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Post by NancysSummerSip on Aug 23, 2013 10:42:20 GMT -5
Well maybe I've got estrogen problem tonight & I want to over react
Oh man, we've all been board members for so long our cycles have sync'd. Someone should have told him that there are now little blue pills for that estrogen problem thingy. Really. I use them. Beats homicide (or yelling at random strangers on the Internet) any day of the week. I'm adding this one to the Cheesipedia. Thanks, meghan!
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Aug 23, 2013 11:14:27 GMT -5
What a surprising turn of events... I don't know; oldtex was pretty blunt in the other thread. I don't think that anyone disputed the general idea that a little planning can save money. If you CAN focus on pricing out options while you are worried about your loved one, more power to you. I do agree that in some cases "I can't focus on that right now" is just an excuse. Yes, the laws of money still apply when its an emergency or a tragedy. I do hope he comes back though. I have 2 bills that have been sitting on my dining room table since Friday night. With me in the hospital and hubby juggling 2 little kids and us being out of stamps, they are now on the verge of being late. My whole point on the other thread is that when there are medical problems, finances aren't the number one priority. With some people they apparently are. I was trying to point out not everyone is like that. If someone wants to get upset for others using those quotes as a week later to cheer up a person in the hospital for 5 fucking days, he needs to get over it. I am going to agree with you 200%. When you have severe medical problems such that it could result in either death or permanent disability, you are going to go for the best treatment that you can find, regardless of cost. When I got sick in KY, I knew that I needed to get the hell out of that hospital. The surgeon was not capable of dealing with difficult cases and the hospital had a not great record with regards to noscomial infections. So I flew 2500 and chose a surgeon who was out of my network. At this point, I have paid out around $13,000 in medical bills. I have paid thousands of more than if I had remained at the hospital in KY, but I am alive and am getting increasingly more mobile. My orthopedic surgeon walks on water and deserves every dime I have paid him. There is no doubt in my mind that if I managed to get through the infection, I would be permanently in a wheelchair had I not gotten the hell out of there.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 23, 2013 11:20:48 GMT -5
, but I am alive and am getting increasingly more mobile.
That;s awesome! Any chance you might make it back in the lab? I know that was getting you down for awhile.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Aug 23, 2013 11:20:55 GMT -5
With me in the hospital and hubby juggling 2 little kids and us being out of stamps, they are now on the verge of being late.
I've found you have to be pretty darn late, like 60-90 days before they get pissed at you. Hospital billing is usually pretty good about finding ways to work with you rather than deal with collections. So try not to worry about it. It's not like credi cards where your interest will shoot up and a bazillion late fees will be added on. The phone company and insurance company are a little less understanding. :-)
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Post by muttleynfelix on Aug 23, 2013 11:21:55 GMT -5
Yeah Mich!!
I am officially out of the hospital!
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Post by mmhmm on Aug 23, 2013 11:23:00 GMT -5
Ya know, sometimes people come here, read and post, and we're not aware of all that's going on in their lives. It may be oldtex was under stress from some other incident not connected with the boards, and reacted to a combination of stresses of which we're unaware. Let's cut him some slack and try to understand. I hope he'll come back. Muttley, I sure hope you do get to go home today - that is, if you're feeling stronger and actually able to get along at home without needing interventions. Usually, a day or two of antibiotics will have the majority of the "bugs" on the run!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 23, 2013 11:24:13 GMT -5
Could your mom handle them over the phone for you? They might be willing to waive late fees and stuff if you explain the situation and are usually current with your bills. Worst they can say is no. I am officially out of the hospital!
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Post by mmhmm on Aug 23, 2013 11:25:11 GMT -5
With me in the hospital and hubby juggling 2 little kids and us being out of stamps, they are now on the verge of being late.
I've found you have to be pretty darn late, like 60-90 days before they get pissed at you. Hospital billing is usually pretty good about finding ways to work with you rather than deal with collections. So try not to worry about it. It's not like credi cards where your interest will shoot up and a bazillion late fees will be added on. The phone company and insurance company are a little less understanding. :-) Not true, in my experience, muttley. I had a situation when mother was very, very ill and in hospital where I missed a payment to the electric company. I called them when I discovered I'd missed the payment and let them know it had been made. They were wonderfully understanding!
