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Post by Opti on Jul 2, 2023 16:33:02 GMT -5
Why is Mister's dad back in the house with you again?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2023 16:39:23 GMT -5
Mr. Messy came out and sat on the deck this morning while I was picking beans. After a few minutes, he said it was too hot and went back inside. He’s come to the door off and on since then, asking if it’s still hot outside. I might have sounded a bit cheerful when I said “Yep!” every time. But I wasn’t lying, it is hot for real. I’m sitting under the umbrella with the fan right next to me. DD and the babies left this morning to go swimming. They’re coming back after that. That’s why she asked if they could spend the night last night, they were already out this way, and had plans out this way this morning, so it made sense to eliminate some of that driving since they live about 40 minutes away from me. Plus the babies enjoy visiting me, and I love having them over. Oh boy, they showed up at the gate while I was typing this post. DD went in the house and came right back out, and was telling DGD1, “don’t go in there”. I asked what was wrong and she said “he told me we gotta go in the living room and be quiet because he’s trying to take a nap”. I was looking crazy, trying to figure out how to handle that, because WTF. I said “Mister told you that?” She said “no, his Dad, I don’t know where Mister is”. Well, I knew how to handle that, and I took my ass right in the house and asked him if he told her that. He said “no. She asked me how I’m doing and I told her I’m just trying to be quiet so I can take a nap”. So yeah, he said it. He just tried to make it sound better when I asked him about it. He got up and went to the bedroom. I’m so irritated right now. You don’t run shit over here sir, and you don’t tell my babies they have to stay out of the den so you can take a nap and make my daughter feel like they can’t even come in my house. The door from the deck is in the den. That’s all Imma say, so I don’t say anything really ugly.
Here, I got your back. You can tell him that I said he's the sorriest piece of lying ungrateful shit I've ever heard of and God's retribution will be heavy on him for his actions. He neglected his wife to the point of her death, and now he betrays the loving compassion of his sons, his sister, and every other decent person who's had pity on him. Even a dog is grateful for the shelter and food it gets, so he's lower than a mangy cur dog when he disrespects the owners of the house where he is welcomed. If I had done half the bad he has, I wouldn't nap for fear of what might visit me while I slept.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jul 2, 2023 16:52:05 GMT -5
I’m having a sad moment. I was getting my shopping list together in the parking lot when my nephew tapped on my window asking me if he could have $2. He didn’t realize it was me until I spoke more. He was just bumming cash. He’s a drug addict and I have to say he is looking every one of his 41 years and maybe a few more. It’s sad. Up until about 8 years ago he would clean his act up periodically and be really successful at life. But he’d use meth when he couldn’t afford heroin so I think that hope is gone for good. It’s too bad. My DB1 and DSIL are helping his ex with his son because he’s useless. He’s broken his son’s heart a few times because L will see his dad and K is too high to recognize him. I'm so sorry.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jul 2, 2023 16:54:26 GMT -5
While scrubbing down the kitchen this morning, I thought about some posts here and our name, Your Money and More. The name really fits because we talk about money in a variety of ways, and we also talk about much more because, after all, there is more to life than money. There is the old saying that "money can't buy happiness" and I can definitely see the truth of that here sometimes. It's incredibly sad to see people posting about their accumulation of wealth, and also posting about their loneliness, isolation, and poor quality of physical life, as well as their fear that the $$ will run out before they die. I certainly don't advocate anyone spending their last dime on hookers and blow ( or even Amish chickens), but what good are the extra zeroes in a bank balance if you are miserable? Aging is inevitable and does sometimes bring physical limitations, so finding a balance of wealth building to budgeting for travel or other life pleasures over time seems like a healthier approach than single-minded frugality. Just Sunday morning reflections. WOW that brought some major flashbacks of long ago
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 2, 2023 16:56:00 GMT -5
Sometime last night, after we went to bed, Mister managed to see his Dad nekkid. Idk the circumstances, but I’m pretty sure Mister didn’t open a closed door and go in the bedroom.
