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Post by swamp on Feb 29, 2016 13:56:21 GMT -5
I do know now. This car transaction took place in early January. An attorney told me that about a week ago in light of a long distance closing on some property. I am very nervous about. I would like electronic transfer directly to my account. Then I wonder how many ways that could go wrong. sometimes wire transfers "get lost" and have to be tracked down.
I've also had it go in the wrong account because the sender transposed a number.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Feb 29, 2016 14:01:37 GMT -5
IDK... I agree that the constant barrage of bad stuff on the news/media adds fuel to the fire... and it can make one's mind run in circles... BUT there are other things that do it to you: Because I'm a 52 yo woman who's struggling with some really ugly anger issues (due to perimenopause). I'm not talking like annoyance, or being in a bad mood/cranky... I'm talking nearly nonstop overwhelming ANGER at everything - the air, the color blue, that guy over there, my cats, my friends, my family... EVERYTHING. I think I could kill someone with no remorse. It's scary. I can't distract myself from it, I can't make it go away with meditation or thinking happy thoughts. It's giving me bad dreams and messing with my sleep (which just makes it worse). OK, I've been to the doctor and gotten some pills to help straighten out my 'hormones' and it's gotten better, lots better. But still, that experience of Burning HOT Anger for no particular reason was disconcerting. I hear other women experience things like anxiety or paranoia or depression or other strong/swinging emotions. I just got 'lucky' and got stuck with the homicidal manic version. (Oh, yeah, I'd pay for a hot flash - I'm freezing (less since I started taking the pills). I sometimes think my dead frozen body will be found in an 80 degree room and the authorities will be baffled as to how I died of hypothermia...) I've also witnessed friends on various types of medications who's side effects "mess with their heads" - either because of long term poor sleep or just one of the side effects of the medication. Having diabetes seems to add a layer of anxiety (or depression) to the mix as well. They've reported feelings of out of the ordinary anxiety/paranoia over 'stupid stuff' and they have mentioned it's a side effect of whatever they have (or what they are taking). I've also witnessed friends who where going thru a long term difficult time - lots of stress and/or little/poor sleep... who got alittle irrational and anxious -- not being well rested messes with your head. Basically, what I'm saying is that it's normal to worry about/consider the things you mentioned: inviting strangers into your home and the out in the open medications - the long term 'worry' and losing sleep over it though - that's not exactly 'normal' - do you have some underlying stuff (evil hormonal imbalance/medications/an illness/lack of sleep/long term stress that's 'messing with your head'? Holy Crap! Can you come visit me? I have a list I'd like you to take care of. We'd kill two birds. You get all your anger out and people that are a PITA to me will be gone. I'm more aware of "possibilities" of things that can go wrong, but strangely, I'm less fearful in my old age. Or I just no longer care. I'm having sleep issues but it has to do with the new neighbor next door allowing their Jack Russell terrier bark at 6:00 a.m. every day. That bark is like an air horn it's so startling! So I want Tiny to take out the guy allowing her to do that. Not the dog. Just to be clear. I recently decided to just tell the guy off and the barking has stopped. I figure he doesn't care about me why should I care about him or what he thinks? And OMG it felt so good telling him how rude, inconsiderate, and narcissistic he is allowing that in this neighborhood. I want to do it again!
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Post by quince on Feb 29, 2016 14:30:42 GMT -5
My husband has actually been held up at gunpoint, and is not anxious about Craigslist, walking alone in sketchy neighborhoods, unfamiliar surroundings, or anything. He's very relaxed about everything. I kind of both want to be like him, and put him in a box to keep him safe.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Feb 29, 2016 14:42:52 GMT -5
I'm also one of those who had to take a break from the news. I have worries, but they are relatively selfish worries (making sure I remember things like getting my taxes done, filling out my FAFSA, registering for classes, look at loan info; making sure DS gets new clothes/shoes when he needs them [his feet are growing out of control right now]; making sure he has enough learning toys, etc.) that only really have to do with me and my son's lives. I don't really worry about axe murderers and rapists too much. My apartment building has an outside door that auto-locks, I live on the 2nd floor, and I have a dead bolt, regular lock, and chain on my door. I am smart about meeting people for the first time (in public, we each drive ourselves), and I am careful about being out and exposed in poorly-lit areas. I hold DS's hand when we are walking in/near a parking lot or near a street. I make sure I have enough phone battery to call 911 if there is a problem.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 29, 2016 15:21:29 GMT -5
I just caught a bit on public radio today over lunch about how this country is becoming so fearful...of just darn near everything. A recent survey had revealed that 30% in the US believe the Zika virus is a government conspiracy. THIRTY percent. Damn.