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Post by mmhmm on Aug 23, 2013 11:25:49 GMT -5
Could your mom handle them over the phone for you? They might be willing to waive late fees and stuff if you explain the situation and are usually current with your bills. Worst they can say is no. I am officially out of the hospital!
HURRAY!
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Post by muttleynfelix on Aug 23, 2013 11:30:14 GMT -5
I've already called the insurance company and I can pay it when we get home. I can do the phone then as well.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Aug 23, 2013 11:37:09 GMT -5
, but I am alive and am getting increasingly more mobile.
That;s awesome! Any chance you might make it back in the lab? I know that was getting you down for awhile. Hopefully, after the first of the year at the rate I am going. But I will be on the job hunt in WA.
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Post by Pants on Aug 23, 2013 11:37:50 GMT -5
Mutt - I am very glad you are on the mend and on the way home.
Also, no way did I see that whole tempest in a teapot coming.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Aug 23, 2013 11:38:19 GMT -5
Yeah Mich!! I am officially out of the hospital! Congrats! Doesn't it feel great to finally get sprung?
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Post by jeep108 on Aug 23, 2013 11:41:23 GMT -5
Woohoo! Glad you got to go home today, Mutt.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Aug 23, 2013 12:29:34 GMT -5
Glad to hear mutt is well and out of the hospital. I don't know how any of you do it, with kids and all, even when all systems are a go. As for mich, I foresee a time when she is not only working, but she and TD are chasing each other around the bed.
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Post by shanendoah on Aug 23, 2013 12:57:50 GMT -5
Yay for being out of the hospital! And yay for insurance and phone company letting you pay once you are home.
The Walk of the Penguin Mich - as a note, I'm at UW's SOM now, and there's a good chance that in 6-9 months we'll be looking for some science writers to help PIs with grant applications. I know that's not exactly your thing, but if it ends up being something you're interested in, let me know. Otherwise, UW is the top public institution in the country for NIH grant funding, so hopefully we can find room in a lab for you.
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Post by 8 Bit WWBG on Aug 23, 2013 13:01:31 GMT -5
...:::"If you are going to dish it out, you better be ready to get it back at you. Yes, I'm looking at you, Tex.":::...
Yeah, this is pretty much how I feel. I know he wasn't being mean per se. I also get that in the purest sense, planning always beats not planning. I also believe that there are some things one can at least think about/check in to. I also get that sometimes you are on your own with no support, and you have to prioritize; and saving a life beats saving a buck.
I feel that oldtex didn't give due weight to some of the planning that went on long before any given emergency. For example, someone that is generally frugal, can throw frugality to the wind during an emergency with much less worry than someone who lives life stretched to the brink. That is just as much a type of planning as is packing a cooler after you've found out your kid is on his/her way to the hospital in an ambulance.