We don’t even sleep nude when little people are here, including Kiddo. Even though I teach children to knock before opening a closed door, there’s always the possibility that they won’t. I only lock the door if we’re feeling frisky.
Im so irritated with him right now, that any little thing he does now, is subject to irritate me even more, probably out of proportion. So I hope he just stays in the bedroom the rest of the day, or if he doesn’t, at least act like he has some sense, because I’m on one now. I really don’t want to be like that though, so Imma pray on it.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 2, 2023 17:05:09 GMT -5
Why is Mister's dad back in the house with you again? Mister went and got him to stay here for a couple of days and give his brother a break. The pattern seems to be that Mister is going to get his Dad every other weekend. Also, there’s the fact that before all this stuff happened with his parents, he was very close to them. He and his Mom talked on the phone almost every day, often a few times a day. He and his Dad talked on the phone a lot too, not as often as his Mom, but still several times a week. And they would pop up sometimes, just to see him even if they didn’t stay, and he would go to their house and hang out with them. They saw each other at least 2 or 3 times/month. So I get it that he still wants to spend time with his Dad, even though he drives him crazy now.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 2, 2023 17:06:12 GMT -5
Mr. Messy came out and sat on the deck this morning while I was picking beans. After a few minutes, he said it was too hot and went back inside. He’s come to the door off and on since then, asking if it’s still hot outside. I might have sounded a bit cheerful when I said “Yep!” every time. But I wasn’t lying, it is hot for real. I’m sitting under the umbrella with the fan right next to me. DD and the babies left this morning to go swimming. They’re coming back after that. That’s why she asked if they could spend the night last night, they were already out this way, and had plans out this way this morning, so it made sense to eliminate some of that driving since they live about 40 minutes away from me. Plus the babies enjoy visiting me, and I love having them over. Oh boy, they showed up at the gate while I was typing this post. DD went in the house and came right back out, and was telling DGD1, “don’t go in there”. I asked what was wrong and she said “he told me we gotta go in the living room and be quiet because he’s trying to take a nap”. I was looking crazy, trying to figure out how to handle that, because WTF. I said “Mister told you that?” She said “no, his Dad, I don’t know where Mister is”. Well, I knew how to handle that, and I took my ass right in the house and asked him if he told her that. He said “no. She asked me how I’m doing and I told her I’m just trying to be quiet so I can take a nap”. So yeah, he said it. He just tried to make it sound better when I asked him about it. He got up and went to the bedroom. I’m so irritated right now. You don’t run shit over here sir, and you don’t tell my babies they have to stay out of the den so you can take a nap and make my daughter feel like they can’t even come in my house. The door from the deck is in the den. That’s all Imma say, so I don’t say anything really ugly.
Here, I got your back. You can tell him that I said he's the sorriest piece of lying ungrateful shit I've ever heard of and God's retribution will be heavy on him for his actions. He neglected his wife to the point of her death, and now he betrays the loving compassion of his sons, his sister, and every other decent person who's had pity on him. Even a dog is grateful for the shelter and food it gets, so he's lower than a mangy cur dog when he disrespects the owners of the house where he is welcomed. If I had done half the bad he has, I wouldn't nap for fear of what might visit me while I slept. Please, tell me how you REALLY feel. ETA: I hope you know I’m not laughing at you. I understand that you really want what’s best for me and Mister.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 2, 2023 17:11:59 GMT -5
I’m having a sad moment. I was getting my shopping list together in the parking lot when my nephew tapped on my window asking me if he could have $2. He didn’t realize it was me until I spoke more. He was just bumming cash. He’s a drug addict and I have to say he is looking every one of his 41 years and maybe a few more. It’s sad. Up until about 8 years ago he would clean his act up periodically and be really successful at life. But he’d use meth when he couldn’t afford heroin so I think that hope is gone for good. It’s too bad. My DB1 and DSIL are helping his ex with his son because he’s useless. He’s broken his son’s heart a few times because L will see his dad and K is too high to recognize him. That really is sad. I'm so sorry. I wonder how I would respond to a request for money, in that situation? I'm not sure.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2023 17:12:01 GMT -5
Here, I got your back. You can tell him that I said he's the sorriest piece of lying ungrateful shit I've ever heard of and God's retribution will be heavy on him for his actions. He neglected his wife to the point of her death, and now he betrays the loving compassion of his sons, his sister, and every other decent person who's had pity on him. Even a dog is grateful for the shelter and food it gets, so he's lower than a mangy cur dog when he disrespects the owners of the house where he is welcomed. If I had done half the bad he has, I wouldn't nap for fear of what might visit me while I slept. Please, tell me how you REALLY feel. ETA: I hope you know I’m not laughing at you. I understand that you really want what’s best for me and Mister. You know I know - I just want to slap the silly out of him for the grief he's causing both of you.
