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Post by NoNamePerson on Dec 6, 2016 13:58:42 GMT -5
How about the uncut version of Once Upon a Time in the West? But only the uncut version not the movie version. But I admit I too love the spaghetti westerns The Good The Bad and the Ugly?
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 6, 2016 14:15:00 GMT -5
I was looking forward to being close to my family again after being alone at thanksgiving. Now some strange guy none of us know is coming because he likes my daughter. So are the three of us supposed to open gifts while he just sits there? Awkward. Now I was just saying to myself how grateful I was to not have to buy for some "boyfriend wanna be" this year when she springs this on me. I'm not happy about it at all but have to pretend to be or have DD pissed off. So I'll suck it up as per usual.
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Post by mollyanna58 on Dec 6, 2016 14:37:00 GMT -5
I was looking forward to being close to my family again after being alone at thanksgiving. Now some strange guy none of us know is coming because he likes my daughter. So are the three of us supposed to open gifts while he just sits there? Awkward. Now I was just saying to myself how grateful I was to not have to buy for some "boyfriend wanna be" this year when she springs this on me. I'm not happy about it at all but have to pretend to be or have DD pissed off. So I'll suck it up as per usual. Get him a nice scarf so he has something to unwrap. Your daughter will appreciate your thoughtfulness.
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Post by engineerdoe on Dec 6, 2016 15:14:23 GMT -5
At least you weren't given the theme of "Deliverance." Camp stove still works but Banjo lessons would be the gift I picked. Or onsie pajamas that are a pig.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Dec 6, 2016 15:15:26 GMT -5
At least you weren't given the theme of "Deliverance." Well that's easy. A banjo and a fake pig nose.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Dec 6, 2016 15:52:11 GMT -5
why are those movies called "spaghetti westerns"?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2016 15:56:32 GMT -5
why are those movies called "spaghetti westerns"? Spaghetti Western, also known as Italian Western or Macaroni Western (primarily in Japan), is a broad subgenre of Western films that emerged in the mid-1960s in the wake of Sergio Leone's film-making style and international box-office success. The term was used by American critics and other countries because most of these Westerns were produced and directed by Italians. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spaghetti_Western
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Dec 6, 2016 16:01:37 GMT -5
I was looking forward to being close to my family again after being alone at thanksgiving. Now some strange guy none of us know is coming because he likes my daughter. So are the three of us supposed to open gifts while he just sits there? Awkward. Now I was just saying to myself how grateful I was to not have to buy for some "boyfriend wanna be" this year when she springs this on me. I'm not happy about it at all but have to pretend to be or have DD pissed off. So I'll suck it up as per usual. Your daughter invited him. I think you are upset at the wrong person. You don't want your DD mad at you, so he is a convenient scapegoat.
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Post by raeoflyte on Dec 6, 2016 16:19:02 GMT -5
I was looking forward to being close to my family again after being alone at thanksgiving. Now some strange guy none of us know is coming because he likes my daughter. So are the three of us supposed to open gifts while he just sits there? Awkward. Now I was just saying to myself how grateful I was to not have to buy for some "boyfriend wanna be" this year when she springs this on me. I'm not happy about it at all but have to pretend to be or have DD pissed off. So I'll suck it up as per usual. My in-laws always do a box of homemade goods for the extras. Sometimes a stocking. The extra guest is always happy to man the camera for pictures while opening, getting all the wrapping paper in trash bags, using knife/scissors to get into difficult packaging (admittedly this is for kids). Have a glass or 2 of wine before they show up, then keep on pouring. It could be fun, and even if it isn't its the reality of adult children. They may be your immediate family, but you are going to be relegated to extended family territory for them in the near future. Be the mom/MIL they want to hang with.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Dec 6, 2016 16:46:24 GMT -5
Well, not really - but my family sucks. We draw names from a hat for Christmas - which is cool, but instead of just drawing names from a hat, we have to have a theme, and we have to relate our gift to the theme, and our themes have gotten increasingly harder (weirder) because we (as a family) have to always achieve bigger and better things.
This year we were each given a classic movie. We are suppose to watch the movie, get a related gift and send that gift to our person. I have never heard of my movie, but my husband insists it is a classic. The movie is called The Outlaw Josey Whales. I'm pretty sure my nephew (who is the person I am buying for) won't watch it, and I'm not all that interested in watching it. There appears to be a western mountain on it (even though I think it is set in Texas) - maybe I will just cheese out and get a gift card to REI. He does hike and mountain bike, but is very tall and very thin, so I am afraid to buy him any clothes. I imagine he has a tough time finding anything that fits him. Can anyone think of anything that a hiker or mountain biker might want? Or some cooking related object (he cooks a lot) that would also relate to the movie The Outlaw Josey Whales. "Now remember, when things look bad and it looks like you're not gonna make it, then you gotta get mean. I mean plumb, mad-dog mean. 'Cause if you lose your head and you give up then you neither live nor win. That's just the way it is." I think your gift idea works under the circumstances. If he's adult age get him a bottle of whiskey or some pistols. If he's a kid get him water pistols. Or get him whiskey and the pistols even if he's still a kid to end this nonsense!
