Am I just a prude?

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Some coworkers went to a work conferance for training this week. (I was supposed to go but lost my passport, I don't want to talk about it  ) Anyway, they got there Saturday and had Sunday to rest up and do a bit of sight seeing before they got down to work. The actual workshops started Monday. One of the staff has not spent the last 2 nights in her own room. There is no way to hide it as she is supposed to be sharing a room. She has hooked up with a guy from the conferance. This girl has aspirations of advancement around here. Is it just me or does this show a critical lack of good judgement and hurt her chances of advancement. Does it make a differance if you know that this same girl got extremely drunk at least 2 nights of this same conferance last year?

[Deleted]

yes!
now to read your post... 

[whoisjohngalt]

I was never into one night stands but even if I was no way in hell!!!! would I ever do that around people I worked with.

that's just plain stupid.

[Deleted]

 If she isn't smart enough to A) get her own room and B) not get drunk with co workers...she should not be advanced in the company. 
It is a company function and her actions will be noticed, any person trying to climb the corporate ladder would understand this.

[The Captain]

I had something similiar on several occassions at a former company.  No you are not a prude - it shows a huge lack of judgement regardless of whether or not she would want to own it.

I would not hire or advance anyone who could put the company at risk by their actions (getting extremely drunk while traveling on company business).

YMMV.

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Apr 2, 2014 12:27:07 GMT -5 @joey said:

 If she isn't smart enough to A) get her own room and B) not get drunk with co workers...she should not be advanced in the company. 
It is a company function and her actions will be noticed, any person trying to climb the corporate ladder would understand this.

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Apr 2, 2014 12:27:15 GMT -5 The Captain said:

I had something similiar on several occassions at a former company.  No you are not a prude - it shows a huge lack of judgement regardless of whether or not she would want to own it.

I would not hire or advance anyone who could put the company at risk by their actions (getting extremely drunk while traveling on company business).

[kittensaver]

Another vote for "not a prude." In the 20 years I've worked here, there have been 2 incidents of this type (that I know of) in our company (poor personal behavior while at a conference). Not only did everyone find out about it, the persons in question eventually got fired. In one instance, it - unfortunately - was an employee and a client/patient, soooooooooo not good . . . .

Oh, and in the other instance, the wife of one of the misbehaving employees threatened to sue the company for what happened! She didn't get far, but things got VERY UGLY between her and the female employee who misbehaved with her husband (the first night, they threw female's roomate out; the second night they didn't even bother to do that - they just locked themselves in the bathroom with the roommate there  ).

[Otto the Orange]

Beerwench was at your conference?

[Deleted]

Hey now! I separate business and pleasure...I mean, you should see my coworkers! 

[Deleted]

Thank God it's not a guy from our office! We only sent women this time but I'm pretty sure none of the guys here would hook up with her. We are not each other's types around here. Honestly I would feel exactly the same way about a man that behaved this way at a work event. No promotion for you!! (said in my best soup nazi voice)

[Otto the Orange]

how do you know I am not one of your co-workers?

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Apr 2, 2014 12:46:53 GMT -5 Otto the Orange said:

how do you know I am not one of your co-workers?

<< looks around the office >>

Nope, no Orangemen as far as the eye can see.....

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Wow, that's REALLY stupid. It's stated in my handbook that if it is on the company's dime that means you are on company time. Anything inappropriate I do could be grounds for termination just as it would be if I were at the workplace.

I don't think she grasp that just b/c she's at the hotel does not mean she's on her own time. The company is paying for it so she's still a representative of them whether she wants to be or not.

You'd think she'd at least be smart enough to go back to HIS hotel room.

[Deleted]

She is going to his hotel room! And doing the walk of shame each morning!

[Otto the Orange]

sounds to me like someone is jealous

[Deleted]

Your company makes you share rooms on business trips?

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Apr 2, 2014 12:58:03 GMT -5 ArchietheDragon said:

Your company makes you share rooms on business trips?

This one was a budget issue, it was share rooms and a couple of other cost saving measures or less people could go. Everyone wanted to go so they agreed to share rooms.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

She is going to his hotel room! And doing the walk of shame each morning!

Ahh got ya. I misread your post. I thought he was going to her hotel room which would have made the situation even dumber/funnier.

It amazes me that someone could be that clueless.

[kittensaver]

Apr 2, 2014 12:58:03 GMT -5 ArchietheDragon said:

Your company makes you share rooms on business trips?

My company does. We are a non-profit agency and have limited funds for educational travel (aka conferences). Even our trainers, speakers and other specialists have to ask for a travel allowance when they are invited to speak at conferences. Can you imagine the righteous, judgmental uproar we would have if *certain* folks found out that our employees were *wasting, gasp* ! their hard-earned taxpayer dollars on luxury rooms?  (sarcasm intended)

[Otto the Orange]

Haters

[Green Eyed Lady]

First of all, you are not being a prude.  What she does on her own time is her business.  What she does while on the company dime reflects on the company.  Secondly, I'd be just as disappointed at whomever is at that conference, and calling "home" tattling if that is, indeed, what is happening.

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Apr 2, 2014 13:26:31 GMT -5 Green Eyed Lady said:

First of all, you are not being a prude.  Secondly, I'd be just as disappointed at whomever is at that conference, and calling "home" tattling.

Now, now, don't go dissing my source!

Seriously, I do expect to be told of things like this that are going to impact our reputation. I'm in a better position to handle any feedback we get from it. And in a better decision to decide who represents us in the future.

[Green Eyed Lady]

I suppose that's true and I see your point.  I would hope that if I had been there, I would have used another approach like warning her that her behavior was obvious and that it could put her in a bad position if management found out.  I don't care for tattletales unless it's a life threatening situation.  But, I can see being forewarned is forearmed.

[Wisconsin Beth]

Is there a manager or supervisor in charge of the delegation at the conference?  And were rules sent out beforehand, reminding everyone that they're on the company dime to be professional? 

[❤ mollymouser ❤]

I don't think you are a prude.

I do think that the co-worker in question is exhibiting an astonishing lack of wisdom, professionalism and discretion.

And I do think that if co-workers are agreeable, sharing a hotel room to save costs is a "Smart Spending" approach to business travel.

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Apr 2, 2014 13:44:56 GMT -5 Wisconsin Beth said:

Is there a manager or supervisor in charge of the delegation at the conference?  And were rules sent out beforehand, reminding everyone that they're on the company dime to be professional? 

There is a manager there and I'm not sure what she has said to her, if anything at all. The manager is not the girl's direct supervisor and this is one of those things we can't really say you're not allowed. There are rules we did review like we don't pay for alcohol, you are expected to attend the workshops you were signed up for and there is a max per diem for meals. The other stuff you hope people have enough class not to do.

[Deleted]

RULE #1: There is no sex in the champagne room.

[Otto the Orange]

prude

[Sum Dum Gai]

Now, now, don't go dissing my source!

Seriously, I do expect to be told of things like this that are going to impact our reputation. I'm in a better position to handle any feedback we get from it. And in a better decision to decide who represents us in the future.

How do you even know it's true?  Maybe your source has a beef with the girl that's supposedly doing this at the conference?  People lie all the time.

There's no better way to ruin a females professional reputation than calling her a slut, passing along gossip that she's sleeping her way to the top, etc.