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Post by giramomma on May 13, 2017 14:34:43 GMT -5
I was thinking more about this... If the birthday falls on a weekend, OK. But what if the birthday falls on a day where all three of your kids have activities? My kids know that if their birthday falls M-Thurs, hell would actually have to freeze over before we'd do our birthday celebration on their actual birthday. But, we don't think birthdays/sibling birthdays/parent/grandparent birthdays are a good reason to miss games, practices, concerts or anything else that might come up.
We also are in birthday season for our family. Five family birthdays plus mother's day in 5 weeks. This is also one of the worst times of the school year, in terms of stuff to manage. No one has time for 5 individual celebrations plus mother's day. We do groups, on the weekends, as close to the actual birthdays as possible. I think it's sad. I think celebrating is such a great thing, especially when you can do it with the family. We celebrate. Please don't get me wrong. We just can't always do it on the actual birthday. Like this year, DS's birthday was on a Thursday, and the peanut's birthday was on a Saturday. So we did both DS's and the peanut's family birthday together on Saturday. It was the only way to make it work. They will most definitely have different friend birthdays. But, I think a 13 yo is capable of understanding that I can't take off of work and he can't get out of his responsibilities to celebrate and visit with family, that for the most part, we see very routinely-like 3-4 times a month. (This winter was an anomaly because of illnesses.) I'm really not even getting a Mother's Day tomorrow. It is what it is.
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Post by Miss Tequila on May 13, 2017 14:37:33 GMT -5
I'm probably in the minority but I can't imagine not doing something with my mom on Mother's Day. She is the reason I'm here. She deserves to be honored as much as I do. This year we are all going out to a nice dinner. No muss or fuss for anyone.
Edited to fix really strange autocorrects that I didn't realized happened when I posted from my phone! yeah, well, what else is new ? lol!
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Post by MJ2.0 on May 13, 2017 14:55:21 GMT -5
I don't have time to get on my soap box bc I need to go and get my Mother's day cupcakes, so I'll just say this: I am so freaking tired of hearing how "you just have to set your boundaries" and "do what you want" "and your family or her/his family can just shove it" blah blah blah Yes, the greatest tragedy in the world - all the family members want to spend time with other family members on holidays. OMG, the horror! Well, it's no one's fault, it's the way of life now that people have to travel and yes, it's draining and not fun. But so freaking what If you hate it so much - lock the doors and don't see each other. But why the constant whining about how everyone wants to spend time with everyone This is not to anyone in particular, it's just it's the same crap from different posters on pretty much every holiday. "Poor us, we are so torn from all those people wanting to see our kids and spend time with us". whaaa whaaa whaaa I think people - especially people with spouses and/or kids - just get tired. Your M-F is booked with work and other responsibilities, a good chunk of weekend is dedicated to other chores/kid-related stuff, and you are just too dang drained to pretend to be interested in the 1000th time Uncle Frank told the story about xyz. It's not that we don't love our families - we just don't need to see them for all birthdays/all patriotic holidays/all religious holidays/all hallmark holidays (and yes this is a hallmark holiday in case you all didn't know). I love pizza and ice cream, but I'd be sick of them if I ate them too much.
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Post by yogiii on May 13, 2017 15:28:14 GMT -5
I don't have time to get on my soap box bc I need to go and get my Mother's day cupcakes, so I'll just say this: I am so freaking tired of hearing how "you just have to set your boundaries" and "do what you want" "and your family or her/his family can just shove it" blah blah blah Yes, the greatest tragedy in the world - all the family members want to spend time with other family members on holidays. OMG, the horror! Well, it's no one's fault, it's the way of life now that people have to travel and yes, it's draining and not fun. But so freaking what If you hate it so much - lock the doors and don't see each other. But why the constant whining about how everyone wants to spend time with everyone This is not to anyone in particular, it's just it's the same crap from different posters on pretty much every holiday. "Poor us, we are so torn from all those people wanting to see our kids and spend time with us". whaaa whaaa whaaa Well there are all types of families and I don't have any sort of serious dysfunction coming from either direction, so of course always thankful for that. However, some family members can be draining due to the fact they are demanding, want to be catered to and want everything just so. Others are laid back and go with the flow. I get along much better with the 2nd type. The setting boundaries thing is sort of foreign to me as well but I certainly reserve the right to be annoyed at whoever I want!
