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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Apr 5, 2016 16:22:19 GMT -5
giramomma: I promise I am not criticizing or suggesting that you haven't tried everything. I sincerely want to help, though, because a high-needs kid like your little one can suck the energy out of the day. Have you tried "Ferberizing" her? (It's a sleep technique developed by Dr. Ferber at Boston's Children's Hospital). Here's hoping it's a phase and she outgrows it very, very, very soon.
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Post by imawino on Apr 5, 2016 16:22:24 GMT -5
I also think there are people who feel criticized by society if they are not constantly busy. I work with some who fit that category. It's like they don't want to admit they take time out to read, relax, or watch TV. Not me...I like having time to unwind and I have no problem admitting it. Yes. if you're always busy, then it means you're not lazy, and who wants to be perceived as lazy? Busy works as both a status symbol (you must be popular), a sign of responsibility AND an excuse. "Busy" is a multi-purpose tool!
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Post by jeep108 on Apr 5, 2016 16:30:25 GMT -5
Since I'm coming out of the other side of the parenting years, my advice for you deep in the middle of it all, is to 1) pace yourselves -- every age has its "busy" demands, and 2) try and hold onto something that doesn't involve your kids so that you have something to do once they leave (for college, for life, whatever). I know -- easier said than done and when you're in the thick of parenting, it's hard to see tomorrow never mind a few years away -- but now that I have the time and energy to pick my head up, I'm trying to figure out what's next. I wish I had started thinking about that a lot sooner. I totally agree with this. I work 40 hour weeks, but when my best friend moved out of state and my husband changed jobs that he was having to spend time out of state a week at a time and my daughter started college. I felt a little lost at first. Now, I volunteer at the hospital on Saturdays, I started a bunco group once a month and I make sure to keep in touch with more friends than just my best friend. But boy was that first month was hard for me. Talk about living in a bubble.
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Post by nuttytwo on Apr 5, 2016 16:43:13 GMT -5
I think it can go in spurts. I don't work and sometimes I am pretty busy for not working, which cracks me up. Then frequently I will have a few social occasions occurring at the same time. I will never complain about my life.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Apr 5, 2016 16:50:21 GMT -5
I also think there are people who feel criticized by society if they are not constantly busy. I work with some who fit that category. It's like they don't want to admit they take time out to read, relax, or watch TV. Not me...I like having time to unwind and I have no problem admitting it. Yes. if you're always busy, then it means you're not lazy, and who wants to be perceived as lazy? Busy works as both a status symbol (you must be popular), a sign of responsibility AND an excuse. "Busy" is a multi-purpose tool! I am currently busy laying on my couch, watching the news, and playing on my phone. Multitasking!
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Post by imawino on Apr 5, 2016 17:09:21 GMT -5
Yes. if you're always busy, then it means you're not lazy, and who wants to be perceived as lazy? Busy works as both a status symbol (you must be popular), a sign of responsibility AND an excuse. "Busy" is a multi-purpose tool! I am currently busy laying on my couch, watching the news, and playing on my phone. Multitasking! You are winning at busy!
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Post by Miss Tequila on Apr 5, 2016 17:16:30 GMT -5
Shoot, I can't even go to my stitching club anymore. Once a month, for an hour and a half. Why? Work. We ARE busy now. Season of life and all that. Choosing to have alternative priorities does not jive with our parenting philosophy. I really only have time to nurture one relationship besides my relationship with my kids. I'd like it to be my marriage. I, personally don't like "girls night" and "girl talk." I missed that gene. I've tried girl talk, and I don't like it. I'm also a firm believer that there are things others won't ever really understand until they actually go through it. One of my friends has dropped me within the past year. She gave birth at 22 weeks and now has a child with significant health issues. Rather than be upset that I lost a friend, I remember how grateful I am that my kids are healthy. When people ask about the kids, I do talk to them about what is going on. The usual response is "My you are busy!" And I usually say "Yes. It's a good busy. You remember those days." I try to not complain too much about not having enough hours in the day. I don't think she dropped you just to drop you. As a special needs mom who didn't deal with anything as severe as ykur friend, I can tell you the first several years are just all-consuming. I drifted from a lot of friends because I just didn't have time and quite frankly, they didn't understand what I was going through so we had a hard time relating. But as my child grew and I came to acceptance, inhad more time for my friends. I do think have girlfriends is important. One or two true friends is worth a lot. I admit t is harder than it sounds once you are an adult, though. I've encountered my fair share of crazy, drama filled or just bitchy women. Or those annoying women who really have nothing to talk about. But there are also good women so I wouldn't rule them all out. Girls night out can mean anything you want it to be!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 5, 2016 17:20:01 GMT -5
I get grief from friends when I say I am too busy to do a particular activity they think has a higher value than I do. For instance, someone emails/texts/whatever and says "let's meet up for drinks and catch the new show". I say "thanks but I have a meeting that night, sorry" and they reply "oh, pooh, just ditch that silly old meeting-it's no big deal". Hey, for me it is a big deal b/c it's an important meeting of an organization I choose to donate my time to.
