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Post by kcladyjane on Nov 6, 2013 15:10:43 GMT -5
I met my husband while playing slowpitch softball. A few of our mutual friends got it in their heads that he and I should date so we went out. I wasn't that interested at the time, but was bored with being single. We dated almost 2 years before we were engaged and then got married 9 months after that. We have been married over 6 years now. I wasn't expecting the relationship to work when I went out on that 1st date, but we have made it! I look forward to seeing him everyday so I call that a win.
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Post by sheilaincali on Nov 6, 2013 15:10:50 GMT -5
I like how my parents met. My Dad is a year older than my mom. His brother (a year young so in the same class as my dad) invited my mom over on a date. My uncle was being a jerk so my dad stepped in and offered to drive my mom home. They started hit it off and started dating right after that. No hard feelings from my uncle, but he is still a bit of a jerk. My mom and dad have been together since then (even went to prom together back in the day). 44 years and counting.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2013 16:35:02 GMT -5
I met my starter wife through a relative. Let's just say it was a learning experience! I met my current gf online. I knew after the 2nd date I wanted to be with her. We covered all the things you're not suppose to like religion and politics. To be continued..... Well, no wonder you've been MIA lately! Congratulations!!!!
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Post by spydah on Nov 6, 2013 17:13:28 GMT -5
Thanks ladies. I don't post relationship stuff on FB. I'm trying to maximize my time with her before the surgery.
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 6, 2013 17:27:14 GMT -5
Met DF while working for one of his dads businesses. Dated through college and after. We broke up due to communication issues and religious issues. FF 35 years later, I'm divorced, he is being divorced, and we re-connected on FB.
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Post by chen35 on Nov 6, 2013 18:48:40 GMT -5
It's funny, while we did meet online, I'm surprised we didn't meet earlier. We went to the same, small, two year college, but he graduated the semester before I started. I'm pretty sure his ex-wife (who he met there) was in a few of my classes. He moved to the same city as me in 2005, but I moved out of state a few months later. When we did actually end up meeting, he was renting a house two blocks away from my parents, and was attending the same church as them. It's a small world!
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Post by Miss Tequila on Nov 6, 2013 22:06:13 GMT -5
Thanks ladies. I don't post relationship stuff on FB. I'm trying to maximize my time with her before the surgery. Wait, you might want to reconsider your surgery.....maybe she likes your penis! :-p
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Post by Apple on Nov 7, 2013 12:40:35 GMT -5
I would not let the 3rd one overly affect you apple. That entire "relationship" occurred in your mind. Ok, I ignored this for a while, but I guess I've had a bad day today. It's not "a relationship that occurred in my mind". The part that bothers me is much more involved than that (and probably selfish considering the guy killed himself...) I'm extremely shy. Painfully introverted on top of that. In the 12 years I've been divorced, I've managed to build up the courage to ask a guy out exactly three times (although, for part of that I did have a serious bf, so those years don't count). This was the third time, and I never did get the chance. I know, from the past, it's going to take me (possibly) years to build up that courage again. I don't build trust for a close relationship easy, and it's just that much harder to put myself out there like that. If I'm approached, that's different. On top of everything else that has been going on, this incident happened just over a year ago, and the local newspaper just did a big article on this guy as a "PTSD story". So, it had been brought back up to the forefront--not something I dwell on, something that was all brought back to my attention during a bad weekend. The guy was someone I met, talked to and laughed with a few times, and was interested enough in to ask him out. Maybe it wasn't meant the way it came off, but just wanted to clarify that it wasn't really "the loss of this guy/non-existant relationship", it was knowing how hard it is for me to even take the step of asking someone out. Hell, my best friends are guys I worked with every day for years before I could say more than "hi" to. I'm slow... ETA: Yes, I know I probably dodged a bullet, after reading the article I found out just how this guy was fighting his inner demons. Feel bad for his family and former coworkers (I went to school and was friends with many of them).
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Post by Deleted on Nov 7, 2013 12:54:06 GMT -5
I am sorry that I offended you, apple. I guess I did phrase it clumsily.... Anyhow, what I was trying to get across was that it was my understanding that you two talked a few times but talking a few times does not a relationship make. I read it as you were mourning the guy and IMHO there wasn't enough investment into a relationship or you to be harping on it over a year later. Now that you've clarified your feelings, I can COMPLETELY understand how hard it can be to "put yourself out there". You mourning the fact that you didn't get a chance to overcome a personal obstacle makes much more sense than mourning a guy you barely knew.
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Post by lynnerself on Nov 7, 2013 14:00:36 GMT -5
If I was looking for someone now (50+) I'd check out the car or motorcycle clubs. All full of old guys! My Miata club has a lot of nice retired men in it.
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Post by cktc on Nov 7, 2013 15:26:00 GMT -5
SO and I grew up together in a small town, took all the same nerd classes. We ended up at the same college and bumped into each other a few times, never considered him as more than a friend. He had gone a little wild in college, decided to drop out and join the army, I was still studious, we kissed once then fell out of touch.
