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Post by zibazinski on Mar 9, 2016 22:14:52 GMT -5
I just dealt with this. Comcast had to come out 4 times to get our internet right. And they send contractors so not people who show up with a comcast vehicle or shirt. The first guy showed up about an hour before he was supposed to, and he was at the house for what felt like a really long time and didn't seem to be doing work the whole time. He went into all the rooms that had cable cords trying to figure something out and I thought maybe he was casing the place. The next morning I went into the basement and saw that the door to the crawl space was left unlocked. The windows on the other side of the house aren't that big, but a thin person could squeeze in or a teen and I felt pretty sure the guy could tell we don't actually have ADT we just left the signs up. So imagine how scared I was two days later on Saturday when I drive up to the house and there is a man getting into his truck. I get out to talk to him, and he said "oh, did comcast not tell you we were coming today?" and I said they hadn't, and told him to give me a second to put the dogs up. I called DH who said he hadn't been told they were coming, but he was on his way home and to let them in because he wanted the internet fixed. Since my brother in law and sister were a few minutes behind me I did. He immediately asked to use the bathroom which I found odd. I went up before him just to make sure it was picked up and saw my engagement ring on the sink which I picked up. That guy was at the house about 3 hours and didn't accomplish anything. I started to get really worried about whether he even worked for comcast or if he'd been sent to take stuff from the house. At that point I wasn't scared for my safety, but my belongings. He asked to go to the bathroom a second time and I was in the kitchen when my nephew happened to let the dogs in. I put them up and went back to the stairs to see what was going on because it was taking so long and caught the guy was peeping into the hallway. He said he heard the dogs and didn't know if it was safe to come out. But again, that just felt odd to me. Why didn't he call out to see if I was there? Was he trying to slip into the bedrooms? Did he put some kind of camera in the bathroom? Was he going to come back to rape me? I mean I got pretty vivid with all the what ifs. I was so stupid not to demand some kind of ID, but on a saturday I don't know that we could have verified anything with comcast anyway. The next person they sent out gave a 12 hour window- yes 12 hours 8am to 8pm. He showed up at 7:30 while I was making dinner. Luckily DH was home. The fourth set didn't have to come in the house. After the third guy showed up I felt al little better about the first two not being able to fix the issue. But I still don't like that people were in the house, and so many odd things that happened. We've complained to comcast about someone coming unannounced on a saturday and haven't heard squat. Now we don't have anything actually in the house yet so there really isn't anything to steal, and all tkhree of the people that came in the house seemed scared of our dog. But you can shoot a dog and it is no longer a problem. I have been thinking of getting the ADT service started back up. If those guys were up to no good they could come back at any time. When the doorbell rang yesterday I made DH answer it. Logically I know a rapist or thief isn't going to ring the bell, but I don't want strangers thinking I am a woman living alone. Turned out to be a neighbor leaving mispitched mail. [ That is extremely creepy and I don't blame you for being freaked out. I would activate the alarm and I'd not let Comcast sweep this under the rug. Time for a letter to a head person.
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 9, 2016 22:16:50 GMT -5
I find I have weird thoughts about having accidents or choking while living alone. I used to enjoy living alone but I got used to DH and now I hate living alone.
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Post by gregintenn on Mar 10, 2016 20:36:53 GMT -5
I find I have weird thoughts about having accidents or choking while living alone. I used to enjoy living alone but I got used to DH and now I hate living alone. Not being much of a people person, living alone sounds peaceful to me. I'll bet I'd probably get lonely, however, because most people I know who live alone seem lonely. I do enjoy the odd weekend when everyone is gone.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Mar 10, 2016 20:46:43 GMT -5
I find I have weird thoughts about having accidents or choking while living alone. I used to enjoy living alone but I got used to DH and now I hate living alone. Get a life alert necklace. No shame in that. Crap happens.
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Post by gregintenn on Mar 10, 2016 21:15:37 GMT -5
I find I have weird thoughts about having accidents or choking while living alone. I used to enjoy living alone but I got used to DH and now I hate living alone. Get a life alert necklace. No shame in that. Crap happens. Oh chit! She's not an old lady.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Mar 10, 2016 21:18:48 GMT -5
Get a life alert necklace. No shame in that. Crap happens. Oh chit! She's not an old lady. Not suggesting or saying that she is. I don't think there's an age minimum. But, she IS living alone and feeling a lot of anxiety about her future right now. Why not eliminate some of that anxiety until she gets through this tough stretch?
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 10, 2016 21:52:52 GMT -5
I thought about it. Weird thoughts like slipping in the shower. It could be days before I'm found and I'd be naked and maybe the cats would eat me. Yuck
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 10, 2016 21:53:52 GMT -5
Get a life alert necklace. No shame in that. Crap happens. Oh chit! She's not an old lady. Thank you for that. You're forgiven!!! .
