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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2013 15:36:08 GMT -5
I guess somehow we all lost it along the way.....
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Post by hoops902 on May 3, 2013 15:38:02 GMT -5
For my random act of kindness I'm going to wait outside the senior prom this year and offer all the drunk 18 year old girls a ride home. Apparently this kind of stuff is kind rather than creepy.
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2013 15:39:21 GMT -5
For my random act of kindness I'm going to wait outside the senior prom this year and offer all the drunk 18 year old girls a ride home. Apparently this kind of stuff is kind rather than creepy. If you are sincere about what you are saying that will be an wonderful things. You might save few lives.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on May 3, 2013 15:53:13 GMT -5
I find it sad that this world has gotten so narcissistic and cruel that dancing with somebody who isn't gorgeous is considered an act of kindness that it has to be written about. Don't get me wrong - that was very sweet but it should be common and not so rare that it inspired an article about it. I do many things that are random acts of kindness in various forms. I admit it makes me happy to both give them and receive them. I guess that makes me selfish regardless. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/shucks2.png)
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2013 15:58:26 GMT -5
I do many things that are random acts of kindness in various forms. I admit it makes me happy to both give them and receive them. I guess that makes me selfish regardless. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/shucks2.png) I am same ways as you are it make me feel really good about for doing that. But I think Virgil's right on the point. I have been receiving end many times in prior. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png)
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Post by tskeeter on May 3, 2013 16:05:22 GMT -5
Hey, it's the little things. The guy who helped me get a stuck car out of the hole a wheel had dropped into. The person who picked me up from the side of the road on a cold, rainy day when I had a flat tire. The guy who made sure that I had a chance to earn some money every break from college. The older co-worker who made sure that my snot nosed kid self knew what deadlines were coming up that nobody else thought to tell me about. Each and every one contributed a piece of who I became.
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Post by happyscooter on May 3, 2013 16:10:29 GMT -5
Dang people. We went from doing something nice to hitting on unsuspecting girls. All on the first page. OK, I was 18 and he was 24. He was a family friend, I didn't have a date and he went with me. Yeah, I guess I was a loser. But I had the best looking date there.
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Post by mrsdutt on May 3, 2013 16:10:52 GMT -5
From random act of kindness to pedophile in less than 10 posts. Nice work, people! ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/tongue2.png) [img]http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/rofl.gif[/img]
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Post by hoops902 on May 3, 2013 16:12:32 GMT -5
Dang people. We went from doing something nice to hitting on unsuspecting girls. Allon the first page. OK, I was 18 and he was 24. He was a family friend, I didn't have a date and he went with me. Yeah, I guess I was a loser. But I had the best looking date there. Q:There is a blonde, a brunette, and a redhead, all 3rd graders. Who's the hottest? A:The blonde, she's 19.
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2013 16:17:17 GMT -5
Sorry for the delete.
I am not comfortable leveling myself in public message board.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on May 3, 2013 16:35:36 GMT -5
I find it sad that this world has gotten so narcissistic and cruel that dancing with somebody who isn't gorgeous is considered an act of kindness that it has to be written about. Don't get me wrong - that was very sweet but it should be common and not so rare that it inspired an article about it. I do many things that are random acts of kindness in various forms. I admit it makes me happy to both give them and receive them. I guess that makes me selfish regardless. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/shucks2.png) It's not that a mundane kindness "has to be written about". The point is that many of us take the impact for granted. I've read innumerable articles, books, etc. written by individuals who were social outliers and who received no concessions at all. It takes courage to go up to somebody you don't know well and invite them to dance, especially when you don't feel a natural inclination to do so. You're worried about causing offense. You're worried about how other people will interpret your act. You're worried about putting yourself in an awkward social situation. But when all is said and done, you're the one who steps out of your shell to be sociable with somebody lacking social prominence (and often, social grace). That isn't automatic. It certainly isn't guaranteed that somebody will always fulfill the role, and saying "it should be common" doesn't make it so. And what I see this author saying is, "I'm glad I had the courage because I see now that the smallest kindness on my part is the only thing that's endured through time." I do think that's worth writing about. ![](http://i239.photobucket.com/albums/ff155/JiminiChristmas/smileys/hug.gif)
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Post by Peace Of Mind on May 3, 2013 16:42:56 GMT -5
Not me. I will talk to anybody and ask anybody to dance with me so I guess I just don't think it's article worthy. I also compliment strangers wherever I am. I totally embarrass DH all the time. Bonus! ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/grin.png)
But I do get your point. ![](http://i239.photobucket.com/albums/ff155/JiminiChristmas/smileys/hug.gif)
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Post by Virgil Showlion on May 3, 2013 17:10:46 GMT -5
Not me. I will talk to anybody and ask anybody to dance with me so I guess I just don't think it's article worthy. I also compliment strangers wherever I am. I totally embarrass DH all the time. Bonus! ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/grin.png)
