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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 15, 2014 12:08:04 GMT -5
Can he wipe himself without assistance. At school--yes. At home--he won't consider it! He's very concerned about cleanliness.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 15, 2014 12:08:35 GMT -5
utside of dh and I. Are there self care issues? I'm not sure what you mean on this one? I'm thinking this is wiping himself, putting his clothes off and on for the bathroom. Getting ready for outdoor activities (snowpants or whatever) AT least, that's how I'm interpreting it. And Rae, DD's K4 teacher didn't expect the kids to be perfect about any of those things. Some kids did better than others. And I believe she gave 5 minute warnings near the end of activities. And she worked with the kids learning the rest. Yes, they worked on numbers, letters, shapes, colors, etc. but they also worked on social skills. The K5 teacher admitted to us in parent teacher conferences that she had 4-5 "rambunctious" boys that she was having issues with. Last time I was in class to help out, I told DD's teacher about the problems DD said she was having with one boy. I asked her to keep an eye on things because all I had was DD's side of it. And while I do think DD was mostly innocent, she may not have been. So I wanted her to be aware of what DD was reporting. She did offer to move DD away from J immediately. But my point is that teachers in K4 and K5 work with kids to develop the skills they need for 1st grade.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 15, 2014 12:09:10 GMT -5
LOL! DS was the same way.
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Post by milee on Jan 15, 2014 12:11:47 GMT -5
He's very concerned about cleanliness. Can he please come talk to my boys? If I reach into the laundry hamper one more time and pull out something unspeakable I am going to toss my cookies.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jan 15, 2014 12:13:34 GMT -5
There is a definite reach to how much they can deviate - especially if it's not groups of kids on the higher end of the spectrum. An example from when I was a kid, I was beyond 4th grade math by the time I started 4th grade, but I was the only one. There were others that picked up the math quicker, but not as quick as me. And I got bored, and as such tried to entertain myself. So to distract me the teacher gave me 5th grade math, good - until I blew through that, oh and it would then create problems in 5th grade of already knowing everything. She ended up having to give me a 6th grade math book and I was on independent study - told to do the questions with answers in the back so I could check my own work. Worked for me, but not every kid can do independent study, especially at that young of an age. Luckily in 5th grade there were a couple of us in the same class on the same level so it was a big enough group to warrant the teacher carving out things just for us, but even then I was pretty bored I just had friends to talk to until we moved to the next lesson. This is what I worry about happening, getting too far ahead and then what? Yes, yes, I know they can continue to "enrich" themselves all the way through high school but, realistically, only the very motivated teens are going to. The rest are going to be bored out of their minds until they can get out of there and think they're smarter than their teachers. And they might just be in some cases. Let me tell you, it's hard to explain WHY your teen should respect and listen to the English teacher who spends 15 minutes arguing with, not just him but the entire class, about the fact that "assassination" is NOT spelled with a C in it. She argued the side that there was too a C in it.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 15, 2014 12:15:37 GMT -5
You get the best and brightest in your school district!
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jan 15, 2014 12:19:56 GMT -5
This woman taught ME English. She was sane then, my sisters had her 6/8 years later and said she was nuts. Seems she's completely over the edge now. I think she's retiring this year. DS hopes anyway or he'll have her again next year. For AP English.
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Post by justme on Jan 15, 2014 12:20:15 GMT -5
There is a definite reach to how much they can deviate - especially if it's not groups of kids on the higher end of the spectrum. An example from when I was a kid, I was beyond 4th grade math by the time I started 4th grade, but I was the only one. There were others that picked up the math quicker, but not as quick as me. And I got bored, and as such tried to entertain myself. So to distract me the teacher gave me 5th grade math, good - until I blew through that, oh and it would then create problems in 5th grade of already knowing everything. She ended up having to give me a 6th grade math book and I was on independent study - told to do the questions with answers in the back so I could check my own work. Worked for me, but not every kid can do independent study, especially at that young of an age. Luckily in 5th grade there were a couple of us in the same class on the same level so it was a big enough group to warrant the teacher carving out things just for us, but even then I was pretty bored I just had friends to talk to until we moved to the next lesson. This is what I worry about happening, getting too far ahead and then what? Yes, yes, I know they can continue to "enrich" themselves all the way through high school but, realistically, only the very motivated teens are going to. The rest are going to be bored out of their minds until they can get out of there and think they're smarter than their teachers. And they might just be in some cases. Let me tell you, it's hard to explain WHY your teen should respect and listen to the English teacher who spends 15 minutes arguing with, not just him but the entire class, about the fact that "assassination" is NOT spelled with a C in it. She argued the side that there was too a C in it. I can one up that! Freshman honors science teacher trying to teach the difference between mass and weight. Saying how your mass wouldn't change if you cut off your arm and threw it into a lake but you weight would. The entire class was seriously screaming at her all period long. Parents ended up having to call the school to convince them to correct her so we wouldn't all fail that answer on a test.
