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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 6, 2014 17:04:23 GMT -5
My brother just texted me, his family will "be there tonight or tomorrow, probably tomorrow." He mentioned a few weeks ago that they were picking up their car and might be in the area. He just got out of the military and was stationed in Hawaii, which is why the car was getting shipped. Anyway, other than mentioning it in passing and asking if they could stay with us for a few days if they come up this way, without knowing the exact dates, we haven't talked about this at all since then. Today I get the one text. His kids are 3 and 4 now, and all four of them are staying with us for an unknown length of time, but probably not more than a couple days. You can't just spring that shit on people. My family always does this. Worst. Planners. Ever.
I can't wait to see my brother and my nieces, but I might have to deck him when they get here. Seriously, who does that?
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Post by justme on Jan 6, 2014 17:20:51 GMT -5
One faction/mom's sister's kids of our family does that. And it's often for a crash pad as they're driving through to somewhere else while they're already on their way. Oh, at it seems they like to get there ridiculously late too. My aunt gets it more than my parents do since she's on one of the major interstates out of the state. One time the cousin called when they had left and my aunt stayed up late waiting for them, only to find out the next day they kept driving and went to a hotel later!
That's probably a lot less annoying then a last minute "Hey! We're staying with you for a week!".
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Sum Dum Gai
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 6, 2014 17:30:55 GMT -5
I don't know how long they're staying. All I know right now is they're driving up the coast and will either get here really late or some time tomorrow if they stop somewhere. I need to dig the air mattress out of the garage, go grocery shopping, and get our Christmas crap out of the living room.
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Post by Opti on Jan 6, 2014 17:41:45 GMT -5
If you stop letting them stay with little notice, they might start planning better.
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Post by justme on Jan 6, 2014 17:54:10 GMT -5
Oooh! Hand the adults the uniform to your store and tell them it's so great that they came in town because you need help!
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Post by ners on Jan 6, 2014 17:55:38 GMT -5
I thought only my brother did that.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 6, 2014 17:56:22 GMT -5
Or they'll stop driving 12 hours to see me. Can't risk it, I already see them too infrequently as it is.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 6, 2014 17:56:30 GMT -5
"If you stop letting them stay with little notice, they might start planning better. " Easier said than done. What is he going to tell them? Sorry you can't stay because you didnt give enough notice? While i understand your frustration, if they are staying for a week or less, it is not that big of a deal. You dont have to have everything perfect prior to their arrival. Just enjoy your time with your family
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Jan 6, 2014 17:57:52 GMT -5
Yeah, I'd see it as a bit annoying but not that big of deal? I guess I'd be happy if my family came to visit, even on short notice. Sorry, Dark.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 6, 2014 17:58:50 GMT -5
Are you an only child? Sibling rivalry not only says I have to have everything perfect, it also says I have to make it appear that I do so with no effort whatsoever. I only get a couple chances a year to show them that my life is superior to theirs. Days like this are when I miss having a stay at home spouse.
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Post by chiver78 on Jan 6, 2014 18:02:26 GMT -5
at least you got a few days' notice. my aunts and uncles have gotten in the very bad habit of giving my parents an overnight heads up that they would be there in the morning - and they have a key that gets passed around between the couples that used to belong to my grandparents.
I keep telling my parents to change the locks. dad won't rock the boat while Memere is still alive, but I have a feeling things will be changing quickly after she passes.
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Post by Opti on Jan 6, 2014 18:03:49 GMT -5
Then try to be happy no matter how it works out.
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Post by saveinla on Jan 6, 2014 18:05:32 GMT -5
Be thankful that at least they are all healthy. My cousin came home yesterday from Tuscon- they called yesterday morning and were here last night. She is in her early thirties and her brain tumor has come back. She is trying to get into clinical trials at Cedars or UCLA and her condition is deteriorating so fast that she wants to be close by if she has an emergency. She cannot get into the trials if she has surgery again and she does not know yet if she will get in. She has a 5 year old son and no other family close. This is the first time I have seen her in years and I wish it was not this way
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Post by hoops902 on Jan 6, 2014 18:06:34 GMT -5
::at least you got a few days' notice.::
I'm not sure "tonight, or tomorrow" counts as "a few days".
