Chocolate Lover
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Oct 31, 2012 14:02:22 GMT -5
He's fairly expendable ETA: I didn't work nearly as hard getting him into the world as I did the kids and all...
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Post by kgb18 on Oct 31, 2012 14:09:17 GMT -5
It's an ongoing issue with us. I just can't make him get it. At this point talking about it with him is sort of like Now that DD is getting older, she's starting to get upset when he leaves to go on his hunting and fishing trips. I'm hoping maybe that will have some effect on him when she starts saying stuff. (Note: I don't say stuff to her to prompt what she says. I'm not trying to use her in this situation.)
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Oct 31, 2012 14:17:29 GMT -5
If he doesn't get it, maybe the old just do it and let him deal method will get it through. He gets home (when he's not on an odd shift, of course) and you hand her over and say see ya and leave. ;D
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Post by swamp on Oct 31, 2012 14:18:52 GMT -5
I'd at least give him a week's notice. And then do it. They may not eat what you want to feed them and they'll be wearing weird things, but whatever, they'll live.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Oct 31, 2012 14:20:13 GMT -5
For me, it'd entirely depend on how many times we've had the conversation if I gave notice or not. But I've been called mean before.
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Post by andi9899 on Oct 31, 2012 14:47:47 GMT -5
I'm getting to this point and find that I'd rather stay home most of the time anyway. I'm used to it now. It's pretty weird. I used to be a party girl and then had to stop when I had kids. Now that the kids have a life, I'm needing to get one of my own.
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Post by sunbee on Oct 31, 2012 16:16:24 GMT -5
What I think about childless people is directly related to how they treat me and my children. If a person is a jerk, they're a jerk. Calling someone with children a breeder is rude. Letting your kids behave badly is rude. That said, if my youngest is screaming I can guarantee you I'm in the check-out aisle trying to pay and get out of the store as fast as I can. Why she objects to checking-out, who knows, but it's non-optional when shopping.
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 31, 2012 18:03:42 GMT -5
Duct tape works for screamers! ;D
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Post by doxieluvr on Oct 31, 2012 21:08:18 GMT -5
If he doesn't get it, maybe the old just do it and let him deal method will get it through. He gets home (when he's not on an odd shift, of course) and you hand her over and say see ya and leave. ;D This does not work! I come home to find that the kids have been left with a neighbor and he is out hunting. I hate to utilize neighbors unless it is a true emergency. Hunting does not fall under that category.
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Post by doxieluvr on Oct 31, 2012 21:17:08 GMT -5
What I think about childless people is directly related to how they treat me and my children. If a person is a jerk, they're a jerk. Calling someone with children a breeder is rude. Letting your kids behave badly is rude. That said, if my youngest is screaming I can guarantee you I'm in the check-out aisle trying to pay and get out of the store as fast as I can. Why she objects to checking-out, who knows, but it's non-optional when shopping. I use to be the person that would complain about children misbehaving, as my daughter was a well behaved child. i could take her anywhere. we left a few stores in a hurry a few times, but not many. My son is a whole different story. He is the kid screaming, throwing plates clear across rooms, climbing out of shopping carts/highchairs, grabbing heavy objects out of cart and throwing them at people.He is thrilled when we walk out of wherever he does not want to be. I now just conduct my business with him screaming and carrying on. If not I never can get anything done. And I am super strict with discipline, I just can't whip him into behaving. If he wants to be somewhere, he is a perfect angel. It is just the other 98% of the places.
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 1, 2012 7:32:15 GMT -5
So glad I live nowhere near you. That's just BS on behavior.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Nov 1, 2012 9:21:24 GMT -5
Wow. Make your douchebag husband watch the kid, or make him do the errands while you stay home with the child. There is absolutely no reason why you should be subjecting other people to that behavior.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2012 9:46:01 GMT -5
My kids are far from angels but c'mon! He's 2? Give him a toy to play with while he's belted in the shopping cart.
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 1, 2012 9:55:51 GMT -5
I would really enjoy store owners asking people with out of control children to actually leave instead of everyone suffering silently because someone who lacks parenting skills wants to ruin it for all.
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Post by doxieluvr on Nov 1, 2012 10:00:55 GMT -5
Wow. Make your douchebag husband watch the kid, or make him do the errands while you stay home with the child. There is absolutely no reason why you should be subjecting other people to that behavior. He has to learn to go out in public. Second, if I waited until Dh can watch him, we would never get errands done. As it is today, he wont even be home from work until Saturday. I expect him to go hunting saturday afternoon.
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Post by doxieluvr on Nov 1, 2012 10:03:05 GMT -5
My kids are far from angels but c'mon! He's 2? Give him a toy to play with while he's belted in the shopping cart. He would use said toy to beam someone in the back of the head.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2012 10:04:34 GMT -5
Make sure it's a soft one then!
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2012 10:05:48 GMT -5
And yet again we find doxie in a sucky situation that is completely out of her control. YOU ARE THE PARENT! If he is throwing things you need to keep stopping him until he gets it!!!!!!!!
