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Post by Deleted on Sept 7, 2013 15:31:23 GMT -5
copperboxes, I have a habit of knocking on things to see how they are made. floors that look like ceramic tile, cabinets to see if they are real wood, countertops to see if they are granite. I don't know what I was thinking going through a visitation line for a funeral but I almost knocked on the casket to see if it was real wood. Almost, but you caught yourself I envy your ears, that's really awesome. I do think handling or knocking on cabinets and other high use retail stuff is fine. I guess I was thinking mostly about delicate stuff that's being preserved. As an example, we went to a specialty museum with DF's bio dad once. He chose the place, but he kept touching the paintings and leaving finger marks on the glass cases around sculptures. Hand oils and definitely fingernails can damage paintings, but we couldn't get him to stop pointing super close or actually touching the paint and canvas itself when he saw a detail he wanted to show us. He also straight up yelled at the guard when he was told he couldn't take pictures. We got followed for the majority of the time by other guards. It was a heck of day.In a couple caverns I've seen, some of the delicate and roped off formations had turned permanently black or sooty looking in spots from people touching. A few people had straight up snapped off pieces of the really rare formations too.I guess it's just because "don't touch unless allowed, it'll damage things" was really drilled into my head for certain places like museums. They're trying to preserve stuff for centuries, so poking at them when there's signs and cordons everywhere feels like almost minor theft, definitely in the "don't do it!" realm for me
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Post by Miss Tequila on Sept 7, 2013 16:39:56 GMT -5
but I do have to really remember where I park as I've come trotting out of the grocery store many times looking like I'm on a mission but really I'm frantically searching for my truck
Me too. I drive DH crazy because I park in no man's land. It's so I can find my car again. Nobody else parks that far out so I can see my car as I exit. I often forget where I park at the airport . Between business and personal I fly at least 6 times a year. I have started writing down where I am located as soon as I park because otherwise figuring out where my car is located s a total bitch when I return. I take a picture is the parking lot sign (a23, etc) so I know right where to go
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Post by Miss Tequila on Sept 7, 2013 16:45:17 GMT -5
That's wild. Did he have a sore/raw monkey? Um, no not wild. He nearly broke our marriage apart. And, yes, he had a sore monkey on a rare occassion. My biggest clue is that we didn't have any emotional intimacy. And, our sex life was down to nothing. It also wasn't like he was doing it 20 hours a day. It was more that he had a ritual for when he did it. Maybe he spent a half hour or so acting out. It's nasty stuff though. The normal progression when pixels aren't enough is to use sex with other humans to get high. Sometimes it's cheating. When that's not enough, then it can progress to sex in more dangerous situations, like hookers. The end of the progression is having same sex encounters. You do hear of straight men having sex with other men because that's the only thing that gets them high anymore. Dang,...I don't think I could have stayed with my husband if he had sex elwith anyone else but I know I could t have stayed if he had sex with a man. I guess that is my "what don't you get"....sex with someone of the same sex. I would be beyond pissed if he had sex with another woman, but sex with a man? I just couldn't deal with that
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Post by Miss Tequila on Sept 7, 2013 17:28:26 GMT -5
Dang,...I don't think I could have stayed with my husband if he had sex elwith anyone else but I know I could t have stayed if he had sex with a man. I guess that is my "what don't you get"....sex with someone of the same sex. I would be beyond pissed if he had sex with another woman, but sex with a man? I just couldn't deal with that Dude...I've been trying to get DW to scrog on another chick for like 20 years now, and it still hasn't happened . Lol! That is every man's fantasy! You should show her how sexy same sex can be by....ummm ...playing baseball with one of your friends. Do you prefer to pitch or catch?
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Post by Miss Tequila on Sept 7, 2013 17:46:38 GMT -5
Lol! That is every man's fantasy! You should show her how sexy same sex can be by....ummm ...playing baseball with one of your friends. Do you prefer to pitch or catch? <cancels his subscription to MLB.com> It's a lot freakin' sexier when chicks do it than dudes Lmao!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 7, 2013 20:23:19 GMT -5
Because people can't afford a small luxury ship but they want to go on a cruise? I don't get why anyone would travel to NYC and then have dinner at the Olive Garden, but it's always packed. It obviously works for a bunch of people. We did that once. To be fair we were young, tired, it was raining and we were cranky. The meal was terrible. What a waste.
