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Post by buystoys on Oct 9, 2020 8:21:52 GMT -5
OK. We're on round 2 of this. I took a Covid test yesterday, so I'm in quarantine until surgery on Monday. If I don't hear from them by Saturday night, I'm good to go. I'm just keeping my fingers crossed that the test comes back negative. I've got so many appointments to schedule once I have the negative test results. I have to remember to ask for a copy of them Monday while I'm at the hospital. I've had no luck with finding a new therapist. The site I need to use is down and has been for this whole week. I think I'm going to have to call and just get a list from them over the phone.
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Post by azucena on Oct 9, 2020 9:40:18 GMT -5
OK. We're on round 2 of this. I took a Covid test yesterday, so I'm in quarantine until surgery on Monday. If I don't hear from them by Saturday night, I'm good to go. I'm just keeping my fingers crossed that the test comes back negative. I've got so many appointments to schedule once I have the negative test results. I have to remember to ask for a copy of them Monday while I'm at the hospital. I've had no luck with finding a new therapist. The site I need to use is down and has been for this whole week. I think I'm going to have to call and just get a list from them over the phone.
They should be able to email you a list. I've had some luck looking up doctor's name & 'reviews'. That at least seems to weed out the really bad ones.
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Post by buystoys on Oct 9, 2020 9:58:57 GMT -5
OK. We're on round 2 of this. I took a Covid test yesterday, so I'm in quarantine until surgery on Monday. If I don't hear from them by Saturday night, I'm good to go. I'm just keeping my fingers crossed that the test comes back negative. I've got so many appointments to schedule once I have the negative test results. I have to remember to ask for a copy of them Monday while I'm at the hospital. I've had no luck with finding a new therapist. The site I need to use is down and has been for this whole week. I think I'm going to have to call and just get a list from them over the phone.
They should be able to email you a list. I've had some luck looking up doctor's name & 'reviews'. That at least seems to weed out the really bad ones. I hadn't thought of that. Thank you! I just got a call from my doctor's office. My Covid test was negative this time. Yay! So I'm on for surgery Monday morning.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Oct 9, 2020 10:22:09 GMT -5
buystoys Congrats on the negative test. All the best for your surgery. You got this.
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Post by buystoys on Oct 24, 2020 9:20:18 GMT -5
So, I just can't get out of the health problem rut this year. I have a loose front tooth that I'm going to lose. I have a new round of appointments to have it imaged and get recommendations for what to do for replacement. It wouldn't be so bad but the weather here has been rainy and gray for the past couple of days and I ache all over. The fibromyalgia is kicking my butt this week. DH has been so good about helping me to keep things done (I can't bend over yet) but I hate to ask him to do things like make the bed for me. I struggle with a messy bed when I get up in the morning. I keep telling myself it's OK and it is what it is. The dental stuff will eventually work itself out. DH is also having dental issues right now. We were doing so well on the budget this year, but all the mouth problems are going to eat up what we've saved so far. *sigh* I guess we're not painting the house after all.
I've been having spurts of feeling good, but the feeling down is dominant. I still haven't been able to find a therapist either. That's probably a big part of the depression. I have no one to really talk to about how I feel. DH will listen, but then he wants to "help" fix everything and this is all stuff that can't be fixed. I'm just feeling whiny this morning.
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Post by finnime on Oct 24, 2020 9:35:45 GMT -5
Whine away, buystoys. We're listening. Physical health problems always occasion in me mental health problems. I'm sorry you're struggling. It is a great thing that you have feel-good periods. Getting a new therapist will help for sure. In the meantime, eating right, sleep hygiene, exercise, journaling, you know the drill. Are you able to get out at all? I mean in the correct socially distanced way, of course. Sometimes just shaking it up helps me. Best to you.
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Post by buystoys on Oct 24, 2020 12:19:26 GMT -5
finnime, I can get out, we just are mostly homebodies. I haven't been grocery shopping in two weeks because I know I'll bend over to pick something up and I'm not supposed to do that. I've been sitting out on the porch for a bit, but it's too cool and dreary for that to cheer me up. DH has mentioned maybe going out to dinner tomorrow. I'm thinking about it. Thank you for getting it. I tend to beat myself up when I feel whiny and I shouldn't. It's just the natural course of events for me.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Oct 24, 2020 16:35:41 GMT -5
I also get it buystoys When I am tired or don't feel good, I the depression kicks in. I hope after 3 times of stopping my meds on my own, I have learned my lesson. I am so thankful for my therapist. I hit the jackpot with her and I know it. I lost my med management doctor but have an appointment with the person she thought was the best fit for me After getting furloughed during the pandemic, she chose another path and it's working for her brother 4 days a week. Definitely too cold here to sit outside. I am out of town since last night. I was going home on Sunday. It's supposed to snow starting tomorrow afternoon so I'm leaving in the morning. I also don't like this hotel room. It's not what I reserved and it's too close to an outside door and the fitness room. If the pool was open, I would have made them give me a different room.
