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Post by Apple on Nov 3, 2013 14:54:44 GMT -5
I'm in a funk lately, work-wise and non-existent-relationship-wise. I'm ok with one going bad when the other is at least semi-good, but right now they both suck. So, I could use some "hope".
How did you meet your spouse/gf/bf/ex? Did you know right away? Were you friends first and had to warm up to the idea of being a couple? Was it a random meeting? A set-up? Online?
Tell me all about it...
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Post by swamp on Nov 3, 2013 15:00:05 GMT -5
My friend from HS was married to his brother. They're divorced now.
It was NOT love at first sight. In fact, I had no interest in him and only went out with him a few times just for shits and giggles. I was going to break it off with him because he was "boring" and " not my type" but my boss at the time told me I was being an idiot and he was a great guy.
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Post by thyme4change on Nov 3, 2013 15:16:21 GMT -5
Bar. I don't remember if it was love at first sight. I remember very little from that night. Actually, very little from the whole first 4 months.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Nov 3, 2013 15:25:38 GMT -5
I met my EX while in college. I dated his roommate for a while. The only other really long term relationship since the big D - I picked him up in a bar!! I guess with him it was lust at first sight
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Post by muttleynfelix on Nov 3, 2013 15:25:45 GMT -5
I worked with him. I'd been there 3 weeks when we had our company camp out/picnic at the boss's lake cottage. That night, I just hung out with him all night (we got really drunk, this story is so unprofessional). At about 2 am, we went for a walk down by the lake and he tackled me into the lake. The week after the picnic, he would leave me notes on the car windshield and we would talk for hours everynight. THe next weekend we went on our first date. I was determined to just stay friends ... that last a week. Then I gave up and slept with him. 15 months later we were married. So, yeah it was pretty much love at first site or more interaction. I just knew he was the one. We've been married 8 years now!
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Spellbound454
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Post by Spellbound454 on Nov 3, 2013 15:29:23 GMT -5
I've had lots of relationships....don't know why......just seems like a good idea at the time......
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Post by Gardening Grandma on Nov 3, 2013 15:39:01 GMT -5
Met DH at work. Initially he did not strike me as someone I could ever be interested in. He was married anyway. Over the next couple of years, working together, we became friends. One day he told me that he and his wife had split and were getting a divorce. Asked me out a few weeks after that.
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Post by kittensaver on Nov 3, 2013 15:41:07 GMT -5
At a wedding of some mutual friends. He was at one table and I was at another. It was one of those "across a crowded room" things aka, yes, love at first sight. That was 31 years ago next week. We've been married for a little more than 30 years (met in early November, had our first date two days after Thanksgiving, he gave me my ring in January and I married him in August). Yanno all those threads about "should singletons be allowed to bring a date"? My experience says "forget dragging along a date - dress up and show up - you NEVER know who might be there."
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Post by Mardi Gras Audrey on Nov 3, 2013 15:43:58 GMT -5
I met DH when we worked in the same unit in the military. So, I blame Bush for being stuck with him My parents met in an interesting way. They met over the phone. They worked for the same company (DSM at the headquarters, Dad at a field office). Apparently, Dad was the only one at the field office who was helpful and would assist DSM in getting the info she needed. A few business trips to Headquarters later, DSM was relocating across the country for LUV. Most people I know have met their significant others through work. So much for not fishing off the company pier...
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Post by lynnerself on Nov 3, 2013 15:45:14 GMT -5
In high school trigonometry class. I dated other people also, but he stuck around and wouldn't give up. We married about 3 years later. That was 38 years ago.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Nov 3, 2013 15:51:11 GMT -5
I've known DH since he was about 8 years old. He was my younger brothers' best friend and my best friend baby sat him and his little sister. He also lived across the street from her and you could draw a straight line from our house to theirs. I snatched him up when he turned 23 and I had just separated from DH1. I saw him again when we were all at my mom's for Thanksgiving and this tall, dark, long haired cutie pie walked in with this beautiful smile. When my youngest brother said "You all remember RD, don't you?" Mom and I both whispered to each other "Holy crap! THAT's RD?!" That was 26 years ago. Maybe 27. I had to ditch DH1 after all and that took some time. And DH is no longer drool worthy. He says I ruined him.
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 3, 2013 15:56:15 GMT -5
Naughty POM!!!
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Post by kilroy on Nov 3, 2013 15:57:39 GMT -5
I met my DH in a bar I had talked to him there once before & somehow we ended up talking about books. I remember thinking he was good looking "for an older guy" and he liked good books. Months later I had just come back from a 2 week seminar in Oxford, England about the history of libraries and was boring the bartender silly telling him about it. He kept trying to get future-DH to come listen to me, and DH kept ignoring him. Finally DH had to get up to use the men's room and the bartender moved his beer over to where I was sitting and the rest was history.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Nov 3, 2013 16:03:15 GMT -5
DH and I met on the train in Chicago. We both rode the same line and he became one of those familiar faces on the train. One morning on a packed train he made a comment about something (I think there was a crazy person in our train car) and I commented back and we shared a laugh. I was reading something in the commuter paper and he asked if I had seen the youtube video that the article was referencing. I wrote down my email address, handed it to him and told him to email me the link. We emailed back and forth and "talked" on gchat for a week or two and then I sent him my number and told him to call me. after a few conversations I told him we should have dinner. And so we did.
