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Post by weltschmerz on Jun 15, 2020 13:14:12 GMT -5
I'm sick and tired.....my social life is non-existent. I have enough money, I'm retired and live alone so my life hasn't changed that much, but dammit! I'm lonely. I'm an extrovert, but haven't seen my friends or family. Now is the time for the Grand Prix, the International Jazz Festival, the International Fireworks Competition, free concerts in the park and at the Maisons de la Culture, art exhibits, etc., but EVERYTHING has been cancelled. Everything.
Montreal makes a great deal of money in the summer from tourism. It's going to be hurting this year, bigly.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jun 15, 2020 15:02:29 GMT -5
DNephew3 most likely had it early on, but was not tested due to shortage of tests. He said it was the sickest he has ever been, much worse than the flu. A friend of mine who was in a nursing home in NJ and had a lot of health problems, got it and died 3 days later. She had horrible asthma attacks as long as I knew her so when I heard she was on a ventilator I didn't think she would make it and she didn't. Nursing home in my birth town got it from an employee who came to work after she got tested but before she got her results. Many residents caught it and I have recognized some names as they are names my parents had mentioned over the years.
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Post by nidena on Jun 15, 2020 15:23:07 GMT -5
Three more weeks and I'll have a residence in which I can go for walks. That will definitely help my mental well-being. I'm sure the physical exertion of moving will, too. Jul 10th can't come soon enough.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Jun 15, 2020 15:38:44 GMT -5
FREAK OUT do da do da do.
I have 2 granddaughters that work in a nursing home and a daughter who is an EMT. They live 3 hours away. Their county was one of 17 that had zero cornonavirus. Slowly these rural counties started to have one.
DD said she was exposed with a transfer and was to be tested. The nursing home had tests done and said there were 20.
My DS had been to their town to help put up a fence. Unknown to him after the positives in the nursing home. He told everyone he might be exposed.
The next weekend, everyone was tested. Out of 344 tests, only one came back positive. A person who lived outside the county.
We didn't know. The next day was Father's Day. We went to my DS's for a meal where he said something. His grandson is just 2.5 mos. old. He distanced from us.
How relieved we were to find out the others tests were false positives. Our family members were clear.
Oooommmm peace has returned.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Jun 15, 2020 15:39:43 GMT -5
Three more weeks and I'll have a residence in which I can go for walks. That will definitely help my mental well-being. I'm sure the physical exertion of moving will, too. Jul 10th can't come soon enough. Getting outside in nature is the best medicine. That and a safe dose of sunshine and my mood lifts.
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Post by movingforward on Jun 15, 2020 16:12:34 GMT -5
Whoa!! I am sitting outside in my driveway reading (it gets shade this time of day). I was lost in my book, paying attention to nothing else and I hear someone say "excuse me." I look up and a lady at least in her 70's is standing right next to my chair. Of course, I have on no face mask as I am on my own property, minding my own business. She has on no face mask either.
Apparently, she and her husband just moved in a few townhouses down and she was out for a walk and in the middle of a world wide pandemic decided to come right up next to me and ask me about shopping, gyms and restaurants in the area. Seriously...WTF? Honestly,I'm not worried about myself...i am worried about her! I hope I am not asymptomatic. She starts telling me how she and her husband need to find a new gym. She looked very frail.
I am at the point where I have stopped worrying about getting this thing myself. I mainly worry about passing it on to someone else, but it appears that some of those that should be concerned aren't at all...this is the thing that is almost making me want to give up...
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Jun 15, 2020 16:28:40 GMT -5
Whoa!! I am sitting outside in my driveway reading (it gets shade this time of day). I was lost in my book, paying attention to nothing else and I hear someone say "excuse me." I look up and a lady at least in her 70's is standing right next to my chair. Of course, I have on no face mask as I am on my own property, minding my own business. She has on no face mask either. Apparently, she and her husband just moved in a few townhouses down and she was out for a walk and in the middle of a world wide pandemic decided to come right up next to me and ask me about shopping, gyms and restaurants in the area. Seriously...WTF? Honestly,I'm not worried about myself...i am worried about her! I hope I am not asymptomatic. She starts telling me how she and her husband need to find a new gym. She looked very frail. I am at the point where I have stopped worrying about getting this thing myself. I mainly worry about passing it on to someone else, but it appears that some of those that should be concerned aren't at all...this is the thing that is almost making me want to give up... Even without a world wide pandemic I wouldn’t want someone to sneak up on me. 😂. How about a cough, or a shuffle, before you get close??