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Post by busymom on Oct 24, 2020 17:48:20 GMT -5
Have a safe trip home, TheOtherMe! We're supposed to get more sNOw tomorrow. The early arrival of winter (about 4 to 6 weeks early) isn't appreciated at all. But, I think the shortening of daylight is what bothers me the most. Sorry about your tooth buystoys. Why is it dental problems just seem to sneak up on all of us?
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Post by TheOtherMe on Oct 24, 2020 19:37:31 GMT -5
It is too early for snow.
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Post by toomuchreality on Oct 25, 2020 3:47:44 GMT -5
Hoping everyone has a good day, today.
Good luck with all the things you are facing.
Virtual hugs to you.
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Post by toomuchreality on Oct 25, 2020 3:54:57 GMT -5
I'm not sure why I have such a hard time posting and being supportive in this thread, but I do.
Every time I go to say something, I can't find the words, so something very general comes out.
You all are doing an amazing job of supporting one another. I'm not sure you know just how well you are doing- in that way, at the very least. You're stars. Superstars☆☆☆
Hugs♡
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Post by empress of self-improvement on Oct 25, 2020 11:47:11 GMT -5
I'm not sure why I have such a hard time posting and being supportive in this thread, but I do. Every time I go to say something, I can't find the words, so something very general comes out. You all are doing an amazing job of supporting one another. I'm not sure you know just how well you are doing- in that way, at the very least. You're stars. Superstars☆☆☆ Hugs♡ You're doing fine TMR. Sometimes just knowing someone is at least reading helps. At least for me. I made the mistake of looking at some pictures I found last night but I'm not sure if it was just finding the pictures or knowing that I have absolutely nobody to talk to/cry to about any of this that made it more painful. My sister is useless and there really isn't anyone else. Sure they say call anytime but then they're busy and just get the feeling that I'm bothering them. So home I stay, sitting on my ass reading. I know I need to find a grief group but a lot of them seemed geared more towards people raising kids, survivors of suicide or older folks. It's so fucking hard.
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Post by buystoys on Oct 25, 2020 11:53:25 GMT -5
Empress, fingers crossed that you find the support you need. It's hard to ask for help. Sending you hugs.
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Post by finnime on Oct 25, 2020 14:48:10 GMT -5
Grief is a bitch, empress of self-improvement. I'm impressed with how you are doing, going to work and holding down the fort of your home. It's not reasonable to expect yourself to be doing well at pretty much anything right now. You, too, post away. We are listening. Hugs to you.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Oct 25, 2020 14:59:15 GMT -5
I'm not sure why I have such a hard time posting and being supportive in this thread, but I do. Every time I go to say something, I can't find the words, so something very general comes out. You all are doing an amazing job of supporting one another. I'm not sure you know just how well you are doing- in that way, at the very least. You're stars. Superstars☆☆☆ Hugs♡ You're doing fine TMR. Sometimes just knowing someone is at least reading helps. At least for me. I made the mistake of looking at some pictures I found last night but I'm not sure if it was just finding the pictures or knowing that I have absolutely nobody to talk to/cry to about any of this that made it more painful. My sister is useless and there really isn't anyone else. Sure they say call anytime but then they're busy and just get the feeling that I'm bothering them. So home I stay, sitting on my ass reading. I know I need to find a grief group but a lot of them seemed geared more towards people raising kids, survivors of suicide or older folks. It's so fucking hard. In person grief groups are not happening here due to covid. I felt very out of place in the one I went to. Two mothers who lost a child to suicide, 3 widows who had lost husbands to cancer (one extremely angry at the doctor because he didn't tell her that her husband was dying" and 3 sisters who had lost their mother. They only lasted a week, so I was the only one who had lost a parent. It did help even with such a variety of people in the group.
