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Post by Firebird on Apr 11, 2011 18:35:25 GMT -5
$675 / 75 people = $9. It's closer to $8, but I rounded up. The tickets cost $5 per person plus tax. Kind of steep but what can you do? I'm not sure we'll actually meet any of the minimums. We thought we would at first but when we stopped to think about it, we realized fewer people would be drinking than we originally anticipated.
I'm not sure about favors yet. We'll be tapping into our creative side for that. We're definitely doing "welcome packs" for everyone which include things like dinner possibilities, activity suggestions, maps, and the bride and groom's love story (written by yours truly).
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Post by Firebird on Apr 25, 2011 14:02:58 GMT -5
I bought my dress and veil this weekend for $685. Together, they are worth about $4k.
Deal of the century? I thought so ;D
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Post by cael on Apr 25, 2011 14:46:58 GMT -5
YAY Firebird, congrats!!! things are moving along! What's your date again? It'll be here before you know it - mine is under 3 months now Did you go to David's Bridal or a boutique? What does it look like? (I just like dresses lol!)
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Post by Firebird on Apr 25, 2011 14:50:18 GMT -5
October 1st - 5 months and some change from now! YIKES!!!
I'll send you pictures if you PM me your email address, cael (and anyone else who wants to see the dress). I'm not sure how to post it on here and wouldn't want to anyway - they're not available anywhere public because I don't want DF catching an accidental glimpse.
I went to a tiny local outlet - they are transitioning from a bridal boutique into a formal-wear boutique, hence the 80% discount ;D
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Post by cael on Apr 25, 2011 14:53:04 GMT -5
That's awesome, I'd love to see it, I'll PM you! ;D
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Apr 25, 2011 15:00:31 GMT -5
Did someone say pics?
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Post by Firebird on Apr 25, 2011 15:51:18 GMT -5
I knew I could count on you, Lena PMing you both as we speak.
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Post by shanendoah on Apr 25, 2011 15:54:02 GMT -5
The dress is lovely, though not as lovely as the girl in it.
I'm keeping my eye on flight prices and have already told my mom that I'll be in her spare bedroom that weekend and that she'll lose her car for a day. DH will not be able to make it as he will have just started fall quarter classes AND we'll have been out of town the weekend before, so he'd be crabby if I made him come.
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Post by Firebird on Apr 25, 2011 15:56:47 GMT -5
Aww shanendoah *hugs*
Of course I'd love to have you both there, but at least I know for sure you'll be coming! I'm so excited to have a chance to introduce DF to you properly, although he pretty much knows you by proxy since I'm in the habit of parroting your advice to him ;D
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Post by shanendoah on Apr 25, 2011 15:59:59 GMT -5
Just as long as he doesn't hate me by the time the wedding rolls around...
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Post by cael on Apr 25, 2011 16:12:00 GMT -5
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Post by Firebird on Apr 25, 2011 16:18:18 GMT -5
Just as long as he doesn't hate me by the time the wedding rolls around... ROFL! Believe me, you have saved our bacon and our relationship more than once. There'll be no hating of the great and powerful Oz shanendoah. FIREBIRDDD!!!!! The dress is GORGEOUS and so are you!!! [image] [image] you are going to be such a beautiful bride!! Aww *blushes* Thank you!!!
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Apr 25, 2011 16:35:19 GMT -5
OK, I told you in an email and would like to state for the YM record that you have NOTHING to worry about not being photogenic for your pics. You photograph really well. Believe me, if I didn't think so, I would be just commenting on the dress and nothing else Lena
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Post by cael on Apr 25, 2011 16:39:02 GMT -5
I said the same thing Lena!
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Post by Firebird on Apr 25, 2011 16:48:48 GMT -5
Hahaha. I swear, I wasn't fishing for compliments when I said I don't photograph well. I sent you guys the flattering photos. There were PLENTY I made my dad promise not to show anyone else. That was a compilation of the ones I actually liked (a rare event in and of itself).
But it did give me hope that I'll take some nice photos at the wedding.
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Post by cael on Apr 25, 2011 17:00:04 GMT -5
You will have lots of amazing photos, seriously!!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 25, 2011 17:24:38 GMT -5
Firebird, where is my pic?
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Post by Firebird on Apr 25, 2011 17:48:36 GMT -5
Can you PM me your email address? I should have it somewhere but it's been awhile, I don't recall it offhand I'm quite happy to take a two-minute break from yelling at hoops to send you the pics.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Apr 25, 2011 19:02:57 GMT -5
I agree with the others; you make a bee-yoo-tee-ful bride!