I also decline some invites that preclude me having dinner with DH because cooking is something I enjoy as a form of creativity and self-expression. Then I hear, "Oh, just send him up to McDonald's!" No, you don't get it. My priority is indulging in preparation of a new and complex recipe that we can share. That's a little higher up the ladder for me than happy hour booze and listening to more pissing and moaning about the lives they seemingly hate but never change.
And sometimes, yes indeed, I would rather work in my yard than hang out with folks.
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Post by tloonya on Apr 5, 2016 17:23:29 GMT -5
I vividly remember not ever wanting to have a free time from her. You know my Mom is always lived with us and we could vacation with child being under loving care. Not once it is had happened (oops, once we didn't take her to LV)... We had been taking her to every party, BDays, clubs...I had never felt a need to be without.
Well, make sure and eat yourself a cookie later. Sweets are something I can do without.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 5, 2016 17:24:40 GMT -5
I get grief from friends when I say I am too busy to do a particular activity they think has a higher value than I do. For instance, someone emails/texts/whatever and says "let's meet up for drinks and catch the new show". I say "thanks but I have a meeting that night, sorry" and they reply "oh, pooh, just ditch that silly old meeting-it's no big deal". Hey, for me it is a big deal b/c it's an important meeting of an organization I choose to donate my time to. I also decline some invites that preclude me having dinner with DH because cooking is something I enjoy as a form of creativity and self-expression. Then I hear, "Oh, just send him up to McDonald's!" No, you don't get it. My priority is indulging in preparation of a new and complex recipe that we can share. That's a little higher up the ladder for me than happy hour booze and listening to more pissing and moaning about the lives they seemingly hate but never change. And sometimes, yes indeed, I would rather work in my yard than hang out with folks. At least you don't tell friends you will be there and not show up. Like their time is not important.
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Post by giramomma on Apr 5, 2016 17:27:25 GMT -5
giramomma : I promise I am not criticizing or suggesting that you haven't tried everything. I sincerely want to help, though, because a high-needs kid like your little one can suck the energy out of the day. Have you tried "Ferberizing" her? (It's a sleep technique developed by Dr. Ferber at Boston's Children's Hospital). Here's hoping it's a phase and she outgrows it very, very, very soon. We tried sleep training..It really didn't work all that well. She's just a crap sleeper. When we moved her into the room with her sister, she did great. Until we put her in a bunk bed. Seriously, the transition from crib to a toddler bed was flawless. She stayed put the whole night. So, we figure she's always waking up every 2-3 hours, but we just never knew it, since she was in with her sister and we close our bedroom door at night. She's in the bottom bunk of the bunk bed and can no longer see her sister. Hence, the problem. We think when she would wake up, she'd see her sister, be comforted, and go back to sleep. She can't do that anymore. When she was 3 or 4 months old, she started keeping herself awake at night until I got home, so I could put her down for the night. I thought DH was joking when she first started doing it. She's got some weird connection to me. DH will get out of bed and get ready for work and she'll sleep right through. Me, I move a millimeter and she's all like "Are you up? Where are you going? Can I keep you company in the shower? Can I watch the iPad? Is it a mommy day? Do you have to work?" She'll grow out of it, eventually, as she does everything else. Car seats were an epic battle with her. That behavior stopped last summer. We've had a nice stretch where she's behaved really well for us lately. Then the sleep thing isn't so bad. She's so amazing. We just haven't figured out a good way to help her regulate her emotions. We've been working super hard at that. My oldest has always been an old soul. I think she's going to be the same way. But, she doesn't have the words right now to put it all together. My oldest did.