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Post by whoisjohngalt on May 13, 2017 15:49:28 GMT -5
I think it's sad. I think celebrating is such a great thing, especially when you can do it with the family. We celebrate. Please don't get me wrong. We just can't always do it on the actual birthday. Like this year, DS's birthday was on a Thursday, and the peanut's birthday was on a Saturday. So we did both DS's and the peanut's family birthday together on Saturday. It was the only way to make it work. They will most definitely have different friend birthdays. But, I think a 13 yo is capable of understanding that I can't take off of work and he can't get out of his responsibilities to celebrate and visit with family, that for the most part, we see very routinely-like 3-4 times a month. (This winter was an anomaly because of illnesses.) I'm really not even getting a Mother's Day tomorrow. It is what it is. Oh I completely understand not doing on an actual day at times. And I never took off work for my bdays or anyone else's actually. I just hope that my kids appreciate celebrations with their family, especially grandparents bc I don't want them to be so wrapped up in their activities or themselves that they brush people off, if that makes sense. And I do like celebrating all kinds of things around here.
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Post by dee27 on May 13, 2017 15:53:30 GMT -5
However, I understand Susanna's POV because we are last on our kids' list, too. We were always the ones asked to compromise, and sometimes it is hurtful, but we decided to do what we wanted for the holidays. Sometimes we visit a close friend, other family members, one of the kids, or celebrate by ourselves. It is an odd situation since we all get along fine, but with the two youngest, I think it is a hangover from when I divorced their father and holidays were split between us. With our oldest being in the military, most years he was in a different state or out of country which meant that we celebrated a holiday via Skype or by phone. Our kids are good about sending cards and calling but trying to visit is limited by distance and work commitments which we understand. One year, we would like to have all three of them in the same room with us at the same time. Even the two kids who live within 3 hours of each other rarely see each other. It is an odd dynamic because both DH and I had close nuclear families when we were younger.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on May 13, 2017 15:57:53 GMT -5
I don't have time to get on my soap box bc I need to go and get my Mother's day cupcakes, so I'll just say this: I am so freaking tired of hearing how "you just have to set your boundaries" and "do what you want" "and your family or her/his family can just shove it" blah blah blah Yes, the greatest tragedy in the world - all the family members want to spend time with other family members on holidays. OMG, the horror! Well, it's no one's fault, it's the way of life now that people have to travel and yes, it's draining and not fun. But so freaking what If you hate it so much - lock the doors and don't see each other. But why the constant whining about how everyone wants to spend time with everyone This is not to anyone in particular, it's just it's the same crap from different posters on pretty much every holiday. "Poor us, we are so torn from all those people wanting to see our kids and spend time with us". whaaa whaaa whaaa I think people - especially people with spouses and/or kids - just get tired. Your M-F is booked with work and other responsibilities, a good chunk of weekend is dedicated to other chores/kid-related stuff, and you are just too dang drained to pretend to be interested in the 1000th time Uncle Frank told the story about xyz. It's not that we don't love our families - we just don't need to see them for all birthdays/all patriotic holidays/all religious holidays/all hallmark holidays (and yes this is a hallmark holiday in case you all didn't know). I love pizza and ice cream, but I'd be sick of them if I ate them too much. Believe me, I completely understand, I really really do. I have a very small family and no dysfunction, so may be it's easy for me to say - but it just makes me sad when people post about how they are "so tired that everyone wants them for the holiday" bc I think it's a good thing - being loved and wanted and I think family is important.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on May 13, 2017 16:01:26 GMT -5
I don't have time to get on my soap box bc I need to go and get my Mother's day cupcakes, so I'll just say this: I am so freaking tired of hearing how "you just have to set your boundaries" and "do what you want" "and your family or her/his family can just shove it" blah blah blah Yes, the greatest tragedy in the world - all the family members want to spend time with other family members on holidays. OMG, the horror! Well, it's no one's fault, it's the way of life now that people have to travel and yes, it's draining and not fun. But so freaking what If you hate it so much - lock the doors and don't see each other. But why the constant whining about how everyone wants to spend time with everyone This is not to anyone in particular, it's just it's the same crap from different posters on pretty much every holiday. "Poor us, we are so torn from all those people wanting to see our kids and spend time with us". whaaa whaaa whaaa Well there are all types of families and I don't have any sort of serious dysfunction coming from either direction, so of course always thankful for that. However, some family members can be draining due to the fact they are demanding, want to be catered to and want everything just so. Others are laid back and go with the flow. I get along much better with the 2nd type. The setting boundaries thing is sort of foreign to me as well but I certainly reserve the right to be annoyed at whoever I want! I invited my SIL and BIL for Memorial day weekend. She told me that they can't come, but asked if can I babysit their dog for 3 days. And asked if they can come the following weekend instead and bring their dog and a new puppy that they will be getting next week. I don't "do" demanding. That was the last invitation that she got from me.
