How to blow someone off nicely ?

[8 Bit WWBG]

...:::"Do you need more?":::...

Would... ... would it be wrong to say "yes please"?  

[ktunes]

And I thought your question was going to be about technics and stuff. Imagine my disappointment.

a woman after my own heart...

[ZaireinHD]

of course there is a way to nicely say buzz off!

but here is the problem
men seek women then women go through different moods then men get rejected then he keeps trying and trying and trying over and over and over until she finally gives in. during all these attempts she continues to talk to him which gives him hope that he is not completely out of the picture.

tell the guy friends and nothing more and stick to it

[MJ2.0]

Apparently I'm not as shallow as I thought.... I have also been talking to someone I encountered on a dating site, and he is not my "usual type". He's a little older than I typically go for and not " hot", but he appeared to be handsome. He's also what I call a typical NYC guido type with the accent and everything (fuggedaboudit). Met him for drinks last night. Again, not "hot" but handsome - but also a great storyteller with a good sense of humor. A little old fashioned as well but I actually kinda like that. After a while the accent seemed kind of cute even though it usually grates on my nerves. So it went well and he has already asked me when we're going out again. So I'm not TOTALLY shallow... Ha! Suck it, everyone!!!!!

[zibazinski]

Woo hoo!!! Glad you had fun and took a chance. I find guys that aren't so hot develop other qualities, as in a sense of humor.

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Jul 4, 2015 17:58:51 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

 So I'm not TOTALLY shallow... Ha! Suck it, everyone!!!!!

I would like to remind you . . . that YOU are the one that called yourself shallow 

Glad you had fun!!!

Now, will you cancel the other one . . . pleeeeeeease!!!

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Jul 4, 2015 17:58:51 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

Apparently I'm not as shallow as I thought.... I have also been talking to someone I encountered on a dating site, and he is not my "usual type". He's a little older than I typically go for and not " hot", but he appeared to be handsome. He's also what I call a typical NYC guido type with the accent and everything (fuggedaboudit). Met him for drinks last night. Again, not "hot" but handsome - but also a great storyteller with a good sense of humor. A little old fashioned as well but I actually kinda like that. After a while the accent seemed kind of cute even though it usually grates on my nerves. So it went well and he has already asked me when we're going out again. So I'm not TOTALLY shallow... Ha! Suck it, everyone!!!!!

I am not calling you "shallow," but did you notice that you mentioned that he was handsome twice in that post?

[honeysalt]

Glad you had a good date!  I hope you have a lot more, with a variety of men, before you even think about a long term commitment. 

You don't seem very experienced with dating, which is fine, but is seems strange since you have posted about a divorce.  If you got married without having a full range of dating experiences once, don't do it again.  Dating isn't always fun, but it teaches you a lot about the type of qualities you desire and faults you can accept, and it will also teach you about who can accept you as you are.  The people who are the most initially exciting are sometimes those we can't be ourselves around, which is exhausting for any length of time.

Don't get into a relationship until you know how to get put in the friend zone or put someone else in the friend zone (or just tell them you aren't interested) without pause, dilemma or too much emotional investment.  You need to learn how to clearly communicate expectations and desires (emotionally, physically, socially, financially, etc..) with men.  After you learn exactly what you want and how to communicate it when dating, you can get into a relationship and see if it meets your needs. 

I hope you have a great time!  Dating can be a roller coaster ride, but there is a lot of exhilaration that accompanies the nausea. 

[MJ2.0]

Jul 4, 2015 20:47:55 GMT -5 @southernsusana said:

Jul 4, 2015 17:58:51 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

Apparently I'm not as shallow as I thought.... I have also been talking to someone I encountered on a dating site, and he is not my "usual type". He's a little older than I typically go for and not " hot", but he appeared to be handsome. He's also what I call a typical NYC guido type with the accent and everything (fuggedaboudit). Met him for drinks last night. Again, not "hot" but handsome - but also a great storyteller with a good sense of humor. A little old fashioned as well but I actually kinda like that. After a while the accent seemed kind of cute even though it usually grates on my nerves. So it went well and he has already asked me when we're going out again. So I'm not TOTALLY shallow... Ha! Suck it, everyone!!!!!

I am not calling you "shallow," but did you notice that you mentioned that he was handsome twice in that post?

I was repeating that word to make a point at how I was broadening what my typical definition of "appealing" is. I thought that was pretty obvious... guess not.

[MJ2.0]

Jul 4, 2015 21:08:34 GMT -5 honeysalt said:

Glad you had a good date!  I hope you have a lot more, with a variety of men, before you even think about a long term commitment. 

You don't seem very experienced with dating, which is fine, but is seems strange since you have posted about a divorce.  If you got married without having a full range of dating experiences once, don't do it again.  Dating isn't always fun, but it teaches you a lot about the type of qualities you desire and faults you can accept, and it will also teach you about who can accept you as you are.  The people who are the most initially exciting are sometimes those we can't be ourselves around, which is exhausting for any length of time.

Don't get into a relationship until you know how to get put in the friend zone or put someone else in the friend zone (or just tell them you aren't interested) without pause, dilemma or too much emotional investment.  You need to learn how to clearly communicate expectations and desires (emotionally, physically, socially, financially, etc..) with men.  After you learn exactly what you want and how to communicate it when dating, you can get into a relationship and see if it meets your needs. 

I hope you have a great time!  Dating can be a roller coaster ride, but there is a lot of exhilaration that accompanies the nausea. 

I'm not rushing to get into a new relationship, but if I feel that way about someone and that is the natural progression then I'm not going to actively stop it. I've been dating in general for about 9-10 months, and I come away from each experience learning something about myself or how people can be. I figured out that apparently I have a semi-soft spot for one of the guys I had dated earlier this year. That's noteworthy because he did absolutely nothing to deserve it.... on the contrary, I should really dislike him. Still trying to figure that one out. Luckily he moved to TX so that took care of that. But I appreciate your perspective and I agree with pretty much all of what you said.