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Post by Tennesseer on Jun 15, 2020 16:54:03 GMT -5
Whoa!! I am sitting outside in my driveway reading (it gets shade this time of day). I was lost in my book, paying attention to nothing else and I hear someone say "excuse me." I look up and a lady at least in her 70's is standing right next to my chair. Of course, I have on no face mask as I am on my own property, minding my own business. She has on no face mask either. Apparently, she and her husband just moved in a few townhouses down and she was out for a walk and in the middle of a world wide pandemic decided to come right up next to me and ask me about shopping, gyms and restaurants in the area. Seriously...WTF? Honestly,I'm not worried about myself...i am worried about her! I hope I am not asymptomatic. She starts telling me how she and her husband need to find a new gym. She looked very frail. I am at the point where I have stopped worrying about getting this thing myself. I mainly worry about passing it on to someone else, but it appears that some of those that should be concerned aren't at all...this is the thing that is almost making me want to give up... Even without a world wide pandemic I wouldn’t want someone to sneak up on me. 😂. How about a cough, or a shuffle, before you get close?? Or a 'Hello!" from 20 feet away.
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Post by sesfw on Jun 15, 2020 21:11:50 GMT -5
I'm tired of this also. I took 3 weeks off work because DH was getting anxious, then he was concerned because I wasn't at work. His memory is going and I think he is in the beginning stages of dementia. If anything upsets his routine his reaction is out of proportion. This being in self quarantine is wearing on both of us. I'm trying to keep him interested in things but not being able to see family and friends is tough. Our local live theater is doing an outside 'cabaret' type of show and we saw it a couple of nights ago. Super fun and something to do. They set up an outside stage and about a dozen performers did songs from musicals. The audience was a max of 30 cars parked in the parking lot and the sound came over our radios. We've been out to eat just a couple of times. A week ago went to breakfast at a local restaurant that had an outside patio that we sat in. Yesterday went to a hamburger joint and also sat outside. About half the people we saw didn't wear masks and just did their thing like nothing special was happening. Although I have to say not many people were out and about. We go to grocery and that's about it. There is a huge brush fire going about 10 miles from us as the crow flies. After dark we are going out on the front porch and should be able to see the fire on the ridges. It's a sad thing to see this as entertainment.
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Post by Gardening Grandma on Jun 15, 2020 23:21:11 GMT -5
I'm tired of this also. I took 3 weeks off work because DH was getting anxious, then he was concerned because I wasn't at work. His memory is going and I think he is in the beginning stages of dementia. If anything upsets his routine his reaction is out of proportion. This being in self quarantine is wearing on both of us. I'm trying to keep him interested in things but not being able to see family and friends is tough. Our local live theater is doing an outside 'cabaret' type of show and we saw it a couple of nights ago. Super fun and something to do. They set up an outside stage and about a dozen performers did songs from musicals. The audience was a max of 30 cars parked in the parking lot and the sound came over our radios. We've been out to eat just a couple of times. A week ago went to breakfast at a local restaurant that had an outside patio that we sat in. Yesterday went to a hamburger joint and also sat outside. About half the people we saw didn't wear masks and just did their thing like nothing special was happening. Although I have to say not many people were out and about. We go to grocery and that's about it. There is a huge brush fire going about 10 miles from us as the crow flies. After dark we are going out on the front porch and should be able to see the fire on the ridges. It's a sad thing to see this as entertainment. I’m sorry about your DH
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Post by weltschmerz on Jun 15, 2020 23:43:52 GMT -5
FREAK OUT do da do da do. I have 2 granddaughters that work in a nursing home and a daughter who is an EMT. They live 3 hours away. Their county was one of 17 that had zero cornonavirus. Slowly these rural counties started to have one. DD said she was exposed with a transfer and was to be tested. The nursing home had tests done and said there were 20. My DS had been to their town to help put up a fence. Unknown to him after the positives in the nursing home. He told everyone he might be exposed. The next weekend, everyone was tested. Out of 344 tests, only one came back positive. A person who lived outside the county. We didn't know. The next day was Father's Day. We went to my DS's for a meal where he said something. His grandson is just 2.5 mos. old. He distanced from us. How relieved we were to find out the others tests were false positives. Our family members were clear. Oooommmm peace has returned. ?? Father's Day? We celebrate Father's Day on on June 21st. Is it earlier in the USA?