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Post by MJ2.0 on May 13, 2017 16:56:01 GMT -5
X's family gets together quite often and they completely cater to his grandmother. In addition to being demanding, she is also super judgmental and passive aggressive as are other members of the family. Not having to deal with them anymore is a HUGE plus in my book.
My family is super laid back because everyone has their own shit going on. But they have made more of an effort to get together in recent years. I haven't seen them for Thanksgiving in a couple of years because we have split custody that day. My mom and aunt come to us and it's always a great time hosting them.
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Post by empress of self-improvement on May 13, 2017 17:27:48 GMT -5
We won't be going to see MIL tomorrow. 1) It takes 2-3 people to get DH into his brother's house. 2) She won't go upstairs anymore, dementia doing a number on her, and DH cannot go downstairs to her and 3) he lives in the bathroom so, while we are in the process of getting that looked into, he prefers not to go out. So home it will be. DH will call her and I'll probably drop her card off sometime in the next couple of weeks. We still have her Christmas card we forgot to give her. We're going to save it for next year since she doesn't remember that she didn't get one.
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Post by ZaireinHD on May 14, 2017 7:51:13 GMT -5
May I suggest another way? Both my daughters have birthdays this weekend. Mother's day will literally never be a relaxing day for me. I get that and it's fine. But it would mean A LOT to me if my husband were to say: I know you don't really get a mother's day because of the crazy. So let's celebrate mother's day next weekend, just us. Your parents and families care a lot about the actual date. Your wife probably less so. So pick another date to have your kids honor your wife. a different day together seems like a great idea.
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Post by raeoflyte on May 14, 2017 20:36:33 GMT -5
Well, I probably haven't read all the posts about this for years and years but it is just a fact of life that she has all of those people to juggle on all holidays, you included. I'm guessing your personalities clash, so what she thinks she is saying and how you interpret what she is saying are likely often two different things. I'm not saying you are right or wrong, you are entitled to your feelings but she may be overwhelmed with her responsibilities. Isn't this the person who is a pharmacist and has 4 or 5 kids? It is. And you are right about her working and having 5 kids. But we don't "clash" . . . at least personality wise. I'm looking forward to seeing her. I'm guessing that your daughter would love it if someone was putting her first, and instead she's making sure that everyone gets their moment--on every single holiday. You're still working, but I'm guessing that a lot of the other mom's on that list aren't. I don't know her dynamic, but I know in my own that with certain family we're supposed to have as much time available as the retired people (or at least make it look like we do), because if not we're being rude. I think she knows you feel slighted and was probably happy that she didn't have to spend the weekend being so divided. I get that delivery is really, really important and it would have come across better if she just said that they celebrated with dh's family early so that she'd have the day open to spend with you.
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Post by Deleted on May 14, 2017 20:57:49 GMT -5
It is. And you are right about her working and having 5 kids. But we don't "clash" . . . at least personality wise. I'm looking forward to seeing her. I'm guessing that your daughter would love it if someone was putting her first, and instead she's making sure that everyone gets their moment--on every single holiday. You're still working, but I'm guessing that a lot of the other mom's on that list aren't. I don't know her dynamic, but I know in my own that with certain family we're supposed to have as much time available as the retired people (or at least make it look like we do), because if not we're being rude. I think she knows you feel slighted and was probably happy that she didn't have to spend the weekend being so divided. I get that delivery is really, really important and it would have come across better if she just said that they celebrated with dh's family early so that she'd have the day open to spend with you. I am sorry that you are so stressed that you are projecting emotions on my daughter. You don't know her, and you don't know me. I shared what is typical of her sometimes clueless style. At age 18, she was driving her brother and me in the car when she suddenly announced, "I just figured out that when we have a red light, they have a green light." Her brother asked if he could get out of the car. In physics class, she commented, "You know, when you add two and two and get five . . .?" Her class said, "No, when we add two and two, we always get four." Please stop trying to psychoanalyze my relationship with my daughter. We had a very pleasant day today.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on May 14, 2017 22:10:02 GMT -5
I'm guessing that your daughter would love it if someone was putting her first, and instead she's making sure that everyone gets their moment--on every single holiday. You're still working, but I'm guessing that a lot of the other mom's on that list aren't. I don't know her dynamic, but I know in my own that with certain family we're supposed to have as much time available as the retired people (or at least make it look like we do), because if not we're being rude. I think she knows you feel slighted and was probably happy that she didn't have to spend the weekend being so divided. I get that delivery is really, really important and it would have come across better if she just said that they celebrated with dh's family early so that she'd have the day open to spend with you. I am sorry that you are so stressed that you are projecting emotions on my daughter. You don't know her, and you don't know me. I shared what is typical of her sometimes clueless style. At age 18, she was driving her brother and me in the car when she suddenly announced, "I just figured out that when we have a red light, they have a green light." Her brother asked if he could get out of the car. In physics class, she commented, " You know, when you add two and two and get five . . .?" Her class said, "No, when we add two and two, we always get four." Please stop trying to psychoanalyze my relationship with my daughter. We had a very pleasant day today.