Ooooh! Or my Honors 10th grade world studies teacher that made us hand make different Christmas cards for everyone in the class. And our big paper was to be done in cursive (in 2003) and be entirely quoted from sources and 15 pages long. Yup, I literally copied shit out of a book at got a 100 on that paper. Learned 0 in that class.
12th grad AP Statistics. Teacher states how she's not sure of the difference (I think it was P-stat and T-stat). After her going around for about 10 minutes I raised my hand "If you turn to the next page in the book the definition is right there." Only 2 out of 40 passed the AP exam, wonder why?
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 15, 2014 12:20:34 GMT -5
You get the best and brightest in your school district! Any possibility it was a debate class and he/she got the losing side? I admit, I've got a few words I have spelling issues with. But I'm aware of it and either admit it or pick a different but similar word. Or abbreviate. "Has everyone rec'd their icing for cupcakes?" Fixed cupcakes spelling. That's NOT one of my usual problem words!
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jan 15, 2014 12:25:13 GMT -5
You get the best and brightest in your school district! Any possibility it was a debate class and he/she got the losing side? I admit, I've got a few words I have spelling issues with. But I'm aware of it and either admit it or pick a different but similar word. Or abbreviate. "Has everyone rec'd their icing for cupcakes?" Fixed cupcakes spelling. That's NOT one of my usual problem words! No, she wrote the word on the board and he corrected her spelling and she started to argue with him. The entire class got in on it. Justzombies, my 11th grade regular English (because I was too lazy to do AP) ONLY paper due all year was 2 pages handwritten. Most teen girls can't fit 4 paragraphs in their big pretty handwriting on 2 pages.
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Post by bobosensei on Jan 15, 2014 12:44:01 GMT -5
You must not be introverted. Being an introvert does not mean you need acceptance or tolerance from peers. I never enjoyed school until I hit my teen years, and even then I enjoyed it in my way which to the outside world may not have seemed "normal." I could have been held back in kindergarten until I was 50 and I wouldn't have interacted with the other kids the way an extravert does.
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Post by giramomma on Jan 15, 2014 13:22:25 GMT -5
Have you observed the kindy class? Ours (private school) allows the kids to do rambunctious activities during free choice time, only. So, if a kid would rather sit and do puzzles, it's fine. They go to the puzzle nook, and do puzzles. Or to the reading area and look at books. Or, are you concerned that your DS is going to sit out on activities, he doesn't like, period? If it's this, does your DS have a healthy respect for authority? Are there specific social skills you are concerned about? Social skills is pretty broad. Is your DS unable to take turns or share? Have empathy for others? Doesn't respect authority beyond you and DH? Does he not listen? Not pay attention for more than 10-15 minutes? Does he have separation anxiety? Are there self care issues? Have you observed the kindy class? No--and I'm not positive which school he'll get into. It's a bit complicated but the preschool he's at isn't his home school and we're hoping we get in anyway, except found out that they will only have full time kindergarten which I'm not a fan of. Unless dh gets the day job he's trying for, then we might be praying for full time kindergarten from a cost standpoint. All answers below are based on things at home. We haven't had any issues at school that he isn't listening to the teachers or has any issues with the other kids. I think at school he is still just absorbing everything. For example he wasn't eating much of his lunches and he told us he didn't have time. Found out from the teachers that he doesn't talk with the other kids, but he watches what everyone else is doing and is just too distracted to eat his lunch. So we've changed how we pack lunch which seems to be helping that issue. Or, are you concerned that your DS is going to sit out on activities, he doesn't like, period? If it's this, does your DS have a healthy respect for authority? I am. I think he has a lot more respect for authority outside of dh and I. Are there specific social skills you are concerned about? Ability to transition between activities, and ability to recover from disappointments. Is your DS unable to take turns or share? Yes, when he wants to. When he doesn't he might concede or we might have a fit. Have empathy for others? He is probably a little to empathetic for his own good. He'll have a melt down because someone else is crying. Doesn't respect authority beyond you and DH? Respects everyone else, way, way more than dh and I. Does he not