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Post by Miss Tequila on Oct 14, 2013 11:51:45 GMT -5
It calmed my baby down...I loved the skin to skin contact...I also loved being pregnant. I'm a freak As the mom of an almost 15 year daughter, I can tell you that the baby and toddler stages were awesome compared to the teenage years skin to skin is great, especially for a fussy baby. But not getting that contact immediately after birth isn't fatal. I figure if our kids make it to adult hood without being incarcerated or killed, tehn we are awesome moms...if people would just set the bar lower we wouldn't be so damn depressed all of the time
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Post by gs11rmb on Oct 14, 2013 12:34:41 GMT -5
I have 2 daughters and the youngest (13 months) was born via an accidental natural birth. She was born 49 minutes after we reached the hospital and I can't count the number of people who told me that it "must have been so great" to have her so quickly. Ummmm.... if she had been a little slower there would have been time for drugs! The worst part was immediatley after she was born, two nurses were cleaning her up (they did that in the room, which was actually really nice) and one asked when we'd be trying again for a boy! She was genuinely shocked that I said our family was complete with two girls. I was genuinely shocked that she would ask that question while the OB was giving me stitches .
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Post by swamp on Oct 14, 2013 12:40:25 GMT -5
yeah, I would have kicked the ob nurse if she asked me that.
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Post by swamp on Oct 14, 2013 12:41:20 GMT -5
Both my kids were born via emergency C-section. I have had several people ask me how I felt about being robbed of a natural or real child birth experience. WTF? I just wanted the kid out. I didn't really care how it happened.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 14, 2013 12:48:33 GMT -5
I loved being pregnant. I knew before we left the hospital that I wanted another one. I really want a 3rd but know that our finances can't handle it at this point. I think the questions/conversations are fine as long as you can be respectful of others feelings. I want sil to have babies now, but she knows ultimately I want it to be right for her. And that I'll babysit for her at least every Friday night.
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Post by 8 Bit WWBG on Oct 14, 2013 12:49:43 GMT -5
Damn you all. I don't even HAVE a kid and *I* feel bad!
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Post by swamp on Oct 14, 2013 12:52:18 GMT -5
Damn you all. I don't even HAVE a kid and *I* feel bad! Our evil plan is working.
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Post by 8 Bit WWBG on Oct 14, 2013 12:56:12 GMT -5
...:::"Our evil plan is working.":::...
Any expecting mothers want to sympathy eat?
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Post by gs11rmb on Oct 14, 2013 12:59:22 GMT -5
Both my kids were born via emergency C-section. I have had several people ask me how I felt about being robbed of a natural or real child birth experience. WTF? I just wanted the kid out. I didn't really care how it happened. My first was born via emergency c-section so I have had births at both ends of the spectrum. People congratulated me on having a natural VBAC like somehow I'd proved my woman-hood. The same people were also shocked that I didn't think the natural birth was any better and felt that both were equally awful in their own ways . I'm with you in that I just wanted to go home from the hospital with healthy babies. I find it very strange when women get so invested in the actual birth process - I simply viewed it as something I had to go through in order to 'get' a baby.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Oct 14, 2013 13:04:29 GMT -5
Crazy! That's almost word for word what my wife says about our honeymoon. Aww... I just made myself sad.
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Post by Taxman10 on Oct 14, 2013 13:05:02 GMT -5
If you couldn’t live tweet your homebirth, how could you possibly fulfilled your narcisstic need for praise?
from Anne81's post.
who knew 'hatting' was such a problem??? EEK!
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Post by Miss Tequila on Oct 14, 2013 13:16:32 GMT -5
Crazy! That's almost word for word what my wife says about our honeymoon. Aww... I just made myself sad. Umm...I thought the baby came BEFORE the honeymoon?
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Post by swamp on Oct 14, 2013 13:22:21 GMT -5
If you couldn’t live tweet your homebirth, how could you possibly fulfilled your narcisstic need for praise? from Anne81's post. who knew 'hatting' was such a problem EEK! I was depriving of being able to tweet a vag selfie.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 14, 2013 13:24:19 GMT -5
I was depriving of being able to tweet a vag selfie.
Is the competition for best one after birth or worst one? Trying to decide if I would win or not.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Oct 14, 2013 13:25:27 GMT -5
Crazy! That's almost word for word what my wife says about our honeymoon. Aww... I just made myself sad. Umm...I thought the baby came BEFORE the honeymoon? Yeah but the joke works better this way.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Oct 14, 2013 13:28:54 GMT -5
Umm...I thought the baby came BEFORE the honeymoon? Yeah but the joke works better this way. LOL! First day back from vacation...I'm too tired to get jokes today
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Post by swamp on Oct 14, 2013 13:29:53 GMT -5
I was depriving of being able to tweet a vag selfie.
