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Post by chiver78 on Jul 7, 2023 7:00:58 GMT -5
you are not wrong, at all. that's what makes me feel guilty about asking my mom to cover for me as often as I have. but in her case, she's escaping the hotel (yes, they still live there) and gives them a break from each other for a couple days. but, I also absolutely respect when she says no for whatever reason. they are both actually coming tonight til Sunday. as far as the trip on the 18th, you've already told them no. time for them to figure it out that they need to plan better. if it costs them enough for last-minute care, would that make any difference in your boundaries sinking in? They know the cost of care. That's why they keep pushing for me to do it. And their fear that the dog with neurological issues won't get the care she needs. But although I love them all and I do care, they're not my responsibility. DD1 and I had a major falling out a few years ago, when she went on a vacation in Costa Rica, and left her dying dog in my care. Then she wouldn't answer my calls, or return my messages, when I had questions about his care. Instead, she blamed me and came home early. The dog died Christmas night, which was just a few days later. I don't want to go through that again. this is an excuse. if they were that concerned, they wouldn't leave her in anyone else's care. don't let that guilt you into anything. you've clearly expressed your boundary, please stick to it for your own sanity. and also - remember, "No." is a complete sentence.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 7, 2023 7:10:50 GMT -5
They know the cost of care. That's why they keep pushing for me to do it. And their fear that the dog with neurological issues won't get the care she needs. But although I love them all and I do care, they're not my responsibility. DD1 and I had a major falling out a few years ago, when she went on a vacation in Costa Rica, and left her dying dog in my care. Then she wouldn't answer my calls, or return my messages, when I had questions about his care. Instead, she blamed me and came home early. The dog died Christmas night, which was just a few days later. I don't want to go through that again. this is an excuse. if they were that concerned, they wouldn't leave her in anyone else's care. don't let that guilt you into anything. you've clearly expressed your boundary, please stick to it for your own sanity. and also - remember, "No." is a complete sentence. True. They wouldn't leave her, if they were that concerned. They want to have their cake and eat it to. No my circus. Not my monkeys. My guess is that everyone else has also already said no, so they're pushing me to do it. But I have been saying no, for months, as well. They may have to stay home, this time. I have done what I could.
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Post by jerseygirl on Jul 7, 2023 7:14:11 GMT -5
Sorry toomuchreality your daughters are VERY selfish and spoiled. You should NOT feel guilty. Please do not mind the dogs!!
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Post by bookkeeper on Jul 7, 2023 7:40:41 GMT -5
You live too close to Missouri where they sell fireworks year around. My neighbor in Nebraska used to spend $5000 to $6000 every year on fireworks. You can bet that all didn't get lit off in one night. With a Nebraska drivers license you can purchase fire works year round in South Dakota and Missouri. My neighbor was invited by fireworks retailers to attend steak dinners to watch videos of different fireworks you can purchase. It's a different world for pyros! Where in MO do they sell fireworks year around? We have places that pop up this time of year and then after the 4th, they're gone. I don't think I've ever seen fireworks sold outside of this time of year and I've lived here my whole life. I have noticed year around fireworks at the truck stops closest to the Nebraska/Missouri/Iowa borders. Usually in a separate building. It has been a while since I stopped, but last time I did, they also had crack pipes for sale next to the cash register at said truck stop.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 7, 2023 7:52:46 GMT -5
Where in MO do they sell fireworks year around? We have places that pop up this time of year and then after the 4th, they're gone. I don't think I've ever seen fireworks sold outside of this time of year and I've lived here my whole life. I have noticed year around fireworks at the truck stops closest to the Nebraska/Missouri/Iowa borders. Usually in a separate building. It has been a while since I stopped, but last time I did, they also had crack pipes for sale next to the cash register at said truck stop.Wait. What? Isn't it illegal to sell those?
