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Post by 8 Bit WWBG on Jul 11, 2014 6:25:07 GMT -5
Don't reveal that you are leaving until you are actually submitting your resignation! She may be trying to "manage you out" and telling her you are planning on leaving essentially tells her she is succeeding. It will galvanize her, and she will push even harder.
Yes, it does suck to have to be the one always working hard to prove your innocence, whereas she can just make a baseless accusation and then sit back.
If it were me, I would continue documenting absolutely everything, following her nonsense directives, and putting all my efforts into finding another job. Eventually you will get another offer, and at that point, you have a lot more freedom. While I'd probably try to leave without saying much, I might very well be tempted to have very blunt chat with both HR and your bosses boss and let them know exactly why you are leaving.
I'm curious if there are consequences for false accusations, or if this is one of those sad cases where it is all "subject to interpretation" and her interpretation (even if baseless and disruptive) is "valid".
You also have to assume that nobody is on your side. Man it would be great if you could file a discrimination charge against her.
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Post by 8 Bit WWBG on Jul 11, 2014 6:27:33 GMT -5
...:::"She's threatening to pull me off my job duties "pending an investigation."":::...
Also, if this means "paid vacation", then I'd be ALL for it. Doubly so if I was confident that I could beat the investigation and come out vindicated.
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Post by happyhoix on Jul 11, 2014 7:22:26 GMT -5
Good luck on your job search.
Sometimes you get a boss you are just not compatible with. I had one. It wasn't just me, he was very open about having a problem with women in management positions - if you weren't a secretary, a waitress, a stripper or his wife, you had no place in his world. Oh and he didn't like black people, either.
The company spent 7000 bucks sending this gem to special management training, then finally demoted him to a non supervisory position (not because he was racist and anti-women but because he got caught cooking the books) - he finally got laid off, but by that time I was gone, and so were most of the other management women.
Sometimes the best thing is to just move on.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jul 11, 2014 8:01:55 GMT -5
"She's threatening to pull me off my job duties "pending an investigation."
So she's ready to sink the division (dumping the only nuclear person) instead of getting facts?
And I'm wondering if she's got a friend/family/lover she wants to tuck into your job...
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Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2014 8:12:08 GMT -5
I'm wondering if at some point she was interested in him and he misread a cue and inadvertantly blew her off ...
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 11, 2014 9:25:40 GMT -5
I've been wondering that too.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Jul 11, 2014 10:51:49 GMT -5
If she was interested, it's a good thing he dodged that bullet. Who would want to be with someone that vengeful?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2014 11:12:00 GMT -5
And I'm wondering if she's got a friend/family/lover she wants to tuck into your job...
I have been wondering this too.
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Post by Apple on Jul 11, 2014 11:27:10 GMT -5
Sorry to hear that. Keep doing your job, and document, document, document. Good luck. I've seen management back each other no matter what, and I've seen them fire/demote/discipline their own. I hope in your case it will lean toward the latter.
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Post by kjto1 on Jul 11, 2014 11:42:48 GMT -5
I'm so sorry to hear this update. I was hoping things would calm down for you. Good luck with the job hunting.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Jul 12, 2014 0:00:23 GMT -5
Thanks, as always I appreciate the support.
I talked to HR again, and I think there would need to be a high burden of proof before she could pull off radiation related duties. I don't know what it would accomplish anyway, no one else is going to keep up with the work, and it'd be a shitstorm if she did.
Regardless, she'll have to follow "progressive discipline," meaning the next step would be a letter of reprimand. So she cannot jump straight to a suspension or firing me or anything worse than that. I'll have the chance to appeal any official action against me.
It also appears she can give a negative reference to potential employers, there's nothing stopping her from doing so.
They also suggested mediation as a possibility. I don't know much about it, but I'll look into it.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jul 12, 2014 0:43:30 GMT -5
I'm so sorry.
It's good that you're documenting and that there is a progressive discipline protocol.
I haven't read the middle pages of this thread, but are you able to go on the offensive on a positive note? Can you request a weekly or biweekly meeting with her to review your duties and progress? Make her your new BFF---albeit you'd be pretending?
Another thought would be that is someone allowed to go with you to meetings you have with her? That person could take notes for you and give you feedback as to what she's saying and how you're reacting? If you do that, assume she will start bringing someone to the meetings also.
Theres is really only one question that I need an answer to in regard to checking references : would you rehire this person? If some me one tells me "no", I don't hire the person.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 12, 2014 1:04:29 GMT -5
Did her micro-managing demands contribute to the incident or your availability to take care of something scheduled? Is her constant attack mode causing you a lot of stress and you are making mistakes you did not used to?
If you have to list for references, put your former manager's name and his/her direct phone number.
Mediation? Is that a government thing?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 12, 2014 20:22:13 GMT -5
So if you didnt make the mistake she says you did, can't you prove it? If you made the mistake, then she is right. If you havent made the mistake, and you prove that, would the letter go away? I understand it is a pain in the butt but for some reason she has zero confidence in you.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 12, 2014 20:25:12 GMT -5
"I'd like to think upper management would take my side, realize her deficiencies, or at least stay neutral, but I don't know."
Is it at all possible that she was told to get rid of you by upper management? Because for someone who knows nothing about you, she sure has been trying to get rid of you since day 1 it seems.
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