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Post by t-dog on Jul 17, 2014 17:05:53 GMT -5
Ok so I made the first attempt in 5 years (since death of dh) to enter the dating pool again. Monday set up date time for last night but location had not yet been determined. Yesterday rolled around and still had not heard back from the guy. As of today still no word. I meet very few single men between work and ds's heavy sports schedule. I'm a bit bummed since I finally jumped out there only to be ignored.
I'm just venting, but was really looking forward to a grownup night out. Sigh...
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Post by buystoys on Jul 17, 2014 17:11:35 GMT -5
t-dog, I know I'm not telling you anything you don't already know...... Dating, after a certain age, just sucks. It took me years of searching to find DH. It was a lot of luck combined with stupidity. Our first face-to-face meet was during a major storm in NY. We met at a location I picked (which was flooded out by the time we both got there) and he forgot his wallet. We laugh now about the fact that we ended up together, but the whole situation could easily make a made-for-TV movie. Hang in there!
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Post by Abby Normal on Jul 17, 2014 17:12:59 GMT -5
You'll have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince. Don't give up! In the mean time, please share your dating stories so we can live vicariously through you.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 17, 2014 17:13:52 GMT -5
I'm sorry the guy was an arse but since you're ready to try, I certainly hope you don't give up just because of him! Hang in there!
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Post by t-dog on Jul 17, 2014 17:14:49 GMT -5
Agile right now its all just theoretical. I did knock out two episodes of big love season 2 while sitting home.
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Post by t-dog on Jul 17, 2014 17:16:54 GMT -5
Nah debt...an arse or two is to be expected I suppose...just deadly for the confidence when it happens on the first attempt!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 17, 2014 17:23:13 GMT -5
Phoenix is looking for a woman.
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Post by t-dog on Jul 17, 2014 17:36:35 GMT -5
Shasta...I'm older than Phoenix was looking for, have an 11-year old, and live in another state....other than that....
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Post by Abby Normal on Jul 17, 2014 17:38:07 GMT -5
Agile right now its all just theoretical. I did knock out two episodes of big love season 2 while sitting home. That was a good show. I was sick for a while and got hooked on Revenge. I need netflix to put season 3 on.
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Post by Plain Old Petunia on Jul 17, 2014 17:49:05 GMT -5
Is Big Love on Netflix? It's kind of like Sister Wives, right?
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Post by Plain Old Petunia on Jul 17, 2014 17:50:35 GMT -5
Oh, and T-Dog, you hang in there, sweetie. Just take the point of view that this is a social experiment. Then the bad experiences become interesting...in an "aren't there a lot of losers out there?" sort of way.
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Post by t-dog on Jul 17, 2014 17:57:17 GMT -5
I'm watching Big Love through Amazon instant...it was included in my prime membership.
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Post by t-dog on Jul 17, 2014 17:58:53 GMT -5
Petunia that is my point of view. I just find it interesting since dude was the one to suggest it and then he went MIA. Oh well, maybe he's just jumping back in too. It's overwhelming for sure!
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Post by Abby Normal on Jul 17, 2014 18:02:19 GMT -5
Is Big Love on Netflix? It's kind of like Sister Wives, right? You can get it on disk through netflix, but not streaming. It's not really like sister wives, which is a reality show I believe. It's a fictional drama "soap opera" that revolves around a polygamist family.
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Post by simser on Jul 17, 2014 18:36:42 GMT -5
In the last 1 month I've had a guy that I was dating cheat on me, and then say he wouldn't cheat on her because he's not a cheater.
In the last 1 week I had a guy tell me that he really like me but we work together so he'll tell me about all of his dates.
In the last 24 hours I had not 1 but 2 guys tell me that they felt a connection with me but no attraction... As soon as they saw a picture (online dating).
Dating sucks.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Jul 17, 2014 18:40:04 GMT -5
I know what you mean.
The very first time I reached out to a girl for a date, the response was basically "Sorry, you don't make enough money for me." Her exact words were something along the lines of "sorry, not interested, I'm looking for someone established in the business world."
