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Post by KaraBoo on Jul 21, 2014 21:55:01 GMT -5
Thanks guys....<br><br>I was at work today for over 12 hours and at work yesterday for 6. It's almost 10pm my time and I've only been home for an hour and I have another long day (12+ hours) tomorrow. I'm exhausted.<br><br>I appreciate the replies, but have no energy to think about anything other than to say thank you! I'll check back in when I have a chance - probably in a few days based on my schedule now.
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Post by Sharon on Jul 21, 2014 22:06:32 GMT -5
Kara hugs to you. Take a moment to breath. I know you are trying to do two jobs so that you will be able to move to a less stressful job but please do not overwork yourself in the process. That is a heavy load you are carrying.
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Post by KaraBoo on Jul 23, 2014 21:40:44 GMT -5
Just popping in to say I had my first "official" interview today for my "new" position. It was weird answering questions my mentor was asking. She said upfront that she wasn't worried about my interview, but since she had to do it, she was going to ask me questions that she didn't already know the answers to (the company has a packet that comes with 6-7 form questions in about 8 different areas). Still took a full hour to complete.
Now on to the "peer panel interview". That's going to be even stranger for me. I've been at the company 20 years for goodness sakes! The position I've applied to - I'm the only one in the building with that job title - there are no "peers" to interview me. The office only has 3 positions total and one of those is the director, the other is the Office Operations Lead (fancy title for admin assistant) and then me. The position I'm currently in - there is no one else in my "department" - just me.
So, mentor has picked people who I would normally work closely with going forward to do the interview. Of those 3 people scheduled, one used to be the boss above my manager - so I've worked very closely with her for years (at one point she told me I was wasting my talent being in the position I was in). The only guy is a physician that I currently don't have a close working relationship with, but will once I start the position. The third - I only know her by name only - haven't worked with her at all.
My assumption is they will ask me similar questions to what was asked today (at least off the same list). I know I can't assume that, but based on some other interviews I've been involved in, I'm pretty sure this is accurate.
I talked briefly with my current boss yesterday (Tuesday? I think this is Wednesday....man I'm tired! Currently at 45+ hours and counting for the week) and she's good with the transfer and "letter of intent". I still need to talk with her in more detail, but since she's been out of the country for 2 weeks, she was swamped and couldn't talk longer than 3 sentences....
Now - off to bed so I can get ready for my next interview tomorrow. Wish me luck!
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Post by Jaguar on Jul 23, 2014 21:43:10 GMT -5
Well your going forward, that's good.
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Post by Sharon on Jul 23, 2014 21:55:14 GMT -5
Kara I am amazed by and in awe of your strength. To have as many things going on in your life that you have now and to still be able to think of applying for a job and going through the whole interview process is fantastic. Good-luck to you and hope you get this job and that it will reduce your work stress.
I have been keeping Monkey in my thoughts and hope that she is getting some good help with her counseling program.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jul 24, 2014 8:34:31 GMT -5
Kara, wishing you the best. You don't need any more stress than you already have, but you are handling what you have very well. So much of this crap is stuff you did not ask for, yet you wound up with it.
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Post by greeniis10 on Jul 24, 2014 12:05:32 GMT -5
Hope the interview goes well today! I, too, admire your strength and how you are handling all of this. It's easy (particularly as a wife and a mom) to fall into the trap of, "Oh no! I have to take care of everyone else. I cannot possibly focus on myself." So, kudos to you for focusing on your career and making the changes there where you can. With your DH unemployed, issues with kids / stepkids and biomom the exact thing you SHOULD do is what you ARE doing: improve your work-life because right now that is the only area where you have control and it will pay off in the long run.
