What do you really think about childless people?

[thyme4change]

8 and 10 - I'm pretending like the teenage years aren't coming. They are so perfect and fun right now. There is nothing I can do to prepare, so I might as well stay in denial.

[kgb18]

I should have kids because having kids makes one a better person

I don't think that's true. Either you're a good person or you're not. I think having kids can bring out good qualities that were within you that maybe you didn't realize you had. Of course, they can also bring out bad qualities within you.

Look at all the really crappy parents out there who treat their children horribly. Being a parent didn't make them better.

[sheilaincali]

Oct 30, 2012 12:58:37 GMT -5 kgb18 said:

I should have kids because having kids makes one a better person

I don't think that's true. Either you're a good person or you're not. I think having kids can bring out good qualities that were within you that maybe you didn't realize you had. Of course, they can also bring out bad qualities within you.

Look at all the really crappy parents out there who treat their children horribly. Being a parent didn't make them better.

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Oct 30, 2012 12:46:49 GMT -5 @justaposter said:

Oct 30, 2012 12:42:39 GMT -5 @angel33 said:

Kids really don't have a good sense of humor!

My Mom was visitting last week and I said something GW didn't like. As she was walking away she said "I'm sending you to a crappy home!" My Mom just about died laughing.

That is pretty funny.

[zibazinski]

;D

[Deleted]

The 16 year old keeps telling me he is going to live in my basement until he is 30. I hope that is his way of trying to be funny.

[thyme4change]

Time to redecorate the basement in all pink floral, and burn sickly sweet candles down there.

[milee]

Or turn it into the parental naked room. That's a pretty good teen deterrant.

I have an ongoing bet going with a friend where the loser is going to have to appear somewhere public in a tiny bikini. My 12 year old is horrified at the idea and has informed me that nobody wants to see 40+ year old moms in their bikini.

[Deleted]

Well Miss M....he is a computer Geek. But the ladies like him.

I told him that when he was 18 I was moving and wasn't going to give him my new address.

[Deleted]

Oct 30, 2012 13:18:32 GMT -5 milee said:

Or turn it into the parental naked room. That's a pretty good teen deterrant.

I have an ongoing bet going with a friend where the loser is going to have to appear somewhere public in a tiny bikini. My 12 year old is horrified at the idea and has informed me that nobody wants to see 40+ year old moms in their bikini.

Awesome Idea! I need to turn my entire house into the parental naked room!!!

[Deleted]

I really don't give it much thought.

I certainly don't judge people on the basis of wether they have or haven't reproduced themselves...I leave that for the small minded busy bodies. It is none of my business.

[zibazinski]

I think childless people made the right choice as well as those with children.

[jaya3300]

Oct 29, 2012 17:23:11 GMT -5 kgb18 said:

I don't think anything. Sometimes I wonder if people are childless by choice or if they couldn't have children, but I would never, ever ask.

I don't judge people who I know have chosen not to have children. Parenting is not for everyone. And while I love being a mom, I totally understand why people wouldn't love it as well.

telephus, I totally agree. I have occasionally run across the childless person who seems to abhor all parents and children. I find it offensive to be referred to as a "breeder" or have my children judged by someone who doesn't even know us.

it's not any one business why someone doesn't have kids.

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I know two women who really wanted kids but kept "waiting for the right time". They waited 10+ years for a promotion that never happened. Instead, somebody else was given that promotion.

All this to say, if you don't want kids, fine!

But, if on some level you DO, and you're just waiting for that promotion, or the right time, remember that sometimes it just doesn't happen.

Both these women DID want kids, but, they wanted the assure their promotion first. By the time they were passed over, they were in their early 40s. One is still there, bitter and twisted.

The other left and started a successful bar / restaurant with her BF.

What REALLY rankled was that although they had devoted 10+ years of their lives towards getting that promotion (they were colleagues and friends and both competing for that position) the person who ended up getting is is a mom of four. Management announced "we are promoting F because F is used to delegating and juggling several projects at the same time."

There is NO right answer, just please, make sure you really do what YOU want to do.

[Malarky]

Oct 30, 2012 11:21:27 GMT -5 @missmargarita said:

Well.. I have kids.. and I tolerate mine on most days.. but I really don't have much patience for anyone else's kids...

I refer to them as OPC's-other people's children.

