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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 6, 2015 18:20:43 GMT -5
(I am using it as a euphemism for "naked adult hugs" ) Again, my apologies for wasting your time. Not a problem
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Post by obelisk on Jun 6, 2015 18:30:08 GMT -5
So you're saying I need to move to a new country... Hmmmm.....
Not at all! I did not look for a type. I just enjoyed the company and diversity. Did not complain and somehow I met and married my wife. Life is great with our son. I never thought before I would be in a place like today. Sometimes you have to go out with the tide and see what washes up on the beach the next day. You might get a surprise. Before I got with someone, I wanted to like them first. Sure, I missed many opportunities but it worked for us. So far so good!
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Jun 6, 2015 18:43:11 GMT -5
My son - he drives me extra crazy on Saturdays I guess because we're together so much that day. By 1 I'm counting down the mins till X gets him, lol! Where are the electronics and ocd texting when you need them.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 7, 2015 7:23:08 GMT -5
Since I'm kid-free on Sunday, I'm taking myself on a Jen-date: breakfast, Princeton to walk around and visit the consignment shop, kayaking, and a big early dinner.
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Post by giramomma on Jun 7, 2015 7:26:46 GMT -5
Since I'm kid-free on Sunday, I'm taking myself on a Jen-date: breakfast, Princeton to walk around and visit the consignment shop, kayaking, and a big early dinner. Enjoy!!
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Post by Lizard Queen on Jun 7, 2015 8:34:26 GMT -5
IMO, we should call making yourself *Thai Food* *Chinese food* instead, cause it tastes good, but you're hungry again sooner than you should be.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 7, 2015 9:24:22 GMT -5
IMO, we should call making yourself *Thai Food* *Chinese food* instead, cause it tastes good, but you're hungry again sooner than you should be. Lmao, that's so true!
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 7, 2015 19:31:17 GMT -5
Well, I did everything I planned to do today, and I had a great time doing it! It was perfect kayaking weather and man it's a good arm/shoulder workout! Bought an outfit at the consignment shop, walked around a lot, and had a burger, fries, and margarita at Red Robin (Yum!). I have to say, I really know how to show myself a good time - figured that out in Orlando and it's still pretty nice. Saw lots of hot yuppies downtown, which I hate because they only pay attention to other hot yuppies, lol! The views were still good though.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 7, 2015 20:15:34 GMT -5
Oh and WhatsHisName finally texted "good morning" to me at 10 this morning. It's 9:15 and I still haven't responded. I'm too awesome to be at Backup status - NEXT!
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Post by Ryan on Jun 7, 2015 20:31:54 GMT -5
guys seem to cast a wide net on these dating sites. They prob look at pics, send a standard message, and when they get a response they try to extract a bit more info before expending effort. 'A bit more info' means size of boobs
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 7, 2015 20:41:18 GMT -5
guys seem to cast a wide net on these dating sites. They prob look at pics, send a standard message, and when they get a response they try to extract a bit more info before expending effort. 'A bit more info' means size of boobs No, the worst is when they actually seem like they are not just one-dimensional and then a week later they still have nothing new to say other than requesting additional (translation: more scantily clad) photos. I also think it's hilarious when guys looking for just casual hookups are saying what things they'd like to have in common with a girl.... Why does it matter what she likes? You're just trying to hook up! Smh....
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Post by Deleted on Jun 7, 2015 20:56:52 GMT -5
How about going more of a meetup, look for groups of people with common interests, route, rather than dating sites?
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 7, 2015 22:19:28 GMT -5
How about going more of a meetup, look for groups of people with common interests, route, rather than dating sites? Tried that first - the guys in Meetups are (IME so far) overwhelmingly creepers.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 7, 2015 22:22:05 GMT -5
Hmmm. Interesting. What are your interests? Hobbies?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2015 1:57:48 GMT -5
Oh and WhatsHisName finally texted "good morning" to me at 10 this morning. It's 9:15 and I still haven't responded. I'm too awesome to be at Backup status - NEXT! You are so my hero!!
