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Post by Nazgul Girl on Jan 6, 2014 21:40:20 GMT -5
Be thankful that at least they are all healthy. My cousin came home yesterday from Tuscon- they called yesterday morning and were here last night. She is in her early thirties and her brain tumor has come back. She is trying to get into clinical trials at Cedars or UCLA and her condition is deteriorating so fast that she wants to be close by if she has an emergency. She cannot get into the trials if she has surgery again and she does not know yet if she will get in. She has a 5 year old son and no other family close. This is the first time I have seen her in years and I wish it was not this way So sorry about your cousin, Saveinia. I wish for the best for her and her family.
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Post by thyme4change on Jan 6, 2014 22:02:15 GMT -5
I've totally given up. I don't even care - gossip all you want. My sister bought a million dollar house and did a $300k renovation. My house is probably worth about $300k. I'm over it. I will not win, I won't even place (and there are only 3 of us!) so fuck it.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 6, 2014 22:08:27 GMT -5
Financially, I am winning the sibling war. But not too hard when my brother works part time at a doggie day care and my sister works in a group home.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Jan 6, 2014 22:10:05 GMT -5
Financially, I am winning the sibling war. But not too hard when my brother works part time at a doggie day care and my sister works in a group home. Hell, you don't even have to try and you win.
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Post by thyme4change on Jan 6, 2014 22:19:17 GMT -5
Financially, I am winning the sibling war. But not too hard when my brother works part time at a doggie day care and my sister works in a group home. Neither of my sisters worked at all for the last 25 years - both excellent stay at home moms. But they married well, and have the time to have those "perfect" houses. If I feel the need to compete with them, I just remember that I made more last year than both of them have earned in their entire lives combined. Take that bitches! (not that I have ever said that to their faces - I do really respect what great Moms they are.)
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Post by msventoux on Jan 6, 2014 22:23:27 GMT -5
I'm not sure who is winning the sibling war, probably my sibling. However all of our cousins from both sides of the family have been in prison at various times, some are frequent flyers. We've always said that it doesn't take much to be a rock star in our extended family; just stay out of prison.
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Post by taz157 on Jan 6, 2014 22:33:08 GMT -5
Be thankful that at least they are all healthy. My cousin came home yesterday from Tuscon- they called yesterday morning and were here last night. She is in her early thirties and her brain tumor has come back. She is trying to get into clinical trials at Cedars or UCLA and her condition is deteriorating so fast that she wants to be close by if she has an emergency. She cannot get into the trials if she has surgery again and she does not know yet if she will get in. She has a 5 year old son and no other family close. This is the first time I have seen her in years and I wish it was not this way So sorry about your cousin, Saveinia. I wish for the best for her and her family. Yeah that. (((((hugs)))))
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 6, 2014 22:53:06 GMT -5
They got a late start so stopped for the night in San Diego. It's roughly an 8 hour drive from there to here, 10 if they go up the coast the whole way. Add stops for gas, food, and letting the kids run around for a bit... I figure they'll get here about 10pm to midnight tomorrow.
They're staying through Friday, maybe the weekend. Halfway here, kinda, with two toddlers and they don't even know how long they're staying.. love it! My family can be obnoxious but they've got living in the moment and being spontanious down.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 6, 2014 22:54:39 GMT -5
Financially, I am winning the sibling war. But not too hard when my brother works part time at a doggie day care and my sister works in a group home. I was handily ahead in my family, but if the store struggles for a bit I could lose the top spot.
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Post by saveinla on Jan 6, 2014 23:07:40 GMT -5
Thanks for the wishes everyone. If you believe in prayer (good thoughts, juju etc. etc.) please keep her and the family in your thoughts.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 7, 2014 9:05:44 GMT -5
Our situation is more stable (not starting a business, no kids at home, spare bedroom available, DH does only some freelance business), but we've had this happen a couple of times with less than 24 hours notice. We live a few minutes off a major interstate that crosses the US, so it's a good stopping point. Once my brother called and asked if his son could visit on a cross-country road trip (son was about 28 at the time and capable of speaking for himself but these nuclear engineering types are a little weird).
Second time was last summer- cousin was driving from CO to OH and called at 2 PM; she'd just found out from her mother that we lived where we did and wondered if we could meet "for dinner". So of course we invited them to spend the night. She said, "you know I have 3 kids, right?" Yes- we're on FaceBook! They arrived around 6. In both cases we had a great visit. I was really happy to host my cousin and her kids because it turned out they'd camped the night before and the wind practically blew their tent away. They were SO happy to swim in our pool and sleep in real beds!