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Post by KaraBoo on Jul 24, 2014 21:13:21 GMT -5
Thank you guys! I'm so very thankful for all of you, this board and the community here. Both interviews went well - actually just a formality more than anything. The panel group today asked the same group of questions - just different ones than what new bossed asked - so I was fairly prepared. Now I just have to wait for the "official" offer and accept it before I can put my resignation letter in. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Monkey seems to be doing well right now. She's completed the original outpatient program and they now have her in another program. Tuesdays and Thursdays they have group sessions with kids her age and on Saturdays is family day to help the entire family with the issues the kids are dealing with. This was her first week and Saturday will be our first family session. We haven't heard anything else from bio-mom about the anti-depressant prescribed for Monkey. Monkey herself has taken it on her own for the last two weeks. A few days ago she made the comment that she's forgotten to take them a couple of days and has noticed a change in her moods from one day to the next when she has taken them. I'm really glad she recognized this on her own because she needs to be paying attention to what her own body is telling her. I made sure to tell DH to tell bio-mom about the family day. I reminded him that Monkey needs to see ALL of her parents participating in her treatment - not just us. We can't make her attend of course, but we do have to make sure she knows about it. I hope she makes it to at least a couple of sessions, but I'm not holding my breath. She didn't make it to any of the outpatient treatments.....I'm not surprised quite frankly.... ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I don't know if I mentioned it or not, but Rowdy went to summer school to make up at least one of his failed classes from this past school year. Today was his last day and according to him - he passed! I'm hoping he did, but he'll still be short 4 full credits. He'll have to do a recovery year to make up the work and still graduate on time. I'm not 100% sure he'll be able to sustain the workload, but he's surprised me before - maybe he'll surprise me again. He's actually matured a lot in the last 6 months or so, so maybe's he's turned a page as well. I had to pick him up tonight from his counseling appointment so DH could get Monkey from her appointment. Rowdy surprised me by talking with me all the way home. He never does that. We had a wonderful conversation about nothing and everything at the same time. The kids don't realize it, but I notice these small changes in them and it makes my heart glad. Anyway - that's my update for now. Thank you for sticking with me through this!!
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Post by taz157 on Jul 24, 2014 21:19:49 GMT -5
Good luck with the "new" job! I'm happy to read that it seems that Monkey and Rowdy are doing relatively well. I wish them well in the future. Hopefully, bio-mom does show up to some of the sessions for her DD's well-being.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Jul 24, 2014 21:21:08 GMT -5
Glad to hear things are taking an upturn. Sounds like things are more positive with Monkey & Rowdy too - it's always good to see improvement.
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Post by mollyanna58 on Jul 24, 2014 21:22:41 GMT -5
Good luck with the "new" job! I'm happy to read that it seems that Monkey and Rowdy are doing relatively well. I wish them well in the future. Hopefully, bio-mom does show up to some of the sessions for her DD's well-being.
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Post by mmhmm on Jul 24, 2014 21:25:40 GMT -5
Sounds good, Kara. You're doing one whale of a job, girl! Hopefully, bio-mom will do her job half as well.
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Post by Jaguar on Jul 24, 2014 21:48:28 GMT -5
Kara I'm so happy things are turning upwards for you.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jul 25, 2014 11:10:17 GMT -5
Yay for Monkey and Rowdy!! I'll not hold my breath on bio-mom being useful, I don't think blue is a good skin tone for me.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Aug 6, 2014 13:45:02 GMT -5
How are you doing so far this week?