But I do get your point. ![](http://i239.photobucket.com/albums/ff155/JiminiChristmas/smileys/hug.gif) More people than not on the "Hugs" thread claimed that they can't stand being hugged. A majority of respondents here claimed they resent people saying "I'll say a prayer for you." Many publications now claim that ice-breaking questions such as "Where are you from?", "What do you do for a living?", etc. are offensive and inappropriate. Sex and sexual perversions have so deeply infected our society that many kind gestures considered acceptable even 30 years ago are unthinkable today because of the attached stigmas. Scams are rampant, and public skepticism has soared to reflect that. And I've seen people take offense at just about every kind, well-meaning action under the sun. I won't say "It's hard to be kind.", but it's definitely a risk to be kind. Hence consider it a blessing that dancing and talking and complimenting others come naturally to you. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/thumbsup.png)
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Post by Peace Of Mind on May 3, 2013 17:14:45 GMT -5
Not me. I will talk to anybody and ask anybody to dance with me so I guess I just don't think it's article worthy. I also compliment strangers wherever I am. I totally embarrass DH all the time. Bonus! ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/grin.png)
But I do get your point. ![](http://i239.photobucket.com/albums/ff155/JiminiChristmas/smileys/hug.gif) More people than not on the "Hugs" thread claimed that they can't stand being hugged. A majority of respondents here claimed they resent people saying "I'll say a prayer for you." Many publications now claim that ice-breaking questions such as "Where are you from?", "What do you do for a living?", etc. are offensive and inappropriate. Sex and sexual perversions have so deeply infected our society that many kind gestures considered acceptable even 30 years ago are unthinkable today because of the attached stigmas. Scams are rampant, and public skepticism has soared to reflect that. And I've seen people take offense at just about every kind, well-meaning action under the sun. I won't say "It's hard to be kind.", but it's definitely a risk to be kind. Hence consider it a blessing that dancing and talking and complimenting others come naturally to you. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/thumbsup.png) I get great pleasure at annoying people so I don't care what their issues are. I don't care what they do for a living unless they are complaining about their job or need advice and I'm not a religious nut. Sexual innuendos are awesome and people here can put me on ignore and people in RL can stop calling me. Too many friends exhaust me any way. I won't change who I am unless I'm actually hurting somebody so they will have to get over it. <<hugs Virgil>> Want to dance? ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/grin.png)
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Post by Virgil Showlion on May 3, 2013 17:36:10 GMT -5
More people than not on the "Hugs" thread claimed that they can't stand being hugged. A majority of respondents here claimed they resent people saying "I'll say a prayer for you." Many publications now claim that ice-breaking questions such as "Where are you from?", "What do you do for a living?", etc. are offensive and inappropriate. Sex and sexual perversions have so deeply infected our society that many kind gestures considered acceptable even 30 years ago are unthinkable today because of the attached stigmas. Scams are rampant, and public skepticism has soared to reflect that. And I've seen people take offense at just about every kind, well-meaning action under the sun. I won't say "It's hard to be kind.", but it's definitely a risk to be kind. Hence consider it a blessing that dancing and talking and complimenting others come naturally to you. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/thumbsup.png) I get great pleasure at annoying people so I don't care what their issues are. I don't care what they do for a living unless they are complaining about their job or need advice and I'm not a religious nut. Sexual innuendos are awesome and people here can put me on ignore and people in RL can stop calling me. Too many friends exhaust me any way. I won't change who I am unless I'm actually hurting somebody so they will have to get over it. <<hugs Virgil>> Want to dance? ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/grin.png) I'm an introvert, and one of those people who would rather chew rocks than go up to somebody I don't know well and ask them to dance, especially if I was doing so as an act of charity. If the world were full of Virgils, the gesture described in the OP would be an extremely big deal. If I felt it was ethical (and I don't), I would rather pay a friend $100.00 to ask "Awkward Susie" to dance than do so myself. That's one of the reasons I can sympathize with the author's message.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on May 3, 2013 17:43:49 GMT -5
Was that a no? ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/rofl.gif)
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Post by tloonya on May 3, 2013 18:00:17 GMT -5
dang - can't people be nice to others and be happy about being nice to others?! ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/huh.gif) and Loony is killin me today! ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/rofl.gif) can't people be nice to others and be happy about being nice to others and shut ta fuck up about UNLESS they had actually saved a human life!!! Actually those who saved human life never speak up! .4 hours ago Miss Margarita said:What the what? Read Reply #1, then Reply #4, then my reply, and it will all make sense. I am also very curious why those older women had tears of joy in their eyes because someone shut the door of the poty with drunk screamer inside? Were they supposed to be reacting this...tragic ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/huh.gif) 'smiling, tears of joy in their eyes' ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/huh.gif) ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/huh.gif) ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/huh.gif) ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/huh.gif) ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/huh.gif) ??
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Post by Tennesseer on May 3, 2013 18:07:08 GMT -5
Loony-does your store sell the crack pipes?
