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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Apr 1, 2016 10:16:07 GMT -5
I'm with you on that. I'm bothered by ugly and untrue accusations also and it's no solace to me that those people are really the ugly ones and can't/won't see it.
I always laugh at the posts from people who say they are never bothered, never get angry, blah, blah, blah. Pure horseshit (unless this board is composed of a bunch of robots). There is no shame in having emotions, nor do they prohibit a person from thinking clearly. It's just usually the final defense of an indefensible position - that and crap like "you must hate" or "you must be afraid" - stupid stuff like that.
Mostly, people here are great. Just different opinions, feelings and stances. It's what makes the world go round!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2016 12:14:37 GMT -5
I'm with you on that. I'm bothered by ugly and untrue accusations also and it's no solace to me that those people are really the ugly ones and can't/won't see it.
I always laugh at the posts from people who say they are never bothered, never get angry, blah, blah, blah. Pure horseshit (unless this board is composed of a bunch of robots). There is no shame in having emotions, nor do they prohibit a person from thinking clearly. It's just usually the final defense of an indefensible position - that and crap like "you must hate" or "you must be afraid" - stupid stuff like that.
Mostly, people here are great. Just different opinions, feelings and stances. It's what makes the world go round! When the discussion was about abuse as a child I was accused of really ugly things because I disagree with all the hate. I thought and think now most of that is empty vitriol. It is not high morals to hate someone who did something terrble. And people who were abused have to go on with their life. People said I was for abuse and defended molesters. It was really ugly accusations. One from someone I really like and respect hurt that she would think that. Empty talk about real problems that some posters are having to work through aren't good morals or good advice or anything but posturing about something someone else has trouble with and is working through. Take someone who was abused as a child and just talk about hating the perpetrator, what is the person who was hurt supposed to do with that? Hate someone who hurt them for ten years, for 20, forever. Yet those saying hate, think themselves moral and said really ugly accusation's to people who have to live with being abused. My opinion for want it's worth.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2016 12:16:49 GMT -5
One not nice thing about me, is that I remember people saying things I think really ugly, and I hold a grudge for years. :-(
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Apr 1, 2016 12:23:48 GMT -5
This is a "tough love" kind of board. I agree with you about the "hate" part. It accomplishes nothing and actually retards the healing process. However, some people can't understand how you would not hate someone who hurt you so badly. I don't remember reading the thread so I can't give my opinion on whether or not the posts were meant to be hateful and mean or were the "wake up" tough love kinds of posts. This isn't a touchy-feely kind of board, generally. Putting something that personal out there is going to be met with mixed responses.
You have a right to feel however you feel and I'm not sure any survivors have gone through the exact same experiences. You should know, however, that some people aren't going to understand your feelings. That doesn't give them the right to hurt you, but not everyone is going to understand. I guess...just pay attention to those who try to understand and help and stay away from the asswipes. That's all I know to say.
I'm sorry you were hurt.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Apr 1, 2016 12:24:38 GMT -5
One not nice thing about me, is that I remember people saying things I think really ugly, and I hold a grudge for years. :-( I'm the Queen of Grudges. I like to say I'm not, but that just lying to myself. It's not a nice thing - you are right. I'm working on it.
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Post by mmhmm on Apr 1, 2016 12:29:59 GMT -5
I'm with you on that. I'm bothered by ugly and untrue accusations also and it's no solace to me that those people are really the ugly ones and can't/won't see it.
I always laugh at the posts from people who say they are never bothered, never get angry, blah, blah, blah. Pure horseshit (unless this board is composed of a bunch of robots). There is no shame in having emotions, nor do they prohibit a person from thinking clearly. It's just usually the final defense of an indefensible position - that and crap like "you must hate" or "you must be afraid" - stupid stuff like that.