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Post by KaraBoo on Aug 6, 2014 21:53:36 GMT -5
How are you doing so far this week? Hi Beth! And everyone else! I've been thinking about everyone - but haven't been on in a while. I'm currently working 60+ hours per week attempting to keep two jobs running at separate entities and I think I'm losing my mind. I can't keep anything straight, I'm missing deadlines and things are falling apart. Thankfully, at least one of the jobs knows what I'm going through and is very understanding (my new boss!). I "officially" transfer on Monday, but they haven't even posted the position I'm leaving yet. Which means there is no one to do the work. I'm supposed to "float" between the jobs, but it's more like tug-of-war right now based on whoever is yelling the loudest at the moment. Getting up at 5-5:30am, leaving the house at 6:30am to take my son Buddy to band practice, getting to work no later than 7:30am and leaving around 8:30-9pm at night, just to wake up and do it all over again. I'm basically existing and nothing else. I printed out and gave the other ladies in my office this meme: It was very appropriate for today's fun and games at the office. Thank goodness DH is out of work right now! He's taking Monkey to all of her appointments, made sure Rowdy was at summer school, taking the kids school supply shopping, laundry, housework, dinners, (some) grocery shopping (I actually use my weekend errands/grocery shopping to relax), lawn care and everything else that needs to be done. It's been a blessing in disguise at the moment. I'm only seeing the kids if they are still awake when I get home or happen to be up when I leave (only Buddy is actually awake at 6am because of band - wakes himself up at 5am and, impatiently I might add, waits on me to get up to take him - he's a weirdo!! ). Rowdy is currently in another state visiting with his grandma on his mom's side. An aunt was going to visit and he asked if he could go with. It wasn't until the day before he left that I found out about the trip - I asked DH if he had a Plan B if Rowdy decided to pull a stunt like attempting to say he wasn't coming home (which he's threatened in the past). He didn't think about that possibility. It's a small chance that it will happen, but still a chance (I put the odds around 5-20%). A year ago, I would have put the odds at 50-75% chance if the same trip had happened - so a lot of improvement in the last year!! Anyway - nothing new on the bills front, we haven't done anything yet with the BK (as I haven't been home!). I can't remember anything else at the moment - my brain is fried!
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Post by KaraBoo on Aug 6, 2014 21:56:28 GMT -5
And just because I also found this while I was searching for the other meme: Yep!! We frequently say the psych-ward next door has employee beds waiting for us!
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Aug 6, 2014 22:02:27 GMT -5
Kara, as I said before, I don't usually follow this thread, but pop in once in awhile.
So I popped in to tell you how amazing I think you are!!!
I am so so rooting for you and wish you lots of strength and energy and peace.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Aug 6, 2014 22:05:33 GMT -5
Is your DH still actively job-hunting? He's been a "house-husband" for quite a while -meanwhile you work these ridiculously long hours.
I hope he's putting 100% effort into getting employed instead of you having to trudge through such a long day to make ends meet. It's been a while since there's been an update on his career search efforts.
It sounds like he might be getting way too comfortable with you carrying all the load - AND coming home to fry up the bacon.
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Post by KaraBoo on Aug 6, 2014 22:33:00 GMT -5
Is your DH still actively job-hunting? He's been a "house-husband" for quite a while -meanwhile you work these ridiculously long hours.
I hope he's putting 100% effort into getting employed instead of you having to trudge through such a long day to make ends meet. It's been a while since there's been an update on his career search efforts.