listen? When he wants to. This last weekend listening skills were awful, but typically pretty good and helpful. Easily distractable though. Not pay attention for more than 10-15 minutes? Really circumstantial. Many times yes, but other times he can't remember that his left foot already has a sock on it so he puts a 2nd sock on the same foot. Does he have separation anxiety? Over the summer we had a huge separation anxiety issue that is lessened but still an issue. He still won't spend the night anywhere but home, won't sleep in his own bed (we cosleep and were having good luck transitioning him to his own bed, but he's put the kibosh on that). It took 2 months of preschool (2 days a week) for him to go into school without crying, most of those 2 months the teacher would have to physically remove ds from dh and carry him into the classroom. Now ds is still sad when dh leaves, but he walks into the classroom of his own free will. Such improvement! Are there self care issues? I'm not sure what you mean on this one? By Self care, I mean, buttoning, zippering, wash hands. Honestly, though, most of it sounds pretty normal. I'm not an authority figure, though, on child development.. I'm on my second kindy kid, and I usually am in the classrooms 1-2 times a month. I think it's hard to see what things might be like without meeting the upcoming teachers and knowing how they run their class.. How do you work on transitioning between activities at home?
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Post by Formerly SK on Jan 15, 2014 14:19:08 GMT -5
The issue isn't always being academically behind - being academically ahead has it's own challenges. DD (2nd grade) is academically ahead and this year will be a wasted year for her. She isn't gifted, she's just a very solid student. To get in the gifted program at our district you have to test in the 98th percentile nationally on the standard tests. She's not at that level, she's just ahead in most every subject. Sure, the teachers can give her some harder work or have her read a book, but she's still spending a large part of her day bored because she's ahead of the class. That sure doesn't make school a "pleasant experience." Having harder work given to you by an outside party (either parent or tutor) doesn't work in our schools very well because if the kid has questions it's really hard to for the teacher to interrupt her day to help. A quick question - no problem. Difficulties understanding 3 digit subtraction with regrouping that would require a ten minute explanation and hand holding? Nope. If a teacher only has 45 minutes to teach math to all 28 kids each day, it's unfair to ask her to spend such a large amount of time on one kid doing above grade level work already. She has kids below grade level who need extra assistance. My DD wasn't redshirted so this isn't about your OP. But just wanted to point out that getting the right fit academically is more important IME than getting the right fit socially. And being ahead can really dampen your zest for going every day. JMO I think if someone that is “ahead” academically and is bored in school, then I think it’s a matter of the school doing a bad job at teaching. My wife is a teacher and I hear the methods they use to differentiate to meet the needs of kids in her kids. It’s not like they just teach the lesson to the average student and can only deviate a bit in each direction. It reminds me of my co-worker who said that his son was really far ahead so the teacher just ended up giving him extra work. And when the parents wanted him challenged more, they moved him up a grade and now he is struggling socially. I think it’s the opposite, you find the right fit for them socially (within reason) and the school has the tools to help meet the needs of the kids in the class. You can take a bunch of kids with March b-days in the same year and they will be all over the board in terms of academics. That is the job of the teacher to tailor the lesson to them. As someone who has volunteered 15-20 hours/week in the schools for four years now, I'd say teachers can only do so much. Yes, in a normal class where everyone is the same age there is a wide range of skills that a teacher has to challenge. You double that age range and now it's even more work. There are only so many hours in a day. It's like teaching aerobics. You can make some modifications for ability, but if you have wheelchair kids and marathon kids in the same class, it's hard to accommodate all those needs. And my kids go to excellent schools. YMMV But I don't even know what behind socially even means nowadays. If you don't like video games and prefer stuffed animals does that make you immature? If you don't covet a training bra by age 10 are you socially immature? Frankly, most kids I see nowadays I would consider bad influences - too much TV, no rules, sugar, etc. I'm exactly sure why I would want my kids to be able to relate to them.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 15, 2014 15:02:43 GMT -5