Mostly, people here are great. Just different opinions, feelings and stances. It's what makes the world go round! Gotta disagree with you a bit, GEL. I'm one who rarely gets angry at things said on message boards and I don't think of myself as a robot; nor, am I ashamed of my emotions. I'm just very discerning about where I spend those emotions - and why. Nobody here has any effect on my life. Everyone here is an individual and each has his/her own experiences, goals, dreams and feelings. If I say the sky is blue and someone else chimes in with "No! It's not! It's green!", I'm not going to waste my time and energy getting angry about it. The person could be living somewhere where a tornado is imminent. In that case, their sky is green. The person could be color-blind to greens and blues. That person's sky may well be green. Or, the person might just want an argument. I'm not interested in big arguments with people I don't really know. It's just not that important to me. I do have hot-buttons but I tend to avoid threads I know will activate those because, as I said, I'm not interested in big arguments with people I don't know. I think it's just a matter of different strokes for different folks. It might also have something to do with what I did for so many years and having to deal with people who were in a really bad place during the time we were in contact. If I'd gotten angry at every "off" comment, I'd have spent the majority of my time chewing my tongue off!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2016 12:35:03 GMT -5
This is a "tough love" kind of board. I agree with you about the "hate" part. It accomplishes nothing and actually retards the healing process. However, some people can't understand how you would not hate someone who hurt you so badly. I don't remember reading the thread so I can't give my opinion on whether or not the posts were meant to be hateful and mean or were the "wake up" tough love kinds of posts. This isn't a touchy-feely kind of board, generally. Putting something that personal out there is going to be met with mixed responses.
You have a right to feel however you feel and I'm not sure any survivors have gone through the exact same experiences. You should know, however, that some people aren't going to understand your feelings. That doesn't give them the right to hurt you, but not everyone is going to understand. I guess...just pay attention to those who try to understand and help and stay away from the asswipes. That's all I know to say.
I'm sorry you were hurt. People have a right to think I am wrong or stupid, but no one had a right to say I defend child molesters or want child molesters to not be punished. I have thought on the subject for over 40 years and that was the first time telling anyone as a friend. It was really ugly and hateful how several posters responded. Not one moderator opposed the hateful accusations either. Water under the bridge now though.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2016 12:40:00 GMT -5
I'm with you on that. I'm bothered by ugly and untrue accusations also and it's no solace to me that those people are really the ugly ones and can't/won't see it.
I always laugh at the posts from people who say they are never bothered, never get angry, blah, blah, blah. Pure horseshit (unless this board is composed of a bunch of robots). There is no shame in having emotions, nor do they prohibit a person from thinking clearly. It's just usually the final defense of an indefensible position - that and crap like "you must hate" or "you must be afraid" - stupid stuff like that.
Mostly, people here are great. Just different opinions, feelings and stances. It's what makes the world go round! It's not pure horseshit. You're starting to sound just like every other over emotional women I've known. You must really hate people who have more control. (Like that?)
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Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2016 12:50:47 GMT -5
I'm with you on that. I'm bothered by ugly and untrue accusations also and it's no solace to me that those people are really the ugly ones and can't/won't see it.
I always laugh at the posts from people who say they are never bothered, never get angry, blah, blah, blah. Pure horseshit (unless this board is composed of a bunch of robots). There is no shame in having emotions, nor do they prohibit a person from thinking clearly. It's just usually the final defense of an indefensible position - that and crap like "you must hate" or "you must be afraid" - stupid stuff like that.
Mostly, people here are great. Just different opinions, feelings and stances. It's what makes the world go round! Gotta disagree with you a bit, GEL. I'm one who rarely gets angry at things said on message boards and I don't think of myself as a robot; nor, am I ashamed of my emotions. I'm just very discerning about where I spend those emotions - and why. Nobody here has any effect on my life. Everyone here is an individual and each has his/her own experiences, goals, dreams and feelings. If I say the sky is blue and someone else chimes in with "No! It's not! It's green!", I'm not going to waste my time and energy getting angry about it. The person could be living somewhere where a tornado is imminent. In that case, their sky is green. The person could be color-blind to greens and blues. That person's sky may well be green. Or, the person might just want an argument. I'm not interested in big arguments with people I don't really know. It's just not that important to me. I do have hot-buttons but I tend to avoid threads I know will activate those because, as I said, I'm not interested in big arguments with people I don't know. I think it's just a matter of different strokes for different folks. It might also have something to do with what I did for so many years and having to deal with people who were in a really bad place during the time we were in contact. If I'd gotten angry at every "off" comment, I'd have spent the majority of my time chewing my tongue off! A while back maybe a year or two there was one of those maturity tests on line that you and me and a bunch of others tried. You said your score pegged you at 25 years old. Mine was around 50/55 if I'm remembering correctly. Do you feel that a maturity level perception of you by others, affects your ability to communicate with the more mentally mature posters here ?
