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Post by azucena on May 28, 2021 20:05:49 GMT -5
Anciana - tomorrow will be a better day. We are here for you.
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Post by NoNamePerson on May 28, 2021 20:08:25 GMT -5
I was wondering if I could intrude as I don't participate here regularly but all of you seem so kind and I could use some quiet support. I just need someone to sit next to me and hold my hand, please. My heart is slowly bleeding and I'm running out of strength. I don’t contribute to thread but read regularly. You won’t find a better bunch of pEEps to talk with and they will all sit with you thru thick and thin and everything in between! Take advantage of the forum.
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Post by Opti on May 28, 2021 20:18:35 GMT -5
I hope that having my new dog Ginger is going to help with my depression . After 7 years of living alone with nothing but silence and loneliness I certainly need a boost. The church doesn't help at all and it looks like the VA is kicking most of us to the curb. I have apparently missed what is happening with the VA. I thought you were going back? I hear you with the loneliness. It's only been 10 months for me, today actually, but it's been difficult. That's why I signed up to be a cat foster. Unfortunately my first foster-to-be was put down on Tuesday so now I wait. Impatiently. Oh no! I'm just reading this. What happened that the cat had to be put down?
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Post by finnime on May 28, 2021 23:10:40 GMT -5
I'm sorry you're in pain, anciana. I'm glad you reached out; that is a sign of strength and health even if you don't feel it primarily. I hope sharing here helps lighten your burden. I offer to you and all today some tea with milk and blueberry-sour cream scones, and . I hope your life and loves are in good places. Thinking of you.
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Post by geenamercile on May 29, 2021 10:40:18 GMT -5
We really don't have much we have to do this weekend and it feels odd. Honestly between school (my work) and school (the girls) I had been doing 13 hours days almost all year and never feeling like I was ahead so having almost nothing, just some work things myself, feels odd. I really just want to sleep all day. I think I am readjusting to not being in a survival mode and it feels odd as fk. Realistically I know my work stuff will take about 4 hours, and the fencing for puppy I want to do will take 2 or 3. I am almost in a paranoia state of I am missing something big and don't know what it is.
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Post by finnime on May 29, 2021 10:56:53 GMT -5
We really don't have much we have to do this weekend and it feels odd. Honestly between school (my work) and school (the girls) I had been doing 13 hours days almost all year and never feeling like I was ahead so having almost nothing, just some work things myself, feels odd. I really just want to sleep all day. I think I am readjusting to not being in a survival mode and it feels odd as fk. Realistically I know my work stuff will take about 4 hours, and the fencing for puppy I want to do will take 2 or 3. I am almost in a paranoia state of I am missing something big and don't know what it is. Well said. I know exactly what you mean.
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Post by toomuchreality on May 29, 2021 11:44:59 GMT -5
I was wondering if I could intrude as I don't participate here regularly but all of you seem so kind and I could use some quiet support. I just need someone to sit next to me and hold my hand, please. My heart is slowly bleeding and I'm running out of strength. I'm sorry. How can I help? You're welcome here any time. Hugs ♡
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Post by toomuchreality on May 29, 2021 12:01:23 GMT -5
I will be dog sitting this weekend. My 3 little grand dogs. I plan on bbq-ing hot dogs at some point. I stayed with them last weekend and I was cold. So this time, I asked them to leave their lightweight down blanket out for me.
They have one of those "Purple" mattresses and pillows. They are a bit too firm, for my taste. I'll stick with my memory foam.
I slept really well last night. It's amazing how much good sleep impacts my thought process.
Have a great weekend, everyone!
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Post by empress of self-improvement on May 29, 2021 12:07:39 GMT -5
I have apparently missed what is happening with the VA. I thought you were going back? I hear you with the loneliness. It's only been 10 months for me, today actually, but it's been difficult. That's why I signed up to be a cat foster. Unfortunately my first foster-to-be was put down on Tuesday so now I wait. Impatiently. Oh no! I'm just reading this. What happened that the cat had to be put down? She had fluid around her heart. Apparently it was severe. Her person never took her to the vet so it wasn't caught earlier, unfortunately.
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Post by toomuchreality on May 29, 2021 21:56:31 GMT -5
Oh no! I'm just reading this. What happened that the cat had to be put down? She had fluid around her heart. Apparently it was severe. Her person never took her to the vet so it wasn't caught earlier, unfortunately. I'm so sorry. But I'm glad it wasn't your trauma to deal with, to be honest. You will get a kitten. ♡
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Post by finnime on May 30, 2021 6:51:56 GMT -5
Not all kittens nor people can be saved.
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Post by Blonde Granny on May 30, 2021 7:29:06 GMT -5
Just a quick info of what has been going on. The VA has played on and off a game called "button button, who has the button." each time it appears al looks good, the color of the button changes.