A great "welcome to dating" orientation, if there ever was one.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 17, 2014 18:43:00 GMT -5
Well, my DS says the same thing. He isn't going to date, let alone marry, any woman who isn't a high earner.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 17, 2014 18:45:25 GMT -5
DF doesn't understand that because he sees all sorts of cute servers and actually says to me there's a cute one for DS. No matter how many times I say he isn't going get involved with anyone waiting tables, DF doesn't understand. Finally I pointed out that just because he actually married a HS dropout with two children living in her dads basement does not mean I want the same scenario for MY son. Finally he shut up. So men are just as guilty as women of being money oriented.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 17, 2014 20:17:55 GMT -5
Amen. I'm sure a lot of nice ones have gotten Away. But he isn't 25 so looking for someone his own age, she should be out of school and working, and not as a server.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Jul 17, 2014 20:37:36 GMT -5
Hi T-dog, dating is difficult, but it's better to find out now that a potential steady date/ b/f ( that's as far as I'd go at this point ) is either rude, stupid, irresponsible, or disorganized, rather than down the road when you actually have feelings for someone. I've been there, and was very cautious. Poor DH had to wait six long years before I'd marry him. He was so good compared to the usual sea of semi-dead fish that I kept waiting for the "other" shoe to drop, but it never did. So, I married him . People asked me how I could take the "rejection." I told them that a first few dates, or lack of them, was just like trying out a used car to see if it ran well. I didn't have a relationship with any of the men, I was just meeting them to see if I was interested, and vice versa. No hard feelings. My mother, who was single for many years after a divorce, said " I've met a lot of nice men who would make a good neighbor, but very few that I would consider having a relationship with." So, buck up, and remember that there are some people who really aren't cut out to be in a relationship due to a variety of issues. You will meet someone right for you one of these days, I think. Kudos for getting out there and just trying to date. Best wishes !
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Post by Apple on Jul 17, 2014 21:19:11 GMT -5
You have my sympathy! The dating world sucks if you're not cut out for it. I'm shy, introverted, and very quiet, so trying to date someone I've just met does not go well at all. Dating a friend or someone I've been around a little helps a lot. But, I don't date coworkers, so meeting guys at work, where I spend most of my time, is out. I hope it gets better, that was not a very good re-introduction
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Post by Peace77 on Jul 17, 2014 21:25:46 GMT -5
Amen. I'm sure a lot of nice ones have gotten Away. But he isn't 25 so looking for someone his own age, she should be out of school and working, and not as a server. You never know. Both Suze Orman and Barbara Corcoran from Shark Tank started out as servers. They're both rich now.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jul 17, 2014 21:27:16 GMT -5
DF doesn't understand that because he sees all sorts of cute servers and actually says to me there's a cute one for DS. No matter how many times I say he isn't going get involved with anyone waiting tables, DF doesn't understand. Finally I pointed out that just because he actually married a HS dropout with two children living in her dads basement does not mean I want the same scenario for MY son. Finally he shut up. So men are just as guilty as women of being money oriented. Well, I hope your DS keeps in mind that the cute young server could be working her way through grad school and will land a high power career in a few years. Ruling someone out on a first impression isn't always the way to go. I kept waiting tables a couple of night a week well after I started my first professional job because - OMG! - I actually had fun with my restaurant crew and enjoyed the extra fun money.
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Post by Peace77 on Jul 17, 2014 21:35:57 GMT -5
Ok so I made the first attempt in 5 years (since death of dh) to enter the dating pool again. Monday set up date time for last night but location had not yet been determined. Yesterday rolled around and still had not heard back from the guy. As of today still no word. I meet very few single men between work and ds's heavy sports schedule. I'm a bit bummed since I finally jumped out there only to be ignored. I'm just venting, but was really looking forward to a grownup night out. Sigh... Sorry that didn't work out. Do you do any volunteer work? Do you belong to any Meet-Up groups? I met my DH at a fundraiser when I wasn't looking.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 17, 2014 21:57:33 GMT -5
"Petunia that is my point of view. I just find it interesting since dude was the one to suggest it and then he went MIA. Oh well, maybe he's just jumping back in too. It's overwhelming for sure!" I think why guys do this sort of thing is still a mystery but definitely don't take it personal.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 17, 2014 21:59:44 GMT -5
He might actually have a good reason. Stuff happens. Has he contacted you since? I've given up on DS. Just praying he doesn't marry THIS one. This is the first one since the college one that I have flat out not taken to.
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Post by t-dog on Jul 18, 2014 0:56:13 GMT -5
No Zib...not a peep since Monday.
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Post by achelois on Jul 18, 2014 7:39:21 GMT -5
Meh, men are a lot of work.
I quit dating. The last guy tried to be very controlling. The one before him, I was finding myself wishing I was home mowing the lawn when we were together.
I dont want to take care of a new old guy! Maybe I was looking in the wrong places, but the guys I met seemed to think that, because I am older, I should be grateful they were paying attention to me and they wanted to be taken care of and pampered. I don't want to be pestered for sex all the time. I don't want to cook and do laundry for someone else. I don't want to be a nurse with a purse.
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Post by skubikky on Jul 18, 2014 9:09:35 GMT -5
Amen. I'm sure a lot of nice ones have gotten Away. But he isn't 25 so looking for someone his own age, she should be out of school and working, and not as a server. And what is it about him that would make a young woman be attracted to him?
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 18, 2014 9:12:26 GMT -5
Damned if I know. He used to be cute but now is sporting the pubic hair on Face look which I think is double ugly. But I'm not young and I hate facial hair.
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