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Post by tloonya on May 3, 2013 18:12:40 GMT -5
I find it sad that this world has gotten so narcissistic and cruel that dancing with somebody who isn't gorgeous is considered an act of kindness that it has to be written about. Don't get me wrong - that was very sweet but it should be common and not so rare that it inspired an article about it. I do many things that are random acts of kindness in various forms. I admit it makes me happy to both give them and receive them. I guess that makes me selfish regardless. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/shucks2.png) EXACTLY!!! Have everyone read it ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/huh.gif) Thanks, POM! We, ugly girls understand each other and united we stand! ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/wink.png) P.S. Wait until someone will post 'I held door for a woman and now she thinks I am ready to marry her. Help!'
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Post by tloonya on May 3, 2013 18:14:08 GMT -5
Loony-does your store sell the crack pipes? No. Why, can't you google one around your area?
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2013 18:46:57 GMT -5
Loony-does your store sell the crack pipes? No. Why, can't you google one around your area? Have a nice evening! tloonya ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png)
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Post by tloonya on May 3, 2013 18:53:07 GMT -5
No. Why, can't you google one around your area? Have a nice evening! tloonya ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png) Bird!!!!!! I hope you not googling it...no, don't do it. Good girl ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/grin.png)
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2013 18:57:16 GMT -5
I got you! tloonya ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/grin.png) Have a good one.
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2013 19:47:02 GMT -5
I find it sad that this world has gotten so narcissistic and cruel that dancing with somebody who isn't gorgeous is considered an act of kindness that it has to be written about. Don't get me wrong - that was very sweet but it should be common and not so rare that it inspired an article about it. I do many things that are random acts of kindness in various forms. I admit it makes me happy to both give them and receive them. I guess that makes me selfish regardless. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/shucks2.png) EXACTLY!!! Have everyone read it ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/huh.gif) Thanks, POM! We, ugly girls understand each other and united we stand! ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/wink.png) P.S. Wait until someone will post 'I held door for a woman and now she thinks I am ready to marry her. Help!' ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/grin.png)
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on May 3, 2013 20:00:28 GMT -5
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Post by tloonya on May 3, 2013 20:12:25 GMT -5
May 3, 2013 21:00:28 GMT -4 GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl said: May 3, 2013 19:07:08 GMT -4 Tennesseer said: Loony-does your store sell the crack pipes?
(DH just had to check on me -- I am laughing so hard I am crying.)
As long as you not peeing at the computer - its ok!
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Post by tloonya on May 3, 2013 21:03:01 GMT -5
Introverts...outroverts...whatever...
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Post by Peace Of Mind on May 3, 2013 21:04:41 GMT -5
Just posting emoticons hugging and smiling is not communicating people!!! Make it stop!!!! ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/rofl.gif)
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Post by toomuchreality on May 4, 2013 7:38:19 GMT -5
Loony-does your store sell the crack pipes? ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/rofl.gif) (DH just had to check on me -- I am laughing so hard I am crying.) ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/yeahthat.gif) I laughed too! No offense intended loony. I promise!
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Post by Virgil Showlion on May 5, 2013 5:38:23 GMT -5
I'm an introvert, and one of those people who would rather chew rocks than go up to somebody I don't know well and ask them to dance, especially if I was doing so as an act of charity. If the world were full of Virgils, the gesture described in the OP would be an extremely big deal. If I felt it was ethical (and I don't), I would rather pay a friend $100.00 to ask "Awkward Susie" to dance than do so myself. That's one of the reasons I can sympathize with the author's message. It's just a dance though man...do you feel ~that~ much better than awkward suzie that it feels like an act of charity just to dance with her? Years ago - before we had kids and I had a life - we used to go out dancing every weekend, and honestly even "awkward Suzie" is just a person bro. People are so hung up on appearances. You're making the same mistake as Swamp and Thyme in presuming it's a matter of superiority. The issue is one of familiarity. Dancing (for me especially) is only enjoyable given strong familiarity with my dance partner. Social outliers are outliers precisely because they aren't socially compatible with their peers. At events such as proms, they'll find themselves lacking for dance partners if they haven't established strong social relationships with any of the other people attending. It's not a matter of people disliking the idea of dancing with a "social inferior"; it's that most people lack a natural inclination to dance with somebody they don't know nor feel a social or physical attraction to. Observant people like the author in the OP will notice when an outlier is being shut out of a social gala and make an effort to include them. The act is compelled by the desire to make a fellow human being feel more welcome and included. That said, there is risk involved (all of the factors I listed above) and for many of us there is heavy discomfort involved. I do not (emphasis: not) like dancing with people I don't know well. If the author is anything like me, putting up with the risk and the discomfort of including somebody is a highly selfless act. It's far more than a perfunctory kindness like holding a door open. I was explaining that to POM because for her, dancing with unfamiliar people isn't a big deal.
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