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Post by tloonya on Apr 5, 2016 17:31:09 GMT -5
I get grief from friends when I say I am too busy to do a particular activity they think has a higher value than I do. For instance, someone emails/texts/whatever and says "let's meet up for drinks and catch the new show". I say "thanks but I have a meeting that night, sorry" and they reply "oh, pooh, just ditch that silly old meeting-it's no big deal". Hey, for me it is a big deal b/c it's an important meeting of an organization I choose to donate my time to. I also decline some invites that preclude me having dinner with DH because cooking is something I enjoy as a form of creativity and self-expression. Then I hear, "Oh, just send him up to McDonald's!" No, you don't get it. My priority is indulging in preparation of a new and complex recipe that we can share. That's a little higher up the ladder for me than happy hour booze and listening to more pissing and moaning about the lives they seemingly hate but never change. And sometimes, yes indeed, I would rather work in my yard than hang out with folks. At least you don't tell friends you will be there and not show up. Like their time is not important.
Have you ever talked as a group about how and why these no-shows are happening? Maybe this whole thing needs to be changed?
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Post by debthaven on Apr 5, 2016 17:49:26 GMT -5
The first Wednesday of the month at the same place.
Wow! I wish my book club would do this! I'd MUCH prefer to have something "set in stone". You can make it, you make it. You can't, you don't, hopefully we'll see you next month. My book club (which I have come to hate) tries to make everybody happy, and constantly changes dates. Which makes me hate it even more. We're a bunch of women with families, it's always somebody's birthday. SO STOP TRYING TO GET US ALL THERE!!!
I am MUCH MUCH MUCH too busy for my liking these days, and I don't do well with that. I am in a theatre troupe (DH is too) so outside of family, that has to take priority, because we are committed to that, we have a show to put on, and we both have leads this year.
The book club? Not so much.
Add to that the obligations for DS3 who is in HS and in 2 theatre troupes, plus my other kids (yes they are adults but they are our kids, we love them, and they take priority in our lives.)
I NEVER put pressure on people, and I HATE HATE HATE people putting pressure on me. Obviously work is pressure, but that's why we get paid for it.
There are periods where I am less busy, and periods where I am more busy. Right now I'm insanely busy (2 months of painting, DH's 60th BD party with 85 people and his UK family staying here, taking care of my best friend whose husband committed suicide in Dec, work, home, etc). I'm barely coping these days.
So if I say sorry I can't make it to book club, just accept that! Don't pressure me, don't try to change the date to suit me (or anybody else), just leave me (us) the f.uck alone!!!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 5, 2016 18:01:05 GMT -5
The first Wednesday of the month at the same place.
Wow! I wish my book club would do this! I'd MUCH prefer to have something "set in stone". You can make it, you make it. You can't, you don't, hopefully we'll see you next month. My book club (which I have come to hate) tries to make everybody happy, and constantly changes dates. Which makes me hate it even more. We're a bunch of women with families, it's always somebody's birthday. SO STOP TRYING TO GET US ALL THERE!!! I am MUCH MUCH MUCH too busy for my liking these days, and I don't do well with that. I am in a theatre troupe (DH is too) so outside of family, that has to take priority, because we are committed to that, we have a show to put on, and we both have leads this year. The book club? Not so much. Add to that the obligations for DS3 who is in HS and in 2 theatre troupes, plus my other kids (yes they are adults but they are our kids, we love them, and they take priority in our lives.) I NEVER put pressure on people, and I HATE HATE HATE people putting pressure on me. Obviously work is pressure, but that's why we get paid for it. There are periods where I am less busy, and periods where I am more busy. Right now I'm insanely busy (2 months of painting, DH's 60th BD party with 85 people and his UK family staying here, taking care of my best friend whose husband committed suicide in Dec, work, home, etc). I'm barely coping these days. So if I say sorry I can't make it to book club, just accept that! Don't pressure me, don't offer to change the date to suit me, just leave me the f.uck alone!!! There are only like six regulars that do this. We still hear "really? no one told me it was this Wednesday" from one of them. Really? It has been the same time, same place for a couple of years now. I don't know if she is serious or using that as an excuse. If she's not there, she's not there. It is no one's job to remind anyone.
