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Post by suesinfl on Dec 22, 2013 13:59:05 GMT -5
-hug-Hugs to you and your family! I think that you are doing a great job considering what you're facing. Just keep staying the line with small steps.
I know that Zib means well with saying the older kids need jobs, but sometimes it's just not doable. There is lack of transportation, school hours, etc. My DD wants a job so bad, but because we only have one car, it can't be done right now. As far as babysitting goes, there may be a lack of families within a walking area who need sitters. Paper routes are nonexistent or you need a car. It's hard when they want to work, but can't do to many reasons.
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Post by justme on Dec 22, 2013 14:07:32 GMT -5
When I babysat most of the time the family picked me up and dropped me off. I think what's working against them more is that it seems a lot of parents today are aghast at teens babysitting their kids.
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Post by suesinfl on Dec 22, 2013 14:19:26 GMT -5
That's true. Most of the ads that we've seen people are wanting someone with childcare experience, daycare worker, college student studying education, etc.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 23, 2013 6:16:11 GMT -5
That's true but they don't want to pay anymore for the privilege of having an adult watch their kids. You still want to pay the $8 an hour from 10-15 years ago? Get a HS kid. College kids are in the 10-15 dollar an hour range especially if they're driving there. DD gets $10 for one kid but will only drive ten minutes before adding extra for her drive time. People pay it. But there's pet sitting and other odd jobs. It's called looking for it. I saw a kid with a truck and a shovel going door to door when it was obvious someone didnt have a plow service. Did he like shoveling tons of snow? I doubt it but I will bet he liked the cash!
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Post by KaraBoo on Dec 24, 2013 8:23:59 GMT -5
Tried to get on last night to post, but wasn't in the mood. I'm on my phone right now, getting ready for work and just have to vent.
I currently hate my job. It comes in cycles. I've never had something so difficult to master, yet so fascinating (credentialing doctors for privileges in a hospital).
For the last two weeks, I've had one physician director (he's a doctor, but mostly in an administrative role now) email me continuously multiple times per day trying to bully me into doing what he wants rather than what's written in my hospital's Bylaws (our rule book). I've done what I can, within reason, but because I'm still struggling to learn this job, I made a mistake 2 weeks ago. As soon as I realized my mistake, 2 days later, I've been doing what I can to correct it. Problem is, the matter has been out of my hands once I moved it to the Council. The Council doesn't believe this item is a good idea and placed it on hold.
Now I'm getting emails from this director, escalated up to the president, about how I'm not doing my job and I'm personally responsible for affecting patient care. I've talked to my director and the president and the Council leader - none of them blame me, yet I still feel responsible because if I hadn't made my mistake, this item would have been decided and finalized two weeks ago.
Instead, I'm getting phone calls from administration at midnight (which I missed because I was asleep!) which I know are related to this issue. I don't want to go to work and I shouldn't be this stressed out on Christmas Eve.
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Post by mmhmm on Dec 24, 2013 8:34:02 GMT -5
Aww, KaraBoo, hon, I'm sorry you've got additional stress piled on you because of a simple error. We all make mistakes. Don't beat yourself up! Your leadership has supported you, now you have to do the same. You made an error and are working to correct it. Believe me, the doctor who's on your arse has made mistakes too. Trust me on that! Just hold to the bylaws and let the doctor pound sand. This is a difficult time of year, love. While there's much about it that's wonderful, it also raises stress levels. Take some deep breaths and just keep on keepin' on. The "season" will be behind us very soon. Hugs to you and yours!
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Post by Peace77 on Dec 24, 2013 8:46:35 GMT -5
Don't feel bad for missing a phone call. Nobody should get work calls at home unless it's a matter of life and death and it's not. Take several deep breaths and drink some tea. Hugs to you and Merry Christmas.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 24, 2013 8:50:46 GMT -5
Freaking midnight? What assholes. If they'd have woken you up, I'd have been sorely pissed off.
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Post by KaraBoo on Dec 24, 2013 8:51:23 GMT -5
Thank you mmhmm.
I'm just so frustrated at the moment. I've been working for the hospital for 18 years now and take pride in my work. NEVER in that time frame have I had anyone imply that I'm the reason patients aren't getting the care they need. It cuts me to the core - KWIM?
The reality is the physician director is at fault for the demands he has been making and my director, president and Council all know this and they all lay the responsibility back on him. I don't know why I've allowed him to get to me the way he has, but it has and I'll get through it. I just wish it wasn't happening this week.
