Bob Ross
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Post by Bob Ross on Apr 3, 2014 10:51:36 GMT -5
Good luck to her on a promotion - her current position does sound pretty bad. Though hopefully less so now with a new boss. I should clarify. The assistant manager position is for a different company; the one her acquaintance works for. I asked her if the new boss was having much of an impact, and she said that it didn't really matter, as the job still sucks.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2014 10:52:20 GMT -5
How do you who don't common pot handle estate planning? Do you each handle your own? Does common/separate pots matter in divorce situations? I mean won't everything coming into the marriage be considered marital assets? IDK the answer to that because we're still married and not planning on getting divorced any time soon.
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sarcasticgirl
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Apr 3, 2014 10:54:37 GMT -5
Good luck to her on a promotion - her current position does sound pretty bad. Though hopefully less so now with a new boss. I should clarify. The assistant manager position is for a different company; the one her acquaintance works for. I asked her if the new boss was having much of an impact, and she said that it didn't really matter, as the job still sucks. crossing fingers that she gets the other position. I understand how hellish it can be to have a stressed out spouse at home.
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Shooby
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Post by Shooby on Apr 3, 2014 10:56:20 GMT -5
Honestly there are a lot if miserable jobs out there. Just be careful going from the Devil you do know to the Devil you don't. I finally am good at telling which places are toxic early on even before taking a new job. Make sure to really just chat with some people in the trenches to get the scoop.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2014 11:26:48 GMT -5
May I offer option D? Tell her to do her thing at work and don't worry about the threats. If she gets fired you guys will deal. Don't try to say she won't get fired, just that you will be okay if she does. Tell her not to worry about quotas or threats or any of the other bullshit. The worst case scenario (getting fired) is managable. That should help with her stress level.
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Bob Ross
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Post by Bob Ross on Apr 3, 2014 11:36:28 GMT -5
May I offer option D? Tell her to do her thing at work and don't worry about the threats. If she gets fired you guys will deal. Don't try to say she won't get fired, just that you will be okay if she does. Tell her not to worry about quotas or threats or any of the other bullshit. The worst case scenario (getting fired) is managable. That should help with her stress level. Oh believe me I have tried this. I have told her that the supervisor was full of shit, and to just go in and do what she could do and try not to worry about quotas, and "what's the worst that can happen? They fire you? Big deal. We'll deal." but none of that has helped. Her response is that she is incapable of adjusting her mindset this way, that she's "wired" to care about this stuff and that she can't just turn it off, and that me telling her the above isn't going to help matters any. And on we go.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2014 11:42:08 GMT -5
May I offer option D? Tell her to do her thing at work and don't worry about the threats. If she gets fired you guys will deal. Don't try to say she won't get fired, just that you will be okay if she does. Tell her not to worry about quotas or threats or any of the other bullshit. The worst case scenario (getting fired) is managable. That should help with her stress level. Oh believe me I have tried this. I have told her that the supervisor was full of shit, and to just go in and do what she could do and try not to worry about quotas, and "what's the worst that can happen? They fire you? Big deal. We'll deal." but none of that has helped. Her response is that she is incapable of adjusting her mindset this way, that she's "wired" to care about this stuff and that she can't just turn it off, and that me telling her the above isn't going to help matters any. And on we go. Ooooh, a devoted martyr. I see. Sorry, I got nothing. My lack of patience with stuff like this is probably a big part of the reason I'm single.
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kittensaver
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Post by kittensaver on Apr 3, 2014 11:43:27 GMT -5
How do you who don't common pot handle estate planning? Do you each handle your own? Does common/separate pots matter in divorce situations? I mean won't everything coming into the marriage be considered marital assets? IDK the answer to that because we're still married and not planning on getting divorced any time soon. Same here **high fives @beerwench**
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Apr 3, 2014 11:51:30 GMT -5
How do you who don't common pot handle estate planning? Do you each handle your own? Does common/separate pots matter in divorce situations? I mean won't everything coming into the marriage be considered marital assets? IDK the answer to that because we're still married and not planning on getting divorced any time soon. I had a whole thread about this question - what happens if accounts are in two different names and one spouse dies or there is a divorce. I did get some answers from lawyers, if you are interested
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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2014 11:52:22 GMT -5
If I ever want a divorce I will!
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sarcasticgirl
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Apr 3, 2014 11:58:30 GMT -5
May I offer option D? Tell her to do her thing at work and don't worry about the threats. If she gets fired you guys will deal. Don't try to say she won't get fired, just that you will be okay if she does. Tell her not to worry about quotas or threats or any of the other bullshit. The worst case scenario (getting fired) is managable. That should help with her stress level. Oh believe me I have tried this. I have told her that the supervisor was full of shit, and to just go in and do what she could do and try not to worry about quotas, and "what's the worst that can happen? They fire you? Big deal. We'll deal." but none of that has helped. Her response is that she is incapable of adjusting her mindset this way, that she's "wired" to care about this stuff and that she can't just turn it off, and that me telling her the above isn't going to help matters any. And on we go. are you married to my DH? he has told me those EXACT same things. He doesn't have his bosses threatening him or anything... his stress is from workload and lack of direction/training.
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