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Post by chiver78 on Sept 7, 2013 20:56:09 GMT -5
I don't get maps. I have some sort of spatial deficiency. If any of you end up in a car with me, don't let me do the navigating (or you can pretend to let me, just do the opposite of whatever I say)
Nobody would ever see us again if we ended up in a car together without a GPS or mapquest directions. I think there's a biological basis in spatial ability. If you don't have that wiring or gene or whatever it is, maps are very tough to learn. Maybe similar to how hard it is for dyslexics to learn to read because they don't perceive the written language in the same manner as nondyslexics? My sister lived in the same small town since she was age 2. We only lived in 2 houses and the house we lived in when she turned 16 was the same house we'd lived in for at least 8 years. She had even been going to the same area for school for 6 years (the high school and middle school were next to each other.) Even with all that, the first few weeks after she got her driver's license and tried to drive to school, she got lost repeatedly. This was before most people had cell phones and for the first few years of driving, she'd often call home crying from a pay phone with no idea where she was or how to get home. "I'm at a 7-11, how do I get home?" Sniff. "I have no idea what road the 7-11 is on, but I can see a big tree out front." "Uh, yes, there's a pool supply store on one side. So that means I'm on _____ street?" Sniff. Sniff. "OK. So which way is east again?" We just gave her a bag of change and hoped for the best. It's a miracle some serial killer didn't "help" her. are we related? I swear you just described MY sis
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Post by chiver78 on Sept 7, 2013 21:02:29 GMT -5
I think there's a biological basis in spatial ability. If you don't have that wiring or gene or whatever it is, maps are very tough to learn. Maybe similar to how hard it is for dyslexics to learn to read because they don't perceive the written language in the same manner as nondyslexics? My sister lived in the same small town since she was age 2. We only lived in 2 houses and the house we lived in when she turned 16 was the same house we'd lived in for at least 8 years. She had even been going to the same area for school for 6 years (the high school and middle school were next to each other.) Even with all that, the first few weeks after she got her driver's license and tried to drive to school, she got lost repeatedly. This was before most people had cell phones and for the first few years of driving, she'd often call home crying from a pay phone with no idea where she was or how to get home. "I'm at a 7-11, how do I get home?" Sniff. "I have no idea what road the 7-11 is on, but I can see a big tree out front." "Uh, yes, there's a pool supply store on one side. So that means I'm on _____ street?" Sniff. Sniff. "OK. So which way is east again?" We just gave her a bag of change and hoped for the best. It's a miracle some serial killer didn't "help" her. My DS8 as part of his last round of autism assessment with the school was tested for visual/spatial skills (amongst a bunch of things). He tested more than two standard deviations above the mean - his test results were the highest in his school's history. When we drive around, he can not only tell you what direction (N/S/E/W) we are driving, but the street/highway name and the exit number we'll take to get to our destination. He's been doing that since he was 5 or 6. The OT theorized that one reason DS may not be able to focus on normal everyday stuff like normal people is that he's so overwhelmed by the details he's taking in he can't filter them out to only notice pertinent data. It's like he can't just see a bunch of trees - he sees all the leaves and variations of bark. And since it takes longer to absorb/process all that, he's always behind on conversations or unable to participate in assignments like everyone else. The brain is a really interesting thing. it really is......my mom jokes that I have an internal atlas in my head. when I was about 3, my uncle moved in with us after his divorce. when he bought a place a few months later and moved out, I went along on the first truck load (so my parents could line up the next w/o me getting in the way). when we got back, the next truck load left before my parents finished loading up the last of it. they were stuck w/o directions and no way of getting in touch b/c the landline wasn't live yet - it was the early 80s. my 3-yo self managed to navigate my parents to the right place, about 40 miles away.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Sept 7, 2013 21:44:50 GMT -5
No, you aren't. I actually never knew there were women who DID dream of their wedding day since they were a child until people kept telling me this. I just sat there thinking - are you freaking kidding me. I didn't dream or even think about getting married until last year, and I'm more excited for the day after the wedding than the wedding day just because that means all this planning bs is done. I'm TOTALLY excited for the booze, though.