I hope everyone has a very Merry Christmas!! I love each and every one of you!! Thank you so much for being here and being a part of this community!!
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Post by mmhmm on Dec 24, 2013 8:57:30 GMT -5
Thank you mmhmm. I'm just so frustrated at the moment. I've been working for the hospital for 18 years now and take pride in my work. NEVER in that time frame have I had anyone imply that I'm the reason patients aren't getting the care they need. It cuts me to the core - KWIM? The reality is the physician director is at fault for the demands he has been making and my director, president and Council all know this and they all lay the responsibility back on him. I don't know why I've allowed him to get to me the way he has, but it has and I'll get through it. I just wish it wasn't happening this week. I hope everyone has a very Merry Christmas!! I love each and every one of you!! Thank you so much for being here and being a part of this community!! *chuckle* Then, you've been very fortunate, KaraBoo. I've had doctors less than two inches from my nose, screaming in my face. The fact that their patient is circling the drain is all the fault of the nurse. Yeah, right! I've read the chart, Bozo, and I know what you ordered. Your orders got us here, and the nurse called you three times to be sure that's what you wanted her to do! Got that? Those orders are why your patient is circling the drain! Just try to remember your Physician Director is no more than another human being, despite what he may think. Shine the boy on and just do what you know is right.
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Post by KaraBoo on Dec 24, 2013 8:58:41 GMT -5
One last post and then I'm walking into work.
Peace - the matter is kind of life and death because, without going into detail, it does affect patient care. While I don't care for the patients directly, what I do is vital to ensure the patients have good doctors.
I just called administration back while I was driving in to work. Turns out it was a misdial. They meant to call someone else and apologized. Whew!!! The day is getting better...now to see what my email brings...
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Post by mmhmm on Dec 24, 2013 9:01:58 GMT -5
LOL, KaraBoo! Folks should be beaten for misdials at midnight! You'll be fine, doll. Just picture the Physician Director naked. Even better - picture him in a bright, pink tutu.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 24, 2013 9:37:30 GMT -5
I would repay your son. Especially if you want the kids to cover their own expenses to some degree. I don't know much about cars but am too cheap to repair shocks. seriously? you don't replace shocks in your cars?
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Post by Apple on Dec 27, 2013 11:49:02 GMT -5
I just read a comment on another board from a woman who just paid off the last of a credit card that her ex had run up. It took her four years, and now she can apply that payment to a different card. She said "I'm making progress, even though sometimes I feel like I'm trying to fill in the Grand Canyon using a spork."
Anyway, just wanted to say I think you've been handling everything well. They say January can be a pretty depressing month, but just hang in there!
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Post by KaraBoo on Dec 27, 2013 16:58:04 GMT -5
She said "I'm making progress, even though sometimes I feel like I'm trying to fill in the Grand Canyon using a spork." Anyway, just wanted to say I think you've been handling everything well. They say January can be a pretty depressing month, but just hang in there! Filling the Grand Canyon with a spork - Love it!! That's an apt description! We're doing okay. Not great, but okay and we will make it. DH was able to order shocks for both vehicles, plus brake pads for his truck for less than $400.00 total - yay!! He compared prices and found the exact same brand-name and styles on Amazon for half of the cost of O'Reilly's or Autozone. We're just waiting for them to be delivered now so he can install everything. I thought about posting our woes in song/story format, but haven't had the energy - something like "Twas the Month Before Christmas" or something like that. Just this month, we've had the following happen: Washing machine overflowed - $85 part Roof leaked - still waiting on cost and damage assessment Radiator is leaking on the Suburban - again - I can't remember the cost from the last time we replaced it. Our front door on our house - the handle broke - to the point we could not open the door at all. We have to replace the entire mechanism. I think there were/are couple of other things as well, but I can't remember at the moment and don't feel like looking back to see if I posted about them. We've had positives as well: We paid off the Jared's bill. We have oldest daughter (LaLa) scheduled for her driving test - once she passes then she can get a job as she won't have transportation holding her back any more. My freezer and pantry are full and we have plenty of meals planned out. We're still going to have struggles coming ahead - both with bills and personal. Found out that my stepkids mom has moved in with her fiance as of yesterday and starting tomorrow the kids will only be able to see her for the day, once a weekend. This will have some challenges we will have to deal with - just not sure what yet. I do know that every time she makes a major move like this, we deal with the attitudes and blame - because of course it's our fault the kids are acting out. Anyway - we're doing okay and that's what matters!!
