STBX and what he wants.

[nutty]

Someone on here was told time and time again not to marry that person. There were total red flags going up which the person ignored, she married him anyway.

If we need divorce and finance advice should we get it from someone who has recently gone through a similar situation and tends to be even keeled and rational?

[mmhmm]

Let's stick to the subject, please, and avoid delving into the lives of others not connected to the subject of this thread. Thanks.

mmhmm, Administrator

[milee]

Sept 14, 2014 8:59:55 GMT -5 nutty said:

Someone on here was told time and time again not to marry that person. There were total red flags going up which the person ignored, she married him anyway.

If we need divorce and finance advice should we get it from someone who has recently gone through a similar situation and tends to be even keeled and rational?

So if you ignore the advice given on the message board, you're saying that in the future when you're experiencing the consequences of those choices the board should attack you and write you off completely? That appears to be what you're implying it's OK to do to MPL here.

[mmhmm]

Since you've removed the content from Reply#89, and #93, tloonya, I'll delete the post. In future, you can delete your own post by choosing Delete Post from the gear icon drop-down. - mmhmm, Administrator

[nutty]

It was the even keeled and rational part.

Why yes, yes I will. She wasn't being polite and she knows it.

[milee]

Sept 14, 2014 9:05:12 GMT -5 nutty said:

It was the even keeled and rational part.

Definitely something worth considering.

IMHO, there is a difference between isolated lapses in judgment and a consistent pattern of behavior.  Pattern is important.  I haven't seen a pattern of irrational or crazy behavior from MPL. Is it possible that because you're very sensitive about this issue (understandable), that you're predisposed to seeing an attack that isn't there? I didn't read MPL's question as anything other than a question you'd expect 90% of the posters on a money board were thinking and if anything, her phrasing was nonjudgmental and factual, not accusatory.

[mmhmm]

Sept 14, 2014 9:05:12 GMT -5 nutty said:

It was the even keeled and rational part.

Why yes, yes I will. She wasn't being polite and she knows it.

I don't see any evidence of nastiness in MPL's posts, nutty. You're understandably sensitive, as milee points out, and are wearing your feelings on your sleeve, hon. We all have hot buttons and they can cause us to misread, or misjudge what another says. I think that might be the case here. Take a step back and try not to let your emotions shade the meaning of others' posts. 

[Opti]

Sept 11, 2014 10:43:09 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Sept 11, 2014 10:37:46 GMT -5 nutty said:

Yes, that is what I think, he would rather spend (or not spend) his money else where and yes I have got the How can you with no job, living off of him, afford an attorney and he can't? from you and others before. The first two are IMO meant to be insulting to me. MPL just could have said, not your problem without making me feel even more crappier than I do right now.

It wasn't insulting to you.  I was a SAHM and would still be today if circumstances hadn't forced me into the workforce.

Also, it is EXACTLY what I would have said to him I f I was you and he whined to me about not being able to afford an attorney.

I think she was aiming for factual.

Bottom line you have not posted about getting the job you planned on in Florida.

Other posts seem to indicate you aren't working in the paid work-force except

possibly here and there babysitting your grand-daughter.

[Deleted]

Sept 14, 2014 9:05:12 GMT -5 nutty said:

It was the even keeled and rational part.

Why yes, yes I will. She wasn't being polite and she knows it.

<sigh>

[Opti]

Sept 11, 2014 14:24:41 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

I don't even think nutty's husband had an affair did he? 

I don't think it has been confirmed, and for what it is worth, I think

much of the problems can be tracked to neither one seems to honestly

try to resolve relationship issues.

Seems, of course being the operating phrase. From my point of view

they are similar but a little different - passive aggressive man vs passive

aggressive woman. Its wise to ask how someone feels about you especially

since you share a home instead of assuming X means they don't love you

anymore or Y means you are beloved.

[Deleted]

Well, uhm... Nutty...... I'm torn. I want you to feel free to vent and seek counsel here. However, you have to recognize that your threads don't tend to give calm and rational vibes, nor would I have guessed you are happier than you've ever been... People can only go by what they see, and I think they have tried to be helpful and supportive.

[Deleted]

Sept 14, 2014 8:59:55 GMT -5 nutty said:

Someone on here was told time and time again not to marry that person. There were total red flags going up which the person ignored, she married him anyway.

WTH? 

Not that it matters, but I don't even think I was even hanging out on this board when we were dating.  I don't remember.  It has a join date of 2011 and I was married in 2009.  I know there was a board switch in there somewhere, but I know I was absent from here for a few years during that time frame.  I was just on the moneyandmore board which has a few crossover posters. 

I also don't regret my marriage one bit.  Three of the best years of my life were during that time, and I would have never had them otherwise..unfortunately we were together for more like 7 and a couple of the WORST years of my life were in there as well.  But, it is what it is.  Good with the bad and all that.