What are your goals for 2022?

[laterbloomer]

I don't remember ever specifically being taught to cook, other than in Home Economics. But I was around a lot when my mother made meals so you kind of pick it up. And I'm pretty good at following recipes until they start talking about folding stuff in and other weird phrases like that.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I've seen a lot of people look down on both but I learned to cook with Rachel Ray's 30 minute meals and Sandra Lee's Semi Homemade.

Was it the pinnacle of healthy scratch made food? Nope but being a newbie it was really helpful for me because they used familiar products and were more about assembly.

It got me confident enough to grow beyond them.

If you'd started me out on one of the cookbooks I bought today I'd have given up.

I also still love Sneaky Chef for the same reason. I still use several of her techniques and she was awesome when I was pregnant and darn near everything made me vomit.

[ners]

Jan 9, 2022 17:29:53 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

Jan 9, 2022 12:03:03 GMT -5 bookkeeper said:

When I do cook, I prefer to not have to cook again the very next day, leftovers work for me.

I don’t know why my Mom or Grandmother didn’t teach me how to cook when I was growing up. They never “made” me help in the kitchen, not even when they were in the kitchen for hours and hours cooking big holiday meals. Even though I don’t like cooking, I still wish I had their skills. 

When I use to cook chili for my children, DD made grilled cheese. I’d never liked it before, but all of a sudden I did, so that became her job whenever I cooked chili. She made good coleslaw, so that became hers too. She was the first person in my household to cook greens and they were deeeelicious. I’ve still never cooked greens myself. When I cooked salmon croquettes not too long ago, I called DD so she could tell me how.

One time, when my children were teens, they were helping me cook dinner. DS was in charge of the macaroni and cheese, I was telling him what to do, while I was doing something else. When it was time to put the Mac and cheese in a dish to go in the oven, it was very soupy and I was very confused about why. Well, I didn’t specifically tell DS to drain the macaroni after cooking it, so he didn’t, he just added all the other stuff to it.   We didn’t have Mac and cheese that night.

The bolded part took me back more years than I care to remember.  The day my brother made macaroni and beef all on his own.  (He did not cook the macaroni. It was quite crunchy) To be fair he was in 8th grade and used to my mom just having him combine ingredients.  I never really learned to cook or bake.  My sisters were much better cooks and convinced me I could not boil water.  Good thing DF likes to cook.  

[buystoys]

Mom started teaching me to bake and cook when I was 7.  She worked two out of three weekends, so my job was to bake something for school snacks and dad's lunches every Saturday.  Since she worked Saturday's, I also had to learn to cook simple things in order to have dinner ready when she got home.  Then I joined 4-H at 8 and just moved on from there.  I think I was in 4-H for six or seven years?

[Lizard Queen]

I watched my mom cook, but had no interest in it. Did I, as a kid, want to spend hours in the kitchen every day cooking and cleaning up while my brother only was expected to mow the lawn for an hour once a week for a few months out of the year? No, no I didn't. I learned to mow the grass instead.

[tcu2003]

Jan 8, 2022 11:02:34 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Drew Barrymore Rebel Homemaker and Nigella Lawson At My Table.

Ottolenghi test kitchen I found at the library. It's middle eastern recipes. The first one knocked it out of the park so I'm going to buy a copy.

I did not like Nigellas sweet potato tacos but that's because I don't care for sweet potatoes outside of one soup recipe. Was hoping this would change my mind.

The flavors were otherwise good so I'm thinking of marrying it to my other taco recipe that uses russets.

Thanks!! I’ll check those out.

[giramomma]

Jan 9, 2022 18:41:12 GMT -5 Lizard Queen said:

I watched my mom cook, but had no interest in it. Did I, as a kid, want to spend hours in the kitchen every day cooking and cleaning up while my brother only was expected to mow the lawn for an hour once a week for a few months out of the year? No, no I didn't. I learned to mow the grass instead.

