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Post by zibazinski on Aug 10, 2015 7:57:18 GMT -5
I'd advise not debating them either or asking them to "research " or look something up for you. Most people want to have a good time not defend an opinion all night long. Ugh, reminds me of a few dates from hell. Go out to eat at a restaurant YOU can afford. Don't go to a fancy one and order the cheapest thing on the menu so she feels obligated to as well. Then proceed to interrogate her about her past all during dinner under the guise of "getting to know her." If she says a subject isn't one she cares to discuss, like her ex, don't accuse her of not being over him. By that time, she's over you and your date. Don't be surprised if she gets up and leaves you during dinner and never comes back.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Aug 10, 2015 8:32:07 GMT -5
I like playing poker, gambling, arcade/video games, and food. That attracts an ... interesting subset of men.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 10, 2015 13:13:16 GMT -5
It can. But I'm sure they're fun to hang out with
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Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2015 13:58:36 GMT -5
Um, I wouldn't mention Toastmasters or yoga. Not for several dates, if ever. Lol. What's wrong with yoga? I'd think a man was open-minded if the fact that he practices yoga came up in general conversation. But maybe that's because I like yoga. Well, now that I think about it, when I first started exploring yoga, people IRL did think it was weird. But I still don't feel like I should never mention my interest in yoga. Now Toastmasters...... that should definitely only be mentioned after someone already knows you're not boring.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Aug 10, 2015 14:13:29 GMT -5
I love yoga, but the men I've talked to who like it are a little too crunchy and groovy for my tastes.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Aug 10, 2015 14:34:02 GMT -5
Um, I wouldn't mention Toastmasters or yoga. Not for several dates, if ever. Lol. What's wrong with yoga? I'd think a man was open-minded if the fact that he practices yoga came up in general conversation. But maybe that's because I like yoga. Well, now that I think about it, when I first started exploring yoga, people IRL did think it was weird. But I still don't feel like I should never mention my interest in yoga. Now Toastmasters...... that should definitely only be mentioned after someone already knows you're not boring. Yeah, most guys I know who do yoga do it to supplement their sports training (long-distance running and cycling, for example, and some members of the Eagles do pilates), so i have had real conversations about it with them. What's weird is guys who have never done yoga all of a sudden turning up at a yoga studio thinking it's a good way to meet women. If you already do yoga, cool. If not, don't be a creeper in the back of the class. If you have a real interest in taking up yoga, then do it for the health benefits.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Aug 10, 2015 14:44:42 GMT -5
Lol. What's wrong with yoga? I'd think a man was open-minded if the fact that he practices yoga came up in general conversation. But maybe that's because I like yoga. Well, now that I think about it, when I first started exploring yoga, people IRL did think it was weird. But I still don't feel like I should never mention my interest in yoga. Now Toastmasters...... that should definitely only be mentioned after someone already knows you're not boring. Yeah, most guys I know who do yoga do it to supplement their sports training (long-distance running and cycling, for example, and some members of the Eagles do pilates), so i have had real conversations about it with them. What's weird is guys who have never done yoga all of a sudden turning up at a yoga studio thinking it's a good way to meet women. If you already do yoga, cool. If not, don't be a creeper in the back of the class. If you have a real interest in taking up yoga, then do it for the health benefits. Truth. Plus I get completely in the zone when I do yoga, so anyone trying to talk to me would be completely ignored... unless they distract me and I lose my balance. And then I'll just be REALLY annoyed.
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Post by chiver78 on Aug 10, 2015 14:46:04 GMT -5
I read the Toastmasters and yoga post as if hickle is looking at those as "other places he can meet women besides the online dating sites" am I correct, @hickle?
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Post by Cookies Galore on Aug 10, 2015 14:50:28 GMT -5
I read the Toastmasters and yoga post as if hickle is looking at those as "other places he can meet women besides the online dating sites" am I correct, @hickle? I read it as places to meet women as well, which is total creeper. But since he made that comment about his physical inflexibility, yoga could be helpful. But not in a meeting chicks way.
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Post by Angel! on Aug 10, 2015 14:56:18 GMT -5
My advice: - Don't lie about your age - Don't set unreasonable expectations as to what age woman you are looking for - Don't email much younger women that aren't looking for a man in your age group
The age thing just pissed me off when I was doing match. Men seemed to lie about their age. I went one date with a "40 year old" that I'm fairly certain was closer to 50 once I met him. Also too many chased after younger women. I was getting emails from 55 year olds when my profile said I was looking for a guy 30-40 years old (I'm 35). The guys emailing were wasting their time as well as mine. Then I saw a few that said the age range they were seeking was 18-their age. So like a 35 year old man was looking for a woman between 18-35. Any man in his 30's that isn't willing to date a woman a year or two older than him, but thinks it is ok to date an 18 year old isn't getting a response from me.