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Post by doxieluvr on Nov 1, 2012 10:08:25 GMT -5
Make sure it's a soft one then! I dont even want him throwing a soft one! The last couple weeks I have been giving him a snack cup with cookies and m&ms. He eats then chucks the cup, if I do not grab it as he is finishing it. I give him an iphone in restaurants and he will watch the disney channel for a little while. He is just a tough kid.
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Post by doxieluvr on Nov 1, 2012 10:11:05 GMT -5
And yet again we find doxie in a sucky situation that is completely out of her control. YOU ARE THE PARENT! If he is throwing things you need to keep stopping him until he gets it!!!!!!!! How? I have spanked, smacked his hand, told him no, timeout, mean voice, etc. I might get him to where his eyes tear up but he never learns to stop.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2012 10:14:21 GMT -5
Well you don't give up, that's for damn sure!
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Post by doxieluvr on Nov 1, 2012 10:18:51 GMT -5
Well you don't give up, that's for damn sure! Oh well I wont do that. I really have no patience for unruly kids which is probably why I am being punished with this one.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Nov 1, 2012 11:22:55 GMT -5
The kid has plenty of time to learn how to behave in public. You don't need to subject others around you to his behavior. If he can't behave at the supermarket, he doesn't go. If he can't behave in a resturant, he doesn't go.
As our child's comprehension skills have improved we've gradually started taking her places again, starting small with short errands and stuff. If she can't behave we remove her from the situation.
All you are doing is creating suffering for everyone around you and claiming you are justified in doing so because the kid needs to "learn how ot behave".
If he was learning, he wouldn't behave that way.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Nov 1, 2012 11:43:22 GMT -5
If he doesn't get it, maybe the old just do it and let him deal method will get it through. He gets home (when he's not on an odd shift, of course) and you hand her over and say see ya and leave. ;D This does not work! I come home to find that the kids have been left with a neighbor and he is out hunting. I hate to utilize neighbors unless it is a true emergency. Hunting does not fall under that category. He'd only do it once. Of course I made it real clear up front before kids that he would take care of his kids, it's not babysitting and I am not dragging them everywhere just because he's too whatever. (scared, lazy, inept-he'll learn)
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Nov 1, 2012 12:41:07 GMT -5
Wow. Make your douchebag husband watch the kid, or make him do the errands while you stay home with the child. There is absolutely no reason why you should be subjecting other people to that behavior. He has to learn to go out in public. Second, if I waited until Dh can watch him, we would never get errands done. As it is today, he wont even be home from work until Saturday. I expect him to go hunting saturday afternoon. YOU are the parent, so it is YOUR job to keep your child under control. If he is not under control, then do the rest of the store a favor and leave until he is. Did you ever consider that YOUR actions are what's giving the rest of the people with children such a bad name, even though their kids are angels?
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 1, 2012 12:54:51 GMT -5
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Post by sunbee on Nov 1, 2012 13:00:26 GMT -5
Well, my checkout line screamer is all of thirteen months--and doesn't redirect. I had no clue a baby could be like this--we were at piano lessons for 90 minutes (2 students) and fifteen minutes into the first lesson she spotted an unplugged space heater. For the rest of the lessons she chased that space heater every time I set her down and watched it when I didn't, ignoring toys, books, and brothers. She didn't give up on it until she was crying about being put in her car seat. Anybody else have a kid like that? (My older kids could be redirected at this age.) She's anti checkout, anti car seat, and anti bath. Good thing she's the oops after the last, otherwise she'd probably be the last! My boys aren't angels, but they're not total brats. I miss having DH in town so I could run errands with only two or three instead of all five.
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Post by swamp on Nov 1, 2012 13:01:15 GMT -5
Sunbee, I have one of those. She's now 5. It doesn't get any easier. Good luck.
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Post by whoami on Nov 1, 2012 13:09:15 GMT -5
Well you don't give up, that's for damn sure! Oh well I wont do that. I really have no patience for unruly kids which is probably why I am being punished with this one. Actually, your kid is just the physical manifestation of your inability to control anything in your life. Wait till he sees his father treating you like shit....if you think his behavior is uncontrollable now......
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Post by swasat on Nov 1, 2012 13:20:55 GMT -5
Make sure it's a soft one then! I dont even want him throwing a soft one! The last couple weeks I have been giving him a snack cup with cookies and m&ms. He eats then chucks the cup, if I do not grab it as he is finishing it. I give him an iphone in restaurants and he will watch the disney channel for a little while. He is just a tough kid. If one of my kids did that they would stop getting cookies and m&ms!!! The rule we follow in our house is: You don't listen, you don't get anything. So when they threw a certain food, that treat was off their list. I remember a time when DS was not allowed anything because he had lost most privileges. No tv, no food treats. Heck I didn't even send him to a b'day party once because his behavior was so bad that day and didn't improve despite multiple warnings. As for the restaurant, instead of giving an iPhone to a 2 year old to entertain himself with, I would simply not go to a restaurant till his behavior improves. Period. You are expecting a perfect behavior from your 2 year old when you yourself are a hot mess at the ripe age of 32. For your age you behave quite childishly. Looks to me your DS is an extension of you.
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