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Post by debthaven on Apr 5, 2016 18:05:50 GMT -5
I'm sorry I didn't answer the question.
I think people's lives generally go in phases, and good friends accept those phases.
But if someone is ALWAYS too busy, they should bow out. Like I've been trying to do with book club for 3 years since DH and I started doing theater. But, they won't let me quit.
Now that our friend's husband committed suicide, I'm not trying to quit anymore, because it's a good time for her closest friends to talk about how things are with her and what we can do for her. And, there is always the hope that she comes back.
But, FFS, stop pressuring the others!!!
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Post by debthaven on Apr 5, 2016 18:07:15 GMT -5
There are only like six regulars that do this. We still hear "really? no one told me it was this Wednesday" from one of them. Really? It has been the same time, same place for a couple of years now. I don't know if she is serious or using that as an excuse. If she's not there, she's not there. It is no one's job to remind anyone.
Bluester I always wonder, do they need reminding about work obligations too?!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 5, 2016 21:42:54 GMT -5
There are only like six regulars that do this. We still hear "really? no one told me it was this Wednesday" from one of them. Really? It has been the same time, same place for a couple of years now. I don't know if she is serious or using that as an excuse. If she's not there, she's not there. It is no one's job to remind anyone.
Bluester I always wonder, do they need reminding about work obligations too?! We went through something like this several years ago in my investment club. This club has existed since the 80's and always meets on a particular day of the month unless we vote the previous month to change because of a national holiday. But for a time some folks didn't show up and whined that no one had reminded them about the meeting. I really need that foot-tapping emoticon right now. And then we had the folks that couldn't comprehend that 4th Monday and last Monday of the month aren't always the same thing. Seems like you just can't help stupid sometimes.
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Post by jelloshots4all on Apr 5, 2016 22:14:17 GMT -5
I am a single mom with no support system within 100 miles ever. I have 2 busy/active kids in a ton of stuff and I have a very demanding job. For the last 7 years I have played sand volleyball once a week. That is me time, and when the kids were younger they came with and sometimes still do.
I learned a couple years post divorce that I needed to carve out "me" time and it's easier if its planned.
Now that my kids are old enough, I carve out a little more me time. I would never schedule something that I was always cancelling on. Not respectful to others and their time!
Just my 2 cents
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Apr 5, 2016 23:16:04 GMT -5
I also think there are people who feel criticized by society if they are not constantly busy. I work with some who fit that category. It's like they don't want to admit they take time out to read, relax, or watch TV. Not me...I like having time to unwind and I have no problem admitting it. Yes. if you're always busy, then it means you're not lazy, and who wants to be perceived as lazy? Busy works as both a status symbol (you must be popular), a sign of responsibility AND an excuse. "Busy" is a multi-purpose tool! This, for me, isn't quite the same as bluester's actual question, but it's what I want to talk about first. DH is of the philosophy that the day must be used to it's fullest capacity. Every.single.day. I believe in quiet time. I believe in reading a book. I believe that it's okay to sleep eight hours per night (not that my children always granted me that). I believe that going to my paying/employed job doesn't have to happen every day--I can take a day off.
DH and I are a phenomanel match as a couple. This is the main conflict we have. (Financial philsophy is the other.) He wants to be busy all the time because other wise he is not honoring the gift of the day.
I however was taught that if I am sitting, I am lazy. (Even though my mother never worked more than part time and never cleaned the house.)My father, in my young adult years, called me a couch potato because I never worked full time and went to school full time at the same time. Even worse, I was only going to school part time and working part time the term after I gave birth. I gave birth on a Saturday, the college term started that next Monday, and I was in class on Wednesday. I only took six credits that term, and I didn't work.
DH has given in a bit on the "must be busy every moment to honor the gift of the day". He will take naps; sometimes, he will watch sports without doing chores at the same time.
The problem I have, I feel incredibly lazy compared to him because I will take a moment (like being on here) and then I'm not using my time wisely.
Regarding scheduling; Because I have (only) two kids at home, their needs come first. I won't sacrifice their stuff for virtually anything else that doesn't benefit them. (So, if I have to work that's fine because I really only work so I can feed and house them.)