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Post by chiver78 on Aug 10, 2015 14:56:26 GMT -5
I read the Toastmasters and yoga post as if hickle is looking at those as "other places he can meet women besides the online dating sites" am I correct, @hickle? I read it as places to meet women as well, which is total creeper. But since he made that comment about his physical inflexibility, yoga could be helpful. But not in a meeting chicks way. oh I totally agree with you. I just saw a couple posts that sounded like those people read it as things to include in his own dating profile. I've finished catching up on the thread now. hickle - someone else already asked, but what do you like to do in your spare time? you're going to have more fun with whatever lady you end up meeting if you have some things in common to do together (other than just sex...)
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Post by imawino on Aug 10, 2015 15:10:47 GMT -5
I read the Toastmasters and yoga post as if hickle is looking at those as "other places he can meet women besides the online dating sites" am I correct, @hickle? I read it as places to meet women as well, which is total creeper. But since he made that comment about his physical inflexibility, yoga could be helpful. But not in a meeting chicks way. I don't get how it's any more creepy than engaging in any other activity where you could hope to meet a date. If he'd said "I want to stand in the back and watch women bend over", sure. But the vibe he gave off was a lot more like "here's an activity I'm considering, maybe I could meet someone."
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Post by MJ2.0 on Aug 10, 2015 15:15:11 GMT -5
I read it as places to meet women as well, which is total creeper. But since he made that comment about his physical inflexibility, yoga could be helpful. But not in a meeting chicks way. I don't get how it's any more creepy than engaging in any other activity where you could hope to meet a date. If he'd said "I want to stand in the back and watch women bend over", sure. But the vibe he gave off was a lot more like "here's an activity I'm considering, maybe I could meet someone." to be fair, it sounded like he was looking for things to do where he could meet women - not that he already likes these things and maybe he could meet women than way.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2015 15:16:07 GMT -5
I read the Toastmasters and yoga post as if hickle is looking at those as "other places he can meet women besides the online dating sites" am I correct, @hickle? Yes, I read one way to meet women is to do stuff you are interested in that women also do. I think I would like toastmasters and I need to do something because I am getting inflexible. I have a hard time with squats working out and with movement in general in life.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2015 15:20:57 GMT -5
I read it as places to meet women as well, which is total creeper. But since he made that comment about his physical inflexibility, yoga could be helpful. But not in a meeting chicks way. I don't get how it's any more creepy than engaging in any other activity where you could hope to meet a date. If he'd said "I want to stand in the back and watch women bend over", sure. But the vibe he gave off was a lot more like "here's an activity I'm considering, maybe I could meet someone." that is what I am thinking. I want to get out more and to date some. I looked on meetup for things that I thought I would enjoy and those two appealed to me. I thought toastmaster would help me talk to people easier, and I just thought I would like it. I am having trouble with flexibility and am trying some things on my own, but routine and schedule help me better and thought a class in yoga. I do not want to be creepy so should I reconsider those two? Not sure how they will get new members if new people are thought of as creepy.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Aug 10, 2015 15:27:09 GMT -5
I read the Toastmasters and yoga post as if hickle is looking at those as "other places he can meet women besides the online dating sites" am I correct, @hickle? Yes, I read one way to meet women is to do stuff you are interested in that women also do. I think I would like toastmasters and I need to do something because I am getting inflexible. I have a hard time with squats working out and with movement in general in life. Okay, so it sounds like you should try some beginner's yoga to help with your flexibility rather than thinking of it strictly as a way to meet women. I mean if you do meet someone, cool beans, but going could be beneficial to you as a whole.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2015 15:30:34 GMT -5
Yes, I read one way to meet women is to do stuff you are interested in that women also do. I think I would like toastmasters and I need to do something because I am getting inflexible. I have a hard time with squats working out and with movement in general in life. Okay, so it sounds like you should try some beginner's yoga to help with your flexibility rather than thinking of it strictly as a way to meet women. I mean if you do meet someone, cool beans, but going could be beneficial to you as a whole. Boo on you for thinking I wanted to be a creep.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Aug 10, 2015 15:37:36 GMT -5
Okay, so it sounds like you should try some beginner's yoga to help with your flexibility rather than thinking of it strictly as a way to meet women. I mean if you do meet someone, cool beans, but going could be beneficial to you as a whole. Boo on you for thinking I wanted to be a creep. Well boo on you in general! But seriously, it is now apparent that yoga would be beneficial to you, so try out a class. If your intention was to go just to be where the females are, then yeah, total creeper. I've been to classes where it was obvious dudes were there for chicks. I've also been to classes where guys have helped me with form and were genuinely helpful.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2015 15:45:27 GMT -5
