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Post by Deleted on Apr 16, 2013 16:17:30 GMT -5
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Post by muttleynfelix on Apr 16, 2013 16:18:52 GMT -5
Yeah, that is essentially my house, but I think my DS is older and I don't care if he eats mud and we have yet to figure out how to get him to stop drinking the bathwater ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/sick.png) (well shower water since he showers with us). My MIL calls him sensitive. I call it wanting to bang my head against the wall. Last summer I called my Grandma to wish her a happy birthday and she told me I needed to be "gentle" with DS because he was crying so loud when we asked him to clean up his toys. I asked her what she thought we were doing to him because we weren't touching him. Sure sounded like she thought we were abusing him. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/huh.gif)
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Post by Firebird on Apr 16, 2013 16:23:34 GMT -5
muttleynfelix (and raeoflyte) I keep meaning to ask you both this question - do you find yourself buying lots of new stuff for your little girls, or are you able to reuse most of your baby stuff from before even though it's "boy" stuff? Just curious. It's not even funny how torn I am on the issue of Kid #2, but I'm interested to know how much new stuff you needed when your second child is a different gender from your first. (Sorry for the tangent - but oh well, it's a dying thread anyway ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png) )
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Post by muttleynfelix on Apr 16, 2013 16:57:47 GMT -5
muttleynfelix (and raeoflyte) I keep meaning to ask you both this question - do you find yourself buying lots of new stuff for your little girls, or are you able to reuse most of your baby stuff from before even though it's "boy" stuff? Just curious. It's not even funny how torn I am on the issue of Kid #2, but I'm interested to know how much new stuff you needed when your second child is a different gender from your first. (Sorry for the tangent - but oh well, it's a dying thread anyway ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png) ) I didn't end up keeping all that much stuff in sizes 3 months to 9 months. A lot the things I had were very very "boy" oriented. I did keep most of DS's sleepers (I say most because we had about a dozen in sizes 6months and 9 months, so I did give some of those away). I kept a lot more 12 mo+ clothes because it was more t-shirt and jeans type stuff that I can see putting a girl in. I have a mother who loves to shop and it is something my Grandma and Great Aunt (at nearly 89 and 86 respectively) can still go shopping if my mom takes them and drops them off at the door. They buy a LOT of things for DD. Like her super frilly Easter dress. I've also had people from church decide they wanted to go shopping for a girl and bought DD a half dozen outfits! ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/shocked.gif) I do spend a LOT of time looking online at baby girl clothes. A lot more than DS, but so far I've managed to restrain myself and only used the gift card my company gave me (and I've only used half of it). DH just hit the consignment sale for me last week and bought some necessities (I was out of town during the days it was going on at a conference). My mom also hit some garage sales last year. I am having a very hard time resisting the very pretty bows and eventually did not resist as I bought some for our photos last weekend ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png) (a preview is up on facebook from the photographer BTW ... I'm a little peeved that the preview is selective color and not full color or full BW...oh well). So how much new stuff? Some clothes and a double stroller. If we go back to cloth diapering, some new diapers and new wet bags. Other than that, not really a whole lot. We traded our old guest bed (full size) with my sister for my nephew's twin size bed, converted the crib back into a crib and got another dresser from my late Grandma's estate. I'm not sure on the clothes issues how it would work having a girl first. Part of me thinks that I've gone more nuts with clothes and cutesy stuff because I had a boy first and I found out how unfun they are to try to shop for and how much adorable stuff there is for girls out there. And also because this is my last baby. So, I think I've gone a little more nuts because of that as well. And I say I've gone nuts even though my mom and Grandma are the ones buying things is because I actually picked out the super girly frilly dresses that they bought. I was looking online when my parents first came down and said OMG how cute and my mom literally went out that day and bought one of the dresses I was looking at online.
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Post by raeoflyte on Apr 16, 2013 17:03:44 GMT -5
We haven't bought much girl stuff, but we have received a ton of it, so... A lot will depend on how you dress the kids. If your daughter is in pink and purple all the time you're probably going to buy a lot of boy clothes, and vice versa.
Hanna Anderson has nice primary color clothing that can go either way. Pretty good quality too so I think they'll stand up to a second well. It's next to impossible to find cute gender neutral clothes at places like Carter's. (And by gender neutral I mean not pink princess, or daddy's little tough guy stuff).
Non clothing items we are reusing everything.
Family size is tough. I can't imagine that this is my last baby, but realistically a 3rd isn't happening.
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Post by Firebird on Apr 16, 2013 17:12:16 GMT -5
Um, does the board suddenly look freaky to anyone else? Or is it just me?
ETA: Just me, and it appears to have been temporary. Phew.