You were a smart kid

[minnesotapaintlady]

Jan 8, 2022 11:06:42 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

I am so super spoiled in having a husband who likes to cook. I need to remember to appreciate that more. 

Both my ex's loved to cook. I absolutely LOATHE cooking and do very little of it.  I like to eat though, so I miss having them around for that...

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

1) I was definitely taught the basics of cooking by my mother. We have taught our children more than the basics.

2) it’s 12:45 my time, which means [mention]dramaq1015 [/mention] has had her meeting. I’m excited to hear how it went.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Jan 10, 2022 15:44:38 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

1) I was definitely taught the basics of cooking by my mother. We have taught our children more than the basics.

2) it’s 12:45 my time, which means [mention]dramaq1015 [/mention] has had her meeting. I’m excited to hear how it went.

We just set things up and got me paid.  My first actual meeting with her is next Monday.  

I'm at the phase where I don't know what I want to do but I sure as heck know what I DON'T want anymore.  So the first couple of sessions she said will be focused on figuring out directions I may want to go and what if any of my current skills align with that goal.

Then we can build my resume and online profile to start reflecting in that direction and discuss what if any courses I may need to take to head there.

I'll have homework in-between sessions to work on too.  

[debthaven]

Just one ... to retire at the end of 2022 (technically as of Jan 1 2023).   I'll be 63.

[chiver78]

Jan 8, 2022 16:29:39 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Jan 8, 2022 16:21:13 GMT -5 buystoys said:

I wish I liked sweet potatoes.  And squash.  And broccoli.

I loathe broccoli. I try to attempt something about 10 times because maybe I just need to train my pallete or maybe it was just that recipe.

Nope broccoli tastes like farts. Period.

I do like cauliflower but only as cauliflower. I don't appreciate it trying to pose as things like mashed potatoes. Bullshit it's "just the dame"

I make a really good cauliflower taco and I want to try using it in place of chicken in cashew chicken.

see, that's how I feel about cauliflower. and I lurve broccoli, any way I can get it. funny how different people taste things differently! 

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

So I found a job description that has a lot of the things I'm interested in feel I can make a case for my skills.

It's not one Im qualified for it's 2nd to the vice president but it's a good pretend example.

Like I don't have a social science degree but with my biology degree I have designed and conducted experiments, compiled data, etc.

I need help making that argument. Hopefully I can also get guidance on what additional training or education may be needed.

So while I can't get that job today maybe tomorrow I can.

I need visuals I can be walked through. All the click bait jargon like "soft skills" and "reframe your skills to reflect the job you want"mean nothing to me.

But if I can have a job description that wants X and have my resume that says Y with someone in the middle to say "See Y. That can be applied to X and here is how" would be a HUGE help.

Which is what I would like to get out of this. Im really leaning towards wanting something closer to social science that might allow me to get into some sort of advocacy like organinzing volunteer work at the zoo.

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Jan 14, 2022 22:05:09 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

So I found a job description that has a lot of the things I'm interested in feel I can make a case for my skills.

It's not one Im qualified for it's 2nd to the vice president but it's a good pretend example.

Like I don't have a social science degree but with my biology degree I have designed and conducted experiments, compiled data, etc.

I need help making that argument. Hopefully I can also get guidance on what additional training or education may be needed.

So while I can't get that job today maybe tomorrow I can.

I need visuals I can be walked through. All the click bait jargon like "soft skills" and "reframe your skills to reflect the job you want"mean nothing to me.

But if I can have a job description that wants X and have my resume that says Y with someone in the middle to say "See Y. That can be applied to X and here is how" would be a HUGE help.

Which is what I would like to get out of this. Im really leaning towards wanting something closer to social science that might allow me to get into some sort of advocacy like organinzing volunteer work at the zoo.

And I totally understand those phrases and can tell and have told others how to do that, but I am absolutely 100% positively forever convinced that I will never ever be hired for any job every again no matter what. Which when that happens I will fail my 2022 goals/plan.

[stillmovingforward]

Chloe and Drama need to be BFFs.