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Sum Dum Gai
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 6, 2014 18:10:48 GMT -5
Tonight or tomorrow at 2 in the afternoon is not a few days notice. It's maybe one day's notice if they stop somewhere tonight.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 6, 2014 18:12:05 GMT -5
I'm sorry about your cousin, that's rough.
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Post by Sharon on Jan 6, 2014 18:15:56 GMT -5
Tell them because it is such short notice that they will need to come down to the store and help out so you can have a chance to visit with them. Then have them clean the bathrooms.
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Post by chiver78 on Jan 6, 2014 18:17:16 GMT -5
Tonight or tomorrow at 2 in the afternoon is not a few days notice. It's maybe one day's notice if they stop somewhere tonight. my bad, I missed that in the OP. was going off the later comments. so yeah, your family sucks like mine does (and my reading skills today). hopefully the visit goes smoothly!
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 6, 2014 18:17:52 GMT -5
Genius, I totally should get a free bathroom cleaning out of this. And the windows. I wish my flooring order was here already, I could have them help install the laminate. Nothing says family time like a couple days on your hands and knees installing flooring.
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Post by busymom on Jan 6, 2014 18:21:57 GMT -5
Can they help you unbox some freight? They might as well make themselves useful.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 6, 2014 18:24:12 GMT -5
I don't have anything to unpack at the moment. Everything we had was on the shelves for Christmas. We're still getting our new orders submitted.
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Post by mmhmm on Jan 6, 2014 18:31:31 GMT -5
Be thankful that at least they are all healthy. My cousin came home yesterday from Tuscon- they called yesterday morning and were here last night. She is in her early thirties and her brain tumor has come back. She is trying to get into clinical trials at Cedars or UCLA and her condition is deteriorating so fast that she wants to be close by if she has an emergency. She cannot get into the trials if she has surgery again and she does not know yet if she will get in. She has a 5 year old son and no other family close. This is the first time I have seen her in years and I wish it was not this way I'm so sorry, saveinla. Please, keep us informed on your cousin's progress. I hope she can get into that clinical trial soon!
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Post by mmhmm on Jan 6, 2014 18:32:23 GMT -5
Just enjoy the visit, Dark. I know how you feel. My family knows not to just show up here, but there have been a few times it's happened. Royal pain in the tail!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 6, 2014 20:14:14 GMT -5
"Are you an only child? " Nope! I have a twin sister. Sibling rivalry? I dont know about that. I would feel so much more comfortable with my sister visiting than anybody else. I wouldnt feel like i have to be 100% ready
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Post by NastyWoman on Jan 6, 2014 20:36:12 GMT -5
"Are you an only child? " Nope! I have a twin sister. Sibling rivalry? I dont know about that. I would feel so much more comfortable with my sister visiting than anybody else. I wouldnt feel like i have to be 100% ready But don't you, just like me, have an ocean (and possibly a continent) between you and the family? That does put a crimp in the unexpected drop-in visiting I would think.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 6, 2014 20:47:54 GMT -5
"But don't you, just like me, have an ocean (and possibly a continent) between you and the family? That does put a crimp in the unexpected drop-in visiting I would think." Haha yes i do. But even with an expected visit, i wouldnt worry too much about everything being perfect
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Jan 6, 2014 20:53:00 GMT -5
Are you an only child? Sibling rivalry not only says I have to have everything perfect, it also says I have to make it appear that I do so with no effort whatsoever. I only get a couple chances a year to show them that my life is superior to theirs. Days like this are when I miss having a stay at home spouse. Oy. So much . And I'm not even shooting for superior -- just adequate to prevent the gossip texting while they visit.
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Post by The Captain on Jan 6, 2014 21:30:28 GMT -5
Meh, if my family is still expecting perfection and a spotless house by now they obviously never knew me well at all.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 6, 2014 21:33:38 GMT -5
Right!? People walk around with camera phone on their person at all times. They don't gossip about your dust bunnies anymore. They take a picture, name the little bastards, and throw it on Facebook for everyone to see.
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Post by The Captain on Jan 6, 2014 21:38:46 GMT -5
*snort* you assume my family actually has smartphones and facebook accounts!
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