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Post by zibazinski on Feb 29, 2016 15:32:18 GMT -5
Omg. Well, wait until some group decides this is a govt conspiracy to hurt them somehow.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 29, 2016 15:33:10 GMT -5
I just caught a bit on public radio today over lunch about how this country is becoming so fearful...of just darn near everything. A recent survey had revealed that 30% in the US believe the Zika virus is a government conspiracy. THIRTY percent. Damn. Sadly I am not shocked by this.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 29, 2016 15:56:03 GMT -5
I just caught a bit on public radio today over lunch about how this country is becoming so fearful...of just darn near everything. A recent survey had revealed that 30% in the US believe the Zika virus is a government conspiracy. THIRTY percent. Damn. Sadly I am not shocked by this. I'm not shocked some believe this because I've had enough bizarre conversations with my ex-MIL to know there is some effed up thinking out there, but 30%. Shit. Now I am worried. LOL
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 29, 2016 15:59:01 GMT -5
Sadly I am not shocked by this. I'm not shocked some believe this because I've had enough bizarre conversations with my ex-MIL to know there is some effed up thinking out there, but 30%. Shit. Now I am worried. LOL Have some of the conversations I've had when people find out what I do for a living. I'm surprised it's as low as 30%!
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Post by quince on Feb 29, 2016 17:07:24 GMT -5
...Something like 40% of Americans don't believe in evolution. I echo DQ's surprise that the number is so low!
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Post by debthaven on Feb 29, 2016 17:49:49 GMT -5
Yes I have become even more worried, and I was already a worrier. Most of that has to do with my kids growing up and no longer being under my control/in the house. They're all good kids thank Gd but that doesn't stop me from worrying about them. I also worry about my DH who now again bikes to work regularly, but I can't (and won't) stop him.
I'm from NY so I've always been extremely cautious.
Many years ago there was a TV advertising campaign for the French lottery. The tagline was "100% of the winners took a chance." They did not explicitly say "took a chance by buying a lottery ticket" but that was CLEARLY the meaning to anybody who had at least 2 brain cells.
As the second part of that TV campaign, they did a survey of "people on the street" reacting to that statistic. The VAST majority said, but that's impossible. Maybe 50%? Maybe even 80%? But 100%, no way, that's just impossible!
No surprise, the lottery soon dumped that campaign, because the average French Joe or Jane was too stupid to figure out that you couldn't win the lottery if you didn't buy a ticket.
