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Post by sheilaincali on Nov 3, 2013 22:30:28 GMT -5
DH and I met in Tech School (your career training after basic training in the Air Force). He was assigned to hand out bedding and that to the new people. I was a new person. He gave me my sheets . My training was only 3 weeks and 4 days. We spent that time walking around base and talking. Fluke that we both got assigned to the same base after tech school. His report date got screwed up and was the same as mine (we call it fate). He flew to Minnesota and we drove across the country to Alaska together and eloped 4 months later. We've been together ever since. 17 years as of this past August. I knew within 2 days of meeting him that he was someone I wanted to marry.
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Post by teen persuasion on Nov 3, 2013 23:12:13 GMT -5
We met in college, at a Halloween party. My roommate and I convinced a mutual friend (in Honors w/ roomie and went to HS w/ me) to come back to campus on the weekend for the party. Mutual friend met DH and clicked w/ him, dragging him into our circle of friends; they were soon engaged. I never really cared for him - he was just too goofy to be attracted to, and I was dating someone else (from his floor in the guys dorm, but they were NOT friends). By the summer break, mutual friend and DH had broken up, and my BF graduated and left for grad school (no idea where!), so when we got back to school in the fall, DH just continued to hang out with my circle of dorm friends. Mutual friend was a commuter, and only around for lunchtime hanging out; DH did his hanging out after class, joined us for dinner in the cafe, came to our room in the evenings, etc. Roomie and I had a bunch of guys that hung around us (our room was the place to meet up before dinner, etc.), and we were never quite sure if it was platonic or wishful thinking on their parts, so what was one more? Well, DH was not as undecided as the others - he definitely pursued me. By Homecoming we were dating. By June we had an apartment together.
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Post by steff on Nov 4, 2013 4:10:17 GMT -5
It was my first real day of bartending at a neighborhood ice house. It was also Super Bowl Sunday, Dallas vs Buffalo. I was trying to move some tables around & had one very heavy table that I couldn't move. I asked this guy if he would help me & he moved the table for me & then moved chairs & other stuff I needed to get done too. I bought him a beer for helping me out. Later that afternoon I found out it was also his birthday, so I bought him another beer. The guy was hubby.
We had our first official date on St Patrick's Day. We got knocked up on my 25th birthday in August. We got married in October. We just celebrated 20 years a couple of weeks ago. who says a shotgun wedding can't last!?
I wouldn't say it was love at first site. We were & still are complete opposites. He's a small town country boy & I'm a big city heavy metal chick. I thought he had a great sense of humor & was a Southern gentleman (which is hard to find now days). He said I made him laugh & he liked that I knew enough about sports to win bets against guys that underestimated me. He said, he liked that I had the balls to take someone's $100 just because they assumed I would be a sports stupid female.
It was many years later that I realized he's just like my PawPaw. They always say girls will marry someone like the strongest male figure they have & in the end, I did.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2013 5:44:05 GMT -5
I met my husband at Wal-Mart. I was there to pick my cousin up from work and she was talking to this "guy". He seemed cute enough, but I hated men and was determined to become a lesbian (not trying to be offensive...I was really planning on giving up men and only dating women). Well this GUY kept staring at my boobs, I of course had to tell him off and threaten him. He laughed and asked me to play glow in the dark football with him, my cousin, and some other people. My cousin forced me to go. We have been together ever since. (We were friends for a few months before dating, but I didn't date anyone else during that time and we were constantly hanging out). It has been 17 years now. He says it was love at first sight. I distinctly remember wanting to punch him in the face though.
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Post by moon/Laura on Nov 4, 2013 6:25:31 GMT -5
I was going to answer this, but the story doesn't have a happy ending and i decided i didn't want to depress all of you.
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Post by Apple on Nov 4, 2013 9:18:03 GMT -5
I was going to answer this, but the story doesn't have a happy ending and i decided i didn't want to depress all of you. one of mine ends with him walking out when our son was three, one ends with him cheating on me (other than that we were perfect for each other), one ends in suicide days after I built up the courage to ask him out next time I saw him. The happy endings give me hope, the depressing ones remind me I'm not alone.