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Post by nidena on Jun 16, 2020 0:45:38 GMT -5
FREAK OUT do da do da do. I have 2 granddaughters that work in a nursing home and a daughter who is an EMT. They live 3 hours away. Their county was one of 17 that had zero cornonavirus. Slowly these rural counties started to have one. DD said she was exposed with a transfer and was to be tested. The nursing home had tests done and said there were 20. My DS had been to their town to help put up a fence. Unknown to him after the positives in the nursing home. He told everyone he might be exposed. The next weekend, everyone was tested. Out of 344 tests, only one came back positive. A person who lived outside the county. We didn't know. The next day was Father's Day. We went to my DS's for a meal where he said something. His grandson is just 2.5 mos. old. He distanced from us. How relieved we were to find out the others tests were false positives. Our family members were clear. Oooommmm peace has returned. ?? Father's Day? We celebrate Father's Day on on June 21st. Is it earlier in the USA? Father's Day is this coming Sunday.
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Post by lurkyloo on Jun 16, 2020 9:07:37 GMT -5
I don’t remember what it’s like to not be tired. DS gets anxious and then any little thing sets him off. DH is still working full hours which doesn’t leave me much time for teleworking unless I can squeeze it in while watching DS. As big a pain as homeschooling was, it took up some of the time and actually doing math is visibly beneficial presumably bc it engages DS’ logical side. I do have some workbooks for him this summer, plus a full complement of Legos and science kits and hiking...but I think the pool and the nintendo are going to be leaned on heavily.
The hypervigilance is also really wearing.
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Post by azucena on Jun 16, 2020 9:13:44 GMT -5
DD11 was invited to a sleepover for her bball team which was mostly girls in the grade below her. I declined. FB pics show all 11 other girls on the team went. Apparently COVID is over for all of these families. The super pessimistic side of me can't help but think it's particularly over for upper middle class white people.
I'm tired.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Jun 16, 2020 9:22:58 GMT -5
I made the mistake of reading comments on a Facebook post on a local community page. The number of people who think it's fake or no big deal and the scaredy cats can stay home was astounding. I'm just done with them. It would be wrong to wish they or a family member got it but then maybe they might understand. They can have their freedom, I will continue as I have been.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2020 10:19:30 GMT -5
I'm tired of this also. I took 3 weeks off work because DH was getting anxious, then he was concerned because I wasn't at work. His memory is going and I think he is in the beginning stages of dementia. If anything upsets his routine his reaction is out of proportion. This being in self quarantine is wearing on both of us. I'm trying to keep him interested in things but not being able to see family and friends is tough. Our local live theater is doing an outside 'cabaret' type of show and we saw it a couple of nights ago. Super fun and something to do. They set up an outside stage and about a dozen performers did songs from musicals. The audience was a max of 30 cars parked in the parking lot and the sound came over our radios. We've been out to eat just a couple of times. A week ago went to breakfast at a local restaurant that had an outside patio that we sat in. Yesterday went to a hamburger joint and also sat outside. About half the people we saw didn't wear masks and just did their thing like nothing special was happening. Although I have to say not many people were out and about. We go to grocery and that's about it. There is a huge brush fire going about 10 miles from us as the crow flies. After dark we are going out on the front porch and should be able to see the fire on the ridges. It's a sad thing to see this as entertainment. I am sorry about your DH.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jun 16, 2020 11:07:11 GMT -5
I made the mistake of reading comments on a Facebook post on a local community page. The number of people who think it's fake or no big deal and the scaredy cats can stay home was astounding. I'm just done with them. It would be wrong to wish they or a family member got it but then maybe they might understand. They can have their freedom, I will continue as I have been. This is also my attitude. Living alone at my age, I am not taking any unnecessary risks.
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Post by swamp on Jun 16, 2020 11:08:27 GMT -5
I am tired.
Kids, work, mom with dementia, "new job interview" DH not working (which I don't really care about, but he does), COVID, stupid racists, people who still think Trump is a gift from God,
Just everything.