I think if someone that is “ahead” academically and is bored in school, then I think it’s a matter of the school doing a bad job at teaching. My wife is a teacher and I hear the methods they use to differentiate to meet the needs of kids in her kids. It’s not like they just teach the lesson to the average student and can only deviate a bit in each direction. It reminds me of my co-worker who said that his son was really far ahead so the teacher just ended up giving him extra work. And when the parents wanted him challenged more, they moved him up a grade and now he is struggling socially. I think it’s the opposite, you find the right fit for them socially (within reason) and the school has the tools to help meet the needs of the kids in the class. You can take a bunch of kids with March b-days in the same year and they will be all over the board in terms of academics. That is the job of the teacher to tailor the lesson to them. As someone who has volunteered 15-20 hours/week in the schools for four years now, I'd say teachers can only do so much. Yes, in a normal class where everyone is the same age there is a wide range of skills that a teacher has to challenge. You double that age range and now it's even more work. There are only so many hours in a day. It's like teaching aerobics. You can make some modifications for ability, but if you have wheelchair kids and marathon kids in the same class, it's hard to accommodate all those needs. And my kids go to excellent schools. YMMV But I don't even know what behind socially even means nowadays. If you don't like video games and prefer stuffed animals does that make you immature? If you don't covet a training bra by age 10 are you socially immature? Frankly, most kids I see nowadays I would consider bad influences - too much TV, no rules, sugar, etc. I'm exactly sure why I would want my kids to be able to relate to them. Well it seems like the anti-redshirting crowd argues that it all evens out at 1st or 2nd grade so there isn’t a point, academically, to redshirting. So you can’t really argue that redshirting is causing a huge range of skill level within a given classroom. That will be there regardless if kids were allowed to redshirt and I guess teachers just need to work with what they have. My wife is a teacher so I get the challenge of that, but I don’t think redshirting is really making a difference.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 15, 2014 16:28:03 GMT -5
I think if someone that is “ahead” academically and is bored in school, then I think it’s a matter of the school doing a bad job at teaching. My wife is a teacher and I hear the methods they use to differentiate to meet the needs of kids in her kids. It’s not like they just teach the lesson to the average student and can only deviate a bit in each direction. It reminds me of my co-worker who said that his son was really far ahead so the teacher just ended up giving him extra work. And when the parents wanted him challenged more, they moved him up a grade and now he is struggling socially. I think it’s the opposite, you find the right fit for them socially (within reason) and the school has the tools to help meet the needs of the kids in the class. You can take a bunch of kids with March b-days in the same year and they will be all over the board in terms of academics. That is the job of the teacher to tailor the lesson to them. As someone who has volunteered 15-20 hours/week in the schools for four years now, I'd say teachers can only do so much. Yes, in a normal class where everyone is the same age there is a wide range of skills that a teacher has to challenge. You double that age range and now it's even more work. There are only so many hours in a day. It's like teaching aerobics. You can make some modifications for ability, but if you have wheelchair kids and marathon kids in the same class, it's hard to accommodate all those needs. And my kids go to excellent schools. YMMV But I don't even know what behind socially even means nowadays. If you don't like video games and prefer stuffed animals does that make you immature? If you don't covet a training bra by age 10 are you socially immature? Frankly, most kids I see nowadays I would consider bad influences - too much TV, no rules, sugar, etc. I'm exactly sure why I would want my kids to be able to relate to them. That definitely isn't the social concerns that I have. I want to know that my kid is coping like normal 4 year olds. I'm not around any other 4 year olds to compare him to. Dh is a bit more, but its isolated events and he can't say what normal 4 year olds are like. If I listen Zib and a few other posters my 4 year old should speak only when spoken to, be perfectly content to entertain himself, never throw a tantrum, etc. I'm pretty sure that isn't normal 4 year old behavior either which is what I'm trying to find out.