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Post by moon/Laura on Nov 4, 2013 9:37:23 GMT -5
I also don't feel like being flamed for my temporary solution to the problem.
But you're certainly not alone.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2013 9:44:01 GMT -5
I would not let the 3rd one overly affect you apple. That entire "relationship" occurred in your mind. I am DH's rebound from his first long-term relationship. We've been together for 20 years.
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Post by mmhmm on Nov 4, 2013 9:53:33 GMT -5
My late DH worked with my father. I met him at a Christmas party for their department, to which my mother refused to accompany my father (she hated office parties), so I agreed to go. Late DH and I had met once before, but only to be introduced and make nice. I can't say it was love at first sight, but he did ask me out and we dated for about a year before we got married. We were married for over 37 years and had many wonderful adventures. He was, definitely, the light in my life. I was always the kite. He held my kite string. Thank you, sweetheart, for all those marvelous years.
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Post by Formerly SK on Nov 4, 2013 10:04:45 GMT -5
At a wedding of some mutual friends. He was at one table and I was at another. It was one of those "across a crowded room" things aka, yes, love at first sight. That was 31 years ago next week. We've been married for a little more than 30 years (met in early November, had our first date two days after Thanksgiving, he gave me my ring in January and I married him in August). Yanno all those threads about "should singletons be allowed to bring a date"? My experience says "forget dragging along a date - dress up and show up - you NEVER know who might be there." I was a blind "plus one" for DH. He was attending a wedding and didn't have a date. We had mutual friends who were also attending the wedding and suggested last minute he invite me as I lived in the city where the wedding was happening. So, he did. I was going through a divorce at the time and had sworn off dating for 10 years so I could just focus on myself, but I agreed to go for kicks and giggles. DH ended up blowing me away with his kindness. I'd say our connection was pretty fast. I did almost break up with him a few times because I just wasn't ready to get involved with a guy again so soon. We dated for four years before we got married, and I ended up being the one who proposed. We've been married ten years now.
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Post by shanendoah on Nov 4, 2013 14:35:22 GMT -5
We met while pretending to be vampires. I first met him as the friend of a friend of a friend. I don't remember much about our first two meetings, but then the vampire group split into two groups. I was the only person to remain in both groups. C went with the smaller group that was made up mostly of my close circle of friends, C, roommate J, and one other guy. For a few months I did not know who was C and who was J because they were always together and had been introduced to my friend Jen and I as C & J.
I dated the friend of a friend for a little while (he was later best man at our wedding). C and J both became part of the close circle I hung out with. C then bank rolled our friend E's game store and we started spending quite a bit of time together. Then a friend of C's came by the store and he and I hit it off. He asked C if I was crazy (he'd had some bad luck with women) and he and I dated for a while. During that time, C realized he was in love with me. I broke up with the friend, mostly because our schedules made it so we never saw each other and I was realizing he wasn't what I wanted long term. C started actively pursuing me late that summer, but we didn't really "get together" until the following January (Jan 2000, which makes it really easy for me to know how long we've been together.) The friend I had been dating had us over to dinner as one of our first "dates".
We broke up that May for a few weeks, moved in together that September. Broke up again the following May and I moved out. Took a couple months to get back together but then moved from Reno to Seattle together Labor Day weekend, 2001.
He proposed September 2002 while in the ER for a kidney stone. His memory- he thought he was going to die, so figured he'd make me happy by proposing first. My memory- he was thinking it would be like Reno and we could leave the hospital and go get married, and suddenly, he would be insured for the ER visit. And since I'm the one who wasn't drugged, I know whose version I trust.
I did not let him out of the drug/pain induced proposal, though, and we got married the following Labor Day weekend.
Our timeline- friends for 3 years, dated for 3.5 years, married for 10 years.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Nov 4, 2013 14:47:55 GMT -5
I met DH in college. For me it was random, we chatted once before class but that's it, otherwise I'd never noticed him.
