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Post by Deleted on Dec 14, 2015 10:22:22 GMT -5
I agree with her that what kind of car she gets is none of your concern. If you aren't going to be paying for it in any way, you get no input. You are not her husband nor are you the child's father. If you are going to pay for it, you decide. It's that simple. Since she's a GF (not fiancée), I agree. Still, if the relationship gets more serious, it's a discrepancy between her spending philosophies and his, that they will need to address. My first marriage was an extreme example, but my first husband spent everything he made and then maxed out his credit cards. I was a saver. If the roof needed replacement or the water heater died, guess who had to come up with the money. So, even if one person in a marriage or other serious partnership generates enough income to pay for their "wants", their priorities affect the couple's finances and their future. If one person buys the most expensive car they can afford and takes on a 72-month car loan, they're tying up a ton of money that can't be used for anything else. It then becomes the other partner's business.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 14, 2015 10:23:37 GMT -5
I didn't have good luck with used cars. The last one I had, it would lose power while I was driving or decide not to start at random times. I had the alternator replaced more than once, but nobody could seem to figure out why they kept going bad. I was getting off work at 3:30am at the time and I was single with 2 children. It shut down one night on the highway after I'd gotten off work and was going to pick up my kids. That was the last straw. I got rid of that car and started buying new. I kept those cars less than 5 years until I bought the last one in 2003. I still drive that one every day. When I buy another car, it will be new. I haven't lost my preference for new cars, but at least I stopped buying them every few years.
It's easy to say that if you're not going to pay for the car, you don't get a voice in what she chooses. BUT if she chooses something she can't afford, you'll be supporting the purchase indirectly because you'll be picking up the slack somewhere else since paying the car note will mean she won't have money for other things that need to be done. Her buying a car she can't afford is going to become your problem one way or another even if you never pay the note for her. I see some resentment in y'alls future if you all don't get on the same page (or at least in the same chapter) with the finances. She's either going to have to learn how to manage money better or you're going to have to accept that she won't and be ok with funding her spending habits.
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Post by teen persuasion on Dec 14, 2015 10:45:29 GMT -5
If she doesn't have $1k to get her current car to pass inspection, what is she going to use to pay the new car loan with? If she wants to trade cars in every few years, how can she take out a 5-6 year loan? I've never had a car loan, so have no idea how it works - we always buy used and drive them into the ground (DH totals them in a winter storm, or it self destructs). Does the bad transmission car have any trade-in value at all? From your description, it sounds like GF is digging her heels in against any suggestions of yours, no matter how sensible or logical. The more you suggest, the more options are overruled (since they came from you). It sounds like you guys are operating on different wavelengths or have different logical systems. Maybe a bit of reverse psychology could work, but I'd be leery using it on anyone other than a young child, it smacks of "I'm smarter than you, you should just do as I say, or I'll trick you into it". For most things, DH and I are on the same page, but DH and I definitely have different logic systems in a few areas. What makes perfect sense to me is illogical to him, and vice versa. Trying to convince the other that "I'm right" is impossible here, we are just on the issue. We have to compromise on these few items. Compromise takes a number of different forms - if it is just not that important to one of us, that person lets it go and lets the other have his/her way; try and find a different plan acceptable to both; split the difference, each get something they want; occasionally turn a blind eye and let the other have their way in the interest of marital harmony, expecting to get the same treatment at some future date. Over time, we are rubbing off on one another - mention some concept enough in passing (w/o nagging), and then let it drop, and eventually circumstances align so that the other partner sees the possibilities you've seen all along. DH admitted he never saw himself retiring, so he never did any planning for it. I was a SAHM for a long time, so I was trying to convince him to put more away for retirement, but really had no income of my own to do it myself. He did the minimum to get a match, and when the match was removed he wanted to stop contributing. I had to convince him to double his contributions instead, by tweaking his withholdings so his takehome was nearly the same, a small step in the right direction. Left it alone for a while, and when we paid off the student loans, got him to double contributions again. After a few rounds of this, he could see that I wasn't changing our discretionary budget very much, so he was much less resistant to my suggestion that we increase his contributions to 50% of his pay, and open Roth IRAs after we paid off the mortgage, but he did want to cut back his summer teaching, and I agreed. He still (only half)-jokingly referred to his 401k accounts as "your" money, since I was the one to want or care about doing the saving (he'd rather spend), and he had a fatalistic view that he'd never actually retire, he'd just die early and I'd inherit it all. Fast forward a few years, and he was unhappy at work and thinking about quitting, and he suddenly began asking me more about early retirement, if it was real, how close were we, etc. Now, he is beginning to see the light, just beginning, but it is entirely different than before when he "let me" save 5% to his 401k. The thing is, we've always been common potters, especially with only one income for so many years, so we've always taken a "common goal" family POV. You guys are neither here nor there - not married, not common potters, but what one does DOES affect the other in some way, especially if there is an expectation of picking up the slack or bailing the other out. You can't really have your cake and eat it, too.