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 7, 2023 7:58:25 GMT -5
you are not wrong, at all. that's what makes me feel guilty about asking my mom to cover for me as often as I have. but in her case, she's escaping the hotel (yes, they still live there) and gives them a break from each other for a couple days. but, I also absolutely respect when she says no for whatever reason. they are both actually coming tonight til Sunday. as far as the trip on the 18th, you've already told them no. time for them to figure it out that they need to plan better. if it costs them enough for last-minute care, would that make any difference in your boundaries sinking in? They know the cost of care. That's why they keep pushing for me to do it. And their fear that the dog with neurological issues won't get the care she needs. But although I love them all and I do care, they're not my responsibility. DD1 and I had a major falling out a few years ago, when she went on a vacation in Costa Rica, and left her dying dog in my care. Then she wouldn't answer my calls, or return my messages, when I had questions about his care. Instead, she blamed me and came home early. The dog died Christmas night, which was just a few days later. I don't want to go through that again. Then board the dog at the vet where they can ensure if something happens she will have access to immediate care. PetSmart requires we have our vet information on hand and they have verified we do indeed use that vet. That is who they would call in any type of emergency. And SHAME on her leaving a dying dog in your care and not being reachable by phone. That was an unfair burden to place on you. No is a complete sentence and the funny thing is when you start enforcing boundaries all of a sudden these people magically find a way to deal with this shit themselves. They always could they just chose not to because they could bully someone else into doing it. My dad will watch our dogs and vice versa but we happen to live across the street from each other. None of our dogs need 24/7 supervision so I maybe spend an hour or so over there when they are gone playing with the dogs and raiding their fridge. Charlotte is scared of men so instead of forcing my dad to deal with it and stress them both out we pay to board her. If she couldn't be boarded. . .well we wouldn't be going on vacation. That is the price we pay for choosing to have pets. When you have another living being dependent on you sometimes you don't get to do the things you want to do. We don't have the right to force/guilt our family members into taking care of our pets for us. Especially when they refuse to ever return the favor like in your case.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 7, 2023 7:58:59 GMT -5
I have noticed year around fireworks at the truck stops closest to the Nebraska/Missouri/Iowa borders. Usually in a separate building. It has been a while since I stopped, but last time I did, they also had crack pipes for sale next to the cash register at said truck stop.Wait. What? Isn't it illegal to sell those?
You sure they weren't vapes or possibly tire gauges? Or pot pipes? I've had my tire gauges stolen out of my car several times. I hope who ever tried to smoke from it was horribly disappointed.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 7, 2023 7:59:28 GMT -5
I really love my girls, their families and their pets. But I do feel like they are entitled in many ways and they take advantage of that. It's sad, in many ways. They have done things for me. I don't mean to make it sound like they haven't. But most of the time, it feels like a one way street. I'm good enough to take care of their pets and their homes, but not to be invited to go with them. Or even for them to come visit me. I have a go visit them, if I want to see them. Although they do go visit his family and her dad. Both daughters do this. It breaks my heart, when I think about it. The times they are a changing.
Time to shower and get ready to go out and watch my DGDaughters for the day.
I appreciate the feedback and your thoughts, everyone. More than you know. Thank you. ❤
I hope your day goes well, in every way. You deserve it. ♡
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 7, 2023 8:05:56 GMT -5
I have noticed year around fireworks at the truck stops closest to the Nebraska/Missouri/Iowa borders. Usually in a separate building. It has been a while since I stopped, but last time I did, they also had crack pipes for sale next to the cash register at said truck stop.Wait. What? Isn't it illegal to sell those?
They have Smoke Shops here, that sell pipes for every use. It's the use that is illegal, not the pipe. Unless they can prove it has been used. Then it's paraphernalia. (I'm not a cop, or a lawyer. That's just my understanding of how they get around those laws.)
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 7, 2023 8:07:49 GMT -5
Speaking of pet-sitting. I got the text today asking if I was still going to watch Ed. Yes, I said I would be happy to. I wanted to say "F off", but whatever.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jul 7, 2023 8:11:25 GMT -5
Hugs TMR. DC and I were discussing found family last night and it sounds like you might need to look for yours.
You can leave very sick pets with paid pet sitters, but it has to be with incredibly clear instructions, vet and payment information, and the best contact information possible. It doesn't sound like they want to do any of that. Let alone basic pet sitting rules. After 18, staying at someone else's house for pet/house sitting isn't a treat.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 7, 2023 8:12:01 GMT -5
Speaking of pet-sitting. I got the text today asking if I was still going to watch Ed. Yes, I said I would be happy to. I wanted to say "F off", but whatever.
