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Post by bean29 on Jan 8, 2014 11:30:39 GMT -5
Now that I caught up on the rest of the thread, praying for Saveinia's cousin and Dark's friend.
2am, heck my Dog thinks that is walk time, i am up anyways most of the time. I am glad he was able to score free tickets. Finances are often a struggle for people with small children so that is wonderful.
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Post by tloonya on Jan 10, 2014 14:22:05 GMT -5
My brother just texted me, his family will "be there tonight or tomorrow, probably tomorrow." He mentioned a few weeks ago that they were picking up their car and might be in the area. He just got out of the military and was stationed in Hawaii, which is why the car was getting shipped. Anyway, other than mentioning it in passing and asking if they could stay with us for a few days if they come up this way, without knowing the exact dates, we haven't talked about this at all since then. Today I get the one text. His kids are 3 and 4 now, and all four of them are staying with us for an unknown length of time, but probably not more than a couple days. You can't just spring that shit on people. My family always does this. Worst. Planners. Ever. I can't wait to see my brother and my nieces, but I might have to deck him when they get here. Seriously, who does that? ITS YOUR BROTHER! Why do you people hate each other so much? I have kind of got used to the fact that you don't admire your children and HERE! We hate our family and finding them a nuisance... I am kind of happy my child is the only child because I would HATE to see my kids freaking out when their sibling own blood and flesh is coming over without notice...when there was a hint...yuck!
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Post by tloonya on Jan 10, 2014 14:23:58 GMT -5
Financially, I am winning the sibling war. But not too hard when my brother works part time at a doggie day care and my sister works in a group home. ESXACTLY why I had opted to have one child. thanks Archie.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 10, 2014 14:28:39 GMT -5
What do you mean? I'd do almost anything for my brother. If he called me right now and asked me to help him hide a body, I'd do it. No questions asked. Doesn't mean I don't get annoyed when two adults and two toddlers show up for a week long visit with barely any notice.
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Post by tloonya on Jan 10, 2014 14:51:07 GMT -5
What do you mean? I'd do almost anything for my brother. If he called me right now and asked me to help him hide a body, I'd do it. No questions asked. Doesn't mean I don't get annoyed when two adults and two toddlers show up for a week long visit with barely any notice. If he called me right now and asked me to help him hide a body...as long as he is not asking to come up and wash up after 'the work' at your house? It seems like greeting people in your home is such a hard job (remember hosting a potluck event with hostile hostess?) that everyone is livid when they have to do it!!! What's the big deal having your BROTHER dropping by? And favorite nieces Even if it is for a week!!!
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 10, 2014 15:12:17 GMT -5
It's not that big of a deal, just obnoxious that he did so with very little notice. What's the big deal with picking up the phone and letting me know a week before they plan to drop in for a week? KWIM?
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Post by tloonya on Jan 10, 2014 15:21:41 GMT -5
It's not that big of a deal, just obnoxious that he did so with very little notice. What's the big deal with picking up the phone and letting me know a week before they plan to drop in for a week? KWIM? No, Dark! Your BROTHER, your own brother is coming to visit you with his kids and you are sooo happy that you are bitching about this in forum! What would you do so much differently IF you had had a week notice? Bought the ticket to Florida and left the state? WHYWHYWHY do you people need a week notice to greet your own flesh and blood relatives When this is became a norm? You don't see each other for years and then when someone is bald enough to stop separation you freaking out in public forums! What a shame!!! Do you people prefer to see your relatives at the weddings and funerals Shame! Sad! Wrong!
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 10, 2014 15:28:46 GMT -5
Closed the store for a day or two, or gotten it covered by a temp, so I could spend more time with them. Had a little more time to get the house organized, and had time to get some of the kid's older toys out of storage and cleaned up so the nieces would have age appropriate toys to play with. Planned meals and grocery shopping a little better. Feeding 8 at every meal is way different than feeding 4. Stuff like that.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jan 10, 2014 15:33:32 GMT -5
It's not that big of a deal, just obnoxious that he did so with very little notice. What's the big deal with picking up the phone and letting me know a week before they plan to drop in for a week? KWIM? No, Dark! Your BROTHER, your own brother is coming to visit you with his kids and you are sooo happy that you are bitching about this in forum! What would you do so much differently IF you had had a week notice? Bought the ticket to Florida and left the state? WHYWHYWHY do you people need a week notice to greet your own flesh and blood relatives When this is became a norm? You don't see each other for years and then when someone is bald enough to stop separation you freaking out in public forums! What a shame!!! Do you people prefer to see your relatives at the weddings and funerals Shame! Sad! Wrong! Dark is a guy with a new (and successful) business, a working wife and two preteen kids. I think he's right to expect some courtesy from his brother. Or expect them to clean the bathroom at his store. He cannot just ask the boss for time off - he is the boss. I doubt he would have done anything as irresponsible as left the state, given that his business is doing well. But some warning to rearrange his schedule and get his house clean would have been appreciated. Just because it's family, doesn't mean it's right for them to show up like a pack of Mongolian marauders hunting for their next ox kill. And who said Dark's brother is bald enough? Or bald at all? And why does his hair matter?