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Post by Firebird on May 3, 2011 10:55:10 GMT -5
Wedding Spending So Far:
Consultant: $100 Chapel Deposit: $500 Dress & Veil: $685 Photographer Deposit: $300
Total: $1,585 (15.9% of wedding budget)
Yes, I am going to update this every month. I'm obsessive like that.
So far, the only regret was the consultant charge (thankfully it was also the smallest). I'm happy about the rest of the dollars.
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Post by ty on May 3, 2011 11:19:29 GMT -5
Well first of all, "CONGRATS" on your wedding. When it comes to weddings, the biggest mistake people make is going into debt for a wedding they cannot afford. So when I began putting together weddings for people that didn't have a lot of funds for a lavish kind of a wedding they so desired, the one thing people had trouble adjust to was the Pot-Luck wedding. Food expenditures takes a big chunk of a wedding cost and a lot of times, people complain about the food that was served. So making it a Potluck Wedding allows people to bring things they know they will like, and at the same time save you money. Secondly, don't throw your money out wasted on flowers. That's just money in the trash. If you buy yourself a bunch of green foliage plants, you can nicely insert artificial flowers in them to give them color, and to match your wedding bouquet. Another money saver it to either have it at a park, or beach, or in a large back yard. Having a wedding in a church setting for me is a bore, and when you have an outdoor wedding then you have the outdoor beauty as your canvas. A beautiful wedding can be done under 3K to 5K, and 1k goes toward the wedding dress and the tux. Best men and bridesmaids pay for and buy their own dresses and suits. Take the time and look around, shop around. You can find beautiful vintage wedding gown or even a dress for around 300 to 500 dollars. A beach wedding does not require a lot of flowers, and can be absolutely beautiful. Get some nice looking paper or plastic plates and drinking glasses, Bride and groom gets real glasses for saving, but this will cut the cost of cleanup and buying a bunch of dishes for a wedding. Remember, the worst thing that can happen to a bride and groom is to throw a wedding and start their honeymoon off in deep debt. Talk it over with your spouse, he should have some say in the matter since he will be attending. A lot of times, parents from both the bride and groom will want to pitch in and pay for the wedding, but don't put them into debt either. Be frugal, not cheap, make it fun, not commanding or demanding and you will be just fine. Once again "CONGRATS" to the two of you and I wish you the best in life.
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Post by Firebird on May 3, 2011 11:28:42 GMT -5
Secondly, don't throw your money out wasted on flowers. That's just money in the trash. Totally agree. I got lucky on this one. The chapel where we're having the ceremony has a lovely outdoor terrace with natural foliage, and the only flowers we have to worry about are the bouquet flowers. My mom and I plan to make the bouquets, and they shouldn't be all that expensive. The terrace is outdoors, too Here is a picture, if you want to see it: www.lakefrontwedding.com/outdoor-terrace-photo-gallery/Remember, the worst thing that can happen to a bride and groom is to throw a wedding and start their honeymoon off in deep debt. Talk it over with your spouse, he should have some say in the matter since he will be attending. A lot of times, parents from both the bride and groom will want to pitch in and pay for the wedding, but don't put them into debt either.To recap, we're in fairly good financial shape right now and I have zero intention of going into debt for a party. DF and I plan to pay for the first $10k out of our own pocket (we will save something like that over the next five months) and my parents are giving us $10k for a wedding gift. We would LIKE to not use that for the wedding, but I don't know how realistic it is since the projected costs are looking like they'll be about $15k and I don't see us saving that much by October 1st. So we're pretty much resigned to using the money for wedding spillover and also our honeymoon. However, I'm not sure it'll go quite that high and I'll explain why in my next post. But either way, no debt allowed. Thanks for the good wishes, Kreepy! ;D
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Post by ty on May 3, 2011 11:30:24 GMT -5
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 3, 2011 11:31:53 GMT -5
Personally I would skip favors. Unless you are doing something edible or useful a lot of them will be left behind. Even cheap favors add up. We went to a wedding where they did seed packets. Even at 99 cents a packet when I added up how many were there (one for each space) and how many were left behind that was a total waste of money. It came out to about $300 spent on favors. I know people will disagree with me on that, but that's my take on it. We didn't do favors and no one noticed. People DO notice if you do not send thank you notes for gifts. Not that we did that, but I've had it done to me and I noticed!