[TheOtherMe]

Knee Deep in Water Chloe   I felt that way my entire working life.  I also was afraid I couldn't do the job if I got the job.  

[steph08]

Jan 8, 2022 22:18:12 GMT -5 Lizard Queen said:

I hate sweet potatoes. I don't mind broccoli, but one time I ate them when I was sick and they tasted awful. I figure it's probably similar to the cilantro thing, which I also hate.

Anyway, DH got his raise--3.28%, which puts him at $57k. It's really not bad for the area, it's just the responsibility of it, especially while he's supposed to have PTO which is bullshit. Someone at his level should be able to take a fucking week off of work without working.

Oh hellz no would I be working while on vacation if I was making 57k. I make more and my vacation days are vacation days. Unless I'm a director or an executive with a six-figure salary that is 150k or more, there is no way that I'm working on vacation.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Jan 16, 2022 13:43:02 GMT -5 steph08 said:

Jan 8, 2022 22:18:12 GMT -5 Lizard Queen said:

I hate sweet potatoes. I don't mind broccoli, but one time I ate them when I was sick and they tasted awful. I figure it's probably similar to the cilantro thing, which I also hate.

Anyway, DH got his raise--3.28%, which puts him at $57k. It's really not bad for the area, it's just the responsibility of it, especially while he's supposed to have PTO which is bullshit. Someone at his level should be able to take a fucking week off of work without working.

Oh hellz no would I be working while on vacation if I was making 57k. I make more and my vacation days are vacation days. Unless I'm a director or an executive with a six-figure salary that is 150k or more, there is no way that I'm working on vacation.

I don't even male 50k but I've had the sales people try to keep me from taking vacation at all because what if they need something from me?

The same people who got to work from home and not be exposed on a daily basis.

Yet another reason I want to leave. I've taken my vacation but they and Peacock make sure I'm miserable the following week so I'm aware what an inconvenience it was for them.

[stillmovingforward]

Jan 16, 2022 14:05:32 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Jan 16, 2022 13:43:02 GMT -5 steph08 said:

Oh hellz no would I be working while on vacation if I was making 57k. I make more and my vacation days are vacation days. Unless I'm a director or an executive with a six-figure salary that is 150k or more, there is no way that I'm working on vacation.

I don't even male 50k but I've had the sales people try to keep me from taking vacation at all because what if they need something from me?

The same people who got to work from home and not be exposed on a daily basis.

Yet another reason I want to leave. I've taken my vacation but they and Peacock make sure I'm miserable the following week so I'm aware what an inconvenience it was for them.

We'll need a play-by-play when you quit!

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Jan 16, 2022 14:10:08 GMT -5 stillmovingforward said:

Jan 16, 2022 14:05:32 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

I don't even male 50k but I've had the sales people try to keep me from taking vacation at all because what if they need something from me?

The same people who got to work from home and not be exposed on a daily basis.

Yet another reason I want to leave. I've taken my vacation but they and Peacock make sure I'm miserable the following week so I'm aware what an inconvenience it was for them.

We'll need a play-by-play when you quit!

I was talking to my one coworker and said I don't have an exit interview planned it's become a manifesto at this point.

The job itself isn't terrible and yes things got better when M was removed but COVID really pulled back the curtain. I can't be part of the mass exodus right now but we've had almost complete turnover in several departments. That says something.

And I've changed. I can't look past how they handled me having COVID. I can't look past how they called us insubordination and were planning on writing us up solely based on M writing emails behind our back.

Just not wanting to drive into a wall isn't enough for me anymore. I want more and I want to adapt to a healthier workplace.

I can't keep going this way till retirement. Just be grateful you're employed is not enough.

Hence me hiring help.

[Lizard Queen]

Jan 16, 2022 13:43:02 GMT -5 steph08 said:

Jan 8, 2022 22:18:12 GMT -5 Lizard Queen said:

I hate sweet potatoes. I don't mind broccoli, but one time I ate them when I was sick and they tasted awful. I figure it's probably similar to the cilantro thing, which I also hate.