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Post by oped on Jun 16, 2020 11:16:50 GMT -5
DD11 was invited to a sleepover for her bball team which was mostly girls in the grade below her. I declined. FB pics show all 11 other girls on the team went. Apparently COVID is over for all of these families. The super pessimistic side of me can't help but think it's particularly over for upper middle class white people. I'm tired. My daughter is getting ready to head to the cabin with a group of kids for the weekend. Everyone has been sharing their distancing protocols. They agreed ahead if someone was concerned about others behavior they could ask them to not come no hard feelings. I think 2 are planning to keep distancing at the cabin... tent, sit distanced, not ride a Polaris etc the rest are treating this as their one time weekend extended family and not doing most distancing things. There is plenty of space there to spread out... I don’t know. I guess we’ll see how it goes. I think everyone plans, at least daughter does, to actively isolate again then for 2 weeks.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Jun 16, 2020 12:15:53 GMT -5
DD11 was invited to a sleepover for her bball team which was mostly girls in the grade below her. I declined. FB pics show all 11 other girls on the team went. Apparently COVID is over for all of these families. The super pessimistic side of me can't help but think it's particularly over for upper middle class white people. I'm tired. My daughter is getting ready to head to the cabin with a group of kids for the weekend. Everyone has been sharing their distancing protocols. They agreed ahead if someone was concerned about others behavior they could ask them to not come no hard feelings. I think 2 are planning to keep distancing at the cabin... tent, sit distanced, not ride a Polaris etc the rest are treating this as their one time weekend extended family and not doing most distancing things. There is plenty of space there to spread out... I don’t know. I guess we’ll see how it goes. I think everyone plans, at least daughter does, to actively isolate again then for 2 weeks. It's so very hard to know what to do. On the one hand, we want our kids to avoid infection from the virus for themselves and for others in the family. And we also don't want them to unwittingly infect others. But some of us need far more human interaction than can be found within the 4 walls of our homes. At times I think that we've made it through such difficult times that maybe we need a little reward such as hanging out with friends, but what about the potential consequences? I'm trying to pace myself for the long haul, but I won't deny that this isolation (even if not totally alone) sucks already. ODs has been sheltering in place since the middle of March with his DGF and her family. On Sunday night, for the very first time since the pandemic began, he started talking about coming home, if even for a brief visit. I know for certain that he has been strictly distancing and wearing a mask due to DGF's health issues. And I know that DH and I have been very careful (me, more so, because I am WFH), but it's hard to know what is the right thing to do. He seemed wistful, even sad, when talking about how he missed us and home. But I wouldn't want to infect him or them, and vice versa. And we're an affectionate family -- that kid needs a hug. Oy.
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Post by Tennesseer on Jun 16, 2020 12:21:13 GMT -5
I am tired. Kids, work, mom with dementia, "new job interview" DH not working (which I don't really care about, but he does), COVID, stupid racists, people who still think Trump is a gift from God, Just everything. How is your mom doing as of late, Swamp? My mom had Alzheimer's disease so I understand what you are going though.
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Post by pulmonarymd on Jun 16, 2020 12:32:53 GMT -5
My daughter is getting ready to head to the cabin with a group of kids for the weekend. Everyone has been sharing their distancing protocols. They agreed ahead if someone was concerned about others behavior they could ask them to not come no hard feelings. I think 2 are planning to keep distancing at the cabin... tent, sit distanced, not ride a Polaris etc the rest are treating this as their one time weekend extended family and not doing most distancing things. There is plenty of space there to spread out... I don’t know. I guess we’ll see how it goes. I think everyone plans, at least daughter does, to actively isolate again then for 2 weeks. It's so very hard to know what to do. On the one hand, we want our kids to avoid infection from the virus for themselves and for others in the family. And we also don't want them to unwittingly infect others. But some of us need far more human interaction than can be found within the 4 walls of our homes. At times I think that we've made it through such difficult times that maybe we need a little reward such as hanging out with friends, but what about the potential consequences? I'm trying to pace myself for the long haul, but I won't deny that this isolation (even if not totally alone) sucks already. ODs has been sheltering in place since the middle of March with his DGF and her family. On Sunday night, for the very first time since the pandemic began, he started talking about coming home, if even for a brief visit. I know for certain that he has been strictly distancing and wearing a mask due to DGF's health issues. And I know that DH and I have been very careful (me, more so, because I am WFH), but it's hard to know what is the right thing to do. He seemed wistful, even sad, when talking about how he missed us and home. But I wouldn't want to infect him or them, and vice versa. And we're an affectionate family -- that kid needs a hug. Oy. Even thinking about whether you should do something is helpful, because it will make you not do certain things. No one can be 100% perfect all the time, but if all of us could be 90%, that would go a long way to keeping infections down. But we seem unwilling to do anything anymore, and that is why this continues to be a major problem. Increasing your social group a little at a time is the way to go. Seeing your son will make you happy, so I think it is a far better thing to take a risk on than say going to a bar.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jun 16, 2020 12:40:55 GMT -5
I made the mistake of reading comments on a Facebook post on a local community page. The number of people who think it's fake or no big deal and the scaredy cats can stay home was astounding. I'm just done with them. It would be wrong to wish they or a family member got it but then maybe they might understand. They can have their freedom, I will continue as I have been. Yep. The local Britslist thinks it all is a sham, to keep down the little guy. The local Nextdoor is bent out of shape when they see a cyclist without a mask and is going to become the next COVID Mary. There is absolutely no in between.