My Aunt (mother of that cousin) is likely to pop up in travels between OH and CO. As long as people know the housekeeping is not up to Martha Stewart standards and it's only an overnight, we're happy to have them.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 7, 2014 9:59:32 GMT -5
Financially, I am winning the sibling war. But not too hard when my brother works part time at a doggie day care and my sister works in a group home. Neither of my sisters worked at all for the last 25 years - both excellent stay at home moms. But they married well, and have the time to have those "perfect" houses. If I feel the need to compete with them, I just remember that I made more last year than both of them have earned in their entire lives combined. Take that bitches! (not that I have ever said that to their faces - I do really respect what great Moms they are.) My sister's wife is a vet tech. Decent money but nothing crazy.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 7, 2014 10:06:51 GMT -5
Don't want to say too much, but recently had the same thing happen to us. Unable to accommodate them, I offered to find them a hotel. However, not wanting to pay for one, they got mad and refused to come. I hate it when people look at us as free lodging and meals.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jan 7, 2014 10:19:27 GMT -5
Saveinla, best wishes and thoughts to you and your family at this time. Dark, you can handle this. You started a new business and you are raising preteen girls. That alone should have killed you already.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 7, 2014 12:01:55 GMT -5
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 7, 2014 13:43:22 GMT -5
I have no idea where I am in the sibling ranking. I suspect on the bottom, using the "if you don't see the sucker at the table, you're it" theory. But that's ok.
I have to say, I can't imagine being 12 hours from any of my siblings though. We're all about 30 minutes from each other. There's 5 of us. If you extend it out to 2-3 hours, I can include most of my cousins too.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 7, 2014 14:07:01 GMT -5
Most of my family is still within a couple hours of each other. I was the first to leave the extended area while I was in the military. My younger brother has been stationed in Hawaii for five years, so he's been gone for a while too, but he's moving back. Two of the other three siblings are still in the same town as mom, and my sister is only a few hours away.
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Post by flamingo on Jan 7, 2014 14:36:48 GMT -5
I moved 3 years ago to central Florida-land of "Hey we are going to be in your area for a family vacation, you know you want to host us, right?!" My DH and I solved that problem before it began-so sorry, we only have 1 bed (ours) and 1 couch. Oh, the second bedroom? No, sorry, that's for my DH's home office, which is full of a desk, a wobbly bookshelf, our bikes, and some other random crap we didn't know where to store. So when family comes to visit-unless it's seriously 1 person at a time, they have to get a hotel. Only one set of aunt/uncle/2 cousins would try to bully their way in even with 3 of them having to sleep on a floor. Good thing they have a time share on the other side of town they like to use!!
I like to see my family-I just prefer to do it with advanced notice. Good thing my grandma is the gossip queen and calls weekly with an update of everyone's travel schedule!
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jan 7, 2014 15:26:19 GMT -5
I moved 3 years ago to central Florida-land of "Hey we are going to be in your area for a family vacation, you know you want to host us, right?!" My DH and I solved that problem before it began-so sorry, we only have 1 bed (ours) and 1 couch. Oh, the second bedroom? No, sorry, that's for my DH's home office, which is full of a desk, a wobbly bookshelf, our bikes, and some other random crap we didn't know where to store. So when family comes to visit-unless it's seriously 1 person at a time, they have to get a hotel. Only one set of aunt/uncle/2 cousins would try to bully their way in even with 3 of them having to sleep on a floor. Good thing they have a time share on the other side of town they like to use!!
I like to see my family-I just prefer to do it with advanced notice. Good thing my grandma is the gossip queen and calls weekly with an update of everyone's travel schedule! <<Waves at flamingo>> Just south of you! When people ask us about coming down to visit, we just tell them all about our busy schedule. That usually does it for them, since they realize they won't have a cook and housekeeper while they are here.
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Post by Abby Normal on Jan 7, 2014 17:14:53 GMT -5
Oh sibling ranking- income wise- likely 3 out of 4. Net worth I probably bump up to the #2 spot though it might be a tie. But the #1 spot is held by my neurotic sister whom we are all amazed can hold down a job. But according to my mother- I'm the only one with my shit together so I guess that makes me #1.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 7, 2014 20:51:32 GMT -5
Save, I'm so sorry about your cousin. I hope she pulls through.
Dark, as infuriating as the last-minute notice seems to be, it sounds like you will be happy to see them and have fun together, so enjoy!
We have a really open house. Sometimes it is a PITA (I HATE changing bedding. DH always tells me how easy it, but somehow never does it himself.) But it's always fun to spend time with people we love, and in your case, for the families / kids to see each other again.