You're better than me. Although I'm just going to say No and stop there, when the time comes. I don't think I could have said, I would be 'happy' to though. That's right up there with saying it's my pleasure, when you're dreading it.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 7, 2023 8:13:16 GMT -5
Wait. What? Isn't it illegal to sell those?
They have Smoke Shops here, that sell pipes for every use. It's the use that is illegal, not the pipe. Unless they can prove it has been used. Then it's paraphernalia. (I'm not a cop, or a lawyer. That's just my understanding of how they get around those laws.) Our tobacco shop sells pot pipes, but there was a "sting" a while back where they arrested them for selling crack pipes. You had to tell the owner a code word for them to bring them out and they sent an undercover cop to do it. If I remember right they were charged with a felony and the store was closed for awhile.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 7, 2023 8:15:23 GMT -5
Speaking of pet-sitting. I got the text today asking if I was still going to watch Ed. Yes, I said I would be happy to. I wanted to say "F off", but whatever.
You're better than me. Although I'm just going to say No and stop there, when the time comes. I don't think I could have said, I would be 'happy' to though. That's right up there with saying it's my pleasure, when you're dreading it. I don't mind watching him. I'm just not fond of his owners (well, really just one of them) and contrary to what she thinks it's not because she's a lesbian or married to a Dakota Indian. It's because she can be a complete asshole.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 7, 2023 8:16:09 GMT -5
To this day I am mad at myself for not having Bob buy me that blown glass Mr. Hanky pot pipe. I could not buy it because it was a medical store so to buy anything you had to have a prescription. He could working there since he had his license. He said it wasn't selling because nobody wants to smoke pot out of a piece of poop. It would have been so awesome as part of my Christmas collection. Now I want a taxidermy alligator dressed as a Victorian caroler. Hope that lady is at the October oddities festival. She's the one I got Lady Squeakers from.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 7, 2023 8:18:55 GMT -5
Hugs TMR. DC and I were discussing found family last night and it sounds like you might need to look for yours. You can leave very sick pets with paid pet sitters, but it has to be with incredibly clear instructions, vet and payment information, and the best contact information possible. It doesn't sound like they want to do any of that. Let alone basic pet sitting rules. After 18, staying at someone else's house for pet/house sitting isn't a treat. Yeah. No vet info, or payment info. Just their cell phone numbers, which they may, or may not answer, or return your call. Depending on how drunk they are, or what they're doing. I've gotten that response almost every time I've ever dog sat for her. She's really good at ghosting. Although she always has an excuse, and claims she wasn't ghosting. Always.
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Post by giramomma on Jul 7, 2023 8:21:15 GMT -5
I should be working on more job apps. I'm going to take a week off.
I hope I don't regret that down the line. I still have my thing to prep for the second interview.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 7, 2023 8:22:05 GMT -5
Advice needed. I have 2 daughters (grown), living I their own houses. DD1 and her DW have 3 small dogs, all over the age of 13 yrs. One had hip surgery a year ago, but still rarely uses his leg. Another has neurological issues, 16 yrs old and can barely walk, or even stand any more. She must be carried to go potty and back inside, and to get food and water, etc. The 3rd is in okay shape. They all take medications throughout the day, which have to be prepared. There's no doggy door, but there is a fenced yard. I have cared for them MANY times over the years, as well as other dogs DD1 has had and I house sit too. Most times things go smoothly, but it's a lot of work and a schedule I'm not used to. I'm getting older now and have multiple heart and other issues, so it has gotten hard for me to continue doing this. I don't enjoy it like I used to, because it's a lot of effort for me. I don't want to do it any more and have made that clear, since the last time I watched them this last winter. It was hard on me and my heart. They have a trip to Croatia planned on the 18th, for a week. I thought by now, they would have another sitter booked. I just found out, they don't. They are still trying to guilt me into doing it for