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Post by MJ2.0 on May 15, 2017 8:25:24 GMT -5
I am sorry that you are so stressed that you are projecting emotions on my daughter. You don't know her, and you don't know me. I shared what is typical of her sometimes clueless style. At age 18, she was driving her brother and me in the car when she suddenly announced, "I just figured out that when we have a red light, they have a green light." Her brother asked if he could get out of the car. In physics class, she commented, " You know, when you add two and two and get five . . .?" Her class said, "No, when we add two and two, we always get four." Please stop trying to psychoanalyze my relationship with my daughter. We had a very pleasant day today. and this is the pharmacist/doctor?
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Post by Deleted on May 15, 2017 11:51:29 GMT -5
and this is the pharmacist/doctor? She's a pharmacist . . . top of her class. Pharmacy actually isn't arithmetic-driven. She was actually good at calculus, etc. She just trips on the little stuff, which makes most people laugh. Pills are counted by machines primarily. (She's a retail pharmacist.) I asked once. But stuff she says comes out wrong. They do for me as well. She's basically outgrown it . . . except for the occasional lapse like telling me how everyone else is busy. The stories are back from when she was a teen. She is forty now.
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Post by MJ2.0 on May 15, 2017 12:02:21 GMT -5
and this is the pharmacist/doctor? She's a pharmacist . . . top of her class. Pharmacy actually isn't arithmetic-driven. She was actually good at calculus, etc. She just trips on the little stuff, which makes most people laugh. Pills are counted by machines primarily. (She's a retail pharmacist.) I asked once. But stuff she says comes out wrong. They do for me as well. She's basically outgrown it . . . except for the occasional lapse like telling me how everyone else is busy. The stories are back from when she was a teen. She is forty now. I knew a girl in grade school who was like this. She would say the most ridiculous things and we'd all laugh. Graduated #1 in the class, has a Master's, and teaches high school Spanish.
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Post by kittensaver on May 15, 2017 12:55:52 GMT -5
I think people - especially people with spouses and/or kids - just get tired. Your M-F is booked with work and other responsibilities, a good chunk of weekend is dedicated to other chores/kid-related stuff, and you are just too dang drained to pretend to be interested in the 1000th time Uncle Frank told the story about xyz. It's not that we don't love our families - we just don't need to see them for all birthdays/all patriotic holidays/all religious holidays/all hallmark holidays (and yes this is a hallmark holiday in case you all didn't know). I love pizza and ice cream, but I'd be sick of them if I ate them too much. Soooooooooooooo much
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Post by thyme4change on May 15, 2017 13:16:27 GMT -5
I didn't know Mother's day was such a big deal. I sent a card and called - and this was a good year. We had dinner with friends and I did some chores. Driving around and seeing both sides of the family??? She's - we reserve that insanity for Christmas and Thanksgiving only. There are 52 Sundays in a year. I don't need Hallmark to make a few of them that stressful.
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Post by kittensaver on May 15, 2017 13:21:49 GMT -5
I didn't know Mother's day was such a big deal. I sent a card and called - and this was a good year. We had dinner with friends and I did some chores. Driving around and seeing both sides of the family She's - we reserve that insanity for Christmas and Thanksgiving only. There are 52 Sundays in a year. I don't need Hallmark to make a few of them that stressful. I agree - we don't need more Hallmark Holidays stressing our lives out. Went blueberry picking, took a quart to mom + a Henry Fonda [yellow] rosebush for her back patio, had lunch and went home. Insanity should definitely be reserved for Christmas and Thanksgiving only.