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Post by tloonya on Jan 10, 2014 15:45:15 GMT -5
Closed the store for a day or two, or gotten it covered by a temp, so I could spend more time with them. Had a little more time to get the house organized, and had time to get some of the kid's older toys out of storage and cleaned up so the nieces would have age appropriate toys to play with. Planned meals and grocery shopping a little better. Feeding 8 at every meal is way different than feeding 4. Stuff like that. Dark! You don't have to close the store. Let them cook meal for you while they are there and you are at the store. If not - order pizza, for 8 not for 4. One extra box to throw into trash? You can do it man! Also what if your house is not organized enough? Its YOUR FAMILY!!! Do they come with white glove inspection? NO! At least I hope they aren't. Appropriate age toys? Bullshit!!! What do you have? Dildos around the house don't remember where so nieces can find it? Tell them it is a fairy wand!!! Big freaking deal! Meal planning? Easy like 123. There is pizza and Chinese and buffets and all you need to do is tell them firmly to go buy some breakfast food... I can make 10 better exuses for you but it will still be a bullshit!!!
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 10, 2014 15:50:43 GMT -5
He's not bald, but he does have more gray hair than me, even though he's younger, which is awesome!
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Post by tloonya on Jan 10, 2014 15:57:35 GMT -5
No, Dark! Your BROTHER, your own brother is coming to visit you with his kids and you are sooo happy that you are bitching about this in forum! What would you do so much differently IF you had had a week notice? Bought the ticket to Florida and left the state? WHYWHYWHY do you people need a week notice to greet your own flesh and blood relatives When this is became a norm? You don't see each other for years and then when someone is bald enough to stop separation you freaking out in public forums! What a shame!!! Do you people prefer to see your relatives at the weddings and funerals Shame! Sad! Wrong! Dark is a guy with a new (and successful) business, a working wife and two preteen kids. I think he's right to expect some courtesy from his brother. Or expect them to clean the bathroom at his store. He cannot just ask the boss for time off - he is the boss. I doubt he would have done anything as irresponsible as left the state, given that his business is doing well. But some warning to rearrange his schedule and get his house clean would have been appreciated. Just because it's family, doesn't mean it's right for them to show up like a pack of Mongolian marauders hunting for their next ox kill. And who said Dark's brother is bald enough? Or bald at all? And why does his hair matter? Nancy! Like I said sometimes you are funny. Sometimes you are just...weird! Why are you repeating that Dark's business is successful like if it wasn't - then Dark would react differently to brother's arrival? leaving the state was a joke. Get it now? So saying that his family show up like a pack of Mongolian marauders hunting for their next ox kill. kind of tells me that you are also very open to family visits and loving hostile hostess? What World are we living in I am so pissed now that all of you (now I know) pretending (I know now) to care about (strangers) people from this forum AND going ohhhh and ahhh about freaking cute kittens and pupps but when it comes to YOUR FAMILIES you need 'WEEKLY NOTICE' or you gonna come bitch about...to strangers.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 10, 2014 16:00:04 GMT -5
For the record I'd be just as annoyed if a poster here showed up to stay for a week with their spouse and kids and only gave me one day's notice and showed up at 3am.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jan 10, 2014 16:04:32 GMT -5
Dark is a guy with a new (and successful) business, a working wife and two preteen kids. I think he's right to expect some courtesy from his brother. Or expect them to clean the bathroom at his store. He cannot just ask the boss for time off - he is the boss. I doubt he would have done anything as irresponsible as left the state, given that his business is doing well. But some warning to rearrange his schedule and get his house clean would have been appreciated. Just because it's family, doesn't mean it's right for them to show up like a pack of Mongolian marauders hunting for their next ox kill. And who said Dark's brother is bald enough? Or bald at all? And why does his hair matter? Nancy! Like I said sometimes you are funny. Sometimes you are just...weird! Why are you repeating that Dark's business is successful like if it wasn't - then Dark would react differently to brother's arrival? leaving the state was a joke. Get it now? So saying that his family show up like a pack of Mongolian marauders hunting for their next ox kill. kind of tells me that you are also very open to family visits and loving hostile hostess? What World are we living in I am so pissed now that all of you (now I know) pretending (I know now) to care about (strangers) people from this forum AND going ohhhh and ahhh about freaking cute kittens and pupps but when it comes to YOUR FAMILIES you need 'WEEKLY NOTICE' or you gonna come bitch about...to strangers. I'm as open to family visits as the next busy, successful person. But show up on my doorstep with insufficient warning, and I will direct you to the nearest hotel. Most of us live in a world where we work, take care of our families and make plans to do stuff we want to do and need to do, spend money in careful, well-thought out ways and live a full life in general. Dropping everything doesn't always fit into the scheme of things. Gold stars to you if you can just quit what you are doing and accommodate folks. Not everyone has the space, the time, the money or the energy to do it.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 10, 2014 16:10:47 GMT -5
Dark, Any word on your friends?
