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Post by ZaireinHD on Jul 17, 2013 20:41:39 GMT -5
gift giving from the same account means permission to get the gift. Say spouse wants a certain item but now you can say no I don't agree for the purchase right now. Then at gift time surprise! win / win
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Post by bean29 on Jul 17, 2013 21:23:15 GMT -5
Roflmao. ...my phone dosn't have the imoge Sent from my MB855 using proboards
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Post by bean29 on Jul 17, 2013 21:24:46 GMT -5
On Christmas it's weird, cheap stuff we wouldn't buy for ourselves
DH is a bacon inspector so I find it fun to find weird bacon related items. It's a contest/competition they have a work. I won a couple years before with a bacon action figure. This year it was bacon candy canes. The box had enough for every QA so DH took them to work. The consensus was the things tasted like cat pee. I also filled his stocking with *adult* items this year. Really surprised him because he never guessed I'd go shopping at the adult store solo. Am I the only one that read this??!! DQs DH is a BACON INSPECTOR!! How are we not talking about that Sorry, this is what had me roflmao Sent from my MB855 using proboards
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Post by skubikky on Jul 18, 2013 5:49:16 GMT -5
DH and I have a joint account for all household expenses and then we each have our own checking/savings. When we buy each other gifts it comes from our own money, not the joint account. Simple.
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Post by Shooby on Jul 18, 2013 5:57:58 GMT -5
I will never understand the His/Her finances thing. I really dont' get how you can decide who owes what for the gas bill, electric bill, and on and on.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2013 6:34:54 GMT -5
Well, on topic (although I'm still distracted by the fact that there is a job called bacon inspector and wondering where I went wrong in my life to not have that job....), DH and I do the his/hers/ours finances. We decide a certain amount for gifts and then they are purchased out of our own accounts. Of course, right now. We each have a $1k credit for each other for our 40th bday gifts. I didn't want to pick out an expensive watch without his input and I haven't decided yet what piece of jewelry that I would like.
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Post by happyscooter on Jul 18, 2013 6:37:46 GMT -5
I would like to know how you inspect bacon. Do you eat it? What if the piece you eat is good but you don't know about the other pieces? How does that work?
Man, I am getting hungry and the bowl of cereal I ate isn't doing the trick.
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Post by happyscooter on Jul 18, 2013 6:38:20 GMT -5
And I would also like to know how someone knows what cat pee tastes like.
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Post by happyscooter on Jul 18, 2013 6:41:13 GMT -5
shooby, my parents paid bills like that. my dad paid the rent and power bill and my mom paid the water bill and phone bill. She didn't make as much money so I guess they picked the smallest bills for her to pay. She paid her own car insurance and any repairs, bought groceries and tithed to her church. (dad didn't go)
When they finally bought a house, I guess my dad bought the necessary items like new windows and paint and my mom bought curtains and stuff.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 18, 2013 9:29:40 GMT -5
I would also like to know how someone knows what cat pee tastes like
I asked that question. I guess it had a really strong ammonia like smell that DH said reminded people of an uncleaned litter box. It was one of those smells you can taste in the back of your throat. I would like to know how you inspect bacon. Do you eat it? What if the piece you eat is good but you don't know about the other pieces? How does that work
It's way more boring than you think. It's about following a bazillion USDA regulations for the production of meat, company guidelines etc. It's not as attractive a job as you think, especially after doing it for 5 years. It can be pretty darn gross actually. DH had to tage and shut down a line yesterday that had 4 lbs of rotten bacon stuck in the rotors. The machine malfunctioned and was ripping up the packages and bacon was getting into the gears as a result. IT was so bad it made the sterelization crew puke.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2013 9:39:44 GMT -5
we do his/hers/ours. Basically, DH gives me a "bill" of my share of the expenses (it's a 50/50 split now that we make about the same), and I write him a check. That money goes into the communal account.
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Post by swamp on Jul 18, 2013 9:41:22 GMT -5
our money just goes in one checking. everything is joint. I run it.
we generally don't buy each other presents.