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Post by gregintenn on Feb 29, 2016 18:51:48 GMT -5
IDK... I agree that the constant barrage of bad stuff on the news/media adds fuel to the fire... and it can make one's mind run in circles... BUT there are other things that do it to you: Because I'm a 52 yo woman who's struggling with some really ugly anger issues (due to perimenopause). I'm not talking like annoyance, or being in a bad mood/cranky... I'm talking nearly nonstop overwhelming ANGER at everything - the air, the color blue, that guy over there, my cats, my friends, my family... EVERYTHING. I think I could kill someone with no remorse. It's scary. I can't distract myself from it, I can't make it go away with meditation or thinking happy thoughts. It's giving me bad dreams and messing with my sleep (which just makes it worse). OK, I've been to the doctor and gotten some pills to help straighten out my 'hormones' and it's gotten better, lots better. But still, that experience of Burning HOT Anger for no particular reason was disconcerting. I hear other women experience things like anxiety or paranoia or depression or other strong/swinging emotions. I just got 'lucky' and got stuck with the homicidal manic version. (Oh, yeah, I'd pay for a hot flash - I'm freezing (less since I started taking the pills). I sometimes think my dead frozen body will be found in an 80 degree room and the authorities will be baffled as to how I died of hypothermia...) I've also witnessed friends on various types of medications who's side effects "mess with their heads" - either because of long term poor sleep or just one of the side effects of the medication. Having diabetes seems to add a layer of anxiety (or depression) to the mix as well. They've reported feelings of out of the ordinary anxiety/paranoia over 'stupid stuff' and they have mentioned it's a side effect of whatever they have (or what they are taking). I've also witnessed friends who where going thru a long term difficult time - lots of stress and/or little/poor sleep... who got alittle irrational and anxious -- not being well rested messes with your head. Basically, what I'm saying is that it's normal to worry about/consider the things you mentioned: inviting strangers into your home and the out in the open medications - the long term 'worry' and losing sleep over it though - that's not exactly 'normal' - do you have some underlying stuff (evil hormonal imbalance/medications/an illness/lack of sleep/long term stress that's 'messing with your head'? LOL! You sound like a fun date.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Feb 29, 2016 19:10:04 GMT -5
No, I don't worry more. Just get more jaded about the country/world and where it's going.
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Post by marvholly on Mar 1, 2016 6:57:24 GMT -5
I just caught a bit on public radio today over lunch about how this country is becoming so fearful...of just darn near everything. A recent survey had revealed that 30% in the US believe the Zika virus is a government conspiracy. THIRTY percent. Damn.
Probably the same group that is voting for Trump (or Cruz) in the primaries.
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Post by Shooby on Mar 1, 2016 7:02:43 GMT -5
In some ways I worry more as I am getting older. Like I don't feel I have time and youth on my side anymore. So, if i make a big financial mistake or something, I have my kids' college looming and so forth, that seems kind of scary. It is harder in some ways because our parents are deceased. And, no matter how old you are, that kind of makes you feel like an orphan. Like there is no longer any fall back position if life gets really hard.
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 1, 2016 7:08:03 GMT -5
In some ways I worry more as I am getting older. Like I don't feel I have time and youth on my side anymore. So, if i make a big financial mistake or something, I have my kids' college looming and so forth, that seems kind of scary. It is harder in some ways because our parents are deceased. And, no matter how old you are, that kind of makes you feel like an orphan. Like there is no longer any fall back position if life gets really hard. Very true. I have no one I can trust to ask for advice. That's hard.
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Post by Blonde Granny on Mar 1, 2016 9:45:45 GMT -5
I have a long time good friend who makes me crazy with her dreamed up problems. I recently told her I had bought the 12 oz bottle of magnesium citrate that I need to drink before my surgery next week....told her I bought the Cherry flavor....be still my heart, did I get a lecture on buying that one, told me it was too sweet and I need to go buy the lemon flavor instead. And that would be because she bought the lemon flavor, and if she bought it, it was the only correct one to buy as she never makes a mistake. <sigh>
For the last 5 years she has been one day away from dying of breast cancer and all her medical problems are due to the side effects of her drugs. She has every side effect of every drug she takes , including the ones that aren't named on the insert drug information. She just makes my hair hurt when she starts in.
Overall, I'd say now I'm cautious but not necessarily fearful, but I still think I'm going to buy a gun since I sold all the others.
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Post by Gardening Grandma on Mar 1, 2016 10:42:25 GMT -5
I just caught a bit on public radio today over lunch about how this country is becoming so fearful...of just darn near everything. A recent survey had revealed that 30% in the US believe the Zika virus is a government conspiracy. THIRTY percent. Damn. I have a cousin who believes that. She also believed that ebola was a gov't hoax designed to take our minds off the "fact" that Obama is a Muslim whose goal is to get as many terrorists as possible into the country.. Of course she gets all her news from Faux "news". Personally, I'm becoming much more cognitive of the limited amount of time I have remaining. And I don't want to spend it fretting about things I have no control over, so I'm making a conscious effort to invest my time in things that are good for me.