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Post by andi9899 on Dec 14, 2015 11:30:54 GMT -5
I agree with her that what kind of car she gets is none of your concern. If you aren't going to be paying for it in any way, you get no input. You are not her husband nor are you the child's father. If you are going to pay for it, you decide. It's that simple. Since she's a GF (not fiancée), I agree. Still, if the relationship gets more serious, it's a discrepancy between her spending philosophies and his, that they will need to address. My first marriage was an extreme example, but my first husband spent everything he made and then maxed out his credit cards. I was a saver. If the roof needed replacement or the water heater died, guess who had to come up with the money. So, even if one person in a marriage or other serious partnership generates enough income to pay for their "wants", their priorities affect the couple's finances and their future. If one person buys the most expensive car they can afford and takes on a 72-month car loan, they're tying up a ton of money that can't be used for anything else. It then becomes the other partner's business. True. But he knows this needs to be worked on with her. He instead ignores it and tries to control the situation and her instead. Then comes here with a bragplaint about how he has to keep bailing her out. It's past old and at this point, I gotta wonder why either one keeps the other around if this is the way that they deal with issues.
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Post by obelisk on Dec 14, 2015 11:34:57 GMT -5
Next year, its going to be the 15yr/old who will need a car.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Dec 14, 2015 11:49:31 GMT -5
He needs to make a clear cut contribution to the household finances if they want to avoid these on going tug of wars. The way that it is currently structured leads directly to picking up the slack in his GF's finances, because that's pretty much all he contributes. Then he gets frustrated when the slack gets too large. It would probably help the GF learn how to manage her money better if he made a fixed contribution instead, and stuck with it.
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Post by alabamagal on Dec 14, 2015 11:53:14 GMT -5
DH and I have the same philosphy.
Cars for us, we buy gently used (1 year old cars) and keep them until they die. Current vehicles are 2002 truck 170k miles and 2011 small car 50k miles, both bought when they were 1 year old.
Cars for teens, generally spend ~5k and hope the car lasts through college, title gifted to them upon graduation. Although we did buy a $900 vehicle once when kids were in high school and it lasted 2 years. This has worked out really well for us, kids have transportation through college and a start on life without a new car payment for a year or so. We did have one vehicle that was totaled in an accident that we had to replace with another $5k car.
Check out the insurance rates for teens and it will make you want to give them a paid for car. When we bought the $900 vehicle my insurance actually went down $15 a month because it put my male teen driver as the main driver of that vehicle and off my more expensive truck.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Dec 14, 2015 12:11:45 GMT -5
I find it comes down a lot to the make and model of your car. Also it depends on how hard you are on your cars. DH has blown two head-gaskets during our relationship, in two different cars. He wore his breaks down so far we had to replace more than just the pads when he owned his truck. We could have bought him something brand spanking new and he could figure out a way to destroy it. So far he has yet to figure out how to destroy his 2001 Pontiac. Meanwhile I owned a 1993 Ford Taurus as my first car. I got it in 2003 for $800 and proceeded to drive it another 11 years. It was literally falling apart when we decided to replace it. I currently drive a 2005 Chevy Impala that has over 200,000 miles on it, I just had to replace the original battery and starter a couple of months ago. DH used to be about the newer the better until he realized he's the problem. My dad helped him pick out the Pontiac and it's been a pretty good car to us so far. I don't recommend driving a car until the break line rusts out like I did with the Taurus, but I have no plans on replacing the Impala at this time just b/c it'd old and has 200K miles on it. My dad and DH test drove A LOT of cars before they settled on the Pontiac. I inherited the Impala from my dad so I knew exactly what I was getting.