Is the competition for best one after birth or worst one? Trying to decide if I would win or not. everything about birth is beautiful. including pooping on the table.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Oct 14, 2013 13:30:15 GMT -5
If you couldn’t live tweet your homebirth, how could you possibly fulfilled your narcisstic need for praise? from Anne81's post. who knew 'hatting' was such a problem EEK! I was depriving of being able to tweet a vag selfie. Talk about BAm, VAG IN THE FACE!
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Post by swamp on Oct 14, 2013 13:33:34 GMT -5
But did you post a nude selfie on FB doing a yoga handstand while breastfeeding? Look at me - hating on moms! since I don't do yoga, only breastfed one of my kids, and haven't been able to do a handstand in about 20 years, i'd have to say no to that one. But I do post embarrassing pictures of my children on FB. Does that count?
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Post by Miss Tequila on Oct 14, 2013 13:33:47 GMT -5
But did you post a nude selfie on FB In my defense....I was drunk
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Post by imawino on Oct 14, 2013 13:41:28 GMT -5
If you couldn’t live tweet your homebirth, how could you possibly fulfilled your narcisstic need for praise? from Anne81's post. who knew 'hatting' was such a problem EEK! I was depriving of being able to tweet a vag selfie. You're supposed to have kids before you tweet those??!! Boy, do I have egg on my face.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 14, 2013 13:42:03 GMT -5
everything about birth is beautiful.
Not how DH would describe it. Sweet, if we have #2 I can post a vag selfie on SIL's facebook wall with the quote "Best day EVAH!"
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2013 13:44:39 GMT -5
I was depriving of being able to tweet a vag selfie.
Is the competition for best one after birth or worst one? Trying to decide if I would win or not. everything about birth is beautiful. including pooping on the table. I am a horrible self centered mother. In all seriousness, after I was sure DD was breathing and had all her appendages, I asked if I pooped. I was sooooo concerned about that. and yeah, I don't feel that I'm more of a woman because I delivered her the "natural" way (I never know if that just means non C section or if it also means that you have to have no drugs....I was all about the drugs)...I know c sections take a while to heal and that it is major surgery, by my hoo ha hasn't been the same since popping out the kid and its been almost 6 months....
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 14, 2013 13:49:02 GMT -5
In all seriousness, after I was sure DD was breathing and had all her appendages, I asked if I pooped
So. .inquiring minds want to know. . . The best way I saw it put was in a birth book I read. The same muscles you use to push a baby out are the same muscles you use to poop. So if you poop you're doing it "right". Plus the kid is squeezing your innards like a tube of toothpaste, what do you think is gonna happen?
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Post by swamp on Oct 14, 2013 13:50:08 GMT -5
Why do you hate your baby and made sure her introduction to the world was through a drug induced haze?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2013 13:51:00 GMT -5
In all seriousness, after I was sure DD was breathing and had all her appendages, I asked if I pooped
So. .inquiring minds want to know. . . The best way I saw it put was in a birth book I read. The same muscles you use to push a baby out are the same muscles you use to poop. So if you poop you're doing it "right". Plus the kid is squeezing your innards like a tube of toothpaste, what do you think is gonna happen? I did NOT poop. or everyone is lying to me. Either way, I'm ok with it. I didn't smell anything, so....
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Post by Miss Tequila on Oct 14, 2013 13:51:11 GMT -5
I was depriving of being able to tweet a vag selfie. You're supposed to have kids before you tweet those??!! Boy, do I have egg on my face. That's not egg.....
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2013 13:51:22 GMT -5
Most of us are helplessly self centered mothers. The issue is that some of us wrap our sense of self up in our children, so that allows those to conflate their self centeredness with child centeredness.
Ie. most of us do what's best for us. If what's best for us is what's best for our children, at least best in a PC way, some feel they get to claim that as a win in the superiority category...
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2013 13:51:43 GMT -5
Why do you hate your baby and made sure her introduction to the world was through a drug induced haze? Haven't we been through this? I'm a self centered b!tch....
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Post by Miss Tequila on Oct 14, 2013 13:52:04 GMT -5
In all seriousness, after I was sure DD was breathing and had all her appendages, I asked if I pooped
So. .inquiring minds want to know. . . The best way I saw it put was in a birth book I read. The same muscles you use to push a baby out are the same muscles you use to poop. So if you poop you're doing it "right". Plus the kid is squeezing your innards like a tube of toothpaste, what do you think is gonna happen? I did NOT poop. or everyone is lying to me. Either way, I'm ok with it. I didn't smell anything, so.... They are totally lying to you!lol That's ok, I told my husband he had to lie to me, as well. That was a huge fear of mine. I would be mortified to know that I did somethign like that
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