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Post by swamp on Apr 16, 2013 17:21:10 GMT -5
muttleynfelix (and raeoflyte) I keep meaning to ask you both this question - do you find yourself buying lots of new stuff for your little girls, or are you able to reuse most of your baby stuff from before even though it's "boy" stuff? Just curious. It's not even funny how torn I am on the issue of Kid #2, but I'm interested to know how much new stuff you needed when your second child is a different gender from your first. (Sorry for the tangent - but oh well, it's a dying thread anyway ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png) ) I tried to reuse boy stuff for DD, but it was the wrong season so I had to buy new clothes for her.
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 16, 2013 17:23:52 GMT -5
No, it's freaky.
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Post by tcu2003 on Apr 16, 2013 18:08:22 GMT -5
Firebird - if you decide to have another and it's a boy, you might get lucky and get some hand-me-downs. One of my friends decided they were done after 3 boys, so she gave me a ton of 0-12M size clothes. Another friend just found out she's pregnant with a girl (and they're done after this one), so she had her husband bring over tubs of clothes from 9M through 3T from their son, so I'm set for a while. I purchased a few things here and there that I like, but I've spent hardly any money on baby clothes so far.
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Post by raeoflyte on Apr 16, 2013 19:37:02 GMT -5
Seasonal differences are a b!tch.
And while your mileage will vary, but I am loving having 2 right now and seeing how much my kids like each other. The baby is enthralled with ds, and he loves to make her laugh.
Once the baby is mobile I'm sure everything will change.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Apr 17, 2013 7:28:13 GMT -5
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Apr 17, 2013 8:55:16 GMT -5
I would love to find gender neutral PJs. The fleece sleepers are $15-20 each depending on where you get them. Would be nice to just get some cute ones that all of our kiddos could wear since those don't get worn out as much as play clothes.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Apr 17, 2013 9:54:16 GMT -5
One of the last times I flew, I was the aisle seat and the only 2 empty seats on the flight were next to me. Coming down the aisle was a woman carrying a baby and a toddler. My stomach sunk. This was not going to be a short flight (unlike the Louisville-Atlanta leg that I flew with the screaming triplets behind me) but Atlanta to Seattle. Toddler sat in the window seat, woman sat next to me in the middle with the baby. She was not tiny, but the worst I got was an occasionally baby foot in the arm. Not a biggie. This woman was organized within an inch of her life. She had given the toddler an early Christmas present, a portable DVD player with a stash of her favorite shows AND a back up battery. Not sure what she did with the infant, but he (for the most part) was totally quiet. If a dose of benedryl did it, God bless benedryl because the either dozed or ate the entire flight. This woman did an awesome job with those two on the flight and I did tell her so.
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Post by Firebird on Apr 17, 2013 11:19:29 GMT -5
raeoflyte, I can't wait to see all the photos from your family session - the two teasers you posted are precious! Your DS is so adorable with his baby sis. (Man, I want another kid SO BAD. And also, I DON'T want another kid EQUALLY as bad!!! What am I going to do?!?!? ) The Walk of the Penguin Mich, it was nice of you to compliment that woman on her child-wrangling ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png) I'm sure she appreciated the kind words.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 17, 2013 11:36:46 GMT -5
Man, I want another kid SO BAD. And also, I DON'T want another kid EQUALLY as bad!!! What am I going to do?!?!?
Coin toss?
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Post by Firebird on Apr 17, 2013 12:05:13 GMT -5
It might come to that! I've never in my life felt so ambivalent about anything. I literally go back and forth like 20 times a day. Talk about a tough decision - and we're not even going to start making it until Babybird is a year old! I'm not even supposed to be thinking about it right now, but I can't help it. It's on my mind all the time.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 17, 2013 12:13:17 GMT -5
Think about it all you want, it isn't like you're doing anything wrong.
I'm 95% sure I don't want another one but sometimes I reconsider. DH and I agreed to table the topic till my Mirena expires in a couple of years since the conversation rarely goes well when we have it right now. It gives me space to think and we'll have to make decisions at that time anyhow.
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Post by swamp on Apr 17, 2013 12:14:15 GMT -5
I wanted one. I have two. YMMV.
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Post by Firebird on Apr 17, 2013 12:15:42 GMT -5
Think about it all you want, it isn't like you're doing anything wrong.
True. I think the reason it's so hard on me right now is because I'm so afraid to do the wrong thing. Only there's no way to know in advance what the wrong thing is, so in the end it's just a huge gamble. Which was fine the first time, but we have so much to lose now.