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 1, 2016 10:46:10 GMT -5
I just caught a bit on public radio today over lunch about how this country is becoming so fearful...of just darn near everything. A recent survey had revealed that 30% in the US believe the Zika virus is a government conspiracy. THIRTY percent. Damn. I have a cousin who believes that. She also believed that ebola was a gov't hoax designed to take our minds off the "fact" that Obama is a Muslim whose goal is to get as many terrorists as possible into the country.. Of course she gets all her news from Faux "news". Personally, I'm becoming much more cognitive of the limited amount of time I have remaining. And I don't want to spend it fretting about things I have no control over, so I'm making a conscious effort to invest my time in things that are good for me. That's alright. I have an Aunt that was actually a BSN who thinks deodorant gives you Alzheimer's. Needless to say, she smells but it's her husband who ended up getting it, not her after all so maybe she's into something!!!
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Post by Phoenix84 on Mar 1, 2016 20:04:06 GMT -5
I'm not really a fan of selling stuff on craigslist or the like.
I don't like giving out my phone number and having people call me at all hours, while I'm at work ect. And no matter how low you price an item, people will always try to haggle and play hardball with you.
I'll normally seek out other means if there's a viable alternative. I sold my last car to the dealer. I probably could have gotten more by trying to sell it myself, but it wasn't worth the hassle.
Regarding personal safety, I'm not worried. I'm 31 years old, 230 pounds. I'm not the kind of guy most people want to tangle with one on one.
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Post by debthaven on Mar 1, 2016 20:13:58 GMT -5
I have an Aunt that was actually a BSN who thinks deodorant gives you Alzheimer's.
Zip, FWIW, it's not the deodorant per se, it's an active ingredient in the deodorant. I've been buying DS3's deodorant at the pharmacy for years because he prefers to use one without that ingredient (can't remember what it is). They now sell deodorant (and also shampoo) without that ingredient in the supermarkets, but they didn't a few years ago. This said, there's no excuse for your aunt to go around smelling badly, because you can get deodorants without that iffy ingredient.
ETA: I just remembered, it's paraben.
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Post by tallguy on Mar 1, 2016 20:14:50 GMT -5
In some ways I worry more as I am getting older. Like I don't feel I have time and youth on my side anymore. So, if i make a big financial mistake or something, I have my kids' college looming and so forth, that seems kind of scary. It is harder in some ways because our parents are deceased. And, no matter how old you are, that kind of makes you feel like an orphan. Like there is no longer any fall back position if life gets really hard. Very true. I have no one I can trust to ask for advice. That's hard. Aw, come on. You have us! And a couple are even worth listening to, so as long as you can figure out which ones, you'll be fine!
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 1, 2016 21:13:23 GMT -5
I used to have you all but things change.
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Post by whoami on Mar 1, 2016 21:22:54 GMT -5
I have a cousin who believes that. She also believed that ebola was a gov't hoax designed to take our minds off the "fact" that Obama is a Muslim whose goal is to get as many terrorists as possible into the country.. Of course she gets all her news from Faux "news". Personally, I'm becoming much more cognitive of the limited amount of time I have remaining. And I don't want to spend it fretting about things I have no control over, so I'm making a conscious effort to invest my time in things that are good for me. That's alright. I have an Aunt that was actually a BSN who thinks deodorant gives you Alzheimer's. Needless to say, she smells but it's her husband who ended up getting it, not her after all so maybe she's into something!!! Aluminum
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 1, 2016 21:32:00 GMT -5
Oh brother
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Post by NastyWoman on Mar 1, 2016 23:32:57 GMT -5
I used to have you all but things change. Not as much as you think. Just look at some of us as your sibling that's going through a "be nasty to my sibs" stage. The rest of us -the vast majority- have your back.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 2, 2016 12:57:29 GMT -5
I just caught a bit on public radio today over lunch about how this country is becoming so fearful...of just darn near everything. A recent survey had revealed that 30% in the US believe the Zika virus is a government conspiracy. THIRTY percent. Damn. I have a cousin who believes that. She also believed that ebola was a gov't hoax designed to take our minds off the "fact" that Obama is a Muslim whose goal is to get as many terrorists as possible into the country.. No he's not he's a member of the Illuminati and arranged to have Scalia murdered so he could get a liberal judge onto the Supreme Court