It sounds like he might be getting way too comfortable with you carrying all the load - AND coming home to fry up the bacon. Exactly how am I carrying all of the load? I posted this: He's taking Monkey to all of her appointments, made sure Rowdy was at summer school, taking the kids school supply shopping, laundry, housework, dinners, (some) grocery shopping (I actually use my weekend errands/grocery shopping to relax), lawn care and everything else that needs to be done. It's been a blessing in disguise at the moment.The only thing around the house I'm having to do is only what I want to do. He's handling everything else, plus applying for jobs. DH really wants to work at a school district and there's a position open at one of the districts near us (about a 20 minute drive). They have good pay for his job line (equal to private industry), but a lot more benefits (no on-call, set hours, better health and retirement benefits). Problem is, it can take 6-8 weeks to go through the process. The job posted 2 weeks ago and DH applied immediately (kind of....there were website issues, so he submitted the app as soon as the issues were resolved). The hiring guy has implied to DH that he wants him working for him....so DH is biding his time currently, while continuing to look for better opportunities (he's still receiving unemployment). We talked and I told him that if he really wants to work at the district to go for it. When the issues with the kids came up (Monkey with the mental issues and Rowdy with summer school issues), him being home has helped immensely. Monkey has been in therapy for 6 weeks now - first 2 weeks was daily and now it's 3 days a week at odd hours. If he wasn't home, there would be no one else who could make sure she was being taken care of like she needs to be. He's still applying for anything and everything that comes up in his field, but he's not settling for just anything either. He's been out of work for 2 months now and is ready to go back (he's made the comment more than once, he can't wait to go back to work so he can rest! Running the house is wearing him out!). Yes, he's holding out for the school district position (however, he won't turn down a better position either if it comes up), but only until he knows he didn't get it. If that happens, he'll be attempting to get whatever he can get because at that point, my job situation will have levelized and I'll be back at 40 hours. Me "trudging" through the day is due to my current job situation, not because of our money situation. The extra money is nice, but I'm working 12-13 hours a day because the job situation requires it, not because of my home life. I could blow the extra work off, but that wouldn't put me in a good light with the company and would make my job transfer actually HARDER in the long run. Anyway - there's my update on DH's job search efforts. Take it for what it's worth, but DH and I have talked about it and are in agreement with our current path at the moment.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Aug 7, 2014 9:45:40 GMT -5
Thanks for the updates Kara.
Hugs and keep on plugging along.
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Post by taz157 on Aug 7, 2014 10:59:25 GMT -5
[quote author=" Wisconsin Beth" source="/post/2013242/t hread" timestamp="1407422740"]Thanks for the updates Kara. Hugs and keep on plugging along. [/quote] Yeah that. Good luck to DH.
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Post by Sharon on Aug 7, 2014 21:47:03 GMT -5
Kara I am glad that your husband has been able to help out so much with the kids this summer. Based on other things you have written I think it is probably good on both sides. Monkey may not say anything but she can't help but notice that it is Dad who is taking her to counseling and cares enough to make sure that she gets there, not bio mom.
Hoping that your job settles down soon and that the job with school district works out for your husband.
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Post by KaraBoo on Aug 8, 2014 21:30:03 GMT -5
Small update!
DH received a call from the hiring manager at the school district today. He has an interview scheduled on Monday at 9:30am.
YAY!!!!
I have also been told by my new boss - in no uncertain terms - that I am NOT to work this weekend at all. That I am to rest and relax as much as possible. I have, I'm sure, over 60 hours this week. No problem boss! I'm exhausted!
AND!
Just got home from picking Buddy up from marching band practice. He's a junior, 3rd year of HS band and he is FINALLY marching in the show this year. Last two years he has been on the sidelines helping the pit and crew. This year I actually get to have pictures of him out on the field!!
<----- One happy and proud Momma!!
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Post by Jaguar on Aug 8, 2014 21:38:06 GMT -5
Kara that is freaking awesome news all around.
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Post by Apple on Aug 8, 2014 21:42:53 GMT -5
Crossing my fingers that this latest good news is just the first of a long string of good news to come!
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Post by taz157 on Aug 8, 2014 21:44:43 GMT -5
Crossing my fingers that this latest good news is just the first of a long string of good news to come! Yeah that!!
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Post by KaraBoo on Aug 8, 2014 21:48:01 GMT -5
Thanks guys! Me too!!!
And in other, less happy, more horrific, news....
Went to take a drink of water and almost swallowed a fly who was skinny dipping.
I'm still gagging.
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Post by Sharon on Aug 8, 2014 21:49:08 GMT -5
Wonderful news and enjoy your weekend.
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Post by Apple on Aug 8, 2014 21:54:35 GMT -5
Thanks guys! Me too!!! And in other, less happy, more horrific, news.... Went to take a drink of water and almost swallowed a fly who was skinny dipping. I'm still gagging. Ick! If I ingest insects, I'd rather it be those bits and pieces that are "allowed" (through defect action levels) to be in chocolate.
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