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 11, 2014 4:40:44 GMT -5
She has multiple fractures in her pelvis, but won't require surgery for now. As long as the breaks heal properly she'll be in a wheelchair for a while and physical therapy after that. They like her chances for a full recovery. He sprained basically every joint on his right side and bruised his tailbone pretty good, and they're both pretty banged/scraped up, so he's in a lot of pain right now but he should make a full recovery as well.
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Post by grits on Jan 11, 2014 5:06:07 GMT -5
I do not rank myself with my relatives, and try to not do it with other people. Why should I judge myself according to the lives of people I don't even like? This ranking stuff is part of what led to the personal and financial excesses of the 1920's. It is a large part of the problems that developed from the 1990's, and 2000's. I can only be happy being me. If I compare myself, and self-worth to others, I will not be content, and at peace. I have a roof over my head,and a bed in which to sleep. I have clothes on my back, shoes on my feet, and food to eat. I am way ahead of most of the world, and many people in the USA.
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Post by tloonya on Jan 11, 2014 7:52:31 GMT -5
Nancy! Like I said sometimes you are funny. Sometimes you are just...weird! Why are you repeating that Dark's business is successful like if it wasn't - then Dark would react differently to brother's arrival? leaving the state was a joke. Get it now? So saying that his family show up like a pack of Mongolian marauders hunting for their next ox kill. kind of tells me that you are also very open to family visits and loving hostile hostess? What World are we living in I am so pissed now that all of you (now I know) pretending (I know now) to care about (strangers) people from this forum AND going ohhhh and ahhh about freaking cute kittens and pupps but when it comes to YOUR FAMILIES you need 'WEEKLY NOTICE' or you gonna come bitch about...to strangers. I'm as open to family visits as the next busy, successful person. But show up on my doorstep with insufficient warning, and I will direct you to the nearest hotel. Most of us live in a world where we work, take care of our families and make plans to do stuff we want to do and need to do, spend money in careful, well-thought out ways and live a full life in general. Dropping everything doesn't always fit into the scheme of things. Gold stars to you if you can just quit what you are doing and accommodate folks. Not everyone has the space, the time, the money or the energy to do it. This is why world we are living in becoming so unpleasant for living! Look at muslims...they keep families together, this is why they are becoming stronger. One straw is easy to break! try to break a whole broom with bare hands! When World is overturn I will think about you, Dark and Nancy! Again...running to the supermarket for extra meatballs, chicken fingers for kids and cookie and mac and cheese for lunch is only takid AN HOUR! But like I said I will put whole list of exuses for your next unwanted relatives visit and those will be GRRReat!
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Post by Shooby on Jan 11, 2014 9:47:50 GMT -5
Hospitality is just that. Making people h feel comfortable and welcome. Whether he should have done it differently who cares? Just make the best of it. And if u have to work some of those days then you have to work. And cooking and entertaining doesn't have to be difficult. Order out some pizzas ir whatever.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jan 11, 2014 12:44:46 GMT -5
I'd definitely be annoyed about short notice. Glad you get to see them though. Glad your friends will be okay.
Financially, I am 2 of 3 with my two sisters. DH is 1 of 8. If we're counting couple power, we are 1 of 3 with my siblings and probably 2 of 8 in his.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 11, 2014 12:55:02 GMT -5
Long ago, when I was studying for actuarial exams, my sister, who lived 5 hours away, called me and said she and her husband would be in my area the following weekend because she was attending a convention. Unfortunately, that was the last weekend before my exam. (To give you some perspective: there 10 exams back then, they recommend 300 hours of study per exam and the pass rates are 30-40%.) You can imagine what my plans had been for that weekend before they called.
I decided family was family, we had a wonderful time exploring the city- and I failed my exam. Back to studying till I could take it again in 6 months.
So, yeah, any time someone can give advance notice they should. You never know what's on someone else's plate.
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Post by Peace77 on Jan 11, 2014 13:03:19 GMT -5
When I was a newlywed, I got a phone call that MIL would be arriving in about 3 hours. It took her 2 days to drive from her home state to ours. I don't understand why she didn't call before she left home. I only had enough time to stash the clutter in the closets before she arrived. Then, she wanted to see DH's cat. The cat was afraid of strangers and I was sure it was hiding in one of the closets.
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Post by tloonya on Jan 11, 2014 20:26:49 GMT -5
When I was a newlywed, I got a phone call that MIL would be arriving in about 3 hours. It took her 2 days to drive from her home state to ours. I don't understand why she didn't call before she left home. I only had enough time to stash the clutter in the closets before she arrived. Then, she wanted to see DH's cat. The cat was afraid of strangers and I was sure it was hiding in one of the closets. Siblings and in-laws are diffrent species. If your siblings act like your in-laws - call exterminator!
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