TheHaitian
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 25, 2016 14:33:27 GMT -5
(nothing against grocery stores it's just a huge drop in salary and hours) Ouch! *from the guy with a career in grocery stores* Meh! This whole board have some negative impressions of my wife and 99% is my fault. But they are not married to her so I don't get my panties in a bunch and kinda ignore the negative posts. You know... Shake it off!
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 25, 2016 14:37:01 GMT -5
Yep that is the guy Did you have fun that weekend ? Yes, it was a good way to transition from the stress of losing my job and celebrating starting my new job! Worth every single penny
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Post by andi9899 on Feb 25, 2016 14:37:09 GMT -5
(nothing against grocery stores it's just a huge drop in salary and hours) Ouch! *from the guy with a career in grocery stores* Meh! This whole board have some negative impressions of my wife and 99% is my fault. But they are not married to her so I don't get my panties in a bunch and kinda ignore the negative posts. You know... Shake it off! I didn't know you wore panties! And now I have a bad visual. Thanks a lot!
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TheHaitian
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 25, 2016 14:38:33 GMT -5
Ouch! *from the guy with a career in grocery stores* Meh! This whole board have some negative impressions of my wife and 99% is my fault. But they are not married to her so I don't get my panties in a bunch and kinda ignore the negative posts. You know... Shake it off! I didn't know you wore panties! And now I have a bad visual. Thanks a lot! Thongs to be exact
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Post by andi9899 on Feb 25, 2016 14:43:55 GMT -5
I didn't know you wore panties! And now I have a bad visual. Thanks a lot! Thongs to be exact Dammit! Stop it!
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TheHaitian
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 25, 2016 14:44:49 GMT -5
I still get job emails from indeed and will click on them. DH has an associates in biology so he can quality for a lot of jobs I do. If I see something interesting I pass it along. I didn't know that was something I wasn't supposed to do. I still scan the job boards for myself. I am not taking anything for granted anymore. I am not actively applying for anything but I want to have my thumb on what is out there in case this blows sky wide like the last job or the funding rug is pulled out from under me again. Since our fields overlap in certain skill areas if I see something I share. We don't have a scanner or stuff like that at home so I'll bring stuff to work. The library charges you to park, charges you to use the computer and charges you per page you scan. Why would we do that when I can do it for free? I didn't realize that it was a problem or that I am making DH look like a lazy idiot. He is working hard at job hunting and interviewing and now at Hy-Vee. Maybe I am helping him too much. Maybe it's b/c I am extremely stressed out over what is going on and my way to have some sort of control over our lives is to help him job hunt. I know it's not healthy and so does DH but if it makes me feel better he's not going to stop me from looking at job boards. It beats having to shell out for therapy to get a handle on the way I am feeling about everything that has happened going back to September 2014. I waste WAY more time on here than I do looking on indeed. I help him with his resume b/c I am GOOD at it and got lots of compliments on mine in the last year so I figured I should put those skills to use to help my spouse. I come on here to vent/organize my thoughts. I'll stop doing that though b/c being called out makes me realize I have strayed too far into over sharing again. I'll share if DH gets another job but I'll stop talking about everything else. I would just ignore her..no reason for that harsh response. I help my husband out with job stuff when he needs it too. I work in an office so it is easier for me to send emails, etc. Like Carl said...you work as a team and yes your DH's job unhappiness is going to affect you so it makes sense to help him out. My official title is : My wife's bitch or secretary... Whichever you prefer. I handle all the scheduling : dr appointment, car appointments (maintenance), anything that require someone to call. Why? I always had a job that was more flexible and lenient for that. So I can schedule things, call people and what not during regular business hours while my wife cannot and I am more comfortable doing it. Off course she signed a paper at all her Dr' saying they are allowed to speak to me as if I was her, if not they would never be able to get in contact with her.
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Wisconsin Beth
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Feb 25, 2016 14:57:32 GMT -5
Thongs to be exact Dammit! Stop it! I just assumed Carl went commando. Had to mess with andi some. Lol.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Feb 25, 2016 14:57:48 GMT -5
Well, I have written every single one of my husband's job self evaluations. And no, I never worked with him or even in his field.
I have scheduled every.single dr appt even when both of us were working full time and I was actually working much longer hours.
When there is a purchase coming up I say things like "well, I don't have money for that", even though I haven't worked in almost 8 yrs.
However, there was no *I* or *we* when he was replacing siding on our house bc birds ate it. Or when he rebuild my laptop bc it was having issues. Or when he took all 3 kids shopping for snow boots. Or.....you get the point.