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Dec 27, 2013 17:04:43 GMT -5
That's a bad thing? Biomom is a Class "A" nutjob. I thought the less they saw of her the better. And now she's moving in with a guy who sounds like her soulmate and perfect match. Hey, if they get married, can the EE gang send them a pair of matching broomsticks? Whaddya think?
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Post by KaraBoo on Dec 27, 2013 17:36:47 GMT -5
LOL!! Nancy - matching broomsticks - that's funny!
The kids are affected by the oddest things (actually - usually just SS takes it the hardest, not the girls for some reason). Even though he is 15, he still spirals when things don't go the way BM tells him they are going to go - it's like he's personally failed her somehow and I hurt for him to see him take on the responsibility that is 100% his mom's.
I did talk to him a little this morning about his mom getting married and starting a new chapter in her life. I told him we're happy for her and hope they have a wonderful life together as everyone should be with someone who makes them happy. I also told him that we're here for him and that even though we butt heads, if he'll talk to me about anything that's frustrating him, I will try to help him figure it out. It was a good talk - I hope he opens up to me!
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Dec 28, 2013 12:17:22 GMT -5
LOL!! Nancy - matching broomsticks - that's funny! The kids are affected by the oddest things (actually - usually just SS takes it the hardest, not the girls for some reason). Even though he is 15, he still spirals when things don't go the way BM tells him they are going to go - it's like he's personally failed her somehow and I hurt for him to see him take on the responsibility that is 100% his mom's.I did talk to him a little this morning about his mom getting married and starting a new chapter in her life. I told him we're happy for her and hope they have a wonderful life together as everyone should be with someone who makes them happy. I also told him that we're here for him and that even though we butt heads, if he'll talk to me about anything that's frustrating him, I will try to help him figure it out. It was a good talk - I hope he opens up to me! Of course he spirals out of control: 1) he's 15 and there are hormones involved and probably the biggest factor is 2): biomom is a moron who tells him one thing, does another and has trained him to be the big bad blame monster because she can. Why be an adult and accept responsibility, when you can foist it on your minor kids, who cannot do a damned thing about it - or you? What a top-of-the-line double douchecanoe-dimwit-dingbat she is. Her head and her heart are as empty as a pile of cardboard boxes after Christmas.
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 1, 2014 9:45:21 GMT -5
So, what did you decide to do? Happy 2014!
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Post by KaraBoo on Jan 1, 2014 16:06:18 GMT -5
Happy 2014 Zib!!! And everyone else! We still have some money left ($700), but we've done the following so far: Repaired washing machine - $100 Ordered new shocks for both vehicles - $350 Ordered new brakes for DH's truck - $50 Paid off the Jared's bill - $325 Paid $1000.00 towards another bill Repaired the front door handle - we briefly looked at replacing the door and screen, but decided that what we liked was almost $700.00 as compared to a $35 handle....so we're putting the replacement off for now. I went ahead and paid our house payment with the money as there was an error with my paycheck that shorted me 4 hours regular time and 6 hours overtime. I'm getting the money, but it won't be paid until this Friday. Plus, with DH just starting his current job earlier this year, he doesn't have an vacation time saved up. With the holidays, his work is slow, so he hasn't had full paychecks over the last month. So instead of stressing about paying the bill late, we paid the mortgage - $850 We've been able to pay our bills (except for those couple mentioned in earlier posts), but with the smaller checks this month, it's been tight. DH and I are still talking, but still having issues. Reading Rainyday's thread over on YMOT sounds just like DH and I in a lot of respects, so I'm getting a lot of good ideas and suggestions there. I restart my counseling sessions this Friday and I'll be talking to the counselor about possibly switching as he's so focused on the step-family aspect and not the entire picture, including issues I'm having with DH. Not to totally throw DH under the bus, a lot of the issues are mine and when I point things out to him, he's trying to fix the issues on his side. The problem comes in that I hadn't said anything for the last 10 years and all of a sudden, I'm expecting things to be different. That's not fair to him. Just because I've been thinking about things for months, doesn't mean he's been thinking about the same things. I've been focusing on the things I can change - myself. I'm frustrated with how our house looks - so I'm trying to come up with a better system of keeping it clean (or at least what I can control - with 6 people in this house, it shouldn't all be on me - another thing DH and I are working through). Some projects of mine that have been bothering me for a while, I've finished in the last week - woohoo! I have also gotten rid of things that I haven't used, needed, etc. I'm still trying to pare things down. Things are still a work in process. Some days I wonder why I changed my original screen name - it's still accurate - Not Quite There Yet!
