pepper112765
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Post by pepper112765 on Mar 7, 2011 13:46:06 GMT -5
Sometimes the stress of the daily grind is what gets to me. Last night I determined Facebook is what causes this envy and resentment. My friends post things about getting massages and chiropractor adjustments and topping it off by getting their hair done. I also see things about two hour workouts or bags full of new makeup and brushes. A welfare mama I know is shopping for new furniture. I know their situations . . . . Due to my career, I have been working seven days a week. So yes, I yearn for days like my friends have. It is easy to want something the way you perceive others have, as it is obvious you are not content where you are in life at this moment. If you can't be content where you are, how will you be content if you move further to your goal (what I am assuming is a life of leisure). It's not Facebook's fault, it is actually your perception of things. I have a girlfriend that is on FB and does makeup tutorials and gives opinions about wigs and all that stuff, she even has a Youtube channel. Most of that stuff is given to her so that she can review it -- basically advertising at the cost of product. Not all goods people get actually cost money. Again it is what you perceive and not really what you know.
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Plain Old Petunia
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Post by Plain Old Petunia on Mar 7, 2011 13:58:24 GMT -5
You are in public accounting, right? This time of year sucks donkey balls (I'm also in public accounting)....maybe it is time to find a less stressful job. I've been in public accounting 16 years but this season has pushed me to actually consider finding something less stressful. Do you like to read personal finance blogs? One which I like is written by a female CPA who retired at age 44. She writes about the tax season she "lost her joy", never recovered it, so decided to retire early. retiredsyd.typepad.com/
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Plain Old Petunia
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Post by Plain Old Petunia on Mar 7, 2011 14:03:09 GMT -5
Paul, in public accounting, the government causes more than 1% of the stress.
But otherwise, I agree, the dead have no stress. Unless you're dead, you need to learn to handle stress in a healthy manner.
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Firebird
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Post by Firebird on Mar 7, 2011 15:32:05 GMT -5
I envy people that don't have to work because they have other people (parents, government, significant others) to pay their bills. There, I admitted it.
Not me. I'm more than happy not to be that person.
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Firebird
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Post by Firebird on Mar 7, 2011 15:36:41 GMT -5
I love not working. We have no kids. I worked from when I finished college until age 46 (1999). I liked my job and I was earning a good income, but my manager left and our department was going through major changes. I thought I would probably go back to work at some point, but life happens. We had a good nest egg and we could easily live on DH's income while still saving. It worked out well that I could be at home. We had to do major remodeling, I was home for that. My DH did a lot of traveling, I could easily get him packed and out to the airport. My dad had health problems, I could help my folks when they decided to move from Iowa to Minnesota to be closer to my brother and me. I've taken my folks to doctor appointments and, now that my mother is a widow, I have lunch with her once a week. My SIL, about an hour away, home schools her four daughters. When they come up to the cities during the weekdays to attend plays or concerts, they ask me to join them. I'm never bored, and, as my husband will attest, I have a strong sense of self and don't need a job to justify my existence. If something, God forbid, should happen to my DH, we have enough savings so that I don't need to go back to work. In fact, my DH could probably retire now. Life is good. But, since this is the money board, I'll add that it helped that both my DH and I have been frugal and we saved early and often and that gave us the flexibility to have me be a SAHS. I wish you could have a chat with my mom. She loves being a SAHM/W and she doesn't like having a traditional job and my parents can easily afford it and my dad completely supports the idea, but she feels like she needs to work to "contribute"
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