I had a colleague get ticked at me once because I had to have the girls to their dad's house at a certain time and I couldn't attend a union meeting. Now, I didn't want to attend the union meeting any way, but it was supposed to a "mandatory" meeting. I was trying to explain to her that it can't be mandatory outside of working hours. I was legally obligated to bring my children to "this place" at "this time". She accused me of just pretending to be busy and was mad that I didn't love the union the way she did.
Heck, I'm just rambling now. What were we talking about?
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Post by Phoenix84 on Apr 6, 2016 0:54:46 GMT -5
I feel like I'm busy a lot, but I don't talk about it much.
On a work day, I'm gone 10.5 hours between work and commute. When you throw in sleep and dinner, I might have 5 hours a day not scheduled. Plus lately I'm studying for a professional exam, so that's usually an hour in the evenings. So I'm pretty conscious of how I spend my free time, and only do stuff I really want to do.
I feel for people with kids. Sometimes I don't know they do it. I'm tired enough after working 9.5+ hour day. Can't imagine having to cook for and bathe a brood of children at the end of it.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Apr 6, 2016 7:50:24 GMT -5
It always seems that everyone around me is much busier than I am.
When I worked that was the only "have to do daily" thing, everything else could be moved around it. Now that I don't work, feeding and schooling the kids is the only "have to" daily thing. Everything else can be moved around it.
If I was more disciplined and more organized and had higher energy I could probably fit 100 more things in my day. Bc I think I have plenty of time for that
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Apr 6, 2016 8:11:42 GMT -5
There is one guy I know. I honestly don't know how he does as much as he does and where he gets the time.
He is a 5th grade teacher in town (won teacher of the year a few years ago) He has a wife and two kids. He DJs weddings on the side. He is a published author with 4 or 5 published novels and he is working on others He hosts and produces a weekly podcast He writes a daily blog. He competes in a story slam at least once a month usually in Boston or NYC. He hosts a local monthly story telling show. He has season tickets to the NE Patriots and goes to every home game. He golfs at least a few times a month during golf season. And in his spare time he co-writes musical theater shows.
I am sure I am missing some of the things he does. I know he doesn't sleep much, but still.... sheesh puts me to shame.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2016 8:24:53 GMT -5
There is one guy I know. I honestly don't know how he does as much as he does and where he gets the time. He is a 5th grade teacher in town (won teacher of the year a few years ago) He has a wife and two kids. He DJs weddings on the side. He is a published author with 4 or 5 published novels and he is working on others He hosts and produces a weekly podcast He writes a daily blog. He competes in a story slam at least once a month usually in Boston or NYC. He hosts a local monthly story telling show. He has season tickets to the NE Patriots and goes to every home game. He golfs at least a few times a month during golf season. And in his spare time he co-writes musical theater shows. I am sure I am missing some of the things he does. I know he doesn't sleep much, but still.... sheesh puts me to shame. I work with a guy that is like this and raising 5 kids to be the same way. His kids are in EVERYTHING. Seriously, like 4 or 5 extracurriculars each at school, involved with the church, community service, traveling teams, Boy Scouts...and they excel at ALL of it. His kids are in the paper all the time for this award or that. I can't even imagine getting 5 kids to all this stuff as him and his wife both work full time at demanding careers.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Apr 6, 2016 8:29:15 GMT -5
There is one guy I know. I honestly don't know how he does as much as he does and where he gets the time. He is a 5th grade teacher in town (won teacher of the year a few years ago) He has a wife and two kids. He DJs weddings on the side. He is a published author with 4 or 5 published novels and he is working on others He hosts and produces a weekly podcast He writes a daily blog. He competes in a story slam at least once a month usually in Boston or NYC. He hosts a local monthly story telling show. He has season tickets to the NE Patriots and goes to every home game. He golfs at least a few times a month during golf season. And in his spare time he co-writes musical theater shows. I am sure I am missing some of the things he does. I know he doesn't sleep much, but still.... sheesh puts me to shame. There I've said it
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Post by Miss Tequila on Apr 6, 2016 8:30:38 GMT -5
There is one guy I know. I honestly don't know how he does as much as he does and where he gets the time. He is a 5th grade teacher in town (won teacher of the year a few years ago) He has a wife and two kids. He DJs weddings on the side. He is a published author with 4 or 5 published novels and he is working on others He hosts and produces a weekly podcast He writes a daily blog. He competes in a story slam at least once a month usually in Boston or NYC. He hosts a local monthly story telling show. He has season tickets to the NE Patriots and goes to every home game. He golfs at least a few times a month during golf season. And in his spare time he co-writes musical theater shows. I am sure I am missing some of the things he does. I know he doesn't sleep much, but still.... sheesh puts me to shame. There are only so many hours in the day so my guess is that where he falls is in being part of a family/father. I would prefer a father like you (I thought it was sweet when you said "that wouldn't be fair to my wife") than someone that accomplished a lot but was never around.