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Post by Opti on Jul 2, 2023 17:20:08 GMT -5
While scrubbing down the kitchen this morning, I thought about some posts here and our name, Your Money and More. The name really fits because we talk about money in a variety of ways, and we also talk about much more because, after all, there is more to life than money. There is the old saying that "money can't buy happiness" and I can definitely see the truth of that here sometimes. It's incredibly sad to see people posting about their accumulation of wealth, and also posting about their loneliness, isolation, and poor quality of physical life, as well as their fear that the $$ will run out before they die. I certainly don't advocate anyone spending their last dime on hookers and blow ( or even Amish chickens), but what good are the extra zeroes in a bank balance if you are miserable? Aging is inevitable and does sometimes bring physical limitations, so finding a balance of wealth building to budgeting for travel or other life pleasures over time seems like a healthier approach than single-minded frugality. Just Sunday morning reflections. WOW that brought some major flashbacks of long ago Anyone else miss the grocery stories?
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 2, 2023 17:21:22 GMT -5
I pay my dad for parts he doesn't charge for labor. I consider it fair trade. We've paid far far less than if we'd had to take the cars to a shop every time. But that's always been the agreement since I became an adult. $3k isn't going to get very far purchasing a car anymore. $200 is a steal for the parts. DHs stupid battery alone for the Nissan is $450 and that's with the discount to recyle the old one! Dad took me to a private owned shop and he recommended a comparable battery. It fits it's just not the manufacturer approved battery. It was half the cost. This is probably the last Nissan we'll own. No complaints about the car itself but parts are way more expensive than my Impala. The $3k car was from someone she knows. The parts for her car cost almost $500. DD took care of buying the parts. Her Uncle wants $200 for the labor, but nobody told her the expectation was for her to pay him until after he was done. I feel like that expectation should’ve been made clear to her up front, since that’s not how we normally do things. I agree. It should have been made clear, up front. That's how I do things.
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Post by Works4me on Jul 2, 2023 17:33:48 GMT -5
Accidentally drove through Sedona going south in February and the entire town has nothing but roundabouts. It took forever! But we picked up a pair of Flex- steel chairs with 2 ottomans that are like new for $500. They will be perfect in the California house when I move back there next year.
I'm tired and hot today - awake since 4am. I had wicked heat rash for several days which is finally clearing up plus allergy drive continues. On the plus side my housekeeper is back and John has been really great lately. Gizmo is a little upset that his little girlfriend Taffy isn't here again today but he's coping. The pool is almost ready and I can't wait!
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 2, 2023 17:53:46 GMT -5
I’ve only ever seen a roundabout in Nashville TN. What is the purpose?
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Post by chiver78 on Jul 2, 2023 18:09:03 GMT -5
in theory, it keeps traffic flowing at the pace needed and not at the pace dictated by traffic lights, at intersections. as in, on a Friday, the traffic coming ON Cape requires more 'flow time' than the other three inputs to the rotary. reverse on Sundays, rinse and repeat. where things get interesting is tourist season, when you're seeing lots of folks that don't know how to navigate them. we'll ignore the ones that just flat-out can't drive in general (and WHY are they always silver Camrys with NY plates?! ) I've seen people - ALL out of state plates - enter the rotary and turn left , enter the rotary and stop to let someone else out, enter the rotary and cross lanes of it to take an exit which means they were in the wrong lane in the first place.