This is one reason I always keep our guest room ready. As soon as guests leave, I put on a clean bottom sheet, fold the couch back up, and then 2 hours later the duvet cover is washed and back on the duvet, in the storage compartment under the convertible couch, ready for the next guests. (This said, as I've gotten older, I'm a bit less "open house" than I used to be.)
The best / shortest notice we ever had was when DS1 was at university in the UK. He was doing a charity hitchhike from the UK to Morocco. He called us at midnight, they were passing nearby, the 3 kids and the trucker who picked them up. Might we like to cook dinner for them? DH and I cooked up a big bowl of pasta and had a great time with them. I went to bed after 3 and got up for work at 7 the next day.
That sort of thing is definitely harder now LOL. I could never swing that if I were teaching the next day.
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Post by justme on Jan 7, 2014 21:01:44 GMT -5
I moved 3 years ago to central Florida-land of "Hey we are going to be in your area for a family vacation, you know you want to host us, right?!" My DH and I solved that problem before it began-so sorry, we only have 1 bed (ours) and 1 couch. Oh, the second bedroom? No, sorry, that's for my DH's home office, which is full of a desk, a wobbly bookshelf, our bikes, and some other random crap we didn't know where to store. So when family comes to visit-unless it's seriously 1 person at a time, they have to get a hotel. Only one set of aunt/uncle/2 cousins would try to bully their way in even with 3 of them having to sleep on a floor. Good thing they have a time share on the other side of town they like to use!!
I like to see my family-I just prefer to do it with advanced notice. Good thing my grandma is the gossip queen and calls weekly with an update of everyone's travel schedule! <<Waves at flamingo>> Just south of you! When people ask us about coming down to visit, we just tell them all about our busy schedule. That usually does it for them, since they realize they won't have a cook and housekeeper while they are here. I just let my family talk crap about how messy my place is....and then open themselves up to the visitors because they are on the other side of Disney from me and as empty nesters have several empty beds!
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 7, 2014 21:37:01 GMT -5
We specifically built a house with no extra rooms because EX hated his family. They still would show up and we'd put them up. I must admit, having two adults share a bunk bed should have stopped it!
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 8, 2014 0:17:11 GMT -5
My brother scored free tickets to Sea World so they did that today and got a late start. They'll arrive at around 2am. Guess they technically gave us two days notice after all.
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 8, 2014 4:25:42 GMT -5
That's rude. Who is supposed to let them in at 2am?
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 8, 2014 4:36:11 GMT -5
I'm up anyway. Some friends were supposed to meet us to see the second Hobbit movie tonight. They called and said they wouldn't make it because they got in a car accident on their way to the theater. We assumed it was a fender bender. Got out of the movie and saw a Facebook post from one of their parents that they were still at the hospital and sending the girl in for another round of imaging to assess the damage to her pelvis. They were riding their scooter to the movies. A car went through a stop sign without stopping and hit them. He's pretty banged up but no serious injuries. She has multiple fractures to her pelvis, and is being airlifted to San Jose as I type this. They say she's stable but will be undergoing surgery when she arrives in San Jose.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 8, 2014 8:56:19 GMT -5
Dark, I'm so sorry for your friends. I hope everything will be ok for her. And it sounds like your brother is doing part of my dream vacation - driving up (or down) California, stopping at whatever seems interesting. Only my trip will be B&Bs or hotels.
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Post by The Captain on Jan 8, 2014 9:09:30 GMT -5
Dark - sending good mojo toward your friends.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jan 8, 2014 10:47:12 GMT -5
Dark - sending good mojo toward your friends.
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Post by bean29 on Jan 8, 2014 11:18:58 GMT -5
Right!? People walk around with camera phone on their person at all times. They don't gossip about your dust bunnies anymore. They take a picture, name the little bastards, and throw it on Facebook for everyone to see. Dark, I would never do that to my family. I might comment privately to another family member that someone's house was dirty but post pics on facebook-Never I would be embrassing myself. I always help my Mom clean before a holiday - not becasue she is incapable of cleaning but b/c she is primary caregiver to my dad who is disabled so she has a lot on her plate and before my sister hosted a grad party for one of my Nephew's my Mom and I spent several weekends deculttering and organizing DS's house. I also dropped a good amount of $$ or plastic organizers for her stuff. Mom washed the nicotine off her walls (DS's DH is a chain smoker) too. You worry too much. Just enjoy your visit with your family. They took the time to travel to visit you, so you have to take some time off to enjoy the visit Meh, you are somewhat even.
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