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Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2015 17:55:31 GMT -5
When I was going to yoga classes, I knew a guy that joked about going to a class with me. He was not interested in yoga. He would have definitely been the creep in the yoga class.
@hickle, take some yoga classes if you're interested in yoga. If you're concerned that people might think you're there for the wrong reasons, maybe you should try to get there early enough to be near the front of the class. But even if you get stuck in the back, getting into the poses correctly and holding them requires you to focus on what you're doing, you won't be paying much attention to what everyone else is doing anyway. I could be wrong, but I'd expect the creepy dude to be in the back, doing more looking around and staring than focusing on his own poses.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Aug 10, 2015 18:01:51 GMT -5
what about meetup type things for meeting women? I thought about going to a toastmasters meeting or a yoga meeting. I am worried that I would look creepy going to yoga and not sure there would be many women at toastmasters. I looked for single meetups but they look more like the thing where you have to talk and I can get a bit flustered. I thought something where I was doing something and the talk would be natural would be better for me. I know I will have to talk, I would rather it be while doing an activity and not specifically trying to get to know someone, if that makes sense. I like the idea of toastmasters, is that going to have much of a chance or just dumb. I like the idea of yoga, because I am having some problems working out because of inflexibility. Any advice is helpful, thanks. Just go into the yoga class and start doing pelvic thrusts while you are in the middle of the downward dog. Girls love that stuff
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Post by weltschmerz on Aug 10, 2015 18:15:03 GMT -5
I go to yoga once in a while. There are a few men in the class, but they're not there to ogle. They're quite limber, and are really into it.
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Post by nutty on Aug 10, 2015 18:19:08 GMT -5
I happen to think it is a combination of looks and sass, I have got many emails and been like hmmm, it's the ones that make me laugh that I like. At first I was picky now I send a message to anyone that that looks appealing to me. Scale !! Though it seems I may be ending up at this point with a guy I met from the bar.
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Post by weltschmerz on Aug 10, 2015 18:20:50 GMT -5
Uh oh!! It appears that yoga is demonic in nature.
Yoga is marketed in the guise of an innocent, healthful technique, but it is far from it. H.Rieker warns: "Yoga is not a trifling jest if we consider that any misunderstanding in the practice of yoga can mean death or insanity," and that if the breath is "prematurely exhausted, there is immediate danger of death for the yogi" (Rieker, The Yoga of Light (Los Angeles: Dawn House) 1974, p. 135). Blackouts, strange trance states, or insanity are listed from even "the slightest mistake…" of practicing yoga. Swami Prabhavananda's Yoga and Mysticism lists brain injury, incurable disease, and insanity as potential hazards of wrong yoga practice.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Aug 10, 2015 19:39:24 GMT -5
Heck, just go to neighborhood bar and start up conversations with total strangers. Worked for me. I met someone this way and we were together for about 8 yrs - then he started throwing out the M word and I started to back peddle but it was a great 8 yrs.
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Post by Opti on Aug 10, 2015 19:53:10 GMT -5
Heck, just go to neighborhood bar and start up conversations with total strangers. Worked for me. I met someone this way and we were together for about 8 yrs - then he started throwing out the M word and I started to back peddle but it was a great 8 yrs. Does this work in non-smoking sections of bars? How many times do you meet at the bar before you go out with former total stranger. I need details!
And I think Hickle wants them too.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2015 19:58:59 GMT -5
Heck, just go to neighborhood bar and start up conversations with total strangers. Worked for me. I met someone this way and we were together for about 8 yrs - then he started throwing out the M word and I started to back peddle but it was a great 8 yrs. Does this work in non-smoking sections of bars? How many times do you meet at the bar before you go out with former total stranger. I need details!
And I think Hickle wants them too.
I am not sure what to think of bars. I do not want to drink. The last few times I went to bars a lot of the women there were grouped together and seemed to want to just have fun amongst themselves.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 10, 2015 20:58:59 GMT -5
Oh oh get out the ouija board!!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2015 21:06:56 GMT -5
I was inspired by your post and looked up my old pof.com account. managed to get 2 dates for this week. SCORE!
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Post by Tennesseer on Aug 10, 2015 21:15:58 GMT -5
Oh oh get out the ouija board!! If the spirits are on strike and the ouija board doesn't work, there is always the Magic 8 Ball.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Aug 11, 2015 9:03:00 GMT -5
Heck, just go to neighborhood bar and start up conversations with total strangers. Worked for me. I met someone this way and we were together for about 8 yrs - then he started throwing out the M word and I started to back peddle but it was a great 8 yrs. Does this work in non-smoking sections of bars? How many times do you meet at the bar before you go out with former total stranger. I need details!