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Apr 1, 2016 12:53:51 GMT -5
I'm with you on that. I'm bothered by ugly and untrue accusations also and it's no solace to me that those people are really the ugly ones and can't/won't see it.
I always laugh at the posts from people who say they are never bothered, never get angry, blah, blah, blah. Pure horseshit (unless this board is composed of a bunch of robots). There is no shame in having emotions, nor do they prohibit a person from thinking clearly. It's just usually the final defense of an indefensible position - that and crap like "you must hate" or "you must be afraid" - stupid stuff like that.
Mostly, people here are great. Just different opinions, feelings and stances. It's what makes the world go round! It's not pure horseshit. You're starting to sound just like every other over emotional women I've known. You must really hate people who have more control. (Like that?) LOL!! Yes. Just like that.
You neglected to mention I am afraid of them.
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Post by mmhmm on Apr 1, 2016 12:55:43 GMT -5
Gotta disagree with you a bit, GEL. I'm one who rarely gets angry at things said on message boards and I don't think of myself as a robot; nor, am I ashamed of my emotions. I'm just very discerning about where I spend those emotions - and why. Nobody here has any effect on my life. Everyone here is an individual and each has his/her own experiences, goals, dreams and feelings. If I say the sky is blue and someone else chimes in with "No! It's not! It's green!", I'm not going to waste my time and energy getting angry about it. The person could be living somewhere where a tornado is imminent. In that case, their sky is green. The person could be color-blind to greens and blues. That person's sky may well be green. Or, the person might just want an argument. I'm not interested in big arguments with people I don't really know. It's just not that important to me. I do have hot-buttons but I tend to avoid threads I know will activate those because, as I said, I'm not interested in big arguments with people I don't know. I think it's just a matter of different strokes for different folks. It might also have something to do with what I did for so many years and having to deal with people who were in a really bad place during the time we were in contact. If I'd gotten angry at every "off" comment, I'd have spent the majority of my time chewing my tongue off! A while back maybe a year or two there was one of those maturity tests on line that you and me and a bunch of others tried. You said your score pegged you at 25 years old. Mine was around 50/55 if I'm remembering correctly. Do you feel that a maturity level perception of you by others, affects your ability to communicate with the more mentally mature posters here ? I've never really given that any thought. I suppose it could certainly be true. Folks here know my age and a fair amount about my life experiences. Those things might effect others' perception. I really don't know.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2016 13:16:30 GMT -5
A while back maybe a year or two there was one of those maturity tests on line that you and me and a bunch of others tried. You said your score pegged you at 25 years old. Mine was around 50/55 if I'm remembering correctly. Do you feel that a maturity level perception of you by others, affects your ability to communicate with the more mentally mature posters here ? I've never really given that any thought. I suppose it could certainly be true. Folks here know my age and a fair amount about my life experiences. Those things might effect others' perception. I really don't know. There is no way you could. I meant the question as a joke, but forgot my dry humor is often overlooked. I can almost feel the DW slapping me on the back of the head as when I do the same thing to my MIL. "She doesn't get what you mean" she often admonishes. Even though I turn 60 this year, I usually hang with the 70 and older crowd and can get away with saying hugely outlandish statements as an approach to humor. That's what I delivered to you, but it comes out better when face to face.