Anyway, DH got his raise--3.28%, which puts him at $57k. It's really not bad for the area, it's just the responsibility of it, especially while he's supposed to have PTO which is bullshit. Someone at his level should be able to take a fucking week off of work without working.

Oh hellz no would I be working while on vacation if I was making 57k. I make more and my vacation days are vacation days. Unless I'm a director or an executive with a six-figure salary that is 150k or more, there is no way that I'm working on vacation.

And the good job opening at the good new employer won't be applied for because he has anxiety, and going somewhere new creates more anxiety for him. Too bad, though who knows if he would have even gotten an interview.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

First appointment went well we went over my personality results more in depth so she could get an idea of what type of worker I am and what type of environment I prefer.

It wasn't anything that I don't already know about myself from several other therapists saying the same thing.  The next session is going to work towards probing what other types of jobs because being a technician there is for me.

I will say it did make me reflect on my good bosses and just how much leeway they gave me as a technician.  The fact that I was allowed to do such a huge part of a paper that I became second author on it is a very special thing for a technician.  I am also grateful that my very first boss saw these things about me before I did and had the experience to know what best to do with me.  Putting me in charge of the colony and grooming me to become a handler has kept me employed 14 years.

I actually did enjoy quite a bit of it but unfortunately that job is a dying breed.  The main driver for me giving it up is I started to develop PTSD which is not uncommon.  I was begining to have a very difficult time shutting down when doing euthanasia so I was putting it off more and more.  That is a problem because it is sadly a major component of that job.  I knew it was time to go when I had a freak out in the vet's office and left DH to deal with putting Sabah down (Gwen stayed with him.  I'm not proud of this).

So I am interested to see what else may be out there for me.

[jerseygirl]

Drama please look into writing for pharma companies. There is a very large market for both clinical and preclinical . Look up AMWA (American medical writers association)
Need writers to prepare protocols for human snd animal studies and write reports using final data, also documents for submitting to FDA regulatory
You’d be able to get out of the lab tech role and you have a FANTASTIC background for this. Much better than the English, nutrition backgrounds of some I knew
Most writers now are remote and WFH
Make from $125 hr

[Deleted]

Jan 16, 2022 13:43:02 GMT -5 steph08 said:

Jan 8, 2022 22:18:12 GMT -5 Lizard Queen said:

I hate sweet potatoes. I don't mind broccoli, but one time I ate them when I was sick and they tasted awful. I figure it's probably similar to the cilantro thing, which I also hate.

Anyway, DH got his raise--3.28%, which puts him at $57k. It's really not bad for the area, it's just the responsibility of it, especially while he's supposed to have PTO which is bullshit. Someone at his level should be able to take a fucking week off of work without working.

Oh hellz no would I be working while on vacation if I was making 57k. I make more and my vacation days are vacation days. Unless I'm a director or an executive with a six-figure salary that is 150k or more, there is no way that I'm working on vacation.

I make more than $57k and when I drive off the parking lot at the end of my workday, my job is not on my radar at all until I’m preparing to go back. Whether I’m going back the next day or 2 weeks later. And those thoughts are limited to going to bed on time so I can get up early, and getting up in the morning, getting dressed, whether or not I have something to take for lunch, and driving to work. NOT about anything that’s going on at work. The whole building can literally burn down and I wouldn’t care as long as I’m not in it and everybody else gets out safely. On my own time, I don’t even like driving past my job on my way to somewhere else, and I will literally go out of my way to avoid driving past it.

Even the coworkers that I am friendly with, better not call me talking about the job unless it’s about something extraordinary that I need to be prepared for when I hit the clock again.

[Lizard Queen]

To be fair, we went on vacation at a not good time of the month for him to go. A lot of jobs would just deny the vacation. There is a window of only 2 weeks every month which is the best time for him to go.

[raeoflyte]

Working evenings, weekends, and through vacation is expected in my field. For everyone regardless of income which is crap. I understand why people making really big money dont feel like they can take time off, but its still not healthy for most people. 2020 was absolutely brutal, but it gave me the f it attitude that I don't work on vacations anymore.