them. DD2 and her husband, along with their kids and his family, are all going on another cruise for a week in December. They want me to house sit and take care of their cat while they're gone. I don't want to do this again, either. I don't want the responsibility, in either case. And I don't want to pack up and stay at someone else's house, taking care of their stuff, while mine gets left undone. It doesn't feel like a vacation to me. It's a lot more work than staying home. Over the years when I had ferrets (one at a time), not once when I asked, did they agree to even come check on my ferret, and feed it, much less stay overnight. They don't even come visit me. Not even for holidays. Am I the AH for saying no, I can no longer continue being their go to person, for these situations? Since Dec. We have discussed my health and the troubles I have caring for their pets and homes alone, multiple times. They say they understand and they agree, when it comes to their sister. But they both expect me to to meet their needs, when the time comes. No. It's time for them to start helping me, not me still taking care of their needs, I feel. Have another family member, or friend do it, or board them. On the 4th, I finally brought up that they never helped me, when I needed it and asked. Which offended them. But I'll be the bad guy, even if they find someone else. Probably because the other person will have boundries and expect payment. Won't spend 24/7 at their house, doing what they want, like I do. I will feel guilty. They may not speak to me and be angry with me. I feel taken advantage of. And my health is not good. But I've always been the one who has given in, so they expect me to do it. After all, I'm not dead yet. Thoughts? Am I wrong? Since I've explained, I think, No, is all I need to say. Absolutely not. Tell them no and stick to it. The pets/house are their responsibility, not yours. If you can't handle the responsibility, don't get a pet.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jul 7, 2023 8:22:10 GMT -5
Dh and ds are backpacking so I had a night 100% off of alarms. I didn't even remember what that was like. I'm still tired, but it was good.
I'm babysitting my niblings this weekend. 3 and 6. It will mostly be me with very little help from the rest of my crew, at least until Saturday night/Sunday when dc will stay with me over there. These are covid babies, and the youngest is apprehensive of me. Pretty much potty trained at least. But it'll be interesting. I'm taking suggestions- this is what I'm thinking so far:
Neighborhood scavenger hunt Balloon volleyball Indoor pool - on my very strict terms - I'll never be the cool Auntie. Tie dye Normal backyard playing Movie Bedtime book marathon
Adding - I'm delivering them to their grandparents who have them for another 48 hours before parents get home so I'd like to try to exercise them as much as possible.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 7, 2023 8:22:49 GMT -5
They have Smoke Shops here, that sell pipes for every use. It's the use that is illegal, not the pipe. Unless they can prove it has been used. Then it's paraphernalia. (I'm not a cop, or a lawyer. That's just my understanding of how they get around those laws.) Our tobacco shop sells pot pipes, but there was a "sting" a while back where they arrested them for selling crack pipes. You had to tell the owner a code word for them to bring them out and they sent an undercover cop to do it. If I remember right they were charged with a felony and the store was closed for awhile. Wow. You probably don't call them crack, or meth pipes here. But they're sitting in a glass display case, here. Or they were, when I went with my nephew into one of the shops, a few years back. I was shocked!
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Post by jerseygirl on Jul 7, 2023 8:25:04 GMT -5
TMR please don’t be offended but you have contributed to DDs being selfish and entitled women. They probably got that lesson when young of momma will always help them but they didn’t need to help momma? Well it’s time to school them now.
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Post by daisylu on Jul 7, 2023 8:26:55 GMT -5
Boss threw me a curveball this morning, and Excel is being a b*tch. Still logging off early, but might have to put in a couple of hours on Sunday to make a Monday meeting work.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jul 7, 2023 8:29:13 GMT -5
I guess I don't know the difference between tobacco/pot and crack pipes. And I don't know that I want to Google it.
I feel like if there's an obvious difference they can't possibly be sold just openly? But on the other hand how different can pipes be.