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Post by Apple on Jan 1, 2014 16:19:52 GMT -5
Sounds like you've made some progress. And that's great that your husband can do the repairs (I can repair a lot of stuff, but only the most very basic on cars). Him replacing the shocks saves a ton.
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 1, 2014 16:33:18 GMT -5
We had a poster, he may be gone now. But we did his debt payoff right along with him and he changed his name. Wasn't it INDEBT? Then something else? It was a lot of fun to watch and everyone encouraged him. Just a thought.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 2, 2014 17:44:37 GMT -5
LOL, KaraBoo! Folks should be beaten for misdials at midnight! You'll be fine, doll. Just picture the Physician Director naked. Even better - picture him in a bright, pink tutu. Something the kids had on said something about picture scary people in moose costumes - because everyone looks silly in them. Littlest Pet Shop maybe?
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Post by KaraBoo on Jan 2, 2014 21:04:39 GMT -5
LOL, KaraBoo! Folks should be beaten for misdials at midnight! You'll be fine, doll. Just picture the Physician Director naked. Even better - picture him in a bright, pink tutu. Something the kids had on said something about picture scary people in moose costumes - because everyone looks silly in them. Littlest Pet Shop maybe? LOL!! That's funny Beth! mmhmm - I forgot to tell you this. That day, when I went back into the office, I was thinking about your naked/pink tutu comment regarding the physician director and looked at his file/picture (I wasn't sure what he looked like since he only emails me). He was in a pink shirt with pink tie!!! It was too funny with the pink tutu comment so now I have a complete picture of him!!! Thanks for the laugh!
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Post by mmhmm on Jan 2, 2014 22:52:51 GMT -5
Something the kids had on said something about picture scary people in moose costumes - because everyone looks silly in them. Littlest Pet Shop maybe? LOL!! That's funny Beth! mmhmm - I forgot to tell you this. That day, when I went back into the office, I was thinking about your naked/pink tutu comment regarding the physician director and looked at his file/picture (I wasn't sure what he looked like since he only emails me). He was in a pink shirt with pink tie!!! It was too funny with the pink tutu comment so now I have a complete picture of him!!! Thanks for the laugh! Glad to oblige, Kara. Glad he did, too!
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Post by KaraBoo on Jan 7, 2014 22:25:04 GMT -5
Nothing new to report on the finance side, but I wanted to share some exciting news! There are days I'm still fed up with work and frustrated beyond belief. Then there are days like today. I've been at work for almost 14 hours today - I'm exhausted!! But - there are also silver linings and today also had one of those that has pumped me up! I learned a new process through training at work that will reduce my work paperwork by probably 80%. I am so happy to learn this new process and my office will only be the 2nd (that I know of) in the system that is using it consistently. With this now in place, the only paper I will be dealing with is whatever comes over the fax or if I need to print something. Otherwise - it's all electronic. THAT. IS. AWESOME!!!! After begging to be taught and set up on this process for months now, I'm amazed at how simple the system is. I was originally told that it was difficult, cumbersome, and the physicians I work with would balk and I would be fighting with them to embrace the new way. It is anything but! I trained one physician tonight (who's at least 60 if not older - typically the type of doctor who resists change) and he commented on how easy it was and couldn't wait to try it on his own next month. He stated it may take him a month or two to get it all down, but didn't see any issues with the process. I think the person who was actively discouraging me from using this process is the one with the issue! What's sad is the person discouraging me also does a similar job to me. I don't understand why they're so against it - it will seriously improve productivity, and in the process, improve relationships with the physicians and other departments. As I am a one-person office (technically), the fact that I was able to finalize 8 files in just a few hours as opposed to several days is a HUGE time-saver. I will have time to work on projects that I never seem to have time for - this is a good thing! Anyway - I'm stoked and had to share with someone! You guys are it since DH couldn't care less.
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Post by justme on Jan 7, 2014 22:59:08 GMT -5
Ahahaha, this reminded me of a short that has a guy that looks kind of like that dancing to the "song" of a car alarm. It's the national song/dance where (s)he is from. The guy is called Anna Phaylaxis. www.imdb.com/title/tt2781956/ I wish I could find the video I could link to. It's truly hilarious.
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Post by taz157 on Jan 8, 2014 2:39:09 GMT -5
Great news on the time saver with the job!
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