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Post by happyscooter on Sept 8, 2013 7:11:52 GMT -5
copper, we toured the missions in texas this summer. I have to admit, it was hard not to touch the walls.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 8, 2013 7:29:32 GMT -5
I also did not plan my wedding day since I was little, mostly because I never counted on getting married. The things my friends wanted when they talked about it were pretty over the top. Funny thing, I was the first one to get married. The second one just got married yesterday.
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Post by MarleyKeezy78 on Sept 8, 2013 7:55:29 GMT -5
I don't get why someone who is job hunting and knows they will be drug tested continues to smoke pot and fails for repeated jobs (friend, who also thinks they can drink a bunch of stuff and pass it) Really?! As a non pot smoker myself I don't get it
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Because people can't afford a small luxury ship but they want to go on a cruise? I don't get why anyone would travel to NYC and then have dinner at the Olive Garden, but it's always packed. It obviously works for a bunch of people. It's not quite that. I can understand doing something cheap because you love it and can't afford the expensive version. (My first trip to Europe in 1977, I stayed in a $3/night youth hostel in Paris, which I shared with a nice young Hungarian woman and a few cockroaches.) So much of traditional cruise ship travel would leave me unsatisfied, though. Too much structure, limited time in ports, no visits to places that are not ports, never really being around the locals in place you visit except when they're selling you stuff and waiting on you. (DH and I usually take public transportation wherever we go and pick up many meals in grocery stores. I always get the local paper if it's a language I understand.) Some people on cruisecritic seem to cruise for the 24/7 food. It's just a different attitude towards travel that I don't get. BTW, if you saw the staterooms on our "luxury" ship, you'd laugh. They're tiny and rudimentary! There are no locks on the doors, either. No one is parading around dripping with bling. I agree with you on franchises, although sometimes when DH and I are on road trips we go because they're predictable. Once we're settled someplace, though, we choose local. The only exception is McDonald's in Europe, which is always the first place open for coffee in the mornings.
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Post by ZaireinHD on Sept 8, 2013 18:11:47 GMT -5
Most of us have at least one subject which makes us feel like an oddball. Something that everybody else on the planet seems to intuitively understand and agree on yet we just... don't get. Anybody care to share what you just don't "get"? I'll start. Embarrassing but true: Fashion. There are some basics that I can grasp, but about 90% of it is just plain incomprehensible to me. There don't seem to be any rules (which I would willingly learn like an advanced math theorem) and some of the things that are supposed to be fashionable are just plain ugly IMHO. The WSJ does coverage of fashion week and other haute couture stuff and it is baffling to me. I probably wear some stuff that baffles others, though, so that's probably fair. Being curious about celebrities. Why do people care what a celebrity thinks about Syria? (There are a few exceptions - celebrities who are intelligent and involved.) Why do people care what a celebrity's baby looks like? Why do people care what store a celebrity was seen in? It's not that I dislike the celebrities, I just don't care and am puzzled why other people do. Small talk. Knowing that it's one of those "nonnegotiable social conventions" and that it's something most people bond over, I work hard at small talk, but I do it because I know other people expect it not because I enjoy it or have any clue why other people like it or do it. Generally, if I ask about someone's life, children, etc., it's because I care about them and want to know. It's tough for me to muster that kind of interest for the people that I don't really know or care about (similar to the celebrity thing, it's not that I dislike them, it's just a neutral kind of apathy.) So it's a bit of a struggle to chit chat and I know that makes me appear antisocial or even hostile. I'm not, I'm just not good at and don't understand small talk. So fashion, interest in celebrities and small talk are all things that make me feel like an alien set in an incomprehensible land. What makes you feel alien? laughing too hard now! I could live on this thread!! I am clueless on so much shit it's ridiculous! I'm six foot 3 inches black man that must be the ONLY one on this planet that doesn't play basketball, doesn't give a fuck about sports, almost any sport, doesn't know about the rules, how many teams there are or players, don't have a favorite player or team, doesn't know about what season goes with what sport when they start or stop, team or player stats, and doesn't sports betting.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 9, 2013 8:43:26 GMT -5
I don't get why someone who is job hunting and knows they will be drug tested continues to smoke pot and fails for repeated jobs
How do you know my brother? I don't get people who go out of their way to let me know they are non-conformists. No, not really you're just conforming to the norms of whatever social group you now choose to belong to. I also don't get bragging about non-conforming while in the same breath whining that people are "staring" at you and "judge" you. Umm . what do you think being a non-conformist means?
