Sum Dum Gai
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Oct 29, 2012 18:18:53 GMT -5
You can't even squeeze out one kid that can help me pay for your future social security benefits?! Bastards.
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Iggy aka IG
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Oct 29, 2012 18:22:29 GMT -5
Nice. I'd be reporting that to welfare. This is the crap that pisses me and others ff. Just texted a friend who works for the county. She's going to text me the number tomorrow. Dark, LOL!!
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Cookies Galore
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Post by Cookies Galore on Oct 29, 2012 18:22:57 GMT -5
We are childless and we are awesome!
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Sum Dum Gai
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Oct 29, 2012 18:27:27 GMT -5
For now. To me you aren't really a childless couple until you hit about 45-50. Plenty of people change their minds on this type of thing as they get older, so a "childless" couple that's only 30, who knows. You might run into them 12 years later when they've found Jesus and had 5 kids (i.e. become the most obnoxious people on the planet). It's a total crap shoot.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Oct 29, 2012 18:29:26 GMT -5
We are childless and we are awesome! Yes you are. For now. Didn't you once claim you'd never get married?
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Cookies Galore
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Post by Cookies Galore on Oct 29, 2012 18:41:31 GMT -5
We are childless and we are awesome! Yes you are. For now. Didn't you once claim you'd never get married? There is no mind changing on that!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 29, 2012 18:45:27 GMT -5
My spoiled cats are proof we would have been terrible parents.
They are a couple of crab leg loving, coach purse burrowing, lazy layabouts! ;D
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Post by kgb18 on Oct 29, 2012 18:47:50 GMT -5
Mine too. I have good friends who were unable to have children. They have a great life, but I think it also makes them a little sad to be around those of us who have kids.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Oct 29, 2012 18:50:04 GMT -5
My spoiled cats are proof we would have been terrible parents. They are a couple of crab leg loving, coach purse burrowing, lazy layabouts! ;D Isn't that the truth! And if I had real kids they would be running the household like our cats do so I think it's a blessing to others that we never went there. ;D Meghan - But I can still tease you about until you get too old, right?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 29, 2012 18:53:38 GMT -5
More power to them, either way, for doing what they want to do. I'm in the much more judgmental about loads of kids crowd.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 29, 2012 18:54:03 GMT -5
Lucky buggers to have all that time and get to go to child unfriendly places without having to find a sitter first!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 29, 2012 18:58:11 GMT -5
I guess i really wonder if they are enjoying life without children. Our children are the greatest joys and loves of our lives. I simply cannot imagine going through life without them. And, we have some childless friends. Whenever we stay at their home it seems sooooo quiet and lonely and a bit depressing to not hear kids coming in and out, to not see the "life" of the house where kids live, shows on the floor, homework in the kitchen and all of that.
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Post by souldoubt on Oct 29, 2012 18:59:32 GMT -5
Nothing different than I do about people with kids. I turned 30 this year and have noticed as my friends are now married, getting married and in a few cases have kids that some people in particular are hell bent on the fact that having kids means everything. It kind of irks me when people ask "when are you getting married" or "when are you having kids" like it's the only thing that matters. Especially when it comes from people who had "oops" pregnancies but oh well.
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Oct 29, 2012 19:05:38 GMT -5
I guess i really wonder if they are enjoying life without children. Our children are the greatest joys and loves of our lives. I simply cannot imagine going through life without them. And, we have some childless friends. Whenever we stay at their home it seems sooooo quiet and lonely and a bit depressing to not hear kids coming in and out, to not see the "life" of the house where kids live, shows on the floor, homework in the kitchen and all of that. And on the flip side, in the car after we childless couples visit homes with kids, we shake our heads at the noise/mess/drama/attention competetion.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 29, 2012 19:06:05 GMT -5
True dat!
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Post by kgb18 on Oct 29, 2012 19:13:26 GMT -5
I feel the same way. But then I guess if I had never had kids I wouldn't know what it feels like to have kids, so I wouldn't really know what I was missing. And when I go to the houses of childless people I envy the quiet/clean/drama-free environment.
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Oct 29, 2012 19:22:34 GMT -5
I feel the same way. But then I guess if I had never had kids I wouldn't know what it feels like to have kids, so I wouldn't really know what I was missing. And when I go to the houses of childless people I envy the quiet/clean/drama-free environment. We'll leave the light on for you!
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 29, 2012 19:26:03 GMT -5
I just think it is a different life. One that I cannot relate to at this time.
As far as the friends comment about not being busy until you have kids--it is rude. But I think it comes from a place that as a newish parent it is hard to understand how you used to spend your time, and for me not regret that I didn't do more with that time. I was very busy and worked a ton, but don't have much to show for it.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Oct 29, 2012 19:26:40 GMT -5
I guess i really wonder if they are enjoying life without children. Our children are the greatest joys and loves of our lives. I simply cannot imagine going through life without them. And, we have some childless friends. Whenever we stay at their home it seems sooooo quiet and lonely and a bit depressing to not hear kids coming in and out, to not see the "life" of the house where kids live, shows on the floor, homework in the kitchen and all of that. You are on to me. I also really, really, really love Lady Gaga.
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Post by midjd on Oct 29, 2012 19:26:58 GMT -5
I've gotten a few of the "No kids, how sad for you" comments (which I think is REALLY insensitive if you aren't sure whether the person is child-free by choice). And DH's 24yo cousin told me that I need to have kids "soon, or you'll be, like, really old." MIL has stopped mentioning it, which to me is the saddest... it's like she's given up hope I don't really think anything about childless couples one way or another. Most of my friends have kids, a few don't. My coworkers are split about 50-50. I do sometimes wonder if it was by choice, but it's not the type of thing you ask. There are definitely advantages and disadvantages to both situations.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 29, 2012 19:27:32 GMT -5
I use to think what is wrong with these people? why do they not want children are they CRAZY. Then my kids turned into teenagers, now I envy those childless people.