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Post by happyhoix on Jun 8, 2015 7:03:44 GMT -5
Poor DD. she's actually been asking me stuff about why her boyfriend is so weird. I had to tell her he isn't, he's a man. She's pretty weirded out. Welcome to the "club." as a man, i'd love to hear some stories of what you women consider weird that we might think nothing of Here you go. It was Christmas and my former boss was complaining because his wife was in such a bitchy mood and he didn't know why. My co-worker (also a female) and I started asking questions to help him figure out why. 1) What did you do all weekend? - Well, he didn't do much, but she decorated and cleaned the house. 2) Why didn't you help? - She does all that stuff better. 3) What was she decorating and cleaning for? - We're having a group of people over next weekend. 4) Who are the people? - The guys in my singing group. 5) And their wives? - No, just the guys. 6) So will your wife hang out with these guys when they are there, or will it just be you and your friends hanging out? - I guess probably just me and the guys, since the wives aren't coming. 7) So - YOUR buddies are coming over next weekend and your wife did all the cleaning and decorating while you sat there on your ass doing nothing? Weird - how you plan a party for your friends (without asking your wife) but don't lift a finger to help prepare for it, then get all pissed because your wife is bitchy.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 8, 2015 8:43:19 GMT -5
Hmmm. Interesting. What are your interests? Hobbies? hiking, biking, happy hour from time to time, yoga, kayaking apparently... I'm part of an active/outdoorsy Meetup group. I've gone to about 3 of their events but most of them have done a lot of things together so it feels like I'm walking into a group of established friends. Also the guys get too competitive and can be kind of jerky IMO. I also joined a "hang out" coed Meetup group. Went to two of their events - the girls are pretty cool, but you can SMELL the desperation on the single guys (with good reason as they are mostly socially awkward and unattractive). I'm in a photography group but they seem to meet on days that don't work for me. I'm in a girl's group too as I need some local girlfriends... it's probably my favorite group at this point, lol!
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 8, 2015 8:44:47 GMT -5
as a man, i'd love to hear some stories of what you women consider weird that we might think nothing of Here you go. It was Christmas and my former boss was complaining because his wife was in such a bitchy mood and he didn't know why. My co-worker (also a female) and I started asking questions to help him figure out why. 1) What did you do all weekend? - Well, he didn't do much, but she decorated and cleaned the house. 2) Why didn't you help? - She does all that stuff better. 3) What was she decorating and cleaning for? - We're having a group of people over next weekend. 4) Who are the people? - The guys in my singing group. 5) And their wives? - No, just the guys. 6) So will your wife hang out with these guys when they are there, or will it just be you and your friends hanging out? - I guess probably just me and the guys, since the wives aren't coming. 7) So - YOUR buddies are coming over next weekend and your wife did all the cleaning and decorating while you sat there on your ass doing nothing? Weird - how you plan a party for your friends (without asking your wife) but don't lift a finger to help prepare for it, then get all pissed because your wife is bitchy. if the wife said nothing then she can't really get mad. I don't play those games - if I'm helping get our house ready for YOUR event, you WILL be helping.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2015 8:47:57 GMT -5
So, guys can't be 'jerky competitive' and they can't be 'socially awkward and unattractive'...
Maybe we should start from, what are you looking for?
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 8, 2015 8:56:57 GMT -5
So, guys can't be 'jerky competitive' and they can't be 'socially awkward and unattractive'... Maybe we should start from, what are you looking for? well, really only one guy was being too competitive IMO, the rest were cool. I'm pretty competitive too, but we were playing flag football - something I haven't played since grade school (and I explained that to everyone at the beginning)! Everyone else was actually pretty cool (guys and girls). The last event I went to for the hangout Meetup was at an old-school arcade, which I LOVED. I actually had a great time playing Wii Resort with a few people (mostly girls). I was playing Mortal Kombat against the computer and this guy comes up and presses the VS button. He then proceeds to kick my ass (which I didn't really care about), then starts gloating about how he kicked my ass! Not a way to gain female favor! Here's a good starting point:
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Post by The Captain on Jun 8, 2015 8:59:28 GMT -5
Poor DD. she's actually been asking me stuff about why her boyfriend is so weird. I had to tell her he isn't, he's a man. She's pretty weirded out. Welcome to the "club." as a man, i'd love to hear some stories of what you women consider weird that we might think nothing of Don't know how many have responded yet to this but I'll bite. Now for a chick I consider myself to be pretty, umm, not so emotional. I don't cry at weddings and didn't go through that embarrassing crush phase in HS (thank God!!!!) So I totally can't understand why dudes allow themselves to get so friggin angry/upset/furious when watching a sporting event. I mean you're watching it for enjoyment, right? To relax, unwind, chill out? So what if a ref makes a bad call, is it really worth getting yourself so worked up over that your face is beet red and the veins are popping in your neck? (and I'm clutching my cell phone in case I need to dial 911 to have you resuscitated)
This phenomenon has been observed, regardless of the sport involved, in numerous test subjects. I actually witnessed a guy tear off his team's shirt during a superbowl party and rip it to shreds. Sadly, there was no upside to the performance. Yea, I've seen women get worked up but they are nowhere near as emotionally invested as the guys I know. I just don't get it.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2015 9:00:53 GMT -5
In my opinion, that criteria as #1 is most likely to result in, well, the kind of results you've been getting...
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 8, 2015 9:01:36 GMT -5
I'm exaggerating obviously. Yes, attraction is VERY important, but humor, intelligence, social intelligence, sense of adventure, financial stability or a plan to achieve it is very important as well.