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Post by jelloshots4all on Jun 16, 2020 12:45:20 GMT -5
DD11 was invited to a sleepover for her bball team which was mostly girls in the grade below her. I declined. FB pics show all 11 other girls on the team went. Apparently COVID is over for all of these families. The super pessimistic side of me can't help but think it's particularly over for upper middle class white people. I'm tired. My daughter is getting ready to head to the cabin with a group of kids for the weekend. Everyone has been sharing their distancing protocols. They agreed ahead if someone was concerned about others behavior they could ask them to not come no hard feelings. I think 2 are planning to keep distancing at the cabin... tent, sit distanced, not ride a Polaris etc the rest are treating this as their one time weekend extended family and not doing most distancing things. There is plenty of space there to spread out... I don’t know. I guess we’ll see how it goes. I think everyone plans, at least daughter does, to actively isolate again then for 2 weeks. I don't know that I would be comfortable with a sleepover either, but can get onboard with camping as most of the time is likely spent outdoors. I let my son go play basketball with a few friends a couple times a week. He needs the socialization, exercise and to get off his gaming chair. It is very difficult to decide, and everyone should decide for themselves with NO judgement made as we all know our risk tolerance and personal family health situation. my neighbor owns a kids indoor playground area. They reopened about 10 days ago with limited hours and health guidelines. I would not take my child there.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Jun 16, 2020 12:46:28 GMT -5
It's so very hard to know what to do. On the one hand, we want our kids to avoid infection from the virus for themselves and for others in the family. And we also don't want them to unwittingly infect others. But some of us need far more human interaction than can be found within the 4 walls of our homes. At times I think that we've made it through such difficult times that maybe we need a little reward such as hanging out with friends, but what about the potential consequences? I'm trying to pace myself for the long haul, but I won't deny that this isolation (even if not totally alone) sucks already. ODs has been sheltering in place since the middle of March with his DGF and her family. On Sunday night, for the very first time since the pandemic began, he started talking about coming home, if even for a brief visit. I know for certain that he has been strictly distancing and wearing a mask due to DGF's health issues. And I know that DH and I have been very careful (me, more so, because I am WFH), but it's hard to know what is the right thing to do. He seemed wistful, even sad, when talking about how he missed us and home. But I wouldn't want to infect him or them, and vice versa. And we're an affectionate family -- that kid needs a hug. Oy. Even thinking about whether you should do something is helpful, because it will make you not do certain things. No one can be 100% perfect all the time, but if all of us could be 90%, that would go a long way to keeping infections down. But we seem unwilling to do anything anymore, and that is why this continues to be a major problem. Increasing your social group a little at a time is the way to go. Seeing your son will make you happy, so I think it is a far better thing to take a risk on than say going to a bar.True, but if we all went to a bar together that would be safe, right? And a pool bar in Fort Lauderdale would be the safest, right? (J/K -- you gotta find ways to laugh at the utterly reckless things other people are doing or you just crawl into the fetal position and suck your thumb) I'm assuming that after the visit we should all self-quarantine for 2 weeks when he returns to Pennsylvania?