But of course as always: YMMV
Edited to add: so Ryan - how did the day go? Did your DW get the attention she deserved/wanted?
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Post by flamingo on May 15, 2017 14:11:56 GMT -5
I spent this weekend driving 3+ hours each way to see my family. My whole extended family congregated at my grandmother's place. I also spent the whole weekend being told I was celebrating wrong, b/c my DH didn't come with me (gasp - I "let" him stay home!), and I couldn't stay as long as my local cousins could stay on Sunday. Oh, and even though it was mother's day, I took my Dad for coffee Sunday morning, b/c he's had a rough few months dealing with some health issues, which grandma was mad about b/c it meant I spent 30 minutes of my weekend not with her and my mom. And when my mom and I were in the same room, Mom was latched on to me, venting about her job/my dad's health/etc. It was tiring. I'm glad I only had to drive to one place and I'm glad I went. But the amount of grandma guilt going on, b/c I didn't celebrate the way she wanted me to, was obnoxious. My grandparents are in their 90s so every chance I get to see them is precious and may be the last. So I do it. But I get why people might rather stay home and celebrate with their own immediate family. I don't have kids, which my grandma takes to mean I can spend all my holidays with my whole family whenever they want me there and I should just be happy about it. I love my family. I really do. But I love them in small doses
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Post by dee27 on May 15, 2017 15:09:04 GMT -5
DD and YDS called on Sunday, and ODS called on Saturday. YDS will be here in July, and ODS sometime this summer. I cooked dinner because DH was busy with a household project, but I don't mind cooking. The weather was gorgeous but very windy. After I watered the flower baskets, I was really wet!
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Post by techguy on May 16, 2017 12:27:46 GMT -5
I'm guessing that your daughter would love it if someone was putting her first, and instead she's making sure that everyone gets their moment--on every single holiday. You're still working, but I'm guessing that a lot of the other mom's on that list aren't. I don't know her dynamic, but I know in my own that with certain family we're supposed to have as much time available as the retired people (or at least make it look like we do), because if not we're being rude. I think she knows you feel slighted and was probably happy that she didn't have to spend the weekend being so divided. I get that delivery is really, really important and it would have come across better if she just said that they celebrated with dh's family early so that she'd have the day open to spend with you. I am sorry that you are so stressed that you are projecting emotions on my daughter. You don't know her, and you don't know me. I shared what is typical of her sometimes clueless style. At age 18, she was driving her brother and me in the car when she suddenly announced, "I just figured out that when we have a red light, they have a green light." Her brother asked if he could get out of the car. In physics class, she commented, "You know, when you add two and two and get five . . .?" Her class said, "No, when we add two and two, we always get four." Please stop trying to psychoanalyze my relationship with my daughter. We had a very pleasant day today. I don't have a dog in this fight, but when you publicly post things about your daughter and your relationship, people are going to have opinions that they want to express. Right or wrong, this is how a discussion board works.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on May 16, 2017 13:49:21 GMT -5
I think people - especially people with spouses and/or kids - just get tired. Your M-F is booked with work and other responsibilities, a good chunk of weekend is dedicated to other chores/kid-related stuff, and you are just too dang drained to pretend to be interested in the 1000th time Uncle Frank told the story about xyz. It's not that we don't love our families - we just don't need to see them for all birthdays/all patriotic holidays/all religious holidays/all hallmark holidays (and yes this is a hallmark holiday in case you all didn't know). I love pizza and ice cream, but I'd be sick of them if I ate them too much. Believe me, I completely understand, I really really do. I have a very small family and no dysfunction, so may be it's easy for me to say - but it just makes me sad when people post about how they are "so tired that everyone wants them for the holiday" bc I think it's a good thing - being loved and wanted and I think family is important. Yes, famy IS important and we should get together. My gripe is that my extended family only gets together for "Kodak moments" and major holidays. What about getting together at less frantic, more relaxed, times: Friday night pizza, a spontaneous cookout, family hike...etc. It's hard to maintain relationships and for younger family members to get to know others of their generation if we only see each other during whirlwind big moments, kwim?