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Post by toomuchreality on Oct 25, 2020 19:15:35 GMT -5
I'm not sure why I have such a hard time posting and being supportive in this thread, but I do. Every time I go to say something, I can't find the words, so something very general comes out. You all are doing an amazing job of supporting one another. I'm not sure you know just how well you are doing- in that way, at the very least. You're stars. Superstars☆☆☆ Hugs♡ You're doing fine TMR. Sometimes just knowing someone is at least reading helps. At least for me. I made the mistake of looking at some pictures I found last night but I'm not sure if it was just finding the pictures or knowing that I have absolutely nobody to talk to/cry to about any of this that made it more painful. My sister is useless and there really isn't anyone else. Sure they say call anytime but then they're busy and just get the feeling that I'm bothering them. So home I stay, sitting on my ass reading. I know I need to find a grief group but a lot of them seemed geared more towards people raising kids, survivors of suicide or older folks. It's so fucking hard. Thank you. Everything you said is true. All of it. It is hard. In so many ways, for so many reasons, it's hard. I too have tried group therapy. I always felt like I was on the outside, looking in. Watching. Like I wasn't part of it. ♡
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Post by NoNamePerson on Oct 25, 2020 19:56:06 GMT -5
I'm not sure why I have such a hard time posting and being supportive in this thread, but I do. Every time I go to say something, I can't find the words, so something very general comes out. You all are doing an amazing job of supporting one another. I'm not sure you know just how well you are doing- in that way, at the very least. You're stars. Superstars☆☆☆ Hugs♡ You said it perfectly. I read this thread and so glad that there is a thread to come to for support.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Oct 26, 2020 8:00:38 GMT -5
With the exception of the grief group, I gave group therapy one other try. It was horrible for me and I've done individual therapy since then.
No more groups for me. Part of the problem for me with group therapy, is I tend to take on every one else's issues as my own. That is not helpful for me.
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Post by buystoys on Oct 28, 2020 7:17:04 GMT -5
I got my pathology report yesterday. No more cancer! ;Yay! So it looks like all my anxiety and stressing about it was for naught. That's easy to admit on this side of the news.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Oct 28, 2020 7:34:42 GMT -5
Fantastic news buystoys When I've been called back for 2nd mammograms or waiting biopsy results, I have been a wreck with anxiety and stress. I think that is normal. Of course you were worried.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 28, 2020 9:26:16 GMT -5
I got my pathology report yesterday. No more cancer! ;Yay! So it looks like all my anxiety and stressing about it was for naught. That's easy to admit on this side of the news. I had an abnormal pap smear when I was 19 requiring a LEEP procedure be done. The gyno scared the absolute shit out of me with her talk about cancer. To this day my blood pressure goes through the roof when I see a doctor for ANYTHING. I've gotten used to having to have my BP read twice and if it's a new doctor explain up front my experience so they know I have massive white coat syndrome. Of course you are going to have anxiety and stress.
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Post by finnime on Oct 28, 2020 15:27:15 GMT -5
I got my pathology report yesterday. No more cancer! ;Yay! So it looks like all my anxiety and stressing about it was for naught. That's easy to admit on this side of the news. That's such good news! I am very glad for you.
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Post by Peace77 on Oct 28, 2020 22:08:38 GMT -5
My doctor refused to write a prescription for singulair, It seems that some adverse effects have been reported.
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Post by toomuchreality on Oct 31, 2020 12:37:31 GMT -5
I got my pathology report yesterday. No more cancer! ;Yay! So it looks like all my anxiety and stressing about it was for naught. That's easy to admit on this side of the news. Hooray! What a relief!
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Post by toomuchreality on Oct 31, 2020 12:38:40 GMT -5
My doctor refused to write a prescription for singulair, It seems that some adverse effects have been reported. I'm sorry. Hugs♡
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Post by buystoys on Nov 5, 2020 16:18:23 GMT -5
I have a second positive covid test. It's been less than two months since my last positive test, about three weeks since my negative test, and now I'm supposed to believe I have it for the second time.
I just can't. I'm going to have to reschedule appointments that were already rescheduled due to the first positive test. I'm so close to tears right now.
My endodontist had a heart attack and surgery on Tuesday. So I can either try to find another one to do my implant or wait to see if this one comes back to work. I'm not looking forward to it, but I would like to get it over with. I just hate my life right now. Everything I do is such an effort. Nothing seems to go smoothly. Even easy things like a colonoscopy morph into problems. I was actually looking forward to getting it done because it was the one thing that seemed to not have any speed bumps going on. I jinxed myself. And I still haven't got a therapist. I have to see my primary care doctor to get a referral. She was on my calendar for Wednesday. Not? If I have to reschedule her again, it's another three weeks out. If she has time available then.
I'm so done today.
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