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jun 16, 2020 12:47:38 GMT -5
It's so very hard to know what to do. On the one hand, we want our kids to avoid infection from the virus for themselves and for others in the family. And we also don't want them to unwittingly infect others. But some of us need far more human interaction than can be found within the 4 walls of our homes. At times I think that we've made it through such difficult times that maybe we need a little reward such as hanging out with friends, but what about the potential consequences? I'm trying to pace myself for the long haul, but I won't deny that this isolation (even if not totally alone) sucks already. ODs has been sheltering in place since the middle of March with his DGF and her family. On Sunday night, for the very first time since the pandemic began, he started talking about coming home, if even for a brief visit. I know for certain that he has been strictly distancing and wearing a mask due to DGF's health issues. And I know that DH and I have been very careful (me, more so, because I am WFH), but it's hard to know what is the right thing to do. He seemed wistful, even sad, when talking about how he missed us and home. But I wouldn't want to infect him or them, and vice versa. And we're an affectionate family -- that kid needs a hug. Oy. Even thinking about whether you should do something is helpful, because it will make you not do certain things. No one can be 100% perfect all the time, but if all of us could be 90%, that would go a long way to keeping infections down. But we seem unwilling to do anything anymore, and that is why this continues to be a major problem. Increasing your social group a little at a time is the way to go. Seeing your son will make you happy, so I think it is a far better thing to take a risk on than say going to a bar. We have a group of friends we normally get together on Thursday evening. This will be the first SLAP (Society of Liquid Absorption Professionals....a group of engineers and scientists) since March 12. Usually anywhere from 6-18 show up. I have no idea if we are going yet. The one advantage is that everyone is either retired or WFH. Gotta start somewhere....
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Post by pulmonarymd on Jun 16, 2020 12:51:21 GMT -5
Even thinking about whether you should do something is helpful, because it will make you not do certain things. No one can be 100% perfect all the time, but if all of us could be 90%, that would go a long way to keeping infections down. But we seem unwilling to do anything anymore, and that is why this continues to be a major problem. Increasing your social group a little at a time is the way to go. Seeing your son will make you happy, so I think it is a far better thing to take a risk on than say going to a bar.True, but if we all went to a bar together that would be safe, right? And a pool bar in Fort Lauderdale would be the safest, right? (J/K -- you gotta find ways to laugh at the utterly reckless things other people are doing or you just crawl into the fetal position and suck your thumb) I'm assuming that after the visit we should all self-quarantine for 2 weeks when he returns to Pennsylvania? To be 100% safe, yes. But if you are good at watching for symptoms, wearing masks, and being careful about your activity, I do not think you should be that strict. And if you do feel sick, get tickets to an indoor trump rally. Shouldn’t be any risk to doing that/s
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Post by oped on Jun 16, 2020 13:14:58 GMT -5
Daughter pretty much gets the family allotments of ‘risk’ that and occasional work situations for husband. She needs people. The rest of us are much more content left to our own devises.
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Post by azucena on Jun 16, 2020 13:28:25 GMT -5
Based on the pics there was no social distancing, it was a typical girls sleepover with a dozen girls.
Then, just this afternoon, I got a text from one of the moms who wants to schedule an outdoor playdate and when I said we're still being super cautious she immed responded we are too. Her definition of cautious is very different, and I wouldn't be any wiser if I hadn't seen the pic.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 16, 2020 13:37:52 GMT -5
I keep coming back to the Season 2 finale of The Walking Dead when the CDC director tells Rick everyone already has the zombie virus there is no hope. I'm not going to say f*ck it and give up at this point but I understand the burn out, especially when I keep reading about how I might have it, not even know it and oops you killed grandma.
I can't just quit my job so I can stay locked up in the house. Same with DH though at least his job can be done from home for the time being. We have to have daycare.
It starts to get really depressing and frustrating when you see people doing fun stuff without a care in the world and you're having panic attacks trying to justify things you don't have much choice over like daycare.
Then those same people mock you or dismiss you because you wear a mask to go to the grocery store and don't want your kids participating.
On top of that the "mommy wars" don't stop. How dare you not have pre-planned your life to the point where you could predict a global pandemic in your 37th year of life! You should have had your finances set up so you could quit working AND be educated to the point where you can guide your kids through K-12 solo. You should be set up to never step foot out of your house for the next 5 years! What kind of lousy excuse for a human being are you?
I am so done with the world.
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