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 6, 2016 16:49:19 GMT -5
I was looking forward to being close to my family again after being alone at thanksgiving. Now some strange guy none of us know is coming because he likes my daughter. So are the three of us supposed to open gifts while he just sits there? Awkward. Now I was just saying to myself how grateful I was to not have to buy for some "boyfriend wanna be" this year when she springs this on me. I'm not happy about it at all but have to pretend to be or have DD pissed off. So I'll suck it up as per usual. Your daughter invited him. I think you are upset at the wrong person. You don't want your DD mad at you, so he is a convenient scapegoat. No, I'm upset with her. He probably doesn't want to butt in either but he's doing it for DD.
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Post by snapdragon on Dec 6, 2016 16:55:45 GMT -5
Sorry if I made you feel uncomfortable. My remark wasn't directed at anyone. The topic just reminded me of how grateful I am to have generous people in my life. It was just me expressing gratitude, not directed at anyone else.
Thanks, sorry that I took your comment out of context. I've been feeling a bit misunderstood and beat up in this thread (actually I've been feeling the same way about life the the last couple of weeks). Hopefully we all find a place in other's hearts for Christmas... Sroo - I get where you are coming from. It's part of being more of a introvert. I can deal with what I need to do for work and things but I NEED quiet/reflective/ personal time every. single. day. Having to deal with people that you just don't know well or are uncomfortable getting to know is really hard and painful some days. I have gotten better as I have gotten older but in my younger days? You would find me hiding somewhere trying not to have to talk to people.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Dec 6, 2016 16:56:07 GMT -5
At least you weren't given the theme of "Deliverance." Well that's easy. A banjo and a fake pig nose. And a tee shirt that says "Row Faster, I hear banjo music"
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2016 16:57:05 GMT -5
Your daughter invited him. I think you are upset at the wrong person. You don't want your DD mad at you, so he is a convenient scapegoat. No, I'm upset with her. He probably doesn't want to butt in either but he's doing it for DD. Maybe it will be your first Christmas with your future SIL.
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Post by thyme4change on Dec 6, 2016 16:58:51 GMT -5
The answer is gaslight to the extreme. Pick whatever you want and then gaslight the hell out of the family. How can you not get it? It references that great scene. Come on, you know the scene. Have you not watched the movie? The scene! I thought you guys watched the movie! Well I can't tell you about the scene, I don't want to spoil it so you need to go watch the movie. Only hiccup is if the host has the movie. In the case you either sneak out while they're watching or keep it up with the come on, it's so obvious how are you not getting it. We won't all be together. My nephew will be far, far away - along with my sister, BIL and one niece. So, there will be witnesses. The second problem is this guy is pretty difficult to buy for. I'm not sure I have a better idea that doesn't relate to the movie, so the movie isn't making it that much harder.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Dec 6, 2016 17:03:52 GMT -5
why are those movies called "spaghetti westerns"? Because they were directed and produced mostly by Italians and used a lot of Italian actors with main characters played by known American actors like Eastwood. Even the sound tracks were by Italians. Sort of an explanation.
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Dec 6, 2016 17:38:04 GMT -5
Your daughter invited him. I think you are upset at the wrong person. You don't want your DD mad at you, so he is a convenient scapegoat. No, I'm upset with her. He probably doesn't want to butt in either but he's doing it for DD. Be careful here, zib. This could end up being the father of your grandchildren....being a sour puss about your changing role in your children's lives could come with a huge price tag. Basically, you're saying that what you want for the holiday celebrations should supersede what your daughter wants.
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Post by MarleyKeezy78 on Dec 6, 2016 19:04:50 GMT -5
ooo ooo ooo! ::waving hand frantically in the air!:: I know why an unexpected guest at the holidays ruins it!!! It's because it messes with tradition!!! and if the holidays are 100% tied to traditions and kept to the same old same old it's just not the holidays.
I know this because a few years ago I didn't make a bowl of mashed rutabaga - which NO ONE EVER EATS or even touches. I 'ruined' Christmas... because suddenly everyone wanted to know where the bowl of rutabaga was. When I said I didn't make any, it got all really solemn and sad at the table. Everyone looked uncomfortable - there was NO mashed rutabaga. Christmas was a bust - for everyone. Dinner continued in silence. It wasn't until after dinner that there was some return of the Holiday cheer... it didn't last long. Everyone quickly left after opening presents - apparently unsatisfied because there was no mashed rutabaga.
The year after that, I made the mashed rutabaga - and instead of throwing the untouched mush away after dinner - I froze it. And pulled it out the next year and 're-served' it. No one noticed. No one ate it. It was there in all it's glory making Christmas Christmas. I did stick it back in the freezer after that dinner. I should check to see if it's still knocking around my freezer or if I'll have to make a new batch to serve again this year....
But, that is why any upset to Tradition RUINS Christmas. Some one no one knows is just going to make everyone uncomfortable. No one will know what to talk about. Someone will, of course, ask uncomfortable questions of the guest. The host/hostest will have to worry about the food, the table settings, the gifts, the decorations, where the extra person will sit, sleep (if they are a house guest)...etc...