Fast forward 8 years, I'd gotten married, it imploded, so I reconnected with some friends from high school on facebook, he was one of them. I intended to keep him in the friend zone as I was fresh off my marriage ending, but he wore me down after a few months and we have been dating 2 years now.
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Post by violagirl on Nov 8, 2013 9:04:20 GMT -5
His father came to give a talk in our church. He and his brother walked in, I took one look and told my friend I was going to marry that guy. He doesn't even remember this first meeting. Several years later we moved down the street from their family and we became friends. I have just always felt comfortable with him. This does not happen often when you are an introvert - that you can just "be" right from the start. Married almost 15 years.
Funny thing is, recently my brother and I were discussing the people we married, and my brothers and I all married people with similar personalities. We are all very laid back, go with the flow people and we married people who are our opposites.
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Post by spydah on Nov 8, 2013 12:36:41 GMT -5
Wait, you might want to reconsider your surgery.....maybe she likes your penis! :-p That sounds like a HORRIBLE hernia surgery!! My hernia is not near my joy stick!
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Post by spydah on Nov 8, 2013 13:33:18 GMT -5
Anyways, back to Apple's original topic. So Apple, did we help? Did we inspire you? Or are you thinking about Charles Emerson Winchester III (CEW3)?
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Post by bookkeeper on Nov 8, 2013 13:41:34 GMT -5
I met my DH in a bar in rural America. I was 17 years old and back in 1981-82 you could be underage and still party at the bar with a wristband that identified you as a minor.
My DH was high school classmates with most of the band that was playing in the bar that night. He was on holiday break from his college and helping his friends load in/load out the instruments and speakers. We met, danced and shared some beers (my wristband didn't work). He asked me to come back when the band played the same bar in a month. I did and we have been an item ever since. Fast forward to today and we have been married 30 years.
DH was easy to win over. He went to an engineering college and there were very few women on campus. The book store sold a t-shirt that read "Sex Kills, Go to the School of Mines and live forever".
If I was trying to meet someone nice today, I would make the rounds with the chamber of commerce, professional groups, a hobby group that interested me, a gym, or anyplace where people get together and network. You have to come out of your home to be noticed. I don't think I would try the bar scene anymore, but I would try to attend community and social events.
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Post by spydah on Nov 8, 2013 14:16:57 GMT -5
Apple needs to start doing meetup events.
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Post by Apple on Nov 8, 2013 14:47:35 GMT -5
I am sorry that I offended you, apple. I guess I did phrase it clumsily.... Anyhow, what I was trying to get across was that it was my understanding that you two talked a few times but talking a few times does not a relationship make. I read it as you were mourning the guy and IMHO there wasn't enough investment into a relationship or you to be harping on it over a year later. Now that you've clarified your feelings, I can COMPLETELY understand how hard it can be to "put yourself out there". You mourning the fact that you didn't get a chance to overcome a personal obstacle makes much more sense than mourning a guy you barely knew. It's ok I realize it may have come off like I was obsessed over this guy, but that's not the case.
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Post by Apple on Nov 8, 2013 14:49:24 GMT -5
If I was looking for someone now (50+) I'd check out the car or motorcycle clubs. All full of old guys! My Miata club has a lot of nice retired men in it. Or photography class! I went to one (loved it!!) and there were a couple women my age, several older, but all the guys were in their late 50s to 60s (a little old for me, even if I like them older, lol...) I think there was one guy who may have been early 50s, but he only showed up for the first class.
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Post by Apple on Nov 8, 2013 15:15:59 GMT -5
Anyways, back to Apple's original topic. So Apple, did we help? Did we inspire you? Or are you thinking about Charles Emerson Winchester III (CEW3)? Yes, I really appreciate everyone's stories And someday I'll have my own that will work out. Oh, Charles Emerson Winchester III is "CEWT" When I was a sophomore, I became friends with a freshman guy. He was a friend of friends, and somehow we started hanging out with a group (we'd go to his house and play pool during lunch and after school on days I didn't have to work). There were usually several of us at his house, and his dad just hung out in his room when us kids were over there, so we were pretty much left to do what we wanted. One day, this friend and another friend (a guy I knew since we were babies) were going for a drive and called to ask if I wanted to go--can't even remember where too, probably just drive back roads, maybe stop at an orchard (owned by friend's gramma). Anyway, they pull up in the car, and there is this guy in the back seat, all bunched up wearing a hoodie, couldn't see his face really between the hoodie and his hair (longish, black, straight hair). He started laughing about our front yard (my mom did daycare at the house, and the kids had these little "tractors" they drove all over the yard, to the point where it became rockhard and no grass would grow, so she had put out astroturf). Turns out it was my friend's cousin, and by the end of the day I had a HUGE crush on him. The friend ended up becoming so clingy that I had to back away from him for a while (he had a big crush on me, I didn't feel the same), so I didn't see the cousin much for about a year. Then, my senior year, the friend finally realized how obsessive he had gotten, and promised to be better. I ended up getting together with the cousin at the friend's house--we were all in the hot tub together and the cousin reached behind me to grab his drink. He almost knocked it over on me (spilled a little on my shoulder), wiped it off, then left his hand around me (lmao, the old, smooth, "yawn and stretch" move). He gave me a ride home that night, and we made out in the car for a while. The friend was hurt for a while (still had a crush on me), but he was ok in the end. Anyway, we ended up getting married, but after a few years he "ran away". I'd probably do best with someone I've been a friend with for a while, but sadly, no single friends right now, and no groups of friends to hang out with anymore.
