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Post by CCL on Jun 3, 2020 21:35:54 GMT -5
moneysquirrel Isn't that a great feeling to have your car paid off? Congratulations!
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Post by nidena on Jun 3, 2020 22:35:34 GMT -5
I found a house to buy!! It's not even on the market yet. My agent and I are gonna discuss the details tomorrow. OOOh OOh what area of Indy?!?!? Just outside the loop, in Lawrence.
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Post by nikiz628 on Jun 3, 2020 22:56:24 GMT -5
OOOh OOh what area of Indy?!?!? Just outside the loop, in Lawrence. Very exciting!!! I hope it works out for you!
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Post by snapdragon on Jun 4, 2020 10:25:10 GMT -5
Painting is now complete! I am so ready to stuff everything in a closet and forget about paint for a while.
Tonight is the following:
Pick up and put all paint supplies away. vacuum the carpet clean off kitchen counters and put things away wash dishes and put clean dishes away clean kitchen floor put down new kitchen mat/rug shuffle some furniture so I have seating in the LR
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Jun 4, 2020 10:29:55 GMT -5
Soooo.... This whole time I've been thinking I've been doing a great job about what I call space clearing. Ridding of items so the people I leave behind don't have that burden. Sure my stuff is being streamlined, but what about DH's, if he passes first?? I'll elaborate:
A friend of mine lost her husband XX years ago and has lived on their home with acreage since. Well, she's at the point where she's moving in with her son and is having to go through the property, including the former home office (would I like some filing cabinets?), barn(s), and other outbuildings. She has been visiting consignment shops and the and sounds very frazzled. DH has a man cave, his fort (aka garage), a few sheds, etc. full of stuff. He eventually wants to build a shop, so figure potentially more stuff will accumulate. He's 7.5 years younger, but still.....
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jun 4, 2020 11:12:38 GMT -5
While I am not married, I can only imagine how difficult that would be. My cousins are now going through their parents' house. My uncle had not done that when my aunt died, so they have a many years of stuff to go through.
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Post by mollyanna58 on Jun 4, 2020 14:58:41 GMT -5
Soooo.... This whole time I've been thinking I've been doing a great job about what I call space clearing. Ridding of items so the people I leave behind don't have that burden. Sure my stuff is being streamlined, but what about DH's, if he passes first?? I'll elaborate:
A friend of mine lost her husband XX years ago and has lived on their home with acreage since. Well, she's at the point where she's moving in with her son and is having to go through the property, including the former home office (would I like some filing cabinets?), barn(s), and other outbuildings. She has been visiting consignment shops and the and sounds very frazzled. DH has a man cave, his fort (aka garage), a few sheds, etc. full of stuff. He eventually wants to build a shop, so figure potentially more stuff will accumulate. He's 7.5 years younger, but still.....
When he sees how much room you have cleared out, does he say something like, "Great job! I should do that, too!" or "Great job! Now I can put my stuff in that space!"?
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Jun 4, 2020 15:14:08 GMT -5
Soooo.... This whole time I've been thinking I've been doing a great job about what I call space clearing. Ridding of items so the people I leave behind don't have that burden. Sure my stuff is being streamlined, but what about DH's, if he passes first?? I'll elaborate:
A friend of mine lost her husband XX years ago and has lived on their home with acreage since. Well, she's at the point where she's moving in with her son and is having to go through the property, including the former home office (would I like some filing cabinets?), barn(s), and other outbuildings. She has been visiting consignment shops and the and sounds very frazzled. DH has a man cave, his fort (aka garage), a few sheds, etc. full of stuff. He eventually wants to build a shop, so figure potentially more stuff will accumulate. He's 7.5 years younger, but still.....
When he sees how much room you have cleared out, does he say something like, "Great job! I should do that, too!" or "Great job! Now I can put my stuff in that space!"? LOL. Definitely not the latter. He knows better than to enter my fort (aka home office/gym).
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Post by debthaven on Jun 4, 2020 15:23:19 GMT -5
Iggy, you've been on here long enough to know I have similar issues with DH. I'm 4 years younger than DH but he's much fitter. Sometimes DS3 frets about it. Although DHD raised all 4 kids, DS3 is DH's only bio child.
I've always told DS3 that I know his siblings will help (they truly love DH) but that DS3 needs to do whatever is easiest for himself when the time comes. Like I tell DH, when everything is important, nothing is important.