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Post by sbcalimom on Jan 15, 2014 16:29:50 GMT -5
Rae - I had the same question for DD1's preschool teacher and got a similar answer. Academically ready but.... She wouldn't go so far as to say we should hold her back but she did say that if we had to decide today, she'd recommend we hold her back. She said things change dramatically though at this age so we should wait until closer to August. Could it be that she didn't want to give a recommendation so far out? At their age, so much can change in just a month that 8ish months is a really long time
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 15, 2014 16:32:15 GMT -5
If I listen Zib and a few other posters my 4 year old should speak only when spoken to, be perfectly content to entertain himself, never throw a tantrum, etc.
If you're going to use YM posters as your bar, then you might as well give your kid up to an orphange now.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 15, 2014 16:36:02 GMT -5
Rae - I had the same question for DD1's preschool teacher and got a similar answer. Academically ready but.... She wouldn't go so far as to say we should hold her back but she did say that if we had to decide today, she'd recommend we hold her back. She said things change dramatically though at this age so we should wait until closer to August. Could it be that she didn't want to give a recommendation so far out? At their age, so much can change in just a month that 8ish months is a really long time That's all fine and good but open enrollment for MPS starts Feb. 3rd for the fall year. When we were looking to enroll DD, we discovered a terrific school who did enrollment in Dec. Because we discovered this in Feb, we ended up around 20th on the wait list. Rae may very well NEED to decide now to get into the school of her choice.
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Post by swamp on Jan 15, 2014 16:51:23 GMT -5
If I listen Zib and a few other posters my 4 year old should speak only when spoken to, be perfectly content to entertain himself, never throw a tantrum, etc.
If you're going to use YM posters as your bar, then you might as well give your kid up to an orphange now. I'm not ready for kindergarten based on that.
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 15, 2014 17:56:18 GMT -5
Hey, both of mine threw a tantrum ONCE. When it didn't produce the desired result, it stopped. Thank GOD for that but I'd have handled it the same way. I do not expect a 4 year old to totally entertain themselves but they should be able to be on their own for a short while without my constant hovering to see to their every need. Entertaining themselves for a bit on their own is not a skill just for older kids. Speaking when spoken to? Try to shut a 4 year old up!!! Non stop talkers, they are.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Jan 15, 2014 22:17:13 GMT -5
I am reading this tread with great interest bc the concepts discussed here are COMPLETELY foreign to me.
As I mentioned in another thread, where I am from until the age of 7 you were pretty much in day care where you ate, played napped and pooped - that was ALL that was expected of you.
I just can't wrap my mind around this whole idea that a 4-5 yr olds should be "ready" for something.
Anywhoooo, Raeoflyte (I wish someone taught me how to tag )if it were me, I probably wouldn't send him to K, but I am the wrong person to ask bc I really don't see the point of K, especially all day one. But again, I don't put a lot of value on things like "learning to stay in line" and "follow the teacher to door A" when you are 5 yrs old.
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Post by sbcalimom on Jan 15, 2014 22:31:13 GMT -5
Rae - I had the same question for DD1's preschool teacher and got a similar answer. Academically ready but.... She wouldn't go so far as to say we should hold her back but she did say that if we had to decide today, she'd recommend we hold her back. She said things change dramatically though at this age so we should wait until closer to August. Could it be that she didn't want to give a recommendation so far out? At their age, so much can change in just a month that 8ish months is a really long time That's all fine and good but open enrollment for MPS starts Feb. 3rd for the fall year. When we were looking to enroll DD, we discovered a terrific school who did enrollment in Dec. Because we discovered this in Feb, we ended up around 20th on the wait list. Rae may very well NEED to decide now to get into the school of her choice. I totally agree! We were debating about trying to do a charter school here but you have to decide in January and if we had to decide today, then the answer is no she's not ready. I'm hoping by the time we have to decide for the "regular" school, we'll feel confident in enrolling her but who the heck knows.