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Post by cubefarmer on Oct 29, 2012 19:29:53 GMT -5
I feel mostly jealousy towards childless by choice couples with some amazement that they aren't even curious about having kids - course once the horse is out of the barn, there's no going back. It's just two totally different lifestyles.
We have two big families in my family. In the first one, the oldest was a daughter and then there were 7 after her. She left the house after high school and she said she had raised all the kids she was ever going to raise and she had a full fabulous life without kids. No regrets.
In the other big family there are 11 kids - college grad down to preschool. I have no clue how they afford it but it doesn't involve public assistance. It's a fun house and the kids are all happy well adjusted kids. Only one hates having all the siblings. The rest love it. Her kids are way more independent than my only child who had me waiting on him hand and foot. I had nothing else to do.
The childless by choice couple - it always reminds me of The Bob Newhart Show. Would that ever be a show now?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 29, 2012 19:30:48 GMT -5
I use to think what is wrong with these people? why do they not want children are they CRAZY. Then my kids turned into teenagers, now I envy those childless people. LOL! No you don't. Just wait until one of them places your newborn grandchild in your waiting arms. Hopefully that is a few years away. But yes you have a point.
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Post by Tiny on Oct 29, 2012 19:33:48 GMT -5
What do you really think about people without children? I don't usually every really think about the where/why/how/when of other people's kids (or no kids). I do find it interesting to know if someone is married and/or has kids as that's part of their 'history'. When i find out someone's got more than 3 kids - I'm like "what chaos! expecially if you only got one bathroom! ;D" If a couple doesn't have any kids - it doesn't require a comment - cause we're usually on to talking about whatever it is that sucks up their time (hobby, work, pets, whatever). *grew up in a house with 2 bathrooms and 6 family members... so that's my frame of reference for the bathroom comment.... I'm single, no kids. And I figure everyone gets choices about their family life (for the most part). I have friends with kids, no kids, combined families (two sons named Jeff) and even a family that adopted a kid (my girlfirend always wanted kids and was at first devistated when she found out she couldn't have them, and then down right determined (but with patience and common sense) to have a family anyway. She is a force of nature that I admire. I tend to view other people as having made the choices that got them where they are today - so I tend to think other people's situations are kinda what they want (again to a point - no one wants a terrible accident or some health problem they didn't directly bring on themselves). Or I think other people's situations are 'works in progress' and they are working their way toward some future they want. If a long time married couple (say 8 or more years) doesn't have kids - I tend to assume they are happy with that situation. If a short time married couple doesn't have kids - I tend to assume they are also happy with that situation as maybe they are working towards a future family. Either way I think "oh, a 'happy' couple". I may be totally idealistic on this point. FWIW: I find it a weird idea that someone would spend an extended time (years) being unhappy 'about their lot in life' - I would like to think they would take some action to rectify the situation - either find someway around what's blocking their happiness OR accept that they need to change their focus/attitude/expectations about the situation (some things just aren't every gonna happen in one's lifetime - and life is not fair.) We always have a choice.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Oct 29, 2012 19:36:15 GMT -5
I'm in the "don't give two figs either way" camp.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Oct 29, 2012 19:40:59 GMT -5
When I see people with 5 or more children.. I'll admit to having the word "breeder" pass through my brain... it really makes my head hurt to think of having that many kids... and I've seen one or two situation where the kids are under the age of 5 with one in a stroller.. and one still in the belly. eek! I can't imagine! Hmmm, I do kind of get the same subliminal message with a mother with many kids and one in the oven. I do kind of get the impression she is a breeder. I'm not talking 3 kids, I'm talking like 6 to 8 kids with one on the way.
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Post by taz157 on Oct 29, 2012 19:53:39 GMT -5
More power to them, either way, for doing what they want to do. My heart does go out to couples who want children but can't have them.
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Post by taz157 on Oct 29, 2012 19:58:41 GMT -5
I use to think what is wrong with these people? why do they not want children are they CRAZY. Then my kids turned into teenagers, now I envy those childless people. LOL! No you don't. Just wait until one of them places your newborn grandchild in your waiting arms. I have a 15 mo DD and my brother has a 4.5 mo DD. My brother's DD was born the Thursday before Father's Day. My dad told my brother and I that he couldn't believe we were parents when we had called him to wish him a Happy Father's Day. He could believe me more as a mother than my brother as a father.
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Post by imawino on Oct 29, 2012 20:05:09 GMT -5
I guess i really wonder if they are enjoying life without children. Our children are the greatest joys and loves of our lives. I simply cannot imagine going through life without them. And, we have some childless friends. Whenever we stay at their home it seems sooooo quiet and lonely and a bit depressing to not hear kids coming in and out, to not see the "life" of the house where kids live, shows on the floor, homework in the kitchen and all of that. And on the flip side, in the car after we childless couples visit homes with kids, we shake our heads at the noise/mess/drama/attention competetion. Then we down 3 advil to counteract the headache we got, drink a giant vase of wine and fuck loudly on the couch in the living room....because we can. I think everyone should do what works for them, and don't really give too much thought to other people's choices that don't affect me. Not producing children worked for me, but obviously that's not the right choice for the majority.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Oct 29, 2012 20:05:50 GMT -5
Sometimes I worry about childless people when they get old ( such as my daughter ) and being left alone in the world in their eighties, and sometimes I think, by golly, they made some good choices.
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