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Post by taz157 on Jul 7, 2023 8:33:59 GMT -5
Advice needed. I have 2 daughters (grown), living I their own houses. DD1 and her DW have 3 small dogs, all over the age of 13 yrs. One had hip surgery a year ago, but still rarely uses his leg. Another has neurological issues, 16 yrs old and can barely walk, or even stand any more. She must be carried to go potty and back inside, and to get food and water, etc. The 3rd is in okay shape. They all take medications throughout the day, which have to be prepared. There's no doggy door, but there is a fenced yard. I have cared for them MANY times over the years, as well as other dogs DD1 has had and I house sit too. Most times things go smoothly, but it's a lot of work and a schedule I'm not used to. I'm getting older now and have multiple heart and other issues, so it has gotten hard for me to continue doing this. I don't enjoy it like I used to, because it's a lot of effort for me. I don't want to do it any more and have made that clear, since the last time I watched them this last winter. It was hard on me and my heart. They have a trip to Croatia planned on the 18th, for a week. I thought by now, they would have another sitter booked. I just found out, they don't. They are still trying to guilt me into doing it for them. DD2 and her husband, along with their kids and his family, are all going on another cruise for a week in December. They want me to house sit and take care of their cat while they're gone. I don't want to do this again, either. I don't want the responsibility, in either case. And I don't want to pack up and stay at someone else's house, taking care of their stuff, while mine gets left undone. It doesn't feel like a vacation to me. It's a lot more work than staying home. Over the years when I had ferrets (one at a time), not once when I asked, did they agree to even come check on my ferret, and feed it, much less stay overnight. They don't even come visit me. Not even for holidays. Am I the AH for saying no, I can no longer continue being their go to person, for these situations? Since Dec. We have discussed my health and the troubles I have caring for their pets and homes alone, multiple times. They say they understand and they agree, when it comes to their sister. But they both expect me to to meet their needs, when the time comes. No. It's time for them to start helping me, not me still taking care of their needs, I feel. Have another family member, or friend do it, or board them. On the 4th, I finally brought up that they never helped me, when I needed it and asked. Which offended them. But I'll be the bad guy, even if they find someone else. Probably because the other person will have boundries and expect payment. Won't spend 24/7 at their house, doing what they want, like I do. I will feel guilty. They may not speak to me and be angry with me. I feel taken advantage of. And my health is not good. But I've always been the one who has given in, so they expect me to do it. After all, I'm not dead yet. Thoughts? Am I wrong? Since I've explained, I think, No, is all I need to say. I'm sorry you are being taken advantage of and no one cares about anything except their needs. You are not being unreasonable at all. You laid out your very good reasons why you can't continue to help out months ago and they still expect you to cave in. They were offended when you called them out because they got caught being selfish. Be strong and continue to say no! Yeah that!! Perfectly said!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 7, 2023 8:34:55 GMT -5
I guess I don't know the difference between tobacco/pot and crack pipes. And I don't know that I want to Google it. I feel like if there's an obvious difference they can't possibly be sold just openly? But on the other hand how different can pipes be. I wouldn't think you could openly sell crack pipes as crack pipes. I would guess you could use any pipe for either pot or crack but certain types are probably more efficient than others. I've seen them in all shapes and sizes in stores in Colorado and in vape stores. Vapes REALLY confuse me. I could see mistaking those for something else. This is an interesting wormhole I've gone down this morning.