When one of DW's relatives passed away, I was there to be able to think of a few logistics. Calling work to let them know she'd be out, packing some extra items so we wouldn't have to be without. I was also able to go run errands, so that she could be with her relatives.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Aug 23, 2013 13:18:05 GMT -5
...:::"If you are going to dish it out, you better be ready to get it back at you. Yes, I'm looking at you, Tex.":::... Yeah, this is pretty much how I feel. I know he wasn't being mean per se. I also get that in the purest sense, planning always beats not planning. I also believe that there are some things one can at least think about/check in to. I also get that sometimes you are on your own with no support, and you have to prioritize; and saving a life beats saving a buck. I feel that oldtex didn't give due weight to some of the planning that went on long before any given emergency. For example, someone that is generally frugal, can throw frugality to the wind during an emergency with much less worry than someone who lives life stretched to the brink. That is just as much a type of planning as is packing a cooler after you've found out your kid is on his/her way to the hospital in an ambulance. When one of DW's relatives passed away, I was there to be able to think of a few logistics. Calling work to let them know she'd be out, packing some extra items so we wouldn't have to be without. I was also able to go run errands, so that she could be with her relatives. This is true. I've just been through Round 1 of two rounds of eye surgery. Not an emergency on the level of what happened to Mutt, of course. I knew at some point it was going to happen. But when I got word eight weeks ago that my corneas were failing and the cataracts were beginning to take over, the situation went from, ""OK, this is an operation for the near future that I can 100% plan for" to "OK, this has just been stepped up a few notches on the 'Oh, Shit' meter." I'm a couponer and a stockpiler, which helps. I'm also a scratch cook, which helps. I'm an anal-retentive, list-making planning freak, which helps. I don't have kids or sick, aging parents (though my DH does), which helps. I still have plenty of room on my insurance spending for the year, which really helps. You cannot plan for everything. I never thought I'd hear the words, "We need to get this done really, really soon, or face irreversible consequences," from my surgeon. If you can have the basics covered on a regular basis, it does not hurt. Not everyone can, and even if you do, sometimes you cannot use them. In the end, you go with what you know is right at that moment, and make up for the shortfall afterwards. I cannot recall ever meeting anyone who felt differently about going all out to get the best medical care possible, or do whatever was needed to be with family at a time of need. When they stand over your grave, no one is ever going to say, "Gee, I wonder how much he/she spent to take care of so-and-so." They'll just remember you kindly for having done so.
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Post by Opti on Aug 23, 2013 13:25:42 GMT -5
They are. Are you able to pay your insurance over the phone without additional charges? Once I found out my car and renters insurance company will take payments over the phone using a credit card or checking account I've stopped mailing payments and just call instead. Hopefully, you won't have to remember this for the future, but you can also just call the phone company or other utility and have the representative put a note on your account. Yes it probably won't help much if you are 60 or 90 days late but it should help if you are a few days to under 60 days late. Glad to hear you've made it out of the hospital.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Aug 23, 2013 13:29:16 GMT -5
Yay for being out of the hospital! And yay for insurance and phone company letting you pay once you are home.
The Walk of the Penguin Mich - as a note, I'm at UW's SOM now, and there's a good chance that in 6-9 months we'll be looking for some science writers to help PIs with grant applications. I know that's not exactly your thing, but if it ends up being something you're interested in, let me know. Otherwise, UW is the top public institution in the country for NIH grant funding, so hopefully we can find room in a lab for you. Yes! I'm not sure if I will be capable of working in a lab again, but I have enough of a background that science writing is not out of my comfort zone. My boss also has contacts. I plan on using everything I can when I get to the point where I'm not knocked on my tail quite so easily. I'd be interested in touching base with you next time I get down to Seattle.....
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Aug 23, 2013 13:33:57 GMT -5
Yeah Mich!! I am officially out of the hospital! Yay! Now get back to your financial planning and bill paying you slacker! Vacation is over!!
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Post by Opti on Aug 23, 2013 13:55:40 GMT -5
I missed the un-folding of this particular drama, but this comment stuck out to me. I was on the phone last night with a friend of mine and he luckily knew the signs of an impending appendix rupture so his doctor was able to see & schedule him before it ruptured. I remember a fellow teaching assistant that covered a dual level course with me going to the hospital unexpectedly because he discovered it after it ruptured. Last night my friend reminded me if you don't get it quick enough after it ruptures it could kill you. My fellow TA was out for at least a week.
I do like OldTex and hopes he comes back. I definitely feel for Muttley as I started a non-YM thread to document my bankruptcy and the process in general as it was happening, but stopped posting when the majority of the posters responding to the thread seemed to take delight in making my more difficult situation worse. While some YMers will insist until they die everything can be planned for or at least made better with some YM skills, I have lived and seen enough to know that can be BS in any given situation. Consideration goes a long way and if not make use of the block poster function. I made the mistake of not doing that soon enough for my own mental health. FWIW.
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 23, 2013 23:24:13 GMT -5
Oldtex spelled Goodbye wrong.
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