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Post by Gardening Grandma on Mar 2, 2016 18:38:19 GMT -5
I have a cousin who believes that. She also believed that ebola was a gov't hoax designed to take our minds off the "fact" that Obama is a Muslim whose goal is to get as many terrorists as possible into the country.. No he's not he's a member of the Illuminati and arranged to have Scalia murdered so he could get a liberal judge onto the Supreme Court
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Post by bobosensei on Mar 9, 2016 11:25:41 GMT -5
I just dealt with this. Comcast had to come out 4 times to get our internet right. And they send contractors so not people who show up with a comcast vehicle or shirt. The first guy showed up about an hour before he was supposed to, and he was at the house for what felt like a really long time and didn't seem to be doing work the whole time. He went into all the rooms that had cable cords trying to figure something out and I thought maybe he was casing the place. The next morning I went into the basement and saw that the door to the crawl space was left unlocked. The windows on the other side of the house aren't that big, but a thin person could squeeze in or a teen and I felt pretty sure the guy could tell we don't actually have ADT we just left the signs up. So imagine how scared I was two days later on Saturday when I drive up to the house and there is a man getting into his truck. I get out to talk to him, and he said "oh, did comcast not tell you we were coming today?" and I said they hadn't, and told him to give me a second to put the dogs up. I called DH who said he hadn't been told they were coming, but he was on his way home and to let them in because he wanted the internet fixed. Since my brother in law and sister were a few minutes behind me I did. He immediately asked to use the bathroom which I found odd. I went up before him just to make sure it was picked up and saw my engagement ring on the sink which I picked up. That guy was at the house about 3 hours and didn't accomplish anything. I started to get really worried about whether he even worked for comcast or if he'd been sent to take stuff from the house. At that point I wasn't scared for my safety, but my belongings. He asked to go to the bathroom a second time and I was in the kitchen when my nephew happened to let the dogs in. I put them up and went back to the stairs to see what was going on because it was taking so long and caught the guy was peeping into the hallway. He said he heard the dogs and didn't know if it was safe to come out. But again, that just felt odd to me. Why didn't he call out to see if I was there? Was he trying to slip into the bedrooms? Did he put some kind of camera in the bathroom? Was he going to come back to rape me? I mean I got pretty vivid with all the what ifs. I was so stupid not to demand some kind of ID, but on a saturday I don't know that we could have verified anything with comcast anyway. The next person they sent out gave a 12 hour window- yes 12 hours 8am to 8pm. He showed up at 7:30 while I was making dinner. Luckily DH was home. The fourth set didn't have to come in the house. After the third guy showed up I felt al little better about the first two not being able to fix the issue. But I still don't like that people were in the house, and so many odd things that happened. We've complained to comcast about someone coming unannounced on a saturday and haven't heard squat.
Now we don't have anything actually in the house yet so there really isn't anything to steal, and all three of the people that came in the house seemed scared of our dog. But you can shoot a dog and it is no longer a problem. I have been thinking of getting the ADT service started back up. If those guys were up to no good they could come back at any time.
When the doorbell rang yesterday I made DH answer it. Logically I know a rapist or thief isn't going to ring the bell, but I don't want strangers thinking I am a woman living alone. Turned out to be a neighbor leaving mispitched mail.
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Post by bobosensei on Mar 9, 2016 11:31:33 GMT -5
Oh and the sad side of this is when my battery went dead in the home depot parking lot a few weeks ago DH and I couldn't find a single person that would give us a jump. I have jumper cables, and we had called someone out but the wait was going to be at least an hour. It felt a little sad. The three times it happened to us in Europe people helped no hesitation, even with the language barrier. And here I was in broad daylight and everyone had seen DH pushing the car into a different space to make the hood accessible. They all gawked open mouthed, but no one was willing to help.
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