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Post by chiver78 on Jul 2, 2023 18:10:53 GMT -5
right now, I'm trying to stay vertical long enough that when I get out of the shower I can just go to bed. I want nothing to do with any part of going downstairs to watch tv for any length of time, in case I fall asleep down there on a night where <knocks wood> I'm hoping I don't have to.
I've emptied and reloaded the dishwasher, cooked chicken and rice for the pups, and will probably run the dishwasher again overnight tonight. debating a can of soup for myself, too. idk.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 2, 2023 18:23:45 GMT -5
DGD had some slime and asked me if she could play with it at the table in the breakfast nook. She’s the one that insists on keeping that table clean when she’s here (which I just mentioned here recently) and promised to clean up whatever mess she might make. I think slime is disgusting, but I said ok, as long as she keeps it clean.
So she and DGS just came and told me that Mr. Messy told them to get away with that because he’s trying to eat. DGS told him I’d said they could play with it there and he said “I don’t care”.
I am FUCKING BOILING!
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Post by chiver78 on Jul 2, 2023 18:33:33 GMT -5
say the word, ma'am. after the past few days, I'm in a mood to adjust some attitudes.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 2, 2023 18:40:07 GMT -5
I’ve only ever seen a roundabout in Nashville TN. What is the purpose? Better traffic flow and in the case of our main one also safety. We had two main highways intersecting and there have been lots of deaths at that intersection because people were always flooring it and running the red at 70mph trying to beat the light. Now they HAVE to slow down and be aware of what they're doing. I'm sure fender benders are going to go up a lot, but it would be pretty hard to have a deadly accident in a roundabout.
I love them myself, and they're popping up all over my state. If people know what they're doing they work slick.
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Post by Works4me on Jul 2, 2023 18:44:33 GMT -5
DGD had some slime and asked me if she could play with it at the table in the breakfast nook. She’s the one that insists on keeping that table clean when she’s here (which I just mentioned here recently) and promised to clean up whatever mess she might make. I think slime is disgusting, but I said ok, as long as she keeps it clean. So she and DGS just came and told me that Mr. Messy told them to get away with that because he’s trying to eat. DGS told him I’d said they could play with it there and he said “I don’t care”. I am FUCKING BOILING! He needs to go home. Whenever he misbehaves or mouths off, appears undressed, yells or fights, he gets one warning before he is returned to his own home. No fighting, no discussion, no nothing - if he is unable to act appropriately he needs to go home.
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Post by giramomma on Jul 2, 2023 18:54:46 GMT -5
I'm digesting dinner. Figuratively and literally.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 2, 2023 18:56:41 GMT -5
DGD had some slime and asked me if she could play with it at the table in the breakfast nook. She’s the one that insists on keeping that table clean when she’s here (which I just mentioned here recently) and promised to clean up whatever mess she might make. I think slime is disgusting, but I said ok, as long as she keeps it clean. So she and DGS just came and told me that Mr. Messy told them to get away with that because he’s trying to eat. DGS told him I’d said they could play with it there and he said “I don’t care”. I am FUCKING BOILING! He needs to go home. Whenever he misbehaves or mouths off, appears undressed, Yelks or fights, he gets one warning before he is returned to his own home. No fighting, no discussion, no nothing - if he is unable to act appropriately he needs to go home. I agree with this 100%
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2023 19:03:56 GMT -5
Well, you know what I think about the old fool. He just keeps on sowing his meanness, and he should reap the results soon.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 2, 2023 19:09:33 GMT -5