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Post by Deleted on May 16, 2017 13:59:22 GMT -5
Believe me, I completely understand, I really really do. I have a very small family and no dysfunction, so may be it's easy for me to say - but it just makes me sad when people post about how they are "so tired that everyone wants them for the holiday" bc I think it's a good thing - being loved and wanted and I think family is important. Yes, famy IS important and we should get together. My gripe is that my extended family only gets together for "Kodak moments" and major holidays. What about getting together at less frantic, more relaxed, times: Friday night pizza, a spontaneous cookout, family hike...etc. It's hard to maintain relationships and for younger family members to get to know others of their generation if we only see each other during whirlwind big moments, kwim? YES! I love spending time with family (most of them), but I HATE holidays. I'm always exhausted after holiday weekends. Just this weekend for Mother's Day was a pain. I have my mom, my stepmom, aunts that I think of as Mom's and ex-MIL that is refusing to recognize the divorce, and everyone wants to hang out on Mother's Day. I ended up driving 500 miles this past weekend. I liked seeing them all, but I don't like the mass gatherings. Our Christmas and Thanksgiving is so many people and so draining.
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Post by zibazinski on May 16, 2017 14:19:46 GMT -5
Yes, famy IS important and we should get together. My gripe is that my extended family only gets together for "Kodak moments" and major holidays. What about getting together at less frantic, more relaxed, times: Friday night pizza, a spontaneous cookout, family hike...etc. It's hard to maintain relationships and for younger family members to get to know others of their generation if we only see each other during whirlwind big moments, kwim? YES! I love spending time with family (most of them), but I HATE holidays. I'm always exhausted after holiday weekends. Just this weekend for Mother's Day was a pain. I have my mom, my stepmom, aunts that I think of as Mom's and ex-MIL that is refusing to recognize the divorce, and everyone wants to hang out on Mother's Day. I ended up driving 500 miles this past weekend. I liked seeing them all, but I don't like the mass gatherings. Our Christmas and Thanksgiving is so many people and so draining. If your ex MIL is "Carrots" grandma, I totally understand her feelings.
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Post by Deleted on May 16, 2017 14:28:51 GMT -5
YES! I love spending time with family (most of them), but I HATE holidays. I'm always exhausted after holiday weekends. Just this weekend for Mother's Day was a pain. I have my mom, my stepmom, aunts that I think of as Mom's and ex-MIL that is refusing to recognize the divorce, and everyone wants to hang out on Mother's Day. I ended up driving 500 miles this past weekend. I liked seeing them all, but I don't like the mass gatherings. Our Christmas and Thanksgiving is so many people and so draining. If your ex MIL is "Carrots" grandma, I totally understand her feelings. Nope. Older son's Grandma. Even when I was still married to Carrot's dad, she would refer to herself as "Your favorite MIL" whenever she would call. She is actually, she's pretty cool. I spent most of Mother's Day afternoon with her. The other MIL is definitely not the type that would call me up and say, "YOU ARE MY DAUGHTER AND IT'S MOTHER"S DAY SO I FULLY EXPECT TO SEE YOU!"
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Post by zibazinski on May 16, 2017 16:04:28 GMT -5
Weird. Maybe she's not a fan of number two or how it went down.
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Post by gs11rmb on May 18, 2017 7:44:54 GMT -5
If your ex MIL is "Carrots" grandma, I totally understand her feelings. Nope. Older son's Grandma. Even when I was still married to Carrot's dad, she would refer to herself as "Your favorite MIL" whenever she would call. She is actually, she's pretty cool. I spent most of Mother's Day afternoon with her. The other MIL is definitely not the type that would call me up and say, "YOU ARE MY DAUGHTER AND IT'S MOTHER"S DAY SO I FULLY EXPECT TO SEE YOU!" I know it was a draining weekend for you but I think this story is quite lovely. There are so many instances of horrible MIL's that it is rather refreshing to hear of this level of affection even after you are no longer married to her son. You're both lucky to have one another.
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Post by Deleted on May 18, 2017 7:53:50 GMT -5
Nope. Older son's Grandma. Even when I was still married to Carrot's dad, she would refer to herself as "Your favorite MIL" whenever she would call. She is actually, she's pretty cool. I spent most of Mother's Day afternoon with her. The other MIL is definitely not the type that would call me up and say, "YOU ARE MY DAUGHTER AND IT'S MOTHER"S DAY SO I FULLY EXPECT TO SEE YOU!" I know it was a draining weekend for you but I think this story is quite lovely. There are so many instances of horrible MIL's that it is rather refreshing to hear of this level of affection even after you are no longer married to her son. You're both lucky to have one another. I'm also "required" to go to Thanksgiving dinner at her house every year (she doesn't care about the other holidays, but wants that one to be hers) and younger son's school pictures are proudly displayed with the other grandchildren's. He loves his "Granny Lorie".
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