Nearly 6 years later, I still can't believe I picked up a guy on the freaking blue line.
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 3, 2013 16:08:02 GMT -5
Another we met at work story here. I'd just moved cities for a new job, and my now DH had just transferred back to the team I started on a week or two before I started work there. We met on my first day, and I remember thinking he was kind of cute, in a nerdy way, and really quiet. We didn't talk much for several weeks/months, then gradually became friends. About a year later, we finally started dating (I had to ask him out), and we're enhanced a year after that and then married a year later. We've now been married 3 years, and are both at the same company still.
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Cookies Galore
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Post by Cookies Galore on Nov 3, 2013 17:03:22 GMT -5
I was bored at work one day so I posted an ad on Craigslist for shits and giggles. I deleted the ad the next day and hubs emailed me before the ad disappeared. We emailed all day, I gave my number, he called the next day, we met at a bar, I brought him home, and he never left. We moved in together after four months and six years later, we decided marriage started to make sense.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Nov 3, 2013 17:11:17 GMT -5
We met at a racetrack. We were, and still are, volunteering as motorsports officials at the local tracks. We were assigned to the same corner for the weekend. Still in each others' corner after 21 years of marriage.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2013 17:32:22 GMT -5
DH and I met in an AOL chatroom. We never PMed each other within the chatroom, but one day I was online sending email to a friend. He PMed me to ask what I was doing. I told him that I was writing an email, and he asked me to send him one. I'm a writer at heart so I did. We became online friends.
He was there for me when I was getting a divorce even though I was in Alabama and he was in Phoenix. I was really suffering from low self-esteem by the time I finally got to leave the ex. He was who I told first when got Sales Star of the Month the first time.
We actually broke up a couple of times over the next ten years, most notably for about five years. I had a live-in boyfriend during that period. Long-distance relationships are difficult, and I swore I would never do another one. This last time when we got back together, he had retired and was willing to relocate.
We remind ourselves daily about how lucky we were to find love at our ages. I was 56 when we married, and he was 66.
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Post by raeoflyte on Nov 3, 2013 17:33:56 GMT -5
Highschool band, my freshman year. Were bff's and knew we were going to be in each others lives forever.
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Post by NastyWoman on Nov 3, 2013 17:46:54 GMT -5
I met my ex at A Mardigras celebration (in our home country and it was blistering cold that year). We dated for a while, moved in together etc., etc. . Divorced 30 years later. So while it was not happily ever after, it lasted a good long time followed by enough bad to call it quits. No regrets in picking up a stranger in costume in a bar
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Post by MarleyKeezy78 on Nov 3, 2013 18:58:28 GMT -5
I met DH at a bar on St. Patricks Day. Told his friend I thought he was cute and we ended up hanging out all night. I bought all his drinks that night and bought him breakfast in the morning (No I didn't sleep with him that night!) Moved in together about two months later, engaged a year later, married year after that. We will be married 9 years in April We still celebrate St. Patties more than our wedding anniversary, lol!
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Post by midjd on Nov 3, 2013 20:03:29 GMT -5
DH and I met in 7th grade (1996) - we were both in the honors program so had all our classes together. I thought he was cute, but he tormented me constantly. Then one night about a week before the end of 8th grade, he called me and asked me out. We dated throughout 9th grade, broke up, dated again throughout 11th grade, broke up again (but remained good friends), and then parted ways when I moved out of state for college. About 2 weeks before I graduated, one of our mutual friends threw a party. DH was newly single and I emailed him and asked if he wanted a ride. He said sure, and asked if I wanted to come over Friday (the party was Saturday) to watch a movie. I did, and other than going back to college for finals/graduation, I never left. (The movie was Hostel - very romantic). We moved to NY a few months later so I could go to law school, and got married in October 2009.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Nov 3, 2013 20:06:37 GMT -5
I met Loop while she was on vacation. She was going to Las Vegas for New Year's Eve and meeting some people she met online. I was friends with the online weirdos she came to meet. We met just before New Year's Eve in 1999 and were married in June of 2000.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Nov 3, 2013 20:25:57 GMT -5
It was shortly after graduating HS.
It was at a local hang-out/dive. It was a place 2 of my older brothers also frequented, since it was where the guys who were in their car club & raced cars hung out.
I was with a bunch of friends and DH and his buddies were at the next table. After some idle chatting/flirting back and forth across tables, we all just ended up pushing the two tables together.