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Dec 14, 2015 12:19:17 GMT -5
And OP, I only mentioned cars because that is what you talked about. My wife and I have different view points about A LOT ... - Politics: She is democrat and I am a republican... Fun times - Finances: she is save it under the mattress type, I am invest it in the market type - Style/decorations: I got no style or basic taste. - child rearing: total opposites so should be interesting when we do if ever have kids. All the other shit is water under the bridge until you guys have differences in child rearing. Seriously. Get it figured out BEFORE you have babies and haven't slept in a year.
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Post by milee on Dec 14, 2015 12:33:34 GMT -5
And OP, I only mentioned cars because that is what you talked about. My wife and I have different view points about A LOT ... - Politics: She is democrat and I am a republican... Fun times - Finances: she is save it under the mattress type, I am invest it in the market type - Style/decorations: I got no style or basic taste. - child rearing: total opposites so should be interesting when we do if ever have kids. All the other shit is water under the bridge until you guys have differences in child rearing. Seriously. Get it figured out BEFORE you have babies and haven't slept in a year. Oh, so very true. I have never needed much sleep. Before I had kids, it wasn't a big deal to do a full day's work, exercise, etc on 4-5 hours a night. I could even skip a night's sleep and not feel too bad the next day, just a little slower than normal. Even now, it's not often that I get more than 6-7 hours and that seems to work for me.
But I can't tell you how exhausted I was for the first 3-4 years when my kids were little. Just thinking about it makes me tear up a little bit. Not only are you getting less sleep, but for me it was more physically and mentally exhausting than anything I'd ever done. Others may handle it better than I did, but my skills regarding compromise and ability to tolerate BS were at an all time low. If DH and I hadn't been in agreement over the major points of parenting, I'm not sure all of us would have survived and I only have a vague idea on which one(s) of us might not have made it through...
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Post by MJ2.0 on Dec 14, 2015 12:40:19 GMT -5
Have you been looking in my van? No, but I have been riding with some of my friends and it's not a pretty picture. I don't know how some of them stand the smell of their own car. thanks for the reminder that I need to clean out and Febreeze my car. Badly.
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Post by yogiii on Dec 14, 2015 12:44:18 GMT -5
All the other shit is water under the bridge until you guys have differences in child rearing. Seriously. Get it figured out BEFORE you have babies and haven't slept in a year. Oh, so very true. I have never needed much sleep. Before I had kids, it wasn't a big deal to do a full day's work, exercise, etc on 4-5 hours a night. I could even skip a night's sleep and not feel too bad the next day, just a little slower than normal. Even now, it's not often that I get more than 6-7 hours and that seems to work for me.
But I can't tell you how exhausted I was for the first 3-4 years when my kids were little. Just thinking about it makes me tear up a little bit. Not only are you getting less sleep, but for me it was more physically and mentally exhausting than anything I'd ever done. Others may handle it better than I did, but my skills regarding compromise and ability to tolerate BS were at an all time low. If DH and I hadn't been in agreement over the major points of parenting, I'm not sure all of us would have survived and I only have a vague idea on which one(s) of us might not have made it through...
Everything about your post is me. My 5 year old was up all night Saturday because his ear hurt and I was pretty much having PTSD episodes on Sunday thinking about his first year of life and how that was my every day.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Dec 14, 2015 12:49:07 GMT -5
I'm glad there's other moms who aren't all sunshine and roses about the whole motherhood thing. The FB friends who say stuff like "being a parent is awesome!" and "it's the best thing I've ever done!" make me want to throw things.
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Post by swamp on Dec 14, 2015 12:55:42 GMT -5
I'm glad there's other moms who aren't all sunshine and roses about the whole motherhood thing. The FB friends who say stuff like "being a parent is awesome!" and "it's the best thing I've ever done!" make me want to throw things. Amen. My kids are 17 months apart. The first few years sucked. I was very unhappy. I was also perpetually exhausted, and fat. Things are much better now.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Dec 14, 2015 12:56:49 GMT -5
The FB friends who say stuff like "being a parent is awesome!" and "it's the best thing I've ever done!" make me want to throw things.