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Post by azucena on Jul 7, 2023 8:38:59 GMT -5
TMR please don’t be offended but you have contributed to DDs being selfish and entitled women. They probably got that lesson when young of momma will always help them but they didn’t need to help momma? Well it’s time to school them now. Yeah, not necessarily. My sister is one of the most selfish people I know and our mama didn't raise that. It's so bad that even DD10 mentioned the other day that Aunt constantly talks about herself and never asks anything about DDs life. Sis calls me multiple times per week, always during my working hours when I have hard boundaries about not answering. She never leaves a msg or texts. Then after I skip 5 calls, she will tattle on me to our mother. It's so bad that my girls and I routinely joke while the phone is ringing - DD14 always answer when DD10 calls you and DD10 don't call your sister multiple times per day just to talk about yourself.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 7, 2023 8:39:43 GMT -5
Advice needed. I have 2 daughters (grown), living I their own houses. DD1 and her DW have 3 small dogs, all over the age of 13 yrs. One had hip surgery a year ago, but still rarely uses his leg. Another has neurological issues, 16 yrs old and can barely walk, or even stand any more. She must be carried to go potty and back inside, and to get food and water, etc. The 3rd is in okay shape. They all take medications throughout the day, which have to be prepared. There's no doggy door, but there is a fenced yard. I have cared for them MANY times over the years, as well as other dogs DD1 has had and I house sit too. Most times things go smoothly, but it's a lot of work and a schedule I'm not used to. I'm getting older now and have multiple heart and other issues, so it has gotten hard for me to continue doing this. I don't enjoy it like I used to, because it's a lot of effort for me. I don't want to do it any more and have made that clear, since the last time I watched them this last winter. It was hard on me and my heart. They have a trip to Croatia planned on the 18th, for a week. I thought by now, they would have another sitter booked. I just found out, they don't. They are still trying to guilt me into doing it for them. DD2 and her husband, along with their kids and his family, are all going on another cruise for a week in December. They want me to house sit and take care of their cat while they're gone. I don't want to do this again, either. I don't want the responsibility, in either case. And I don't want to pack up and stay at someone else's house, taking care of their stuff, while mine gets left undone. It doesn't feel like a vacation to me. It's a lot more work than staying home. Over the years when I had ferrets (one at a time), not once when I asked, did they agree to even come check on my ferret, and feed it, much less stay overnight. They don't even come visit me. Not even for holidays. Am I the AH for saying no, I can no longer continue being their go to person, for these situations? Since Dec. We have discussed my health and the troubles I have caring for their pets and homes alone, multiple times. They say they understand and they agree, when it comes to their sister. But they both expect me to to meet their needs, when the time comes. No. It's time for them to start helping me, not me still taking care of their needs, I feel. Have another family member, or friend do it, or board them. On the 4th, I finally brought up that they never helped me, when I needed it and asked. Which offended them. But I'll be the bad guy, even if they find someone else. Probably because the other person will have boundries and expect payment. Won't spend 24/7 at their house, doing what they want, like I do. I will feel guilty. They may not speak to me and be angry with me. I feel taken advantage of. And my health is not good. But I've always been the one who has given in, so they expect me to do it. After all, I'm not dead yet. Thoughts? Am I wrong? Since I've explained, I think, No, is all I need to say. Absolutely not. Tell them no and stick to it. The pets/house are their responsibility, not yours. If you can't handle the responsibility, don't get a pet. They actually take very good care of their pets. But it's easier if I dog and house sit for them, when they travel. Everyone else says no. And now, I am and will be too. DD1 works for an airline, so they can travel free and they do, quite often. I can travel free too, but I'm a chicken, so only have a few times, on 1 hr flights.
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toomuchreality
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 7, 2023 8:44:52 GMT -5
TMR please don’t be offended but you have contributed to DDs being selfish and entitled women. They probably got that lesson when young of momma will always help them but they didn’t need to help momma? Well it’s time to school them now. I wasn't able to help them much growing up, so I've tried to make up for it as they became adults. It hasn't worked like I hoped. That's for sure. Not offended, at all. I'd rather have honest responses, than smoke. And I feel validated. Thank you.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 7, 2023 8:44:53 GMT -5
I guess I don't know the difference between tobacco/pot and crack pipes. And I don't know that I want to Google it. I feel like if there's an obvious difference they can't possibly be sold just openly? But on the other hand how different can pipes be. According to my seedier friends here. There's a difference.
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toomuchreality
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 7, 2023 8:46:32 GMT -5
TMR please don’t be offended but you have contributed to DDs being selfish and entitled women. They probably got that lesson when young of momma will always help them but they didn’t need to help momma? Well it’s time to school them now. Yeah, not necessarily. My sister is one of the most selfish people I know and our mama didn't raise that. It's so bad that even DD10 mentioned the other day that Aunt constantly talks about herself and never asks anything about DDs life. Sis calls me multiple times per week, always during my working hours when I have hard boundaries about not answering. She never leaves a msg or texts. Then after I skip 5 calls, she will tattle on me to our mother. It's so bad that my girls and I routinely joke while the phone is ringing - DD14 always answer when DD10 calls you and DD10 don't call your sister multiple times per day just to talk about yourself. Sorry you have to deal with this. Hugs ♡
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