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Post by spydah on Nov 12, 2013 17:03:36 GMT -5
Apple needs to start doing meetup events. ~I~ need to start doing meetup events! With you! Well not "with you" but with you...dammit, you know what I mean!! Whale watching or something Ratchets, we do need to meet up and have a beer. I know what you mean.
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Post by spydah on Nov 18, 2013 12:17:07 GMT -5
oooh!! Just remembered!! I read in article in Air Force Times earlier today about Craigslist in Afghanistan - just by that intro you know this is gonna be good - apparently they have been busting people (troops) there for "hooking up" on Craiglist. Like making fake ads and then trapping them in a sting. And then they gave a coupel examples of ads that had recently run. One was from a lady who's husband was deployed there, saying she wanted him to experiment with being "bi" and was going to set up the romantic rendezvous for him. I can picture the replies. So, how did you two meet? On Craig's list...... (wait for it)...... in afghanistan! Or how did you get here? They busted me on craig's list Oh, you too?
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Post by spydah on Nov 19, 2013 19:09:44 GMT -5
Or a letter saying: I don't love you any more. I'm marrying your best friend.
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Post by The Home 6 on Nov 19, 2013 19:44:02 GMT -5
Hey Hey HEY, you two! I'll have you know that I met Big Sarge while we were in the big sandbox....
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Post by Deleted on Nov 19, 2013 23:23:34 GMT -5
Weird ass story. I went to a friend's (L) boyfriend's(S) best friend's(D) house. No, this isn't Spaceballs. The best friend's roommate's(P) friend(M) was there and we became friends. Supposedly I was dating the friend(D), ICK, YUCK and HELL NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Anyway, I was whining on the phone to the roommate(P) because we never did anything when hanging out and the roommate(P) said his friend(M) would take me out. He liked me. Ok, what the hell. Went out and 10 or so years later finally got married. The bonus is the roommate(P) is now married to my sister. Don't know if that's much of a bonus for him but it is for me when I need computer help and electrical work around the house! Friend = L Boyfriend = S Boyfriend's best friend = D Best friend's roommate = P Roommate's friend = M
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2013 20:50:00 GMT -5
We worked for the same cheapskate company and you had to eat in the basement coffee shop 'cause you didn't have time to go out and couldn't afford it anyway. He was the only thing I ever caught in that roach-trap place besides food poisoning. Seriously, the place was run under a contract with the state commission for the blind and operated by a sightless couple. Great folks but sanitation wasn't on the radar. He drove a red Austin Healey when we first met. When we started dating he had a '67 Corvette, banana yellow. That was 40 years ago
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Post by Deleted on Nov 23, 2013 11:44:35 GMT -5
High school sweethearts here. First loves, going on 50 years married.
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Post by busymom on Nov 23, 2013 12:22:13 GMT -5
College sweethearts. He lived in a dorm on the same floor as one of my friends. We were just friends at first. We married immediately after college (which for most folks I DON'T recommend) & are still together.
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Post by The Home 6 on Nov 23, 2013 12:43:27 GMT -5
Hey Hey HEY, you two! I'll have you know that I met Big Sarge while we were in the big sandbox.... Was it on the Fallujah Craigslist ? I don't think I had even heard of Cragslist when we met! it was pretty early in the war.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 26, 2013 19:09:32 GMT -5
Weird ass story. I went to a friend's (L) boyfriend's(S) best friend's(D) house. No, this isn't Spaceballs. The best friend's roommate's(P) friend(M) was there and we became friends. Supposedly I was dating the friend(D), ICK, YUCK and HELL NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Anyway, I was whining on the phone to the roommate(P) because we never did anything when hanging out and the roommate(P) said his friend(M) would take me out. He liked me. Ok, what the hell. Went out and 10 or so years later finally got married. The bonus is the roommate(P) is now married to my sister. Don't know if that's much of a bonus for him but it is for me when I need computer help and electrical work around the house! Friend = L Boyfriend = S Boyfriend's best friend = D Best friend's roommate = P Roommate's friend = M I'm still working on this one, but I'm sure there's some shenanigans in there somewhere ! If you ask DH and the former "best friend" (ICK!!!!) there were but I was as pure as the un-driven over snow (at least in Mass). That's my story and I'm sticking to it! .
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