[weltschmerz]

What do you really think about childless people
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I don't think anything...none of my business. Personally, I never wanted kids. I especially didn't want to be a single mom, or to have a boy.
Guess what happened?

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Oct 30, 2012 13:14:18 GMT -5 @missmargarita said:

Oct 30, 2012 13:12:39 GMT -5 @angel33 said:

The 16 year old keeps telling me he is going to live in my basement until he is 30. I hope that is his way of trying to be funny.

So you're raising the creepy on-line dude... good to know!

pot calling kettle black.....joost sayin.....

BTW r u down to low 500s yet?

[thyme4change]

know two women who really wanted kids but kept "waiting for the right time". They waited 10+ years for a promotion that never happened.

In my life as a working mother, and 20-year veteran of corporate america, I don't think getting the promotion makes having a baby easier. In fact, usually the opposite.

[Deleted]

Oct 31, 2012 10:25:43 GMT -5 thyme4change said:

know two women who really wanted kids but kept "waiting for the right time". They waited 10+ years for a promotion that never happened.

In my life as a working mother, and 20-year veteran of corporate america, I don't think getting the promotion makes having a baby easier. In fact, usually the opposite.

More responsibilities
More hours
More stress
More multi tasking
More time away from home

Etc.

I miss the days where I could leave work at work and not worry about it till I punch in the next day; the moment I punched out it was not my problem.

Oh sweet old days!

[whoisjohngalt]

Didn't read the thread - just the title - my 1st thought - They will have sooo much more money than me...

OK, now going to read the tread, be back in 5....

[Deleted]

My wife and I are 36/38 married 14 years and no children by choice. There was a period of time when our friends were all having kids that things got weird. Now the kids are getting to the teen years and don't care to associate that much with their parents and can be left home alone. Now our friends are "back" to go out as just adults again.

[kgb18]

Now our friends are "back" to go out as just adults again.

That has probably been the hardest adjustment for me. I had a pretty active social life. My friends and I went to Happy Hour and out to dinners every week. We went to lots of parties, and we had company over a lot more often. And while some of our friends also have young children, many of my friends are older than me and either A) Never had kids; or B) Have kids who are teenagers or adults.

My DH hasn't let having kids interfere with his social time at all while my social time has become practically nonexistent. I do take the kids with me to some outings where it's okay to take them, but it's not the same as before.

[❤ mollymouser ❤]

<--- content with not having children

[kittensaver]

<--- raised someone else's children :-)

[Chocolate Lover]

Oct 31, 2012 13:08:25 GMT -5 kgb18 said:

Now our friends are "back" to go out as just adults again.

That has probably been the hardest adjustment for me. I had a pretty active social life. My friends and I went to Happy Hour and out to dinners every week. We went to lots of parties, and we had company over a lot more often. And while some of our friends also have young children, many of my friends are older than me and either A) Never had kids; or B) Have kids who are teenagers or adults.

My DH hasn't let having kids interfere with his social time at all while my social time has become practically nonexistent. I do take the kids with me to some outings where it's okay to take them, but it's not the same as before.

sounds like someone's DH needs a reminder that mommies need "time off" too.

[Deleted]

Oct 31, 2012 13:55:20 GMT -5 Chocolate Lover said:

Oct 31, 2012 13:08:25 GMT -5 kgb18 said:

That has probably been the hardest adjustment for me. I had a pretty active social life. My friends and I went to Happy Hour and out to dinners every week. We went to lots of parties, and we had company over a lot more often. And while some of our friends also have young children, many of my friends are older than me and either A) Never had kids; or B) Have kids who are teenagers or adults.

My DH hasn't let having kids interfere with his social time at all while my social time has become practically nonexistent. I do take the kids with me to some outings where it's okay to take them, but it's not the same as before.

sounds like someone's DH needs a reminder that mommies need "time off" too.

Moms love spending time with children over everything else. Why take that away from them?

[zibazinski]

I was married to someone like that, horses ass.

[Chocolate Lover]

Oct 31, 2012 13:56:21 GMT -5 ArchietheDragon said:

Oct 31, 2012 13:55:20 GMT -5 Chocolate Lover said:

sounds like someone's DH needs a reminder that mommies need "time off" too.

Moms love spending time with children over everything else. Why take that away from them?

So the kids all live to adulthood?

[zibazinski]

As well as the immature husband.