And I think Hickle wants them too.
It was going to be a one night stand ETA: How many times do you email a person on dating site online before you go out with them?
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 11, 2015 13:18:47 GMT -5
I asked a guy friend and he says he takes his cues from the lady. If she doesn't seem ready, he says for her to let him know when she is ready to meet. He also says that after awhile he just stops emailing because he's not into a pen pal thing.
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Post by Angel! on Aug 11, 2015 18:00:54 GMT -5
I asked a guy friend and he says he takes his cues from the lady. If she doesn't seem ready, he says for her to let him know when she is ready to meet. He also says that after awhile he just stops emailing because he's not into a pen pal thing. When I first signed up my brother's advice was to meet early on. I guess he wasted weeks & months emailing some women only to finally meet & realize there was zero attraction. This especially makes sense if you aren't really looking for a serious relationship, but just want to get out & have fun.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2015 18:13:08 GMT -5
Does this work in non-smoking sections of bars? How many times do you meet at the bar before you go out with former total stranger. I need details!
And I think Hickle wants them too.
I am not sure what to think of bars. I do not want to drink. The last few times I went to bars a lot of the women there were grouped together and seemed to want to just have fun amongst themselves. You don't have to drink, get a club soda. The key is confidence, the best advice I ever got was "Keep talking, eventually someone is gonna like what you got to say". And the answer to how many times is once, you most likely will not get another chance.
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Post by cktc on Aug 11, 2015 19:02:12 GMT -5
First of all you need to loosen up and stop taking yourself so seriously. Who likes to be called creepy? I don't, do you? I've heard creep is actually one of the most offensive things you can call a man. Toastmasters and yoga sound like great ideas to me. Just do things that interest you and have fun. I never met any dates at meetups, but having a life outside of dating is important, and makes things much easier when you do meet people, whether they share your interests or not.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2015 19:22:39 GMT -5
Who likes to be called creepy? I don't, do you? I've heard creep is actually one of the most offensive things you can call a man. Toastmasters and yoga sound like great ideas to me. Just do things that interest you and have fun. I never met any dates at meetups, but having a life outside of dating is important, and makes things much easier when you do meet people, whether they share your interests or not. posters here do it because it is fun to bad talk people. who cares if they offend. and there is no point in responding to what other posters actually say. when they are told they offend, they just blow it off.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 11, 2015 20:01:06 GMT -5
I'd also be careful not to go off on a rant about hating cops or authority figures.
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Post by mmhmm on Aug 11, 2015 20:05:19 GMT -5
Who likes to be called creepy? I don't, do you? I've heard creep is actually one of the most offensive things you can call a man. Toastmasters and yoga sound like great ideas to me. Just do things that interest you and have fun. I never met any dates at meetups, but having a life outside of dating is important, and makes things much easier when you do meet people, whether they share your interests or not. You really, really need to post more! Post everywhere! Even post in the "I've Got a Beef With the Admins" threads! Your avatar always makes me giggle! I love it!
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Post by Opti on Aug 11, 2015 20:10:34 GMT -5
Woman, you have to start getting out more! Bars haven't allowed smoking indoors in like a decade. Man, those were the days though. A whiskey and coke in one hand, a cigarette in the other, wingmanning for my dumbass military buddies. Met a couple total weirdos that way, but it was fun Man, I've been under-funded since summer of 2003, when do you think I can afford to go to bars? *Glares at SDG*
I think I've been to bars perhaps 4 times since that layoff, two of them as celebrations/condolences for jobs ending for a bunch of people(two different employers).
I'm glad those days are over, probably could enjoy some bands playing in bars now. It turns out I have good reason to be leary of Atlantic City, etc. as smoke does affect my allergies & health. smoking.uslegal.com/smoking-regulations-in-new-jersey/
There are some places where the prohibition on smoking does not apply. These places include cigar bars and cigar lounges, tobacco retail establishments that make 51 percent or more of their sales from tobacco products, tobacco businesses, private homes, and private residences, and private automobiles, floors of casinos and casino simulcasting facilities.[iv] - See more at: smoking.uslegal.com/smoking-regulations-in-new-jersey/#sthash.6YNBptab.dpuf
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2015 20:12:30 GMT -5
Woman, you have to start getting out more! Bars haven't allowed smoking indoors in like a decade. Man, those were the days though. A whiskey and coke in one hand, a cigarette in the other, wingmanning for my dumbass military buddies. Met a couple total weirdos that way, but it was fun Man, I've been under-funded since summer of 2003, when do you think I can afford to go to bars? *Glares at SDG*
I think I've been to bars perhaps 4 times since that layoff, two of them as celebrations/condolences for jobs ending for a bunch of people(two different employers).