I think it's pretty stupid when each person in the marriage handles only their own shit. It's a waste of time, unproductive and not very efficient. You do what you are stronger at doing.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Feb 25, 2016 15:02:39 GMT -5
Well, I have written every single one of my husband's job self evaluations. And no, I never worked with him or even in his field. I have scheduled every.single dr appt even when both of us were working full time and I was actually working much longer hours. When there is a purchase coming up I say things like "well, I don't have money for that", even though I haven't worked in almost 8 yrs. However, there was no *I* or *we* when he was replacing siding on our house bc birds ate it. Or when he rebuild my laptop bc it was having issues. Or when he took all 3 kids shopping for snow boots. Or.....you get the point. I think it's pretty stupid when each person in the marriage handles only their own shit. It's a waste of time, unproductive and not very efficient. You do what you are stronger at doing. if I waited for dh to deal with the siding or take the kids boot shopping, I suspect we'd be missing a lot more siding and we'd have snow before the kids would have boots. And yes, sometimes I do wonder why we're still together. Some days it's inertia on my part. Some days he surprises me and not only fixes the siding, but the door and the window and takes the kids boot shopping, all in one day.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Feb 25, 2016 15:05:25 GMT -5
I've never taken my kids shoe/boots shopping. Once or twice we went all together bc there used to be a very nice starbucks next door to the shoe place. But ever since they closed - yeah, I have no more incentive to go.
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Post by yogiii on Feb 25, 2016 15:06:27 GMT -5
I think it's your phrasing more than anything Drama. "We" did this or that. "I helped him" do this or that would probably make us get the point better, but I do understand you have other things to worry about than your sentence structure. I was curious too about why it all seemed to be on you to get it done, now I know. Yes and the way Drama was questioned could have been phrased differently too
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Feb 25, 2016 15:08:52 GMT -5
I think it's your phrasing more than anything Drama. "We" did this or that. "I helped him" do this or that would probably make us get the point better, but I do understand you have other things to worry about than your sentence structure. I was curious too about why it all seemed to be on you to get it done, now I know. Yes and the way Drama was questioned could have been phrased differently too Sure it could have but it sure has sounded like she's done the majority of the work for him with the way she writes stuff.
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Post by yogiii on Feb 25, 2016 15:09:41 GMT -5
Yes and the way Drama was questioned could have been phrased differently too Sure it could have but it sure has sounded like she's done the majority of the work for him with the way she writes stuff. That's an unwarranted wink! Stop trying to even the score!
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Feb 25, 2016 15:15:19 GMT -5
Sure it could have but it sure has sounded like she's done the majority of the work for him with the way she writes stuff. That's an unwarranted wink! Stop trying to even the score! Yes, I'm bored, why do you ask?
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Post by chen35 on Feb 25, 2016 15:15:25 GMT -5
Well, I have written every single one of my husband's job self evaluations. And no, I never worked with him or even in his field. I have scheduled every.single dr appt even when both of us were working full time and I was actually working much longer hours. When there is a purchase coming up I say things like "well, I don't have money for that", even though I haven't worked in almost 8 yrs. However, there was no *I* or *we* when he was replacing siding on our house bc birds ate it. Or when he rebuild my laptop bc it was having issues. Or when he took all 3 kids shopping for snow boots. Or.....you get the point. I think it's pretty stupid when each person in the marriage handles only their own shit. It's a waste of time, unproductive and not very efficient. You do what you are stronger at doing. How much would you charge to write my self evaluations as well as my staff's performance reviews?
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 25, 2016 15:16:27 GMT -5
Off course she signed a paper at all her Dr' saying they are allowed to speak to me as if I was her, if not they would never be able to get in contact with her.
That's just common sense. If she were unconcious someone would need to be able ot talk to her doctors. We have the same set up. I have given permission to my mom as well so if God forbid something happened to both of us she could access my medical records. He has his mom down as a secondary contact.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Feb 25, 2016 15:18:08 GMT -5
Well, I have written every single one of my husband's job self evaluations. And no, I never worked with him or even in his field. I have scheduled every.single dr appt even when both of us were working full time and I was actually working much longer hours. When there is a purchase coming up I say things like "well, I don't have money for that", even though I haven't worked in almost 8 yrs. However, there was no *I* or *we* when he was replacing siding on our house bc birds ate it. Or when he rebuild my laptop bc it was having issues. Or when he took all 3 kids shopping for snow boots. Or.....you get the point. I think it's pretty stupid when each person in the marriage handles only their own shit. It's a waste of time, unproductive and not very efficient. You do what you are stronger at doing. How much would you charge to write my self evaluations as well as my staff's performance reviews? LOL Well, I was recently hired in my own field making about 2/3 of what I used to make. So it seems I am cheap cheap cheap!
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Post by chen35 on Feb 25, 2016 15:18:53 GMT -5
Sweet! I will be contacting you come December. Unless you also are good at writing goals. Then we may have to chat next month!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 25, 2016 15:20:29 GMT -5
Yes and the way Drama was questioned could have been phrased differently too Sure it could have but it sure has sounded like she's done the majority of the work for him with the way she writes stuff. Well in my defense I wasn't exactly paying attention to my sentence structure when I posted. I keep forgetting that this is YM and I have to be VERY careful how I post. Not the first time on YM this has happened. Last time I got called a co-dependent spineless twit.