According to him he'd been checking me out for awhile but thought I was an HS student. He asked our biology teacher my age and when he found out I was 19 he asked me out.
No it wasn't love at first sight and in fact we were planning on splitting when I transferred to Simpson because he'd just gotten out of a long term relationship and I wasn't interested in getting into one.
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Post by ontrack on Nov 4, 2013 15:03:47 GMT -5
I met my DH in grad school randomly in the grad student lounge. He wasn't normally there at that time but had just dropped off a paper he had to turn in. We were on adjacent computers and I was looking at ESPN.com. He asked if Johan Santana had won the Cy Young, and I confirmed. He had worked for 10 years between undergrad and grad school, wheras I went straight on. Consequently, while he's older, it was my 3rd year of the program and his 1st. There was a program meeting that night and we confirmend we were both going. He asked for my e-mail to "ask about some classes," we e-mailed back and forth,and we went on our first date the next day (saw Stranger than Fiction). The rest, as they say, is history. We have been together 7 years total, married for 2.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Nov 4, 2013 15:33:36 GMT -5
Mutual friends. Guy I was working with started dating a girl Dh worked with. They organized group events (Karaoke, dinners, etc.) First time we met was Fall 1999, lunch at a farmer's market. DH has absolutely no recollection whatsoever of meeting me then, although he DID remember parts of the conversation.
His recollection of our first meeting is a karaoke night a few weeks after that. He got supremely loaded and I drove him home, gave him a peck on the check and said contact me, once I'd written my phone and email down. We saw each other at other stuff and eventually he called me.
I asked him out for our first date. He proposed on our 3 year dating anniversary, we were married about 7 months later and it was 9 years last month.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Nov 4, 2013 15:51:31 GMT -5
Congrats Skubikky.
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Post by kittensaver on Nov 4, 2013 16:03:24 GMT -5
Met DH senior year of college. Today is our 29th wedding anniversary. Happy Anniversary!
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Nov 4, 2013 16:19:26 GMT -5
Ours was definitely love at first sight!! I had just called off my engagement (10 days before the wedding!!) about six months prior. Rebounded with some real assholes, got pregnant, miscarried, and spiraled down pretty far. About a month before I met DH I started going to counseling, stopped drinking, and went back to church. One day I walked in to church - actually showed up before the service started instead of being late like I usually was! - and as I walked down the main aisle this guy was walking out towards the back. We caught eyes and stared at each other for a few seconds before continuing on. I found my seat with my family and asked my brothers who that guy was. Turns out he was the older brother of my little brother's friend. That night the church youth group held a talent show. I never go to that stuff, but decided to go on the off chance that this guy would show up. Turns out he decided to go at the last second just to see if I would be there. Our little brothers helped facilitate the phone number exchange, and we stayed up all night texting back & forth. We went out to dinner two days later, and at the restaurant someone asked us how long we had been married. DH laughed and said it was only the first date But he told me two weeks later that he knew we were going to get married, and just over a year after that we did.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Nov 4, 2013 16:44:53 GMT -5
I was turning tricks on the corner and got caught in a sting. I knew the minute he took me down to the station and read me my rights, we would be together forever. That's only because he never could find the damned handcuff key!
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Post by kittensaver on Nov 4, 2013 16:45:36 GMT -5
I was turning tricks on the corner and got caught in a sting. I knew the minute he took me down to the station and read me my rights, we would be together forever. That's only because he never could find the damned handcuff key! Kin-ky!
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Post by drivingaround on Nov 4, 2013 16:48:45 GMT -5
I met DW in the fall of senior year of college, started dating that March. She thought I had a nice smile and pretty eyes. I was tired of being alone so figured why not. She was only my second girlfriend ever. I wasn't attracted or unattracted to her more just hadn't thought about asking her out. She asked me out first and we dated for five years before getting married. She proposed too. I guess I'm not a go getter when it comes to relationships! It wasn't destiny or love at first sight but DW is my rock and through countless ups and downs she's shown me what unconditional commitment is. I'm so glad she didn't wait for me to get my butt in gear as "we" probably wouldn't have happened.