I'm glad those days are over, probably could enjoy some bands playing in bars now. It turns out I have good reason to be leary of Atlantic City, etc. as smoke does affect my allergies & health. smoking.uslegal.com/smoking-regulations-in-new-jersey/
There are some places where the prohibition on smoking does not apply. These places include cigar bars and cigar lounges, tobacco retail establishments that make 51 percent or more of their sales from tobacco products, tobacco businesses, private homes, and private residences, and private automobiles, floors of casinos and casino simulcasting facilities.[iv] - See more at: smoking.uslegal.com/smoking-regulations-in-new-jersey/#sthash.6YNBptab.dpuf
go to a lady's night, cheap drinks for women, easy enough to find a guy to buy you drinks if you want.
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Post by Opti on Aug 11, 2015 20:15:45 GMT -5
Does this work in non-smoking sections of bars? How many times do you meet at the bar before you go out with former total stranger. I need details!
And I think Hickle wants them too.
It was going to be a one night stand ETA: How many times do you email a person on dating site online before you go out with them? NNP, have not done much on the dating online thing either. Being poor is not a plus unless you are young, drop dead gorgeous, and are interested in men much older than yourself. Have not dated in a long time. My ability to patiently encourage a man, to someday, while I am alive, ask me out is, well, not very good.
P.S. I am obviously one of those take home to Mom types, so that hurts too, for easy dates.
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Post by Opti on Aug 11, 2015 20:16:33 GMT -5
Man, I've been under-funded since summer of 2003, when do you think I can afford to go to bars? *Glares at SDG*
I think I've been to bars perhaps 4 times since that layoff, two of them as celebrations/condolences for jobs ending for a bunch of people(two different employers).
I'm glad those days are over, probably could enjoy some bands playing in bars now. It turns out I have good reason to be leary of Atlantic City, etc. as smoke does affect my allergies & health. smoking.uslegal.com/smoking-regulations-in-new-jersey/
There are some places where the prohibition on smoking does not apply. These places include cigar bars and cigar lounges, tobacco retail establishments that make 51 percent or more of their sales from tobacco products, tobacco businesses, private homes, and private residences, and private automobiles, floors of casinos and casino simulcasting facilities.[iv] - See more at: smoking.uslegal.com/smoking-regulations-in-new-jersey/#sthash.6YNBptab.dpuf
go to a lady's night, cheap drinks for women, easy enough to find a guy to buy you drinks if you want. Do I show up just looking womanly, or easy?
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Post by andi9899 on Aug 11, 2015 20:16:59 GMT -5
Woman, you have to start getting out more! Bars haven't allowed smoking indoors in like a decade. Man, those were the days though. A whiskey and coke in one hand, a cigarette in the other, wingmanning for my dumbass military buddies. Met a couple total weirdos that way, but it was fun. Here it's allowed in private clubs. And in casinos on the floor, not in common areas.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2015 20:19:00 GMT -5
go to a lady's night, cheap drinks for women, easy enough to find a guy to buy you drinks if you want. Do I show up just looking womanly, or easy? just go,maybe want to dance or talk. Most guys would like to have a woman approach them.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Aug 11, 2015 20:37:55 GMT -5
go to a lady's night, cheap drinks for women, easy enough to find a guy to buy you drinks if you want. Do I show up just looking womanly, or easy? I vote easy.
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Post by nutty on Aug 12, 2015 10:46:04 GMT -5
I must be doing this POF thing wrong, I have only got one date.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Aug 12, 2015 10:59:05 GMT -5
Do I show up just looking womanly, or easy? just go,maybe want to dance or talk. Most guys would like to have a woman approach them. and most women would like a man to approach them. I'm talking to one on POF, one on Tinder, and one on text (we were supposed to hang out Sunday but he had to cancel last minute). Once these peter out, I'm done for a while. Time to focus on making some good girlfriends and getting my money and housing situation taken care of. People jerk each other around too much and I'm getting less and less tolerant of flakes.
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Post by nutty on Aug 12, 2015 12:03:26 GMT -5
I was waiting for the men to email me, now I just email them .. scale.
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