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Post by Formerly SK on Sept 9, 2013 8:55:03 GMT -5
I don't get why someone who is job hunting and knows they will be drug tested continues to smoke pot and fails for repeated jobs
How do you know my brother? I don't get people who go out of their way to let me know they are non-conformists. No, not really you're just conforming to the norms of whatever social group you now choose to belong to. I also don't get bragging about non-conforming while in the same breath whining that people are "staring" at you and "judge" you. Umm . what do you think being a non-conformist means? This reminds me so much of high school. I used to hang with the skateboarders (but dressed normally) and they were always talking about how cool/non-conformist they were with their mohawks or multiple piercings or endlessly black clothes or whatever. I loved them, but it cracked me up because they all looked exactly the same to me -no originality whatsoever. Green mohawks may be different when compared to the nerd crowd, but within the skater crowd they didn't look unique at all.
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Post by Otto the Orange on Sept 9, 2013 8:59:43 GMT -5
Because junk ain't pretty. LoL! Went to run club one night............. First rule of run club is - no one talks about run club
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Post by deantrip on Sept 9, 2013 9:29:00 GMT -5
I don't get people who go clubbing, why spend a ton of money to go out somewhere with your friends where bodies are packed in with no room and it is so loud that you can't hear each other and you pay way too much for your drinks.
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Post by swamp on Sept 9, 2013 9:32:29 GMT -5
I don't get people who go clubbing, why spend a ton of money to go out somewhere with your friends where bodies are packed in with no room and it is so loud that you can't hear each other and you pay way too much for your drinks. I used to think that was fun. Now I don't get it either.
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Post by sheilaincali on Sept 9, 2013 10:05:46 GMT -5
~People who touch art and delicate cave formations when officials say not to do it, and there's a sign right there saying "please don't touch."
I am pretty good at keeping it in check but I am a very tactile person. I always want to touch things. Wood grain, soft fabrics, rough brick, etc. I don't know why but I do. It drives me up a wall when they tell me I can't touch something. I am that person that when the waiter says "hot plate, don't touch" I have to touch it anyway.
I was telling DH about this thread and he said that one thing he doesn't get is people that don't read. Have to agree with him on that. I have a friend that brags about not reading a single book cover to cover since elementary school. He'd read exactly enough in high school to fake a book report but never actually finish the book. That would drive me insane- how do you not finish a book!, I'd have to know how it ends even if it's a crappy book. Not knowing was drive me batty.
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I remember reading a book in the library in HS and not checking it out because no one had checked it out in over a decade (I guess my 9th grade brain figured it would be uncool to check out a book no one wants to read ) and I still wonder how it ended. Damned if I can remember the title or what it was all about anymore...
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I was telling DH about this thread and he said that one thing he doesn't get is people that don't read. Have to agree with him on that. I have a friend that brags about not reading a single book cover to cover since elementary school. He'd read exactly enough in high school to fake a book report but never actually finish the book. That would drive me insane- how do you not finish a book!, I'd have to know how it ends even if it's a crappy book. Not knowing was drive me batty. oh, I have no problem not finishing a crappy book. But yeah, how can you be proud of not reading? There are so many beautiful and interesting stories out there and there is so much to be learned that will never make it to TV/movies.