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Post by debthaven on Jun 4, 2020 15:43:01 GMT -5
TGIT! I'm done with work till Wed but now on intensive E duty, which is much more tiring than teaching. DS2 and DD (who don't live here) were here all day. DD helped enormously with E but as happy as I was to see DS2, he was one more working adult sharing our limited bandwidth and speaking too loudly lol.
At one point DS1 forgot to use the further bathroom during my class and all my students giggled at seeing him disappear and reappear behind me.
Poor DS3 gave up and went to his Gdmother's apartment in Paris for 3 days to finish his last paper in peace.
I'm working 8h next week over Wed/Thurs/Fri. I know 8h is nothing but it's stressful with everybody at home and trying to be downstairs because the WIFI is better downstairs. It's been OK till now because the weather has been great and 2 people have been in the garden. But the weather has turned for about a week, and with the cold/rain, literally everyone is inside downstairs and fighting for space/bandwidth. It's VERY stressful.
DS1 pointed out that our internet box (we have fiber) is 3YO, and that's why it doesn't work that well. He's right, but standing on line at the phone store at the mall is NOT a priority. I can't send him, they only deal with the people on the account. Maybe one day.
This weekend
- work out summer term marks so far/Thurs - call accountant AGAIN/Fri - call internet company - DH (to see if they'll send a more recent box)
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Post by startsmart on Jun 4, 2020 16:23:05 GMT -5
I should be leaving in the morning for my trip so I may not check in too often here. Normally I’d be posting pictures from the road but there so much going on in America, my road trip pics are low priority. The car is mostly packed and I’m sorting out what to bring for my quilt. I don’t imagine I’ll have much time to work on it but if I leave it at home I know I’ll have several bored hours wishing I had it.
Food is ready to go into the ice chest and this afternoon my dad and I will replace my windshield wipers, air filters and hub caps on my car.
While I’m gone my parents are moving furniture in the 3 bedrooms here as they will go pickup a new king sized bed. In addition to packing my car I’m taking everything left behind and trying to ensure it’s out of their way.
Fingers crossed in the next two weeks I’ll have a house in escrow!
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Post by debthaven on Jun 4, 2020 16:28:53 GMT -5
Best of luck and safe travels Start!
As if your parents don't have enough furniture LOL.
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Jun 4, 2020 16:52:29 GMT -5
Iggy, you've been on here long enough to know I have similar issues with DH. I'm 4 years younger than DH but he's much fitter. Sometimes DS3 frets about it. Although DHD raised all 4 kids, DS3 is DH's only bio child. I've always told DS3 that I know his siblings will help (they truly love DH) but that DS3 needs to do whatever is easiest for himself when the time comes. Like I tell DH, when everything is important, nothing is important. Yeah, my DH calls himself a sentimental bastard, which is why he cannot let go of things.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jun 4, 2020 16:52:44 GMT -5
Safe travels startsmart Hope you find your new home!
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jun 4, 2020 16:54:10 GMT -5
Iggy, you've been on here long enough to know I have similar issues with DH. I'm 4 years younger than DH but he's much fitter. Sometimes DS3 frets about it. Although DHD raised all 4 kids, DS3 is DH's only bio child. I've always told DS3 that I know his siblings will help (they truly love DH) but that DS3 needs to do whatever is easiest for himself when the time comes. Like I tell DH, when everything is important, nothing is important. Yeah, my DH calls himself a sentimental bastard, which is why he cannot let go of things. I resemble that remark! For some things, I could not get rid of them until the 3rd sweep of stuff. Some I still could not part with.
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Post by startsmart on Jun 4, 2020 17:03:49 GMT -5
Best of luck and safe travels Start! As if your parents don't have enough furniture LOL. Right?! They are getting rid of a queen sized bed and mattress and replacing it with a king sized one for guests so I can’t complain (too much). They will also be deciding what to do with a double bed and twin frame.
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Post by nikiz628 on Jun 4, 2020 18:26:23 GMT -5
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Post by Malarky on Jun 4, 2020 20:43:05 GMT -5
Soooo.... This whole time I've been thinking I've been doing a great job about what I call space clearing. Ridding of items so the people I leave behind don't have that burden. Sure my stuff is being streamlined, but what about DH's, if he passes first?? I'll elaborate:
A friend of mine lost her husband XX years ago and has lived on their home with acreage since. Well, she's at the point where she's moving in with her son and is having to go through the property, including the former home office (would I like some filing cabinets?), barn(s), and other outbuildings. She has been visiting consignment shops and the and sounds very frazzled. DH has a man cave, his fort (aka garage), a few sheds, etc. full of stuff. He eventually wants to build a shop, so figure potentially more stuff will accumulate. He's 7.5 years younger, but still.....