Boo on you for thinking I wanted to be a creep. Well boo on you in general! But seriously, it is now apparent that yoga would be beneficial to you, so try out a class. If your intention was to go just to be where the females are, then yeah, total creeper. I've been to classes where it was obvious dudes were there for chicks. I've also been to classes where guys have helped me with form and were genuinely helpful. I mentioned yoga one time and said I was worried about looking creepy, but am having problems with flexibility. Maybe you and others should read what people actually say before insulting them. Below is the actual post. eta: I do not like being accused of being creepy.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Aug 10, 2015 15:58:25 GMT -5
Well boo on you in general! But seriously, it is now apparent that yoga would be beneficial to you, so try out a class. If your intention was to go just to be where the females are, then yeah, total creeper. I've been to classes where it was obvious dudes were there for chicks. I've also been to classes where guys have helped me with form and were genuinely helpful. I mentioned yoga one time and said I was worried about looking creepy, but am having problems with flexibility. Maybe you and others should read what people actually say before insulting them. Below is the actual post. eta: I do not like being accused of being creepy. Nobody called you a creep. Thinking some intentions could be creepy, fine, but not a creep. Difference. Hell, my husband is not a creep but his (lack of) communication skills makes him sound creepy at times. Totally not his intention but shit happens. Again, join a yoga class if you have legitimate interest in yoga. Toastmasters might be good too, because people are there to talk.
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Post by weltschmerz on Aug 10, 2015 15:59:49 GMT -5
Volunteer at a hospital or nursing home. You'll meet plenty of women.
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Post by Robert not Bobby on Aug 10, 2015 16:12:52 GMT -5
If I were to join a dating site, how does it work? Is it relatively easy to get dates? Does a person have to have charm in texting to get dates? If I were mostly wanting to just date, but nothing serious, are many women interested in that? Which are the better sites to join? Is it like bars where men usually have to initiate things or do women start up conversations as often as men? Anything else to know?
I am 54, decent looking, not fat or bald, have a job, etc. A bit scared of commitment type stuff, but want to work on that.
Thanks
Hinkle. I'm starting to like you. 54 is no big deal, it is how you carry yourself...are you confident, don't be a liar and respect women and if you have it in you be charming, but not a fake charm or a forced anything.
The lady that I am with now I met at the monthly meeting my local Councilor has to discuss issues that are important to the local community. She sat beside me... one thing led to another...you know. We are both political junkies, concerned about our community, and she is beautiful, and I'm not bad...so that all helped.
There are hundreds of sites to meet and date women on.
Confidence and don't do anything half cocked...you have to be invested and mean it.
Good luck.
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Post by Tennesseer on Aug 10, 2015 16:13:04 GMT -5
Volunteer at a woman's prison.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2015 16:18:35 GMT -5
Volunteer at a woman's prison. yea that's helpful. I hate saying stuff about myself and getting insulted or made fun of.
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Post by Tennesseer on Aug 10, 2015 16:38:02 GMT -5
Volunteer at a woman's prison. yea that's helpful. I hate saying stuff about myself and getting insulted or made fun of. You always have the possibility of a second date.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Aug 10, 2015 16:39:33 GMT -5
Volunteer at a woman's prison. yea that's helpful. I hate saying stuff about myself and getting insulted or made fun of. First of all you need to loosen up and stop taking yourself so seriously.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2015 16:46:13 GMT -5
yea that's helpful. I hate saying stuff about myself and getting insulted or made fun of. First of all you need to loosen up and stop taking yourself so seriously. Who likes to be called creepy? I don't, do you?
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Post by Ryan on Aug 10, 2015 16:47:16 GMT -5
what about meetup type things for meeting women? I thought about going to a toastmasters meeting or a yoga meeting. I am worried that I would look creepy going to yoga and not sure there would be many women at toastmasters. I looked for single meetups but they look more like the thing where you have to talk and I can get a bit flustered. I thought something where I was doing something and the talk would be natural would be better for me. I know I will have to talk, I would rather it be while doing an activity and not specifically trying to get to know someone, if that makes sense. I like the idea of toastmasters, is that going to have much of a chance or just dumb. I like the idea of yoga, because I am having some problems working out because of inflexibility. Any advice is helpful, thanks. Just go into the yoga class and start doing pelvic thrusts while you are in the middle of the downward dog. Girls love that stuff
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 10, 2015 16:48:06 GMT -5
A sense of humor is important.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Aug 10, 2015 16:51:32 GMT -5
First of all you need to loosen up and stop taking yourself so seriously. Who likes to be called creepy? I don't, do you? I said that in response to your reply to Tenn who was obviously joking.
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