They're probably drunk when they post this.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Dec 14, 2015 12:58:38 GMT -5
I'm glad there's other moms who aren't all sunshine and roses about the whole motherhood thing. The FB friends who say stuff like "being a parent is awesome!" and "it's the best thing I've ever done!" make me want to throw things. I wonder if some of those people are afraid to admit that it's not all roses and sunshine. Kind of like my mom's glowing posts about her husband when the rest of us know he's a piece of shit.
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Post by mojothehelpermonkey on Dec 14, 2015 12:59:19 GMT -5
My SO and I have both been driving the same cars throughout our almost 6 year relationship, so we are at least pretty close to being on the same page. I have a 2008 Civic that I am hoping to keep driving for a while. My SO's truck is a few years older and has a lot of miles on it, but he takes really good care of it. Both are paid off too, which is really nice. When we do have to replace one of them, we will probably just sit down and figure out how much we are willing to spend. Then I will let him do most of the shopping. Not just because I am lazy and hate the car buying process either. My SO knows more about cars, and his wants/needs are more specific than mine.
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Post by mojothehelpermonkey on Dec 14, 2015 13:02:33 GMT -5
I'm glad there's other moms who aren't all sunshine and roses about the whole motherhood thing. The FB friends who say stuff like "being a parent is awesome!" and "it's the best thing I've ever done!" make me want to throw things. I wonder if some of those people are afraid to admit that it's not all roses and sunshine. Kind of like my mom's glowing posts about her husband when the rest of us know he's a piece of shit. I wonder that too, especially the parents who seem to be trying to convince everyone that their child is the next Einstein, Beethoven, etc...
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Post by muttleynfelix on Dec 14, 2015 13:02:33 GMT -5
Oh, so very true. I have never needed much sleep. Before I had kids, it wasn't a big deal to do a full day's work, exercise, etc on 4-5 hours a night. I could even skip a night's sleep and not feel too bad the next day, just a little slower than normal. Even now, it's not often that I get more than 6-7 hours and that seems to work for me.
But I can't tell you how exhausted I was for the first 3-4 years when my kids were little. Just thinking about it makes me tear up a little bit. Not only are you getting less sleep, but for me it was more physically and mentally exhausting than anything I'd ever done. Others may handle it better than I did, but my skills regarding compromise and ability to tolerate BS were at an all time low. If DH and I hadn't been in agreement over the major points of parenting, I'm not sure all of us would have survived and I only have a vague idea on which one(s) of us might not have made it through...
Everything about your post is me. My 5 year old was up all night Saturday because his ear hurt and I was pretty much having PTSD episodes on Sunday thinking about his first year of life and how that was my every day. DD has been getting up in MOTN and I am pooped. I thought I was past this shit. Such a struggling. Plus when your kid is almost 3, people expect you to be a functioning adult. Not dealing with a kid who is up in the MOTN.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Dec 14, 2015 13:10:12 GMT -5
IMO nearly everything else you can do in your life is fixable if you screw it up. Not a kid!
Back to the topic at hand... X and I bought 2 cars as a couple. The first was heavily researched and after looking for something safe, affordable, and that he could physically sit in the driver seat and drive (he's 6'2" and wide-ish), we bought a new Toyota Yaris in 2009. That lasted until I totalled it close to DS's 1st birthday in 2012 (thank God he wasn't in it). To replace it, we took the total check and bought a used car - my current car, a 2009 Hyundai Sonata. That was kind of a nightmare. He was IMO trying to be unreasonable in haggling so I finally had enough. I wanted the car - it's safe, had low mileage, wasn't that expensive, and both of us could drive it. So I spoke up. He was PISSED, but I think we still got a decent deal. I've had weird issues with the brakes (I think I need to get brand name brake parts instead of second market brakes next time), but other than that I've been satisfied. I would LOVE a new car, but I'm alright with used (as long as the mileage isn't too bad) and I'll drive it until it becomes unsafe. X is the same way.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Dec 14, 2015 13:11:28 GMT -5
IMO nearly everything else you can do in your life is fixable if you screw it up. Not a kid! Kids are very fixable. Just look at all of the people on this forum that had shitty parents.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Dec 14, 2015 13:18:25 GMT -5
I'm glad there's other moms who aren't all sunshine and roses about the whole motherhood thing. The FB friends who say stuff like "being a parent is awesome!" and "it's the best thing I've ever done!" make me want to throw things. Amen. My kids are 17 months apart. The first few years sucked. I was very unhappy. I was also perpetually exhausted, and fat. Things are much better now. I keep hoping to get to the sweet spot!
