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Post by Deleted on Aug 29, 2012 14:18:41 GMT -5
Can someone that has been to prison really be a nice girl or nice guy?
A friend of mine started dating a guy that had gone to prison for arson. He burnt the truck, business and the garage of the guy that had an affair with his ex wife and then moved into his house.
What do you think?
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Post by Waffle on Aug 29, 2012 14:21:43 GMT -5
Whatever she does, don't cheat on him.  Seriously, I'm sure there are some people who can come out of prison and be an ok romantic partner. But with that particular history, I wouldn't chance it. |
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Post by BeenThere...DoneThat... on Aug 29, 2012 14:22:35 GMT -5
...are you a troll?   |
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Post by swamp on Aug 29, 2012 14:23:05 GMT -5
No, I wouldn't. I spend lots of time with people who have been to, are in, or are going to prison. While some are charming, pleasant, etc, you really have to work hard to get to prison and generally have sociopathic tendencies.
or are lying about what you did.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 29, 2012 14:23:11 GMT -5
LOL No. And it's a true story. Honest!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 29, 2012 14:26:18 GMT -5
Sociopathic? That sounds dangerous.  |
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Post by swamp on Aug 29, 2012 14:26:56 GMT -5
Sociopathic? That sounds dangerous. burning down shit because you're mad at someone sounds pretty dangerous too.............. |
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Post by BeenThere...DoneThat... on Aug 29, 2012 14:28:33 GMT -5
LOL No. And it's a true story. Honest!  ...fwiw, I could see myself having dated someone who got busted for putting a cardboard dime in the laundrymat... so I suppose the answer to your question is, yes... |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 29, 2012 14:30:36 GMT -5
True enough.
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Post by lexxy703 on Aug 29, 2012 14:32:39 GMT -5
I could maybe see myself dating someone who had been to prison depending on why. But that guy went a bit overboard. Lots of people get cheated on without burning down garages, trucks & businesses. I think he might have anger management issues & no way would I want to be involved with someone like that. I could see him being abusive.
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Post by weltschmerz on Aug 29, 2012 14:52:04 GMT -5
Would I date a guy who was busted for something minor, like pot? Yes. Arson with anger management issues? No.
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 29, 2012 14:53:29 GMT -5
My husband doesn't like me dating.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Aug 29, 2012 15:16:24 GMT -5
Would I date a guy who was busted for something minor, like pot? Yes. Arson with anger managemant issues? No.  For what he did?! HELL NO!! |
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Post by mox on Aug 29, 2012 15:43:17 GMT -5
I think some (few) prisoners can be rehabilitated. That said, no, I wouldn't care to date a former prisoner.
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Post by femmefatale on Aug 29, 2012 15:44:50 GMT -5
No. Absolutely not.
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Post by Reckless Roselia on Aug 29, 2012 15:54:45 GMT -5
Bad romance that shall be.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Aug 29, 2012 15:57:05 GMT -5
 Later's got a prison boyfriend....Later's got a prison boyfriend. |
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Post by mox on Aug 29, 2012 16:06:24 GMT -5
Would you date someone that had been to prison a HEMORRHOID? ;D
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Post by Reckless Roselia on Aug 29, 2012 16:10:27 GMT -5
Someone has to date or marry a criminal, right? Or do crimes really pay even in relationships? |
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Post by Opti on Aug 29, 2012 16:16:18 GMT -5
Would I date a guy who was busted for something minor, like pot? Yes. Arson with anger managemant issues? No. For what he did?! HELL NO!! Ditto. Just burning that guy's truck is out of control. I wouldn't want someone like this in my life at all. |
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Post by reader79 on Aug 29, 2012 16:18:07 GMT -5
How do you find out? I guess Google is your friend in this instance. But I have never done a background check on anyone that I have dated. I have been used as an alibi for a BF who spent the night in jail. He told his mother (at age 26 - seriously,) that he had spent the night with me, versus the truth.
But I think the time and effort it takes to get sent 'upstate,' would mean that he would have done some serious shit.... and been stupid enough to have gotten caught, LOL. So I would have to pass on a former prisoner.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Aug 29, 2012 16:27:56 GMT -5
Possibly, but odds are they're a giant douche or bug friggin nuts.
I think the odds are really good that this particular guy falls into the giant douche or bug friggin nuts categories. I don't have enough info to determine which, but I'd lean towards him belonging in one of them. Really nice guys don't burn down vehicles, businesses, and garages.
Even if we give him the benefit of the doubt on his crime (fit of passion, drunken rage, or what have you), you have to wonder how being in prison changed him. If he went in a really nice guy, but spent a few years getting gang raped by not nice men, he might come out with more emotional baggage and PTSD type symptoms than a combat vet.
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Post by mox on Aug 29, 2012 16:33:39 GMT -5
Does the ex-con have money in a Swiss bank account or better yet, in the Cayman Islands?   |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 29, 2012 21:42:30 GMT -5
Okay, I laughed when she told me. Maybe I should have a more serious discussion with her. I hadn't really thought it through the way you guys are talking.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Sept 2, 2012 8:19:49 GMT -5
One of the creepiest people I ever met was a physician who had lost his license for something, been to prison for the "something" ( most likely dealing drugs ), and had a courtesy job from a pathologist that I did billing for. She let him work in her lab for awhile. You could tell that there was something seriously wrong there. Even though he was a jail bird, he had one of the most arrogant personalities I've ever encountered, literally looked down his nose at us when he spoke, and ordered us around like we were his female servants. He was just weird. He only lasted a couple of months and just up and left. So no, I would not date anyone who had been in prison.
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Post by beags on Sept 2, 2012 8:46:09 GMT -5
dating a man with anger issues will usually result in two things . . . . gauranteed abuse . . . and/or death. The answer is NO.
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Post by TD2K on Sept 3, 2012 16:57:13 GMT -5
LOL No. And it's a true story. Honest! Saaayyyy, good question. Never thought about that  |
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Post by TD2K on Sept 3, 2012 16:58:11 GMT -5
Later's got a prison boyfriend....Later's got a prison boyfriend.  |
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Post by jaya3300 on Sept 3, 2012 18:48:11 GMT -5
hell no. too many reasons
1. financial. ex cons usually struggle to find jobs period.
2. relationship drama. informing your family and friends that your new significant other is an ex con never goes well
3. rehabilitation (or not). most ex cons end up in prison again
4. there are enough men and women out there to date. don't need to settle for one who has been in the slammer
5. relationships are difficult already. don't need to add more challenges such as probation, UA, home monitoring, stigma, and etc
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Post by Reckless Roselia on Sept 4, 2012 4:36:35 GMT -5
What if you fall ''head over heels'' in love with a criminal but later find out he/she is a criminal?
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