I have no idea as a 40-something how I'd meet someone now. Maybe on-line or speed dating as I can't fathom finding a long-term relationship at a bar. I work in a small office, less than 30 people, so odds are it wouldn't be there. Two of my buddies are also in their early 40's and never been married yet they want to be plus want kids. They have solid, stable jobs, no criminal records, have college degrees and seem to be nice, decent guys. They are, however, "dull" by dating standards and really average looking so women just pass them over. By dull I mean they don't have big or super charismatic personalities, they're quieter and introspective, so women tend to look thru them.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Nov 4, 2013 16:49:14 GMT -5
This is why you're supposed to swallow the spare handcuff key, just in case.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Nov 4, 2013 17:01:17 GMT -5
I'm sure you could think of some way to pass the time.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Nov 4, 2013 17:04:33 GMT -5
This is why you're supposed to swallow the spare handcuff key, just in case. But that would be awkward waiting for it to come out... There's a very bad country song here somewhere... We're passin' the time, drinkin' our wine Waitin' for the key to move on down his line
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Nov 4, 2013 17:14:15 GMT -5
Please god write the rest of that song! It sounds brilliant.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Nov 4, 2013 17:26:51 GMT -5
You keep saying that, but you married a guy that carries handcuffs every single day... just sayin.
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Post by jeep108 on Nov 4, 2013 18:02:09 GMT -5
My friend set me up on a blind date, which was meeting at the car wash to street drag on a Friday night. Sounded fun being 16 and all. I didn't really care for the guy she set me up with. I ended up talking with his friend all night long. Which surprised everyone, because my now husband isn't really that social. Still together after 23 yrs.
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Post by spydah on Nov 4, 2013 19:13:04 GMT -5
I'm in a funk lately, work-wise and non-existent-relationship-wise. I'm ok with one going bad when the other is at least semi-good, but right now they both suck. So, I could use some "hope". Apple, your post reminded me of some Kanye West lyrics: Either I'm getting paid or I'm getting laid, When one is coming my way, the other is getting away Your situation at work and in your personal life will improve. You might not be where you want to be today but people like you are always headed in the right direction.
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 4, 2013 20:21:59 GMT -5
I have no idea as a 40-something how I'd meet someone now. Maybe on-line or speed dating as I can't fathom finding a long-term relationship at a bar. I work in a small office, less than 30 people, so odds are it wouldn't be there. Two of my buddies are also in their early 40's and never been married yet they want to be plus want kids. They have solid, stable jobs, no criminal records, have college degrees and seem to be nice, decent guys. They are, however, "dull" by dating standards and really average looking so women just pass them over. By dull I mean they don't have big or super charismatic personalities, they're quieter and introspective, so women tend to look thru them. There's hope for your friends. DH sounds similar to your friends, except he was mid-30s when we met. We met at work, and it took a while fir me to become reasonably sure he liked me, and then me to ask him out - we were definitely friends for a while before dating.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2013 20:44:55 GMT -5
My ex left me for an older model with 3 kids: 6, 4 and 1 mo. I was devastated. I had a very close friend from my old job. We had both left that job at about the same time. He left to start his own business, I left to work for "the competition". We always stayed in touch. He decided to take me out to cheer me up. It worked. DH and I were friends for seven years before we got together. We've been together for more than 20 years, he helped raise my 3 older kids (21, 25 and 27) and we have a 15YO. And we've been married for 8 years. We did things pretty much ass-backwards, but it worked for us LOL. The rest is history LOL.
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Post by spydah on Nov 6, 2013 14:11:13 GMT -5
I met my starter wife through a relative. Let's just say it was a learning experience! I met my current gf online. I knew after the 2nd date I wanted to be with her. We covered all the things you're not suppose to like religion and politics. To be continued.....
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