got scraped when grandma swooped in again.  Poor kid is going to have a rough life ahead, maybe not financially, but in lots of other areas.

I can't help but wonder if when he goes back to school in the fall whether or not his teacher has the kids write a short essay about how they spent the summer.  His would make a guidance counselor/social worker do a double take.

IDK when I was little my grandmother babysat me and I turned out relatively normal.   

I'm an introvert by nature I got my socialization at school I didn't need a ton of kids to play with during the summer. 

I treasure those memories now that my maternal grandmother is gone.    I am glad that my girls got to spend as much time as they did with my mother and DH's mother.  There are always other kids to play with/hang out with at some point.  Once your grandparents are gone that's it.

[Cookies Galore]

Jul 10, 2023 8:41:42 GMT -5 swamp said:

I got. Allen into work last night at 10. Then I had to wait to
process another dude. Dude 2 was a yeller. I got home at 1. Couldn’t sleep until 2.

I had to have my dad at the hospital for a minor outpatient procedure at 8:15. I struggled to get up at 7:30.

I am now a huge pansy.

Yeah, it sucks not having a full night of sleep, huh? You also shouldn't call people pansies.

[chiver78]

Jul 10, 2023 8:41:42 GMT -5 swamp said:

I got. Allen into work last night at 10. Then I had to wait to
process another dude. Dude 2 was a yeller. I got home at 1. Couldn’t sleep until 2.

I had to have my dad at the hospital for a minor outpatient procedure at 8:15. I struggled to get up at 7:30.

I am now a huge pansy.

meh. that wasn't a "fun night, staying out til 2" sort of thing. that was your job. not a pansy thing. 

[chiver78]

Jul 10, 2023 9:05:20 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Jul 10, 2023 8:46:30 GMT -5 skeeter said:

Personally, I really hope you're right, but I have my doubts.  Even if he finds a better path in that particular area, he still is going to have some major problems socially.  Instead of spending his summer vacation stuck in a trailer most of the time with an elderly grandmother and a disabled aunt, he should be interacting with other children.  There were plans in place for him to play soccer this summer, but looks like they got scraped when grandma swooped in again.  Poor kid is going to have a rough life ahead, maybe not financially, but in lots of other areas.

I can't help but wonder if when he goes back to school in the fall whether or not his teacher has the kids write a short essay about how they spent the summer.  His would make a guidance counselor/social worker do a double take.

IDK when I was little my grandmother babysat me and I turned out relatively normal.   

I'm an introvert by nature I got my socialization at school I didn't need a ton of kids to play with during the summer. 

I treasure those memories now that my maternal grandmother is gone.    I am glad that my girls got to spend as much time as they did with my mother and DH's mother.  There are always other kids to play with/hang out with at some point.  Once your grandparents are gone that's it.

same. my grandmother lived with my family when I was growing up. while we butted heads sometimes (we are a lot alike), I treasure that I had that experience. 

I'm not sure what skeeter's trying to project of her own life experience, but it's coming across pretty ugly IMHO. cg doesn't live there full time, so they are all making the most of the time they have while she's there. there's soccer leagues that play during the school year, so missing this one to spend time with family isn't a life-changing loss. 

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Jul 10, 2023 8:41:42 GMT -5 swamp said:

I got. Allen into work last night at 10. Then I had to wait to
process another dude. Dude 2 was a yeller. I got home at 1. Couldn’t sleep until 2.

I had to have my dad at the hospital for a minor outpatient procedure at 8:15. I struggled to get up at 7:30.

I am now a huge pansy.

Shoulda got Dude 2 to yell at you at 7:30. 

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Jul 10, 2023 5:24:32 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Aggravated. Told DH that I thought the water softener wasn't working properly last week (when he was off) because my hair felt weird after showering. His reply was "I haven't heard any alarms". I let it go, but should know better. Went to get a bath last night before bed and you could clearly smell sulphur. 😡

DH agreed, checked the softener, and saw that alarms were silenced - which is something that he often does when there is an issue in the early morning when he is running out to work. He worked on it and forced it to run last night and now I have to force it twice today.

Oh, that is so something I would do. Turn off the alarm on the way to work and then completely forget about it. 

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

I just massively fulfilled a stereotype.
It's 7:30 on Monday morning in July. I'm still in my jammies, but I have sweats and an old cardigan over them. Bare feet. 
I thought I heard my husband come home--he starts work at 6:30am. I went out of the home office to the front of the house to see him. It wasn't him, it was a random car in my --very private-- driveway. Two guys were walking around my front yard. I went outside and said the classic "Can I help you?". They looked surprised. But, I'm expecting someone at 9am to survey the hole in my main floor ceiling, so I thought it was them.  It took me a few moments--in my not quite enough caffeinated state to realize It was the yard guys. In my defense, both companies start with S.  Sometimes they show up on Mondays, sometimes on Tuesdays. 

Anyhoooooo...classic teacher not having to work in the summer moment. 

[TheOtherMe]

Jul 10, 2023 6:30:47 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Couldn't sleep last night?

Upset enough about the work week that I'm ready to cry, despite getting an anxiety attack over coming back home yesterday? It hit, right on cue, as the garage door opened.

Back so bad I can't move?

Why, yes, hello Monday.

I am perfectly fine. Everything is great.

[raeoflyte]

Jul 10, 2023 8:46:30 GMT -5 skeeter said:

Jul 9, 2023 16:20:49 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

countrygirl2   There's an old, old saying that "he who pays the fiddler, calls the tunes" and your family dynamic is a perfect example of that axiom.  You and your husband give your son an incredible amount of financial assistance, so of course you feel you should be a dominant voice in his life and relationships.  His wife does not bring home a cash income, so of course neither he nor you feel her wishes are relevant.  Your family dynamic is what I call "transactional", with input and control based on who pays for what.  Your "gifts" such as a greenhouse or a sewing machine come with major strings attached, a requirement that the recipient use the item as you wish them too.  That's not actually a gift, that's a bribe.  

When you write about your son and DIL's problems, it's such a sad echo of your and your husband's relationship.  Obviously that relationship impacted your son, and he is repeating his family history.  Perhaps your grandson will be the break-out generation that finds a better path.

Personally, I really hope you're right, but I have my doubts.  Even if he finds a better path in that particular area, he still is going to have some major problems socially.  Instead of spending his summer vacation stuck in a trailer most of the time with an elderly grandmother and a disabled aunt, he should be interacting with other children.  There were plans in place for him to play soccer this summer, but looks like they got scraped when grandma swooped in again.  Poor kid is going to have a rough life ahead, maybe not financially, but in lots of other areas.

I can't help but wonder if when he goes back to school in the fall whether or not his teacher has the kids write a short essay about how they spent the summer.  His would make a guidance counselor/social worker do a double take.

Yes because having loving family members who show up are exactly the problem school social workers are most concerned about these days.

[mollyc]

I’m sorry Giramomma. I’ve been there before. I hope you get a positive change soon.