I guess I did work 2 days of my vacation last week, but I didn't give up vacation time. I worked Monday and most of Tuesday and had them reverse the pto for those 2 days. The rest of the week I had 1 text and 1 phone call which I was fine with. I could be jeopardizing my job stability with my new attitude but I think my reputation and work quality will make up for it. At least I hope they do.

[imawino]

Jan 9, 2022 17:48:23 GMT -5 laterbloomer said:

I don't remember ever specifically being taught to cook, other than in Home Economics. But I was around a lot when my mother made meals so you kind of pick it up. And I'm pretty good at following recipes until they start talking about folding stuff in and other weird phrases like that.

You fold in the cheese, then!! You fold it in!!!





No one else got Schitt's Creek vibes from this? 

[Deleted]

Jan 18, 2022 15:13:18 GMT -5 imawino said:

]I don't remember ever specifically being taught to cook, other than in Home Economics. But I was around a lot when my mother made meals so you kind of pick it up. And I'm pretty good at following recipes until they start talking about folding stuff in and other weird phrases like that.

I never did take Home Ec but Mom did and she was still able to quote things she'd learned. Her own mother, my dear Grandmother, was a smart loving woman but had a limited cooking repertoire and could burn just about anything, including JiffyPop. I learned a lot from Mom and still have some of her cookbooks with her beautiful handwritten notes.

I've been watching episodes of Nailed It! on Netflix and they have people with great personalities but few or no baking skills try to reproduce beautifully decorated cakes, cookies, etc. made by professionals. I can't believe the number of people who can't follow a recipe, who try to put frosting on still-warm cake, who use a powerful mixer to put sprinkles into cake batter (it pretty much pulverized them and turned the batter pale green)... but then I suppose it's meant to make the rest of us feel pretty good about our baking skills.

And, on a totally different topic, the 25-lb. bag of bird seed I bought a month ago is almost empty. Pretty crazy how they're going through seed right now.

[chiver78]

Jan 15, 2022 11:23:27 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

Knee Deep in Water Chloe    I felt that way my entire working life.  I also was afraid I couldn't do the job if I got the job.  

I'm living this right now, having been plunked into a role I've never held and wasn't actually hired for. tagging Knee Deep in Water Chloe and NomoreDramaQ1015 as well. I spend most days thinking I'm the village idiot for one reason or another, while I'm cranking out the paperwork I do understand, and I've still got people giving me props for handling X issue that seemed minor to me, because apparently X was a huge deal to the overall picture.

I got a very much-needed ego boost last week when I was about to throw my laptop out the window and KWIT! when I reached out to the guy that shared my misery leading up to COVID with our shared task. I actually took a screen shot. but, the piece of his message that I want to share with the ladies I tagged (since I know TheO is retired, it no longer applies for her now...) "You're great at what you do, even if you have a hard time seeing it sometimes. You've also been thrown into wild situations that are totally unrelated to what you've done in the past, and you've adapted despite systemic and interpersonal crap in your way at every turn." I needed every word of this, that day. and I'm tearing up rereading the text to transcribe here. I hope you both can find the light in your own victories while you figure out your next steps. 

[TheOtherMe]

I wish back in the day there had someone to tell me what you wrote chiver, because I didn't hear it so I was always wondering how good I was.  They kept me, but was I good at the job.  They kept promoting me, so I must have been but nobody in authority said "you are good at what you do"

At the last tax office, I was making $10.25 an hour and was afraid I would be fired for any mistake.  They loved to make their seasonal employees wonder if they were coming back the next day.  We were the ones being told we had to work more overtime than their regular employees and we had to get the OT approved, if it wasn't scheduled.

The seasonal employees were treated like crap so it was hard to tell what was happening.  They hired me back the 2nd year, so it must have been okay and I got up to $10.65 an hour.  

By the next year the church had closed and I decided I had enough.