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Post by Firebird on May 3, 2011 11:34:35 GMT -5
Current dilemma:
The venue that I really want for the reception (it's close to the chapel, very roomy and wonderful for a party) is run by a woman who seemed great at first but promised to send me the contract for the rental a few weeks ago. I still haven't seen it or heard a peep from her.
So... I don't know if that's going to work out, which leaves me with my second choice - the reception room available at the chapel itself. It's a lovely room and I'm sure we'll have a great time, but it's not the same and my heart sinks every time I think about choosing that room over my first choice.
Am I being silly? They cost about the same (perhaps a couple hundred more for my first choice) so that's not an enormous concern. I am really concerned about her lack of response, though.
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Post by ty on May 3, 2011 11:36:07 GMT -5
Personally I would skip favors. Unless you are doing something edible or useful a lot of them will be left behind. Even cheap favors add up. We went to a wedding where they did seed packets. Even at 99 cents a packet when I added up how many were there (one for each space) and how many were left behind that was a total waste of money. It came out to about $300 spent on favors. I know people will disagree with me on that, but that's my take on it. We didn't do favors and no one noticed. People DO notice if you do not send thank you notes for gifts. Not that we did that, but I've had it done to me and I noticed! The wedding cake doesn't need to be an expense either. They are pretty simple to make.
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Post by Firebird on May 3, 2011 11:38:03 GMT -5
People DO notice if you do not send thank you notes for gifts. Not that we did that, but I've had it done to me and I noticed! Noted ;D Personally I would skip favors. Unless you are doing something edible or useful a lot of them will be left behind. Even cheap favors add up. We went to a wedding where they did seed packets. Even at 99 cents a packet when I added up how many were there (one for each space) and how many were left behind that was a total waste of money.Like Jordan almonds? I hate those. Yuck. Isn't everyone's favorite part of birthday parties the goody bags? ;D I was thinking of putting together a wedding program - kind of a short story about how we met and so on, with pictures and nice binding. One thing I can do is write, so if I put some time and effort into this it will be a nice little book and fairly cheap to print. Perhaps that could serve as the main favor? Thoughts?
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 3, 2011 11:39:04 GMT -5
I disagree with the wedding cake unless you are having everything at the same place. The last thing I wanted was to have to remember or have a guest remember to make a cake and then transport it to the reception site. I preferred having a baker do all that.
It doesn't have to be a huge expense, ours for 85 people only cost us $123, that's not too bad. They are like anything else and as expensive as you want to make them.
I'm all for saving money with a wedding, but I also factored in time and labor on the part of myself and others. When it made sense to me I hired it out. I didn't want my guests having to deal with preparing, storing and transporting food so I hired a caterer.
I didn't hire the most expensive caterer in the city though, I found a little caterer in the phonebook who does weddings but didn't have the budget to do the bridal expos and big glossy ads in the wedding magazines.
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Post by ty on May 3, 2011 11:42:50 GMT -5
I disagree with the wedding cake unless you are having everything at the same place. The last thing I wanted was to have to remember or have a guest remember to make a cake and then transport it to the reception site. I preferred having a baker do all that. It doesn't have to be a huge expense, ours for 85 people only cost us $123, that's not too bad. They are like anything else and as expensive as you want to make them. I'm all for saving money with a wedding, but I also factored in time and labor on the part of myself and others. When it made sense to me I hired it out. I didn't want my guests having to deal with preparing, storing and transporting food so I hired a caterer. I didn't hire the most expensive caterer in the city though, I found a little caterer in the phonebook who does weddings but didn't have the budget to do the bridal expos and big glossy ads in the wedding magazines. A cake shouldn't run no more than 200 for a wedding. It goes in one end and out the other the very next day. lol ;D You sound as if you have gotten it all under control, but make sure the lady and the contrat for the use of the room is resolved first. The party after the wedding is just as important as the wedding itself.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on May 3, 2011 11:46:43 GMT -5
""""I was thinking of putting together a wedding program - kind of a short story about how we met and so on, with pictures and nice binding"""" So, first let me say - I am not a very emotional or sentimental person, so remember that I wouldn't do it. There was not a single wedding that I ever went to (and I am old) that I would have wanted this from. All I would see is extra clutter that would be in my house, bc I would feel too guilty for throwing it out, but would have no use for it. One friend had little frames as "favors" and then send pics of her and her DH same size as a frame. I don't even display pics of my family that much, there was no way I was displaying her wedding pics in my house. What was I suppose to do with that??? If I want your pics - I'll ask for them. If I am interested in your story - I'll ask you. Don't give me "things" to take with me. Please!!! Lena
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