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Post by teen persuasion on Jan 15, 2014 23:47:03 GMT -5
That definitely isn't the social concerns that I have. I want to know that my kid is coping like normal 4 year olds. I'm not around any other 4 year olds to compare him to. Dh is a bit more, but its isolated events and he can't say what normal 4 year olds are like. If I listen Zib and a few other posters my 4 year old should speak only when spoken to, be perfectly content to entertain himself, never throw a tantrum, etc. I'm pretty sure that isn't normal 4 year old behavior either which is what I'm trying to find out. Not an expert here, but I've got 5 kids of my own, did childcare for 2 more (years ago), do preschool story hour at the library, and have a bunch of nieces & nephews in clusters of ages (2 10yo, 3 8yo, 2 6yo). From what I've seen (especially within a bunch all the same age), there is no such thing as a normal 4 year old. Every kid is different, every single one. And they can act different in different circumstances, and with different people (kids and adults). Some (most) of my nieces & nephews are well behaved, until they get around one set of cousins; then all hell breaks loose and the bunch of them turn into wild hooligans.
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Post by milee on Jan 16, 2014 0:19:12 GMT -5
True. They're all heathens in their own unique way.
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Post by mmhmm on Jan 16, 2014 0:22:05 GMT -5
I red shirted DD. She is an Oct baby. Cut off was Nov 30 She used to get so nervous going to nursery school she would vomit. I wanted school to be a positive experience do I held back putting her in pre k until she was actyly supposed to be starting k. Best thing I could have done. I red shirted my son, who was an August baby. He just wasn't emotionally ready. The decision worked out well for our family, too.
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That definitely isn't the social concerns that I have. I want to know that my kid is coping like normal 4 year olds. I'm not around any other 4 year olds to compare him to. Dh is a bit more, but its isolated events and he can't say what normal 4 year olds are like. If I listen Zib and a few other posters my 4 year old should speak only when spoken to, be perfectly content to entertain himself, never throw a tantrum, etc. I'm pretty sure that isn't normal 4 year old behavior either which is what I'm trying to find out. Not an expert here, but I've got 5 kids of my own, did childcare for 2 more (years ago), do preschool story hour at the library, and have a bunch of nieces & nephews in clusters of ages (2 10yo, 3 8yo, 2 6yo). From what I've seen (especially within a bunch all the same age), there is no such thing as a normal 4 year old. Every kid is different, every single one. And they can act different in different circumstances, and with different people (kids and adults). Some (most) of my nieces & nephews are well behaved, until they get around one set of cousins; then all hell breaks loose and the bunch of them turn into wild hooligans. I think she is using the term "normal" to describe expected behavior for a 4 year old, not necessarily the kid themselves. It might be normal for a 4-year old to cry, but is it normal for him to cry everyday? When most 4-year olds cry, do they get over it quickly? Sure, all kids are crazy at certain times of the day but do they know when it's time to sit down and listen up.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 16, 2014 10:36:37 GMT -5
I'd say go ahead and schedule the kindergarten evaluation with the school system (I am assuming that is what is meant by enrollment begins in Feb). You can change your mind if you feel DS isn't ready in September.
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nogooddeed
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Post by nogooddeed on Jan 16, 2014 12:14:56 GMT -5
I didn't even go to kindergarten. After reading about all the testing, I think I'm glad I didn't.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 16, 2014 12:22:32 GMT -5
Dh spoke with the teacher today, and dh said that his gut is saying hold back. We'll still go to everything, get ds signed up for kindergarten, but will probably reserve him a spot in preschool too.
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Wisconsin Beth
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 16, 2014 12:29:18 GMT -5
I'd say go ahead and schedule the kindergarten evaluation with the school system (I am assuming that is what is meant by enrollment begins in Feb). You can change your mind if you feel DS isn't ready in September. No. Enrollment in Feb for me means I have to submit paperwork to the school main office and list the 3 top choices for my son to start in Fall 2014. Also if we want him on a school bus. And even doing that, we still may not get him into our 1st choice school - which is the one where his sister is. They will give us a priority because his sibling is there so I'm fairly confident he'll get in.
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