DGD had some slime and asked me if she could play with it at the table in the breakfast nook. She’s the one that insists on keeping that table clean when she’s here (which I just mentioned here recently) and promised to clean up whatever mess she might make. I think slime is disgusting, but I said ok, as long as she keeps it clean. So she and DGS just came and told me that Mr. Messy told them to get away with that because he’s trying to eat. DGS told him I’d said they could play with it there and he said “I don’t care”. I am FUCKING BOILING! He needs to go home. Whenever he misbehaves or mouths off, appears undressed, yells or fights, he gets one warning before he is returned to his own home. No fighting, no discussion, no nothing - if he is unable to act appropriately he needs to go home. I don’t feel like I can tell Mister to take him home. But what I can do is address him directly when he pisses me off. And I’ve done just that today and will keep doing it. It’s a totally different situation with him vs Mister’s daughters. He’s run his own household for 50 years and I’m certain that he would never have let another adult try to take over his home. Mister is the ONLY person whose opinion matters to me in my home, and I asked if he had a problem with the children playing with the slime at the table in the breakfast nook before I confronted his Dad, and he said he doesn’t care. And what REALLY pissed me off in both incidents today was that he was nasty about what he said to DD and my Grandbabies. My folks don’t know anything about all the shit going on with him, and they have no reason to lie on him. He’s the one that’s known for lying. I’ll make him be uncomfortable being here before I let him keep making my folks uncomfortable.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 2, 2023 19:13:35 GMT -5
Well, you know what I think about the old fool. He just keeps on sowing his meanness, and he should reap the results soon. He’s learning today that I am not always the “nice”, easygoing person he’s always known. And the fact is that I can also be a bitch and not feel bad about it. If he keeps on, he’s gonna meet the bitch.
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Post by empress of self-improvement on Jul 2, 2023 19:21:10 GMT -5
Excited a good bit of tonight's dinner is from my garden. The heat has my lettuce going gangbusters and my squash plant survived rabbit attacks to start producing squash. It's not near enough to offset current grocery costs but it is still satisfying to say I grew the salad on the table. I pitched to my dad that we empty the sandbox my grandpa made and turn it into a garden next year. Archie lives in Ames now and the girls are older. Time to give it new life IMO. DO IT!!!! I've been picking up Little Tyke sandboxes from curbs for the last couple of years and I use them as garden beds. I have a crab, a treasure chest, an alligator, a turtle and some thing or other. Beats making beds in my crappy ground.
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Post by Opti on Jul 2, 2023 19:26:20 GMT -5
I’ve only ever seen a roundabout in Nashville TN. What is the purpose? They are here in NJ as well. Plus we have jug handles.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 2, 2023 19:36:13 GMT -5
I’ve only ever seen a roundabout in Nashville TN. What is the purpose? They are here in NJ as well. Plus we have jug handles. What are jug handles?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2023 19:36:25 GMT -5
I hope Mister can rein in his father before something really wrong happens that impacts your grand babies, Kiddo, YD or OD. He is an exhibitionist. And that’s another note for the file on why he can’t live with you because his behavior is a risk to children in the home.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jul 2, 2023 19:45:48 GMT -5
Dh got home and is dealing with some fish tank maintenance and said that his 75 gallon really needs to be in a 6x8ft tank. I don't want to fight with him right now, but at some point, no. No more tanks. No more projects. He's not a partner in almost anything at least partly because he lives for who he wants to be, not who he is. When he isn't in crisis he needs to set up life to be manageable for when he is in crisis. Because he's in crisis a lot! Eventually we could get to project mode, and I'm not even talking about taking away what he has. But nothing more until or unless he can take care of his current shit.
I feel like I'm going to blow a gasket, and I really don't want to do that right now. Hoping I get an excuse to leave the house. Might make an excuse to leave.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 2, 2023 19:48:48 GMT -5
So he just came to the door on the deck talking about he hears some loud music. I’m not playing music, it’s probably Mister in his wanna be man cave. But even if it is him, SO WHAT! It’s not the middle of the night like it was when he was waking everybody up yelling for Mister to bring him some water and other random shit.
We play music when we want to, and it’s often loud. Get over it or go home. I will probably play loud music all day tomorrow, like I did when I smoked that shoulder a few weeks ago. He can like it or leave it.
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