I've collected an array of vintage or antique furniture over the years. Been doing it since I left home at 18. I had a whole marriage/life before DH. Some of that I kept. Most of it I discarded. Fast forward to life with DH. His family knows that I like old shit. They have bestowed upon us an enormous amount of absolute crap! And some absolutely fabulous pieces. And I will pass the good stuff on to my kids. They already called dibs. The problem is that DH thinks we should keep it all. Sorry, your Dad's poker chips from 1950 mean nothing to me. And if you ask me where they are...I can honestly say I don't know. Where does stuff go when it gets picked up by the garbageman? Scary, broken dolls with only one eye? Still in the closet, but only because I missed trash day and I archived them for later. And got busy so I never got around to heaving them. But they're on my list... And so many more "family things..." that are just stored and awaiting the day I or the kids discard them. Which is not to say that they won't look at some of the things I've kept and discard immediately. I've really taken to heart what I've learned from these threads. You can't keep it all. And if you do, it just complicates your life. I'm at a good place for letting stuff go. I donated 1/3 of my kitchen stuff to the kids for their move. Is it enough? Probably not, I could still run a professional kitchen, and I don't need to. Every time the girls have culled their clothing, I've added a bit more from my stash. The reality is that some of it I will never wear again and some of it will never fit again. Still haven't let go of my cotton rugby shirts from 1978 in pristine conditions and you can't buy anything of that quality ever again... I'm trying really hard to look at "my stuff" in the same light as I look at "DH's stuff." Do we really need it? Is it in any way valuable? Does it add anything to "our life? In the end, I want to live in a comfortable home with the things we need and want, without a lot of extraneous stuff and yet still have the meaningful things around us.
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Post by busymom on Jun 4, 2020 23:25:00 GMT -5
Hi Kids! Just checking in real quick. No real progress in decluttering, as I'm trying to get everything set up here, after picking up DH last week, and bringing the last of our stuff back here with him. Our house went on the market yesterday, so please cross your fingers that we'll be getting a reasonable offer soon. Many places here are still shut down, or have limited access, due to Coronavirus. I did manage to get my new driver's license today, but it took over 4 1/2 hours, with a long wait just to get into the building, then, once inside it took a long time to get everything done. Besides the license, I'm now registered to vote once again. Still, plenty to do until I can feel like we're "settled in" once again. We did get rid of a lot of stuff, with moving and all, but there is still more I'd like to thin out. Still waiting for the local charities to open up, and begin doing pick-ups once again.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jun 5, 2020 6:31:43 GMT -5
Malarky In the end, I want to live in a comfortable home with the things we need and want, without a lot of extraneous stuff and yet still have the meaningful things around us.This is my goal. Now I have accumulated mom's stuff and dad's stuff and we still haven't gone through the stuff from the apartment. I know there is one more photo album there and a few old photos that were on the wall that I want. Aside from that, I don't think there is much that I'm interested in. Furniture wise, I acquired a recliner, an end table that matches one I already had (mom and I bought when I was visiting here) and a secretary desk. That was all I wanted. I have no interest in my mom's "valuable" bell collection. I did take a bowl that belonged to her mother.
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Jun 5, 2020 9:55:13 GMT -5
Last night I talked to DH about my observation. How I've rid of so much, and I'm (basically) down to clothes, shoes, kitchen stuff, books, and record albums. (Added: and jewelry, so much jewelry. I'm going to have a jewelry party with the nieces to see if they want anything.) Sure, there are a few keepsake items and boxes of milestone things such as birthday's, our wedding, and things from the nieces. He says nothing. I prompt him for his thoughts. He said once he builds a shop, his things will be centralized inside. And then what? He said if he passes I am to hold an estate sale. Those are common around here. Speaking of, the 40 or so music cassettes were dropped off at the neighbor's this AM. I haven't yet seen the friend who wants the sunglasses. I've been purging paper here at the office, and the stacks off my desk.
This weekend I am going to learn how to cut wood for our upcoming bonfire solstice party. A few weeks ago I snaked a toilet for the first time. Successfully, I might add. ![](https://i239.photobucket.com/albums/ff155/JiminiChristmas/ymamsmiles/wink.png) I've been definitely burning more calories since DH has been out on medical leave. With this and other lifestyle changes, I'm down 13 pounds. ![](https://i239.photobucket.com/albums/ff155/JiminiChristmas/ymamsmiles/thumbsup.png) I think this is why I've had more energy to accomplish things. Have a fantastic weekend, everyone!