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Post by chen35 on Feb 25, 2016 15:24:23 GMT -5
I think if any of us just posted the things that frustrate us about our life in general, or about our spouse in particular, our spouses can come off looking bad. It's easy to assume you are seeing the whole picture when in reality you are just getting a small portion of what is happening.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Feb 25, 2016 15:26:46 GMT -5
Sure it could have but it sure has sounded like she's done the majority of the work for him with the way she writes stuff. Well in my defense I wasn't exactly paying attention to my sentence structure when I posted. I keep forgetting that this is YM and I have to be VERY careful how I post. Not the first time on YM this has happened. Last time I got called a co-dependent spineless twit. I know you weren't and I figured you meant something other than it sounded. It does read a bit odd/mommying if it's not assumed you're typing what's easist.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Feb 25, 2016 15:32:04 GMT -5
I think if any of us just posted the things that frustrate us about our life in general, or about our spouse in particular, our spouses can come off looking bad. It's easy to assume you are seeing the whole picture when in reality you are just getting a small portion of what is happening. I think it's easy to complain about the bad stuff. Then we don't talk about the good stuff because we aren't mad and needing a place to vent.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 25, 2016 15:34:59 GMT -5
I'd LOVE to share good news on the job front but so far they are dragging their feet. The dairy told DH he was still in the running and the reason they haven't decided yet is they had a surprise audit. So as far HE can tell he is not rejected yet. The other one he interviewed for last week and they said they'd call this week. So far nothing. ConAgra disappeared off the face of the planet. According to the online profile they are currently reviewing applications but they have never called back despite DH leaving multiple messages. Then there are God knows how many other applications for other companies floating around on the internet. I believe I have a few still floating around as well and it's been a year now.
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Post by chen35 on Feb 25, 2016 15:37:40 GMT -5
I think if any of us just posted the things that frustrate us about our life in general, or about our spouse in particular, our spouses can come off looking bad. It's easy to assume you are seeing the whole picture when in reality you are just getting a small portion of what is happening. I think it's easy to complain about the bad stuff. Then we don't talk about the good stuff because we aren't mad and needing a place to vent. Absolutely!
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Post by Lizard Queen on Feb 25, 2016 15:43:40 GMT -5
So, there was a job posting that came out on Indeed last Friday. By the time I went to apply for it Monday, the link didn't work. Do you think it was posted by mistake, or did they already get too many apps by then?
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 25, 2016 15:44:41 GMT -5
Could be a problem on Indeed's end. Do they have a company web site where you can check to see if the job is posted?
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Post by Lizard Queen on Feb 25, 2016 15:47:59 GMT -5
Could be a problem on Indeed's end. Do they have a company web site where you can check to see if the job is posted? It linked from Indeed to the company's website, where it said there were no openings that matched. Just wondering if I should be for not applying immediately.
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Post by swamp on Feb 25, 2016 15:48:33 GMT -5
I think if any of us just posted the things that frustrate us about our life in general, or about our spouse in particular, our spouses can come off looking bad. It's easy to assume you are seeing the whole picture when in reality you are just getting a small portion of what is happening.
I often vent here. It's not representative of life as a whole.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 25, 2016 15:50:42 GMT -5
Could be a problem on Indeed's end. Do they have a company web site where you can check to see if the job is posted? It linked from Indeed to the company's website, where it said there were no openings that matched. Just wondering if I should be for not applying immediately. Could be they took it down for any number of reasons. I followed up on a post once that I applied for and they told me they decided to withdraw the position b/c they disagreed on the job duties/description. I've also had it where right afterwards the company decided to enact a hiring freeze so the position was pulled. They may have decided that they are going to have someone absorb the job duties rather than hire someone. I wouldn't kick yourself b/c you could have applied and still missed out for the reasons above. The only people who know why it disappeared so fast are the people who posted it. I'd watch and see if it pops up again at a later date.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Feb 25, 2016 15:53:54 GMT -5
It linked from Indeed to the company's website, where it said there were no openings that matched. Just wondering if I should be for not applying immediately. Could be they took it down for any number of reasons. I followed up on a post once that I applied for and they told me they decided to withdraw the position b/c they disagreed on the job duties/description. I've also had it where right afterwards the company decided to enact a hiring freeze so the position was pulled. They may have decided that they are going to have someone absorb the job duties rather than hire someone. I wouldn't kick yourself b/c you could have applied and still missed out for the reasons above. The only people who know why it disappeared so fast are the people who posted it. I'd watch and see if it pops up again at a later date. Thanks. I watch it constantly. Probably too much, actually.
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