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Post by steph08 on Jul 18, 2013 9:43:47 GMT -5
We pretty much buy whatever we want, so gift giving is hard. We went to a Penguins game in March - it is going to count for both our birthday presents. DH says he'll buy me jewelry as long as I give him the money to buy it (we have combined finances). I'm too cheap to do that.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2013 9:45:38 GMT -5
oh, to answer the OP - money for our gifts to each other come from our individual accounts and are not factored into the monthly "bill". We do get each other little things (and sometimes bigger things), but I'd rather go somewhere nice/have a date. DH is a "things" person, so we try to meet somewhere in the middle. This year I told him that I don't want any anniversary/birthday/Christmas gifts because I'd rather have us go on a 3-day cruise in February as a belated 5-year anniversary gift.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jul 18, 2013 9:50:18 GMT -5
Good timing, Phoenix! Dh's bday is this weekend and, as usual, I have NO IDEA what to get him. I was thinking about a stereo because he likes music so much. Do they still make those? Lol. He doesn't have an Ipod or anything like that. He likes to listed to cd's from his collection and our cd player doesn't work anymore. I always tell dh specifically what I'd like for my bday. The money comes from our checking account. I haven't read past this post yet, so sorry if someone else has brought this up. My DH loves music. He has many, many CDs. He would Youtube the songs he wanted to listen to and didn't own. Two years ago, DS2 insisted on buying an iPod for DH's birthday/Father's Day (they're the same week). DH tried to talk him out of it. He explained that there was no way he would like that new fangled thing. Within in the week, DH was proclaiming his love for Apple and iTunes. He transferred all of his CDs to his iTunes account. His fun money is spent on either coffee or iTunes. He has a ridiculous amount of playlists, and he loves to set up his songs in certain orders. It's weird. He now has an iPhone and two portable iHome speaker systems--one for work and one for the house/car that doesn't have an auxiliary jack. Then, I swear to freaking goodness: we bought a couch with a docking station and speakers in it. I guess my point is: get the man the iPod. Make sure it has at least 16G of memory. That's why I got DH the iPhone the next year for his birthday. He'd run out of memory on his iPod. So his iPod has certain playlists and his iPhone has others.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jul 18, 2013 9:55:35 GMT -5
We have a gift giving line item. I agree, Phoenix, that it's difficult for me (who manages the money) to reduce other line items in order to raise the gift giving line item a boost so DH can go buy me a gift.
However, DH takes gift giving very seriously. He often does "events"--spa day, theatre, etc. So if I don't allocate the money, he's just going to spend the money anyway. Then I'd just have to figure it out later. We are fully common potters.
My parents had a interesting system, though I'm not privy to the whole practice. My mom didn't work the majority of the time, but she did for ten years for about 20 hours per week. The deal was she paid for groceries and whatever was left was her fun money.
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Post by kilroy on Jul 18, 2013 10:02:50 GMT -5
My husband "doesn't believe" in gift giving among family members and would ignore birthdays entirely if I let him. I finally got him to understand that birthdays matter to me because when I was born I wasn't expected to have any (premature with other major issues). So now he usually takes me out for a nice dinner for my bday and is perfectly happy if I ignore his, although I do at least wish him happy birthday first thing in the morning. We don't do Christmas gifts.
As far as finances go, he was retired when I met him and already drawing a pension while I'm in the middle of my working life (well, hoping I'm a bit farther along than that). He pays the bills & I give him money every month for an agreed-on share of household expenses (he periodically tells me this isn't necessary, but it is to me so I don't feel like a kept woman). We each pay for our own personal expenses.
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Post by midjd on Jul 18, 2013 10:05:29 GMT -5
I do vividly remember one Christmas when my dad gave my mom $100 instead of actually buying her a gift... she cried all day. At the time I was like, "WTF is wrong with you? It's a hundred bucks!" but now I can see why she was hurt.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jul 18, 2013 10:06:43 GMT -5
I haven't read past this post yet, so sorry if someone else has brought this up. My DH loves music. He has many, many CDs. He would Youtube the songs he wanted to listen to and didn't own. Two years ago, DS2 insisted on buying an iPod for DH's birthday/Father's Day (they're the same week). DH tried to talk him out of it. He explained that there was no way he would like that new fangled thing. Within in the week, DH was proclaiming his love for Apple and iTunes. He transferred all of his CDs to his iTunes account. His fun money is spent on either coffee or iTunes. He has a ridiculous amount of playlists, and he loves to set up his songs in certain orders. It's weird. He now has an iPhone and two portable iHome speaker systems--one for work and one for the house/car that doesn't have an auxiliary jack. Then, I swear to freaking goodness: we bought a couch with a docking station and speakers in it. I guess my point is: get the man the iPod. Make sure it has at least 16G of memory. That's why I got DH the iPhone the next year for his birthday. He'd run out of memory on his iPod. So his iPod has certain playlists and his iPhone has others. I bought him one several years ago, when iPod's were different and all you could do was listen to music on them. He wouldn't even give it a shot. He ended up giving it to his nephew. DH hates technology. He has a very extensive cd collection and he's kind of set in his ways about wanting to listen to his music with a CD player. We had a 101 CD disc changer, but it broke. I don't think they make stuff like that any more. Wow, I've never even heard of a 101 disc changer! Yeah, my DH has the iPod Touch. I don't think he'd have liked the regular iPods. Well, good luck!