That said, based on teachers I personally know, they are home by 3-3:30 each day so he does have a few hours more in each day (possibly?) to accomplish things than you do.
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Apr 6, 2016 10:49:16 GMT -5
My mother constantly complains how busy she is. She is retired, and lives alone in a townhouse. She waxes on and on about how long her laundry takes her and how long to clean the kitchen. WHATEVER! I usually put the phone down and unload the dishwasher or something when she starts up. I'm 'too busy': - 2 full time career jobs in my household - One little kid who never sleeps - One parent training for a ridiculous triathlon so spending 10+ hours a week exercising (yay, that's me) - One parent cannot multitask (lol) - Cook all our meals at home For the most part, it is a bed of my own making. I was up at 4:40 AM to get to the pool by 5:00 AM. Swam for an hour. Went home, changed, bike commuted. Work, will bike commute home. Make dinner. Put kid to bed. Crash on couch. Probably asleep by 9:30. This weekend I have a 3 hour bike ride, a 1.5 hour run, plus my kid is going to ice hockey.... I thrive on the exercise though. I hate being bored. I don't like much TV, so it works for me. But I rarely see friends or do 'fun' stuff since I'm so busy training. It'll be over in June!!
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Post by Cookies Galore on Apr 6, 2016 14:16:44 GMT -5
Quick aside, how is tri training, HoneyBBQ?
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HoneyBBQ
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Apr 6, 2016 14:21:35 GMT -5
Quick aside, how is tri training, HoneyBBQ ? Thanks for asking! I should post over on the other thread, I guess! TIRING. I'm 10 weeks out now. Training around 10/hrs a week. Hungry like a horse. It's fun though. I'm scared but feel like I'm slowly making progress. My schedule goes something like this right now: M - rest T - 1 hr run W - Master's swim, plus 1 hr bike Th - 1 hr run Fr - 1 hr bike + 15 min brick Sat - Master's swim, 1.5 hr run Sun - 3 hr bike I'm down to around 2:00/100 yards or 2:05/100 yards which I'm pleased with. I don't flip turn so I know I'm losing time there. Hopefully will be faster with a wet suit in open water. Bike - I still suck. I dunno. Trying to build up my hill muscles and get my cadence up and get my endurance up. Yeah, that's pretty much everything lol. Run - Always got it in the bag. I ran a sub 2 hr half marathon last month so I'm happy with my stand alone speeds. We'll see how it works after a 56 mile bike ride.... Mostly just tired and achy. Theoretically this is worth it......
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Cookies Galore
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Post by Cookies Galore on Apr 6, 2016 14:58:58 GMT -5
Nice! Good luck! Hubs is still in spring running season. Ran a marathon a few weeks ago into the wind the whole time. Eep! He has a half marathon this weekend, and the Broad Streer Run (10 miles) in early May. Open water swim season will start in May as well. His tri half isn't until September.
Okay... back to the busy discussion!
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Apr 6, 2016 16:38:56 GMT -5
I work as hard at doing nothing as I do when I'm doing something important. As was mentioned on page 1 I know some people who just create tons of busy stuff that really serves no purpose. I wonder if it's because they feel guilty not working so it makes them feel important/needed? I have a neighbor who's canned answer is always Busy, Busy, Busy when people ask her how she's doing. Her DH said to me once "Yeah. Busy playing Texas Hold'em on the computer every day". She'd kill him if she knew he told me that but she did tell me when he wrote "Dust Me" on her table it pissed her off. I love her DH. He's so honest and real even if it pisses people off and I can relate to that.
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