The last go round was all of us needed to go to the lab and have our blood drawn. The tests were for measles, mumps, rubella & TB. Aww, c'm we're over 75 or more. But being the 7 years of being a volunteer, I went in and had the tests run.
I now have received a letter telling me that one or more of my results were not in the normal range and I need to call this this upcoming Tuesday for follow up testing. I've done some research already and don't like what I've seen, so I will likely call it done and over and will get to my Dr. and the VA can go sit on a stick.
Frankly, I'm about at the end of my rope. I need out of this awful place, I desperately need to get away from the church ladies that have offered more silliness than help, I can sell my house for over twice what we paid for 8 years ago, and I can get myself closer to my brother or good friends both in Florida. If there is a God as some say, he's got a lousy game set up for me and I'd just as soon he leaves me alone....as I seem to be able to deal with some of these problems I'v encountered in the past 8 years without his help (if that's what you can call it.)
My little dog Ginger so far as kept me laughing, she can run at 50 mph even with her harness on, and I swear the expressions on her cute face can't help but make me laugh. Thanks for listening, perhaps another chapter at another time.
BG
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Post by Opti on May 30, 2021 7:32:44 GMT -5
Oh no! I'm just reading this. What happened that the cat had to be put down? She had fluid around her heart. Apparently it was severe. Her person never took her to the vet so it wasn't caught earlier, unfortunately. That sucks. This was the Maine Coon right?
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Post by empress of self-improvement on May 30, 2021 8:16:05 GMT -5
She had fluid around her heart. Apparently it was severe. Her person never took her to the vet so it wasn't caught earlier, unfortunately. That sucks. This was the Maine Coon right? No. This was Baby who was a beautiful white and black cat. The Maine Coon is currently in the closet growling at me. I will say her appetite is certainly perking up. I just put her breakfast in about an hour ago, wet food with medication mixed in, and she has completely wiped it out. Probably to get the taste of the other med out of her mouth after I shot that in.
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Post by empress of self-improvement on May 30, 2021 8:20:40 GMT -5
I'm sorry Blonde Granny. You would think the VA would remember that you are volunteers, not voluntolds. You are not paid so why they think anyone should put up with bullshit like that is beyond me. I'm glad Ginger is good company. I'm waiting for my company to stop trying to take my hands off. I also hear you with God's plans. They certainly do seem to suck, don't they?
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Post by buystoys on May 30, 2021 10:14:52 GMT -5
I'm so sorry to hear about the VA, BG. I know you were really looking forward to getting back. What a shame. So happy to hear that Ginger is putting a smile on your face!
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Post by seriousthistime on May 30, 2021 10:57:50 GMT -5
So sorry about the VA, Blonde Granny. I know you were really looking forward to the VA. For a while you were saying you wanted to move to Florida. Then you made some good friends in your new neighborhood and decided against moving. It could be that the time is right to reconsider what really makes you happy, and do what it takes to make it happen.
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Post by toomuchreality on May 30, 2021 13:11:54 GMT -5
I hope everyone is able to enjoy the weekend. And to all our veterans, ☆☆☆Thank you,for your service!☆☆☆
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Post by finnime on May 30, 2021 13:19:20 GMT -5
Everyone is going through a period right now, I think, of crawling out of their skins, post-Covid shutdowns. Spring just makes the itch worse. For some of us the pandemic made clear we need to take another look at our lives. I know that's true for me.
My parents both died in June, too, 10 years apart to the day. For my father it was on Father's Day, a massive coronary, and I had not yet called him. It's a tough time of year for me.
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Post by toomuchreality on May 30, 2021 16:52:07 GMT -5
Everyone is going through a period right now, I think, of crawling out of their skins, post-Covid shutdowns. Spring just makes the itch worse. For some of us the pandemic made clear we need to take another look at our lives. I know that's true for me. My parents both died in June, too, 10 years apart to the day. For my father it was on Father's Day, a massive coronary, and I had not yet called him. It's a tough time of year for me. I'm sorry. That's rough. Hugs ♡
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Post by geenamercile on May 30, 2021 18:09:34 GMT -5
I am sorry for everyone losses.
I am about 2/3 done with puppy proofing the fence. It seems less over whelming as I get more of it done. But I do just have to take breaks. I know a few years ago I would have just knocked it out. It seems weird to that I run out of mental energy doing something so simple, but it is getting there. Besides that I got a Walmart pick up done. I need to make myself something to eat. It is just finding the energy to do it.
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Post by toomuchreality on May 30, 2021 19:18:35 GMT -5
I am/ have been depleted of both physical energy and motivation for at least the last year.
I don't know how to get it back.
I know I joke about this. But I'm dead serious. I keep saying it's because I'm OLD. But is it?
Suggestions?
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Post by stillmovingforward on May 30, 2021 20:59:48 GMT -5
What kind of a doctor is your primary care?