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Post by imawino on Jul 18, 2013 10:10:32 GMT -5
I will never understand the His/Her finances thing. I really dont' get how you can decide who owes what for the gas bill, electric bill, and on and on. It's not at all difficult to understand. Or was that just your way of saying you don't agree with it and think it's stupid?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2013 10:27:17 GMT -5
I do vividly remember one Christmas when my dad gave my mom $100 instead of actually buying her a gift... she cried all day. At the time I was like, "WTF is wrong with you? It's a hundred bucks!" but now I can see why she was hurt. ROFL! Now there is a man that really doesn't understand women!
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jul 18, 2013 10:31:34 GMT -5
I will never understand the His/Her finances thing. I really dont' get how you can decide who owes what for the gas bill, electric bill, and on and on. Because I have major control issues and DF would go running for the hills if we had one joint checking account (we have a joint checking). I bitch about money enough as it is. Maintaining our own accounts is simple: he gives me money every week (paid weekly) and I pay the bills.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jul 18, 2013 10:34:24 GMT -5
I will never understand the His/Her finances thing. I really dont' get how you can decide who owes what for the gas bill, electric bill, and on and on. It's not at all difficult to understand. Or was that just your way of saying you don't agree with it and think it's stupid? Ding ding ding!!!
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Post by imawino on Jul 18, 2013 10:40:00 GMT -5
I will never understand the His/Her finances thing. I really dont' get how you can decide who owes what for the gas bill, electric bill, and on and on. Because I have major control issues and DF would go running for the hills if we had one joint checking account (we have a joint checking). I bitch about money enough as it is. Maintaining our own accounts is simple: he gives me money every week (paid weekly) and I pay the bills. Doesn't exactly sound like rocket science! Really what I should have said before is that the sweetie and I have his/hers/ours accounts. We each put the same amount into our joint account each month (done by direct deposits on payday - easy peasy). I pay all the bills related to running the household (PITI, utilities, groceries, misc house crap) from the joint checking. Any stuff we just choose to spend money on for ourselves is done from our personal accounts. It is incredibly uncomplicated. And we have never had any reason to disagree about money.
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Post by swamp on Jul 18, 2013 10:54:50 GMT -5
all our money goes in one account and I tell DH what he can spend our money on.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2013 10:56:45 GMT -5
all our money goes in one account and I tell DH what he can spend our money on. You're so common.
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Post by swamp on Jul 18, 2013 11:00:21 GMT -5
all our money goes in one account and I tell DH what he can spend our money on. You're so common. that would be "uncommonly good"
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Post by kittensaver on Jul 18, 2013 12:51:46 GMT -5
I will never understand the His/Her finances thing. I really dont' get how you can decide who owes what for the gas bill, electric bill, and on and on. What's not to get? When we got married, we laid out all of our monthly and annual expenses. We split them up in an equitable manner (he was making more at the time so he paid a larger share of the bills). We revisit the allocation every once in a while - like when bills go up/down significantly or a raise comes in (or business slows down), and we make adjustments as necessary. But we always keep the split equitable based on the $$ coming in. Right now, I give him half the mortgage, I pay all the routine household expenses (groceries, cleaning supplies, cat food, etc), I fund the retirement account and carry the family health insurance (because I have an employer and he is self-employed), and I maintain my own car and my own needs (clothing, shoes etc). He pays for everything else: half the mortgage, all the utilities, the gardener, all the auto, property and life insurances, the property taxes, his car, his personal needs and our Hollywood Bowl season tickets . We have NO money fights. Everything for our mutual welfare is covered without problems or incidents. Whatever is left after our mutual welfare is covered is ours to do with as we wish. We both feel in control of our money and financial peace reigns. What's not to understand?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2013 12:52:32 GMT -5
I will never understand the His/Her finances thing. I really dont' get how you can decide who owes what for the gas bill, electric bill, and on and on. What's not to get? When we got married, we laid out all of our monthly and annual expenses. We split them up in an equitable manner (he was making more at the time so he paid a larger share of the bills). We revisit the allocation every once in a while - like when bills go up/down significantly or a raise comes in (or business slows down), and we make adjustments as necessary. But we always keep the split equitable based on the $$ coming in. Right now, I give him half the mortgage, I pay all the routine household expenses (groceries, cleaning supplies, cat food, etc), I fund the retirement account and carry the family health insurance (because I have an employer and he is self-employed), and I maintain my own car and my own needs (clothing, shoes etc). He pays for everything else: half the mortgage, all the utilities, the gardener, all the auto, property and life insurances, the property taxes, his car, his personal needs and our Hollywood Bowl season tickets . We have NO money fights. Everything for our mutual welfare is covered without problems or incidents. Whatever is left after our mutual welfare is covered is ours to do with as we wish. We both feel in control of our money and financial peace reigns. What's not to understand? I don't get it.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2013 13:05:46 GMT -5
LMAO
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