I wasn't all that attracted to him at first, but after talking with him and his friends, he and I just clicked. (Plus they all had souped-up cars, so I was probably more attracted to his hot car at first than I was to him.)
We dated for about 2 yrs before we set a date. He turned more preppy/business-suit once he got an exec job in the oil industry. And although he was nice looking when I first met him (he was 6'2", slim build & muscular),in his early 30's most of his dark hair gradually turned a shiny silver (like a salt & pepper blend) before he was 40. It made him so much more handsome & distinguished.
If only he hadn't taken up excessive drinking as a hobby and become an alcoholic when he was overworked or under pressure/stressed out - he might still be here. That was 2 yrs ago this last August.
I've gone on a handful of dates in the last year - all epic fails. They're either looking for a live-in housekeeper, or a roll in the hay instead of an actual relationship/partnership. Casual dating's alright, but I'd like to find something (with the right person) more long-term.
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Malarky
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Post by Malarky on Nov 3, 2013 20:29:18 GMT -5
A friend and I were working late and it started to snow. We got it in our heads that we wanted to go sledding. We had a few drinks while waiting for the snow to pile up. Quite a few. And it was really late. When we realized we couldn't drive, my friend volunteered her friend, my future DH to drive us because "He's such a nice guy." Even though he was so not dressed for it, he took us sledding from 11pm until 4am and then made sure we both got home safe. After that, I started hanging out more with my friend and the crowd DH hung with. At first we hung out with the group, then one day we realized that we were spending more time with each other rather than the whole group. I was in the process of divorcing exH and had already made plans to wander off to New Zealand for a couple of months. I had no concrete plans for returning. While I was gone, I kept thinking about him so after three months I came home to see how things might turn out. When we started talking long term, I wanted a house and babies. DH is the one who insisted on marriage. We've been together nearly 23 years, married for 20.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2013 20:42:13 GMT -5
Online in 1998.. On an IRC channel for anyone who remembers those..
After I rode a network split to take control of her home channel, it was love at first byte.
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Lizard Queen
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Post by Lizard Queen on Nov 3, 2013 21:00:03 GMT -5
Match.com. I wasn't an active member at the time, but had my profile up. It was around the holidays, when online dating seemed to dry up. I had been reading a lot about...umm, sort of self-actualization, I guess. From what I recall about it, I read that you should ask the universe for what you want, but you needed to be careful, as nothing is free, there is always a trade-off. So, I tried it, and asked for something very specific in a mate. The next day, I get an email from this guy on Match.com.
I didn't see it at first and I was at a point that I didn't care if I dated or not for at least a while. But it was during that really slow time, and right after my "request" to the universe. It just seemed kind of odd. Yes, DH turned out to be exactly what I asked for, though I needed several months of convincing. I really think we were meant to be together. We could have previously met at CC, when I worked at the Subway that was right next to where he worked (and he went to that Subway frequently), and also at the university that we both attended (at the same time for a short while). We're both introverted though, so it would have been hard for us to just strike up a conversation at those places. Thinking about it that way, it feels sort of like a story from a movie where the viewer knows these people should meet, but the characters don't have a clue.
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sesfw
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Post by sesfw on Nov 3, 2013 21:11:05 GMT -5
At church ...... I had just broken up for the umpteenth time with a total dork. DH had just come back from 2 years in WestPac. Went to a BYF sing at his parents home and remember thinking he was going to make a great husband for me. Didn't know his name for a couple of weeks. We married 6 months later .... and he died 37+ years after that.
DH#2 met in a grief recovery web site. I lost my Bill 18 months prior and he lost his Barbara 8 months prior. He lived in Michigan and I in AZ. He came to AZ on a business trip and we clicked. Married a year later and I moved to Michigan. It's been 12+ years and we are back in AZ.
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Post by giramomma on Nov 3, 2013 21:38:33 GMT -5
DH and I went to High School together and the same college. Didn't get together until we were 21. We dated and were engaged for 5 years before we were married. We've been married for 12 years now.
Since the kinks have been worked out, we have very easy marriage. But, I also didn't just marry for love/lust. I had a small list of criteria that was important to me. I would only marry a saver, etc.
He's my rock. If we would divorce, though, I don't think I'd ever do marriage again.
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Post by Anne_in_VA on Nov 3, 2013 21:45:10 GMT -5
I met DH through a mutual friend. My friend lived in the downstairs apartment and would drive me to work in the mornings. One day she mentioned that there was a guy at her work that I'd really like. I had stopped dating for around 7 or 8 years and wasn't really interested. She kept pestering me and I finally said "OK, give him my number, but it won't go anywhere".
He called me about a week later and we talked for hours. The phone calls became more frequent and we agreed to meet for a drink after 4 or 5 weeks of phone calls. When we met I just knew. He did too because he moved in a few weeks later and we've been together ever since - about 6 1/2 years now.
We have a really great relationship. He's funny and makes jokes. I'm more serious and he balances me out.
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