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Post by vonna on Apr 17, 2013 12:17:37 GMT -5
I wanted one. I have two. YMMV. And I wanted four. I have two. Life happens!!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 17, 2013 12:22:56 GMT -5
I want to punch people in the face when they tell me we would "make it work", but in reality I know that we would if I found myself pregnant today. However the odds of that are slim. I do not have a burning desire to have another childs o I am not all that interested in "making it work" . The trade-offs aren't worth it to me at this time.
If they were then we'd find a way to "Make it work".
Which I get sounds like a gross over simplification but that's really what it boils down to for me.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2013 12:29:47 GMT -5
I was ambivalent after two. We didn't have more, I'm good with it. If we'd had more, I'm sure I'd be good with it. I dont think you get many regrets with ambivalent. If you find yourself in a year with a burning desire, go with that. Otherwise, let fate and life and whatnot have a little space and time, see what happens and enjoy the day. There is no 'right or wrong' here... Lots of ways to make a happy, successful life...
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Post by Firebird on Apr 17, 2013 12:53:18 GMT -5
There is no 'right or wrong' here... Lots of ways to make a happy, successful life...oped, you're so right. So, so right. I needed to hear that. NomoreDramaQ1015, you're bang on too. No one should try to talk anyone else into having a baby (other than maybe their spouse and even that's pretty iffy in my book). Never feel guilty for having the family size that's right for you. There's nothing wrong with being or having an only child - I can say that with complete honesty and I absolutely mean it. The ONLY reason I'm struggling so much with this is my personal hangup, and I know that. If the actual desire for another baby never comes to me (and sometimes I think I do have that but it's so hard to distinguish from "desire for Babybird to have sibling"), then I'll accept that. I'm not going to have a baby just to cater to some misplaced childhood desire for a sibling of my own. That would be ridiculous. It's not happening unless we want a new baby just as much as we wanted Babybird.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Apr 17, 2013 12:59:33 GMT -5
For DS's first year, thinking about having another was torture (undiagnosed PPD). We knew in our hearts that we did truly want 2 kids, so it was just a matter when the timing would be right. Around the time DS was 1.5, it wasn't so scary and at 1 yr 10 months we pulled the goalie. Surprisingly, it took 4 months to get pregnant the second time around. So my kids are 3 years apart. To me, having 2 is actually easier than one. For my DH, having 2 is harder than 1. Anyway, bottom line is there is not reason to decide now if/when you are going to have another. You and your hubby are really young. Your baby is still a baby (and will be for a long while despite what it appears, a 2 year old is still a baby, not a newborn, but a baby nonetheless).
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Post by Firebird on Apr 17, 2013 15:04:41 GMT -5
Thanks, muttleynfelix. You're absolutely right, we have plenty of time to ponder this and there's no need to rush. I have a tendency to dive into things headfirst without ever looking back. When I get an idea in my head, I want to act on it right away. My history with DH is a prime example of this - our relationship has been one milestone after another, all in very short order. We got together in late 2009, moved in together in March of 2010, were engaged in April of 2011, married in October of 2011, and got Babybird in October of 2012. (Not that I made those decisions unilaterally, mind you - DH wanted all of this just as much as I did. But the lightning-quick succession of everything was pretty much my doing.) After a crazy ride like that, not only is it totally reasonable to take a year or two to just catch our breath and savor the (very nice) life we have right now - it's unquestionably the right thing to do I have to fight my natural inclination to hurry up and "finish" our family. But I know that taking our time on this decision is the ONLY way to feel good about it. There is absolutely no rush, and putting pressure on myself to decide RIGHT NOW is super unhelpful. I keep telling myself that but, you know...
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Post by Firebird on Apr 17, 2013 15:18:20 GMT -5
P.S. Your family photos are awesome as well!
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Post by 973beachbum on Apr 17, 2013 16:13:12 GMT -5
For the record one of the reasons is " We wouldn’t let him drink whiskey." ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/shocked.gif) How many people here wouldn't cry if they were not allowed to drink whiskey or some other booze?
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Post by raeoflyte on Apr 17, 2013 17:30:30 GMT -5
raeoflyte, I can't wait to see all the photos from your family session - the two teasers you posted are precious! Your DS is so adorable with his baby sis. Thanks. ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/smiley.png) he is usually very sweet and 100% ham.
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Post by Tennesseer on Apr 18, 2013 11:11:44 GMT -5
Maybe airports and commercial airplanes should post this sign. ![](http://blu.stb.s-msn.com/i/DA/A098A5AED1AFC6623E2C14B89C3F2D_w320_m5_criSWqwiY.jpg)
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2013 14:35:46 GMT -5
I think don't have any etiquette problem if you take your kids on an airplane, as long as they don't join the mile high club ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/wink.png)
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