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Post by happyhoix on Jun 8, 2015 9:45:10 GMT -5
Here you go. It was Christmas and my former boss was complaining because his wife was in such a bitchy mood and he didn't know why. My co-worker (also a female) and I started asking questions to help him figure out why. 1) What did you do all weekend? - Well, he didn't do much, but she decorated and cleaned the house. 2) Why didn't you help? - She does all that stuff better. 3) What was she decorating and cleaning for? - We're having a group of people over next weekend. 4) Who are the people? - The guys in my singing group. 5) And their wives? - No, just the guys. 6) So will your wife hang out with these guys when they are there, or will it just be you and your friends hanging out? - I guess probably just me and the guys, since the wives aren't coming. 7) So - YOUR buddies are coming over next weekend and your wife did all the cleaning and decorating while you sat there on your ass doing nothing? Weird - how you plan a party for your friends (without asking your wife) but don't lift a finger to help prepare for it, then get all pissed because your wife is bitchy. if the wife said nothing then she can't really get mad. I don't play those games - if I'm helping get our house ready for YOUR event, you WILL be helping. I believe the bitchy started when she said "can you help me hang the Christmas wreaths on the front windows" and my boss replied "But you do that stuff so much better than I do" which he felt entitled him to sit on the couch. Personally, I would have gone shopping for the day and let him entertain his friends in a dirty, non Christmas-y house, but they'd been married over 30 years and this was the rut they'd dug for themselves, apparently.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 8, 2015 10:03:17 GMT -5
if the wife said nothing then she can't really get mad. I don't play those games - if I'm helping get our house ready for YOUR event, you WILL be helping. I believe the bitchy started when she said "can you help me hang the Christmas wreaths on the front windows" and my boss replied "But you do that stuff so much better than I do" which he felt entitled him to sit on the couch. Personally, I would have gone shopping for the day and let him entertain his friends in a dirty, non Christmas-y house, but they'd been married over 30 years and this was the rut they'd dug for themselves, apparently. I don't understand how people do this. I really don't.
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Post by TheHaitian on Jun 8, 2015 10:40:13 GMT -5
I don't understand how people do this. I really don't. can we get real for a minute...
OK, so i TOTALLY get how that person probably feels, but what if the guy, and his friends, DIDN'T CARE if it was decorated?
I get stuff like this sometimes where DW is cracking the whip and getting all stressed out and i'm like, d00d, we don't even ened to do that, that's your internal expectation, not mine, and not the people coming over.
Yep that is me and my wife 100% when we entertain. She goes crazy and goes on a rampage cleaning the house, wanting everything to be perfect a gets upset if I am not doing the same. The people we invited really don't care. Pizza, beer, games and everyone was happy. But my wife is a younger, black Version of Martha Stewart ... I just think she will drive herself into an early grave or get an ulcer.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 8, 2015 10:41:52 GMT -5
I don't understand how people do this. I really don't. can we get real for a minute...
OK, so i TOTALLY get how that person probably feels, but what if the guy, and his friends, DIDN'T CARE if it was decorated?
I get stuff like this sometimes where DW is cracking the whip and getting all stressed out and i'm like, d00d, we don't even ened to do that, that's your internal expectation, not mine, and not the people coming over.
I try to give DH a choice about a couple of rooms to clean before a party. Except the big bathroom - he's the one that gets whiskers and soap scum everywhere - I'm done with cleaning the sink and counters in there. And yes, I've already handed a clean towel to his Mom after she says there's not one in there with a reference to DH being the one who was supposed to clean that room.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 8, 2015 10:52:27 GMT -5
I don't understand how people do this. I really don't. can we get real for a minute...
OK, so i TOTALLY get how that person probably feels, but what if the guy, and his friends, DIDN'T CARE if it was decorated?
I get stuff like this sometimes where DW is cracking the whip and getting all stressed out and i'm like, d00d, we don't even ened to do that, that's your internal expectation, not mine, and not the people coming over.
I understand that whole varying expectations/standards thing, but if she gives you a task (vacuum, sweep/mop floor) can't you just do that and be supportive?
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 8, 2015 11:00:59 GMT -5
can we get real for a minute...
OK, so i TOTALLY get how that person probably feels, but what if the guy, and his friends, DIDN'T CARE if it was decorated?
I get stuff like this sometimes where DW is cracking the whip and getting all stressed out and i'm like, d00d, we don't even ened to do that, that's your internal expectation, not mine, and not the people coming over.
I understand that whole varying expectations/standards thing, but if she gives you a task (vacuum, sweep/mop floor) can't you just do that and be supportive? Only if she will mow the lawn when given that task.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 8, 2015 11:07:25 GMT -5
I understand that whole varying expectations/standards thing, but if she gives you a task (vacuum, sweep/mop floor) can't you just do that and be supportive? Only if she will mow the lawn when given that task. You want me to mow the lawn, you get an electric lawn mower. You want me to snowblow, you get me a snowblower with an electric start. I lack the abliltiy to do a pull cord start. And I mention this every time we go shopping for new yard equipment. We inherited both a lawn mower and a snowblower I can start from my Dad. DH continues to want to buy ones I can't start. Right now I'm on doctor's orders to lift nothing heavier than 10 lbs and DH and I both agree that means no yard work.
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