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Mar 10, 2016 22:02:23 GMT -5
We used to live in a townhouse development. Two units shared a front staircase and walkway to the road. We didn't know our next door neighbors well -- they didn't have kids and both worked long hours. We also knew that the husband travelled regularly. One day, we noticed that our neighbors' front door had not been closed since the day before (the heavy wooden door, not the glass storm door). We also noticed that evening that no lights were on and the husband's car was gone.
We called the police. We're not worriers by nature, but in those circumstances, we worried that maybe the wife was inside sick or injured and unable to get help.
Fortunately, they were both away and had simply forgotten to close the door on their way out.
I decided then that if I was ever living alone, I wouldn't hesitate to get a life alert. Neighbors are often busy and distracted by their own lives. Why not take advantage of simple safety measures?
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Post by gregintenn on Mar 10, 2016 22:04:37 GMT -5
We used to live in a townhouse development. Two units shared a front staircase and walkway to the road. We didn't know our next door neighbors well -- they didn't have kids and both worked long hours. We also knew that the husband travelled regularly. One day, we noticed that our neighbors' front door had not been closed since the day before (the heavy wooden door, not the glass storm door). We also noticed that evening that no lights were on and the husband's car was gone. We called the police. We're not worriers by nature, but in those circumstances, we worried that maybe the wife was inside sick or injured and unable to get help. Fortunately, they were both away and had simply forgotten to close the door on their way out. I decided then that if I was ever living alone, I wouldn't hesitate to get a life alert. Neighbors are often busy and distracted by their own lives. Why not take advantage of simple safety measures? Makes me glad to have good neighbors.
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 10, 2016 22:14:24 GMT -5
I hope I do in my new place. I did in Michigan. It's because of their help I was able to care for DH at home as much as I could.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Mar 10, 2016 22:49:27 GMT -5
I thought about it. Weird thoughts like slipping in the shower. It could be days before I'm found and I'd be naked and maybe the cats would eat me. Yuck When my husband was working out of state, I was home by myself with 3 little kids. Every time I went down to the basement to grab something, I kept thinking that if I fall and not able to get up - it would be a disaster. 1 kid wasn't walking yet. 1 was barely walking. None of them knew how to dial a phone and none of them ever answered a phone. Yeah, I had all kinds of crazy scenarios running through my head
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Mar 11, 2016 13:31:39 GMT -5
I thought about it. Weird thoughts like slipping in the shower. It could be days before I'm found and I'd be naked and maybe the cats would eat me. Yuck I did laugh at this post, though not at you. That's very typical "cat lady" of you. And I agree...no shame in the Life Alert thing. DH will be going out of town later this year for about a week; I will not be going with him, as I am not employed and therefore have no vacation time. I am considering the Life Alert. I have good neighbors, but I don't think depending on them is a good idea.
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 11, 2016 13:48:41 GMT -5
I know. Creepy.
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Post by CCL on Mar 12, 2016 0:20:02 GMT -5
I worry less.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 13, 2016 8:50:39 GMT -5
Right after I retired, I found that I'd tend to grasp onto something minor and WAY over-analyze it. I chalked it up to needing something to occupy my brain now that there was no paid work to do it, and was usually able to back off and calm myself down. Now, after nearly two years, I caught myself at it again. I joined the Board of the HOA in our new neighborhood. Insanity, I know. I knew there were a couple of troublemakers, including one guy who built a fence too close to a property line after being told it was against the Restrictions, and a few people behind on their dues. Now we've got one who's engaged an attorney to contest the election results. So maybe I'm not on the Board? That might be a good thing. He and another dissident nominated each other as write-in candidates and didn't win. Anyway, Friday night I got to sleep at a normal time but woke up at 3:30 AM and never did get back to sleep. Too busy over-analyzing the situation, although I did come up with some good points/issues we need to address. Our lawyer is spending a couple of hours researching it before deciding whether we should let them go to court and try to compel us to have another election. We've already blown through our Legal Expense budget for 2016. I slept better last night but I've got to remember to chill out on these things!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 13, 2016 8:58:33 GMT -5
Right after I retired, I found that I'd tend to grasp onto something minor and WAY over-analyze it. I chalked it up to needing something to occupy my brain now that there was no paid work to do it, and was usually able to back off and calm myself down. Now, after nearly two years, I caught myself at it again. I joined the Board of the HOA in our new neighborhood. Insanity, I know. I knew there were a couple of troublemakers, including one guy who built a fence too close to a property line after being told it was against the Restrictions, and a few people behind on their dues. Now we've got one who's engaged an attorney to contest the election results. So maybe I'm not on the Board? That might be a good thing. He and another dissident nominated each other as write-in candidates and didn't win. Anyway, Friday night I got to sleep at a normal time but woke up at 3:30 AM and never did get back to sleep. Too busy over-analyzing the situation, although I did come up with some good points/issues we need to address. Our lawyer is spending a couple of hours researching it before deciding whether we should let them go to court and try to compel us to have another election. We've already blown through our Legal Expense budget for 2016. I slept better last night but I've got to remember to chill out on these things! Does your HOA provide for something called "Errors & Omissions" insurance for its board members? I'd insist on it before serving.
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