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Post by mmhmm on Apr 1, 2016 13:47:01 GMT -5
I've never really given that any thought. I suppose it could certainly be true. Folks here know my age and a fair amount about my life experiences. Those things might effect others' perception. I really don't know. There is no way you could. I meant the question as a joke, but forgot my dry humor is often overlooked. I can almost feel the DW slapping me on the back of the head as when I do the same thing to my MIL. "She doesn't get what you mean" she often admonishes. Even though I turn 60 this year, I usually hang with the 70 and older crowd and can get away with saying hugely outlandish statements as an approach to humor. That's what I delivered to you, but it comes out better when face to face. LOL! Well, leave it to me! I found it a rather intriguing question and a concept I hadn't considered.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Apr 1, 2016 13:59:39 GMT -5
Whew! I THOUGHT it was a joke...I was pretty sure it was....but it was so serious, I wasn't sure! I don't like to use the smiley faces so my jokes doesnt' always come across as jokes either!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2016 14:30:27 GMT -5
So has anyone been on the receiving or giving end of a good April Fool's joke today?
My husband has a fairly new pool table that he totally loves and babies (as in brushing the chalk marks out every time we play sort of love). So when he gets home today I'm going to tell him the dog chewed one of the legs.
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Post by lovethebenjis on Apr 1, 2016 14:57:36 GMT -5
Hey there is no surprise party for me here !!!!! Liar Fam !!!!!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2016 15:07:26 GMT -5
It is April's Fools Day. Didn't you bother to read my post?
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Post by lovethebenjis on Apr 1, 2016 15:36:25 GMT -5
So has anyone been on the receiving or giving end of a good April Fool's joke today?
My husband has a fairly new pool table that he totally loves and babies (as in brushing the chalk marks out every time we play sort of love). So when he gets home today I'm going to tell him the dog chewed one of the legs.
Yeah but won't he think it was really you that chewed on it and you are just blaming the dog?
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Post by tloonya on Apr 2, 2016 11:03:35 GMT -5
Well! hickie is sensitive ------ is the new thang for names we can't write anymore Why can't I say a name of the person who hurt my feelings (like it is WAS possible). Would that make that person insulted? NO! And I do have one spot that can't be touched on me. My child. Anyone's kids MUST be untouchable by dirty paws of the any posters as brilliant as they are...
And thanks for coming back Fam and Bam. And I am really desperate of knowing for sure IF Benji as a matter a fact DOES have a girlfriend that is real person
And who is Diogenes
Boy! Few days away from boar and I am lost...got catching up to do.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2016 19:08:20 GMT -5
what do you want to talk about? Someone please answer this.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2016 19:31:58 GMT -5
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Post by gregintenn on Apr 6, 2016 20:16:57 GMT -5
what do you want to talk about? Someone please answer this. What's your favorite brand of chewing tobacco?
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2016 20:21:14 GMT -5
what do you want to talk about? Someone please answer this. What's your favorite brand of chewing tobacco? Grape, yours?
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Post by gregintenn on Apr 6, 2016 20:23:38 GMT -5
Mammoth Cave twist. When I was a mere lad, you could get a plug of tobacco that was apple flavored. The plug was small and square, but they must have compacted it with a hydraulic press. You'd get a small piece of it, and as you chewed it, it would grow and grow until it almost choked you.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2016 20:29:19 GMT -5
Mammoth Cave twist. When I was a mere lad, you could get a plug of tobacco that was apple flavored. The plug was small and square, but they must have compacted it with a hydraulic press. You'd get a small piece of it, and as you chewed it, it would grow and grow until it almost choked you. do your boys chew tobacco?
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Post by gregintenn on Apr 6, 2016 20:32:21 GMT -5
Not that I know about.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2016 20:42:41 GMT -5
I bought some land, 16 acres, about ten years ago. My plan was to rent out my house and travel for work. I wanted someplace to go to when I went home. I ended up not using it for that. I am not really very disiplined when it comes to planning out money. I blame it on being single. I put that land up for sale about a month ago but I think I am asking too much. I want to put a deer stand on it if it doesnt sell. I need to get a dozer to do some road work to get a path to the top of the hill. It doesnt have any water so that is something of a problem. I ran out of things to say about tobacco.
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Post by ken a.k.a OMK on Apr 6, 2016 20:42:58 GMT -5
@hickle I'm a ham radio operator. I can read it.
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Post by gregintenn on Apr 6, 2016 20:51:14 GMT -5
Damn....you and I are truly rednecks, huh?
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