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Post by snapdragon on Jun 5, 2020 10:37:37 GMT -5
Last night I managed the following:
Pick up and put all paint supplies away.
vacuum the carpet
clean off kitchen counters and put things away
wash dishes and put clean dishes away
clean kitchen floor
put down new kitchen mat/rug
shuffle some furniture so I have seating in the LR
It was so amazing to actually sit down on my couch for the first time in months! I felt so fancy and grown up! I still have things to do and furniture to shuffle around but it's a start. I also got 2 pictures on the wall and hope to have another mirror put up tonight.
This weekend the plan is ---
Drop car off for service Get mounted TV from Dad's into and on my LR wall -- planned for tomorrow late afternoon. Hopefully get 1 part of the tool box over to my place also. Donate the extra things I have found around the house Give K's family the photos and memorabilia that I found so it is done
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Post by Sharon on Jun 5, 2020 11:09:18 GMT -5
Last night I decluttered 3 ace bandages and an ankle brace. DD called and she is having so much trouble sleeping in the boot that she asked me to bring down some of ace bandages etc. She danced for years growing up so we accumulated a few of those from assorted dancing injuries. I also took her down one of my gel refreezeable ice bags, but that is just on loan. It was a quick trip down and back and I only stayed maybe 10 minutes. DGD didn't want me to leave, she was holding onto my pants and trying to push me back into the house. She made this Grandma fill loved. I will probably see them again this weekend.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jun 5, 2020 13:24:07 GMT -5
The estate attorney gave the okay for my sister to distribute the major portion of dad's money. It's in a savings account at the credit union. Half will be in my sister's account and half in mine by day's end. I did ask my sister to have the person she talks to at the bank call me as I do not want the money in regular savings.
This is by far the largest of his accounts.
The Estate account can not be distributed until the Court gives the okay. He said that will be another 3 or 4 months. I'm glad that we were POD on dad's own accounts.
The checking account can't be distributed because we will owe the attorney. I'm guessing his bill will not be more than what is in that account because he has a copy of the latest statement and knows what is in it.
Snowflake money is coming my way!
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Post by Saving4Norway on Jun 5, 2020 20:06:34 GMT -5
Hi Decluttering Friends! I'm back for my 5th (?) summer! You all have had so many milestones, I'm sorry to have missed sharing my joy and sorrows with you. Next week is my last week of school. This distance learning thing has been so unusually challenging PLUS I've lost so much normalcy with the Stay-Home order from the Governor of WA state I'm just shy of losing my $#!%. I'm looking forward to making several to-do lists and getting stuff done. Norway
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jun 5, 2020 20:46:28 GMT -5
We spent about $900 for paint and stain. Hubs bought sealant for the basement at the house, paint for the garage walls and stain for the floors he is going to sand. We still need to paint the aluminum siding on the house and the garage ceiling, has a lot of pealing paint on it.
He put the basement windows back in, all have new glass, he sanded the frames down, metal, put on rust inhibitor and painte them, they now work and look great.
We paid for it with my Bank of America Card that I get a 5% rebate back, and Menards had a special of everything is 11% rebate, so we are getting back 16% today is why we bought so much of everything.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jun 5, 2020 22:03:57 GMT -5
Both hands have improved, the swelling is down, but the prednisone is giving me fits, I was up all night last night, slept about 2 hours. Today its 1 less pill, but I think I'm in trouble, I'm so tired but eyes wide open. Never had it do that to me before. It's only 5 or 6 days of pills, so it should be better.
On the positive, I've cleaned up a lot of paperwork. Now I have 2 months of books to bring up again. With the Miller Trust for MIL, added a bunch more bank deposits and shifting stuff around to comply. I need to get on the phone to VA again and see if I can get the payments stopped. I do not understand this. Our elder attorney said she has quite a few clients like us that cannot get it changed, its gone on since last November, I haven't called for awhile, figured it was a waste of time with the virus going on. Probably noone there.
And I did something dumb on my accounting, I mean basic dumb. going to meet with my CPA next week and feel like a fool to see how we fix it. It's not a material amount of money, but its something I should have never done. To many years and something I just never had to do since college. We will see, not going to stress over it, anything can be fixed. But I'm so embarrassed, damn. I like always being right and I'm not, sigh.
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