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Post by MJ2.0 on Dec 14, 2015 13:20:47 GMT -5
IMO nearly everything else you can do in your life is fixable if you screw it up. Not a kid! Kids are very fixable. Just look at all of the people on this forum that had shitty parents.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Dec 14, 2015 13:24:07 GMT -5
Kids are very fixable. Just look at all of the people on this forum that had shitty parents. Just because this tranny had bad parents and never recovered, doesn't mean everyone is like that.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Dec 14, 2015 13:37:25 GMT -5
Just because this tranny had bad parents and never recovered, doesn't mean everyone is like that. LMFAO!!!!!
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Post by andi9899 on Dec 14, 2015 13:41:26 GMT -5
No, but I have been riding with some of my friends and it's not a pretty picture. I don't know how some of them stand the smell of their own car. thanks for the reminder that I need to clean out and Febreeze my car. Badly. Yet another reason I am so glad my kids aren't little anymore. Those days are over. Thing 1's car is pretty gross. Thing 2's car is clean. The same is true for their rooms.
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Post by busymom on Dec 14, 2015 13:43:07 GMT -5
DH & I are on the same page. DD saved up the down payment for her own car, & is working part-time & making car payments while attending college. Oh, & she pays for her own insurance too.
DH & I drive our cars until they die. Literally. Or, until little pieces start breaking off (rust) and are littering the road...
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Post by andi9899 on Dec 14, 2015 13:45:11 GMT -5
I'm glad there's other moms who aren't all sunshine and roses about the whole motherhood thing. The FB friends who say stuff like "being a parent is awesome!" and "it's the best thing I've ever done!" make me want to throw things. Thing 1 was showing me some vine or something the other day of a kitten going down a slide. The mama cat went and got it only for a different kitten to go down the slide. At the end, Thing 1 goes "damn kids!" She may or may not have heard me say it about a billion times.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Dec 14, 2015 13:51:38 GMT -5
I'm glad there's other moms who aren't all sunshine and roses about the whole motherhood thing. The FB friends who say stuff like "being a parent is awesome!" and "it's the best thing I've ever done!" make me want to throw things. Thing 1 was showing me some vine or something the other day of a kitten going down a slide. The mama cat went and got it only for a different kitten to go down the slide. At the end, Thing 1 goes "damn kids!" She may or may not have heard me say it about a billion times. when I was in high school I had a hamster that had babies. We had no idea she was pregnant - we just came downstairs to her in her tank with like 10 little baby hamsters. she still had the wheel in there and she'd use it while the babies were all piled up. Sometimes one of them wandered over to her and got stuck in the wheel. She'd stop running, put it back in the pile/nest, and go back to running. It got so bad that we took her wheel. Then she started climbing up her water bottle in an attempt to escape. So we had a ball-type wheel set up for her and she was happy.... until the babies starting getting stuck in that. I learned three things from that experience: 1) verify pet gender prior to taking it home 2) all parents need a break sometimes. 3) kids ruin everything.
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Post by flamingo on Dec 14, 2015 13:55:56 GMT -5
Dh and I don't have combined finances. We are pretty much on the same page regarding car purchases, though neither of us really gets involved in the other's decision unless specifically asked. After he found out his old car was rusted from the inside out and needed replaced, he went one day to the dealership while I was at work, called me at one point to say, this seems like a good deal (to which I agreed) and when I got home he had a new car.
I didn't know until that phone call that he was the dealership. I pretty much have PTSD from my last car buying experience, so I'm fine that he went without me. But here's why it was really ok: WE ARE THE SAME PAGE FINANCIALLY. Forget buying a car or going on vacation or whatever. The real issue is finances as a whole. And we both are working towards the same goal. Which is for me to be able to retire earlier than most, as he's a bit older than me and is already semi-retired. I trust him to make good financial decisions. And the ONE TIME he's made a bad financial decision since we've been together, it was a small blip on the radar. We could afford that blip, and it wouldn't have been a blip, but for other really good things happening in our lives at that time.
I don't think you're going to win this one, OP. You don't have combined finances aren't engaged/married. I can't remember if you live with your GF full time, or just part time. But this just seems to be another symptom of a major problem between the two of you. Good luck.
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