I have had better luck seeing a DO (Doctor of Osteopathy) then a standard MD. I was having some serious energy level, emotional level issues several years back. Which my then-MD contributed to kids and working outside the house. I got fed up and switched to a DO who discovered that my labs were not ok. Not bad enough to warrant prescription med changes but enough and enough of them to need OTC meds. I feel much better now, despite being much sicker. Every now and then the levels change and my new DO will adjust my OTC meds (supplements).
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Post by toomuchreality on May 30, 2021 22:06:19 GMT -5
What kind of a doctor is your primary care? I have had better luck seeing a DO (Doctor of Osteopathy) then a standard MD. I was having some serious energy level, emotional level issues several years back. Which my then-MD contributed to kids and working outside the house. I got fed up and switched to a DO who discovered that my labs were not ok. Not bad enough to warrant prescription med changes but enough and enough of them to need OTC meds. I feel much better now, despite being much sicker. Every now and then the levels change and my new DO will adjust my OTC meds (supplements). Interesting. I don't currently have a doctor of any kind. I'm looking for one. I need one before my scripts run out at the end of June. Otherwise I'm doomed. Thanks for the suggestion. I'm not familiar with that type of doctor, but I can Google it. It can't hurt!
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Post by stillmovingforward on May 30, 2021 22:24:07 GMT -5
If you can't find one, let me know. I think I have a link for the national database.
But go to a clinic website and look for a doctor with 'DO' after their name (in the title). I love the interactions with mine! I have 3 DOs and 3 Drs on my team. The DOs are much more holistic in their medical thinking in that they look at the entire body/system, not just the illness.
Fair warning, they are typically into you controlling your health. So you also get lots of 'stop smoking', 'here's what you should be eating', here's how much you should exercise at your age' and such support/help.
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Post by toomuchreality on May 31, 2021 0:55:22 GMT -5
Great. LOL
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Post by finnime on May 31, 2021 2:45:17 GMT -5
I am/ have been depleted of both physical energy and motivation for at least the last year. I don't know how to get it back. I know I joke about this. But I'm dead serious. I keep saying it's because I'm OLD. But is it? Suggestions? Depression can be treated. And you will want to rule out other problems, such as hypothyroidism, that can be the cause of similar symptoms. This last year has precipitated a lot of trauma in so many. Is this maybe part of it, for you? I see a psychiatrist who offers both psychotherapy and pharmacotherapy. I need both. Medication has in my life been essential. I take a combination of meds that this time of year includes my usual Wellbutrin (buproprion) and an SSRI boosted by Abilify. Therapy helps reroute the thinking, the digging into the hole of hopelessness. When I'm sliding down, I write. That helps to expiate some of that thinking and also I use it to remind myself of plans for the near and far future, and what I need/want to do to get there. Exercise, meditating and eating well are also part of treatment but really part of a balanced life that strengthens against illness of all sorts, physical and mental. Depression in my life has stopped me from doing what I want and need to do, and from savoring the good that is present. When nothing else helps I do allow myself to take time off from daily life and just be for a few days. I then sleep a lot, eat fruit, take walks outdoors, read if I'm able or watch old Frasier reruns. A reprieve, for one or three or four days. This helps, too. Wishing you well, Toomuch.
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Post by geenamercile on May 31, 2021 14:07:40 GMT -5
My doctor did do a bunch of labs and test because of my energy level to just check. I did have to take 12 weeks of Vitamin D, but that was the only thing that came up. For me it is focusing on a lot of meditation, mindfulness, celebrating the small things and giving myself grace for what I don't get done. A big part of my self motivation is knowing that I have done something positive, so I have a few friends that I send good morning messages too, or things that I think it will make them smile. It may be small, and at times may seem stupid but for me even if I just made them smile for 1/2 a second it gives me encouragement. At times I also try to treat myself like one of my students, kind try and look from it from the outside and go if one of my students was feeling like this/or behaving this way what I would I tell them to do. That actually helped a fair amount with just being okay with not getting some things done. I might only have a C at life right now, but that is passing and I am taking it. It is better than what it was.
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Post by finnime on May 31, 2021 14:26:15 GMT -5
My doctor did do a bunch of labs and test because of my energy level to just check. I did have to take 12 weeks of Vitamin D, but that was the only thing that came up. For me it is focusing on a lot of meditation, mindfulness, celebrating the small things and giving myself grace for what I don't get done. A big part of my self motivation is knowing that I have done something positive, so I have a few friends that I send good morning messages too, or things that I think it will make them smile. It may be small, and at times may seem stupid but for me even if I just made them smile for 1/2 a second it gives me encouragement. At times I also try to treat myself like one of my students, kind try and look from it from the outside and go if one of my students was feeling like this/or behaving this way what I would I tell them to do. That actually helped a fair amount with just being okay with not getting some things done. I might only have a C at life right now, but that is passing and I am taking it. It is better than what it was. Letting yourself off the hook is huge. You do what you can do and don't allow the undone to sour yourself.
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