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Post by movingforward on Sept 9, 2013 10:42:45 GMT -5
I don't get people who get married just because they are pregnant. If you love one another and were going to get married anyway then fine but if the sole purpose for getting married is due to pregnancy you most likely will end up divorced or miserable.
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Post by steph08 on Sept 9, 2013 11:15:28 GMT -5
I was telling DH about this thread and he said that one thing he doesn't get is people that don't read. Have to agree with him on that. I have a friend that brags about not reading a single book cover to cover since elementary school. He'd read exactly enough in high school to fake a book report but never actually finish the book. That would drive me insane- how do you not finish a book!, I'd have to know how it ends even if it's a crappy book. Not knowing was drive me batty. oh, I have no problem not finishing a crappy book. But yeah, how can you be proud of not reading? There are so many beautiful and interesting stories out there and there is so much to be learned that will never make it to TV/movies. I love to read, but I don't think I have seen my DH read a book in the 8+ years we have been together. To his credit though, he doesn't watch much crap TV - he mostly watches Discovery, National Geographic, History, etc. We just talked about this the other day. I have a very vivid imagination and I can imagine every single character of a book, the settings, how they speak, etc. My DH cannot do that. He can't read fiction because he can't imagine any of it being true. He has read some true life books (mostly about serial killers) because he knows those things have actually happened and read other articles or seen pictures of the people, etc. It's not that he can't read or that he is proud of not reading books, it's just that his mind doesn't work that way.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 9, 2013 11:22:44 GMT -5
It's not that he can't read or that he is proud of not reading books, it's just that his mind doesn't work that way.
DH is the same way. When he does find a book/series that interests him he'll stick with it. He read my collection of Star Wars Rouge Squadron books and he's read just about every Stephen King book. He just doesn't walk around with his nose constantly in a book like I do. He's been considering reading Percy Jackson whenever I get around to buying them. He enjoys God of War so the series would be right up his alley.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 9, 2013 11:35:36 GMT -5
i go through spurts with authors
right now it is David Baldacci (read like 12 of his books in last 2-3 months)
anyone that likes thrillers with great character development...i heartily recommend
love the Camel Club ones.......
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Post by sheilaincali on Sept 9, 2013 11:47:48 GMT -5
I had a friend that claimed she couldn't read because she had a bad imagination and couldn't really visualize the story when she was reading it so she struggled all through school. I suggested she try reading some non-fiction instead and she found she loved it.
It's just so foreign to me. My parents are huge readers and 3 of us 4 kids are readers. My older brother and I both married readers. Of my 7 nieces and nephews that are of reading age 5 are readers. My son is a huge reader and is forever swapping books back and forth with his friends/classmates. They have this thing at his high school that used to be Scarlet Reading time (their school colors are scarlet and white). It was a set 15 minute class period that the entire school was supposed to be reading quietly. They found that so many kids hated it and weren't reading that now it's Scarlet Time and they spend 15 minutes either reading or doing other quiet activities. Which means that in a classroom of 30 kids- 6 are reading, 10 are napping and the rest of the kids are texting and screwing off on their iPhones. My kid is one of the 6 that's reading but it was sad to me that they dropping the "reading" requirement and it became a wasted 15 minutes for the majority of the kids.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 9, 2013 11:56:39 GMT -5
DH doesn't struggle he's just highly visual. Which is probably why he likes SK so much, he's an author that can paint a very vivid story. He's already familar with Star Wars and it's characters, branching out into the Extended Universe isn't a huge leap.
I've never been without a book. I was known for it in school. I get twitchy if I don't have something to read on a regular basis.
Gwen loves reading right now, I hope she keeps it up.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 9, 2013 12:00:46 GMT -5
I'm married to a non reader and it does gripe me. I forgive him because he has so many other redeeming qualities. I don't have kids that are readers either. I stopped reading a lot when they were little because it was either stop or let them starve to death. I can "just a minute" a kid for hours when I'm in a book and not even realize it. I worked a lot of nights for a while so didn't have the habit of reading to them either. (Reason 99,999 I suck as a parent) DH was never diagnosed with his ADD in school and the work was such a horrible struggle that he may never get over his dislike of reading anything he doesn't have to.
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