You should absolutely keep re-serving the same mashed rutabaga. After 3-5 years I'd include that little tidbit in everyone's christmas card. My family makes this shit every Thanksgiving, blah!!! Except they actually eat it I threw a hissy the day before Thanksgiving while at my grandmas house cleaning because they started cooking it while I was there, I effing hate that stuff!!!!!
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 6, 2016 21:33:21 GMT -5
No, I'm upset with her. He probably doesn't want to butt in either but he's doing it for DD. Maybe it will be your first Christmas with your future SIL. If it happens, it happens. I wouldn't be a bit surprised, knowing her.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 7, 2016 5:36:57 GMT -5
So I went shopping with a friend and bought this unexpected guest some gifts. I'll go the the dollar store today and get him a stocking and some stuff for it. It's a small price to pay for peace. DD will have to bring a chair for him. I have four with my table.
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Post by 1Day@aTime on Dec 7, 2016 13:42:50 GMT -5
I can honestly say that I've never seen a John Wayne movie. True Grit was pretty good. I'm kind of torn between liking the original vs. the remake better. Me too.
I think Jeff Bridges was a good pick. He fascinates me.
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Post by swamp on Dec 7, 2016 14:41:56 GMT -5
So I went shopping with a friend and bought this unexpected guest some gifts. I'll go the the dollar store today and get him a stocking and some stuff for it. It's a small price to pay for peace. DD will have to bring a chair for him. I have four with my table. you. son daughter.
who is number 4?
And you don't have an office chair you can use?
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Post by imawino on Dec 7, 2016 14:47:18 GMT -5
I was looking forward to being close to my family again after being alone at thanksgiving. Now some strange guy none of us know is coming because he likes my daughter. So are the three of us supposed to open gifts while he just sits there? Awkward. Now I was just saying to myself how grateful I was to not have to buy for some "boyfriend wanna be" this year when she springs this on me. I'm not happy about it at all but have to pretend to be or have DD pissed off. So I'll suck it up as per usual. Your daughter knows him. And likes him well enough to invite him for Christmas dinner. Once you have adult kids, they tend to often have a companion for the holidays. I'm sorry it's not your ideal, but hope you didn't really mean that your daughter having someone she wants to spend a holiday with "ruins" it for you.
I have a question though - you said you have 4 chairs. You, son, daughter makes 3. Who was already taking the 4th one so the poor guy has to bring his own?
ETA: SWAMP! lol
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Post by wvugurl26 on Dec 7, 2016 14:48:47 GMT -5
I think the son has a girlfriend?
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Post by swamp on Dec 7, 2016 14:52:19 GMT -5
I think the son has a girlfriend? but that's not immediate family.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Dec 7, 2016 15:18:17 GMT -5
I was looking forward to being close to my family again after being alone at thanksgiving. Now some strange guy none of us know is coming because he likes my daughter. So are the three of us supposed to open gifts while he just sits there? Awkward. Now I was just saying to myself how grateful I was to not have to buy for some "boyfriend wanna be" this year when she springs this on me. I'm not happy about it at all but have to pretend to be or have DD pissed off. So I'll suck it up as per usual. Ouch.
I am glad that my boyfriend's mom was a bit more gracious towards me when she first met me. Our first meeting was when bf took the both of us and my children out for Mother's Day dinner. Instead of being resentful and hateful towards me, she told me how happy I make her son and she welcomed me with open arms.
If I were you I would be happy that your DD is choosing to spend the holiday with you.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Dec 7, 2016 15:19:25 GMT -5
So I went shopping with a friend and bought this unexpected guest some gifts. I'll go the the dollar store today and get him a stocking and some stuff for it. It's a small price to pay for peace. DD will have to bring a chair for him. I have four with my table. I hope you are nicer in person than you come across on -line.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Dec 7, 2016 15:47:52 GMT -5
So I went shopping with a friend and bought this unexpected guest some gifts. I'll go the the dollar store today and get him a stocking and some stuff for it. It's a small price to pay for peace. DD will have to bring a chair for him. I have four with my table. I hope he brings a beanbag chair! That would be epic!
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Post by Miss Tequila on Dec 7, 2016 15:53:39 GMT -5
So I went shopping with a friend and bought this unexpected guest some gifts. I'll go the the dollar store today and get him a stocking and some stuff for it. It's a small price to pay for peace. DD will have to bring a chair for him. I have four with my table. I hope he brings a beanbag chair! That would be epic! I think he should be a sex swing!
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Post by NastyWoman on Dec 7, 2016 15:55:52 GMT -5
Maybe it will be your first Christmas with your future SIL. If it happens, it happens. I wouldn't be a bit surprised, knowing her. I consider the "extras" that have appeared and disappeared over the years the price of having children. If it turns into a lasting relationship for them great, if not all I "lost" was some money while I "gained" my kids trusting that I would always be there for them. I have to admit though that they never brought over a horrible guest like a drunk or a druggie. That would not have been well received. But I met some really nice people this way that I otherwise never would have met...
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