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Post by Firebird on Aug 24, 2012 13:39:53 GMT -5
We both have antisocial tendencies, conversations get really boring if all you have to talk about is work and your kids. This adds another source of conversational fodder. The more you post, the more I become convinced we need to meet and be friends I'm still really bummed DH and I couldn't make it to your beer bash. I kinda blame Dark for not mentioning it was taking place on the dark side of the moon...
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Post by Firebird on Aug 24, 2012 13:40:52 GMT -5
Nope. But it's not just a "meeting a guy" thing, it's meeting a complete stranger who could be a serial killer thing. Lena Or you could meet a good friend. In 2009, I met up with Beerwench and Miss Tequila. We've since become good friends off the board. I've also met up with Meghn and Imawino. I'm still here and OK. ETA: I've also met Wizard of Id. He's not a serial killer either. Yeah, but you know people. Obviously they're going to hide their serial killer tendencies around a lawyer!
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Post by Loopdilou on Aug 24, 2012 13:41:47 GMT -5
We both have antisocial tendencies, conversations get really boring if all you have to talk about is work and your kids. This adds another source of conversational fodder. The more you post, the more I become convinced we need to meet and be friends I'm still really bummed DH and I couldn't make it to your beer bash. I kinda blame Dark for not mentioning it was taking place on the dark side of the moon... He's a bit dumb sometimes
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2012 13:43:13 GMT -5
Or you could meet a good friend. In 2009, I met up with Beerwench and Miss Tequila. We've since become good friends off the board. I've also met up with Meghn and Imawino. I'm still here and OK. ETA: I've also met Wizard of Id. He's not a serial killer either. Yeah, but you know people. Obviously they're going to hide their serial killer tendencies around a lawyer! SHOOT! I knew there was something I forgot to do that weekend!!
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Post by Firebird on Aug 24, 2012 13:43:21 GMT -5
Firebird and I first met in person when she had a family emergency up here and needed a ride from the airport to a place about an hour away, in the middle of very sparsely populated/heavily wooded area- and she was arriving after dark. DH insisted on going with me to pick her up and drive her out there, because "that was the way serial killers work".I still think it was a good instinct on his part Besides, I wouldn't have wanted you to drive out there in the middle of the night even if you knew me. It's a creepy drive and very easy to get lost. Good to have a backup person with you regardless of whether you have a serial killer freaking out in the backseat. BTW - my family still talks about how great that was of you guys. I have no idea if they mentioned it to you (there's a good chance they've never put two and two together and realized you were the one who drove me out there that night) but they do.
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Post by Firebird on Aug 24, 2012 13:44:02 GMT -5
raeoflyte: Whereas I just wish you and your DH lived anywhere near me so that we could meet and hang out in person. Are you quite certain you can't move your whole family to Seattle too? shanendoah and I are really cool, honest!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2012 13:45:42 GMT -5
Awww.....you are near Seattle? I could have added meeting you to my West Coast swing.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Aug 24, 2012 13:47:37 GMT -5
Yes - very.
Nope. He had female friends through work as wells as some work-related organizations he belonged to - and socialized with them - I met several of them.
Yes , and he was ok with it. They were mostly colleagues and going for lunch or drinks after work/socializing without our spouse wasn't an issue - for either of us.
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Post by raeoflyte on Aug 24, 2012 13:49:38 GMT -5
raeoflyte: Whereas I just wish you and your DH lived anywhere near me so that we could meet and hang out in person. Are you quite certain you can't move your whole family to Seattle too? shanendoah and I are really cool, honest! I just have to wait until my parents can move states too and follow us (for the grandkids). DH would love to move up there. We know where our peeps are!
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Post by Firebird on Aug 24, 2012 13:51:50 GMT -5
Awww.....you are near Seattle? I could have added meeting you to my West Coast swing. I'm in California technically but we go to Seattle fairly frequently. Hoping to move there next year.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Aug 24, 2012 13:53:03 GMT -5
Let me re-phrase...I mean, in real life, I wouldn't want my spouse to have female friends...he can have all he wants on Facebook. That would be going a tad bit over board and juvenile. And banning him from being friends with Sally isn't juvenile?
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Post by Phoenix84 on Aug 24, 2012 13:54:47 GMT -5
These rules are crazy - but there is also a norm. Would you think it okay to have your wife go out every night with the same guy? And then the one billion combinations between "Don't ever look another man in the eye" and "Go ahead and date all you want." Do you want the norm to be that there is one guy who she talks to often, and sees several times a week, and dresses up and does her hair and goes out with? One guy who she giggles with, and sends texts and pictures. And maybe that guy doesn't come at the beginning of the marriage, but suddenly starts showing up around year 8, when she stopped wearing make-up for you, and your sex life is (at best) routine, and you know all of each other's stories, so sometimes you sit together and don't have anything to say. This guy appears after she is fed up with your dirty underpants, and the fact that after asking you for years, you never rinse the toothpaste spit out of the sink, and you guys have to fuss at each other every time you discuss money because your goals aren't the same. You know she's been unhappy in her job, but not really knowing what to do - but this new friend, makes her smile, and they are going out to dinner. And you are sitting home eating a ham sandwich, with a toddler who is throwing a temper tantrum and the house is a mess. But, you trust her. I think I see what you're saying. But what you're describing I'd call "more than friends." Even if there's no sex involved, you can still be emotionally unfaithful to your spouse. Your spouse should be the #1 person in your life, but not necessarily the only one. But it is a fine line to walk.
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Post by BeenThere...DoneThat... on Aug 24, 2012 13:56:46 GMT -5
Here is one - many many moons ago I worked with a guy who became a really good friend. I was single, he was in a relationship. The only time we saw each other at work was on smoke brakes bc we worked in different departments. His GF got pregnant and after people in his department found out - I got an anonymous envelope with typed up note saying "We heard T is having a baby, are you?". 99% of the people were 100% sure that we were "doing it". Sometimes it doesn't even have to be behind close doors for rumors to start. And btw, it did get to HR - I brought it up - that letter annoyed the crap out of me. Lena Wow. I guess busybodies like anonymous notes. ...and anonymous message boards?
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Post by BeenThere...DoneThat... on Aug 24, 2012 14:00:02 GMT -5
These rules are crazy - but there is also a norm. Would you think it okay to have your wife go out every night with the same guy? And then the one billion combinations between "Don't ever look another man in the eye" and "Go ahead and date all you want." Do you want the norm to be that there is one guy who she talks to often, and sees several times a week, and dresses up and does her hair and goes out with? One guy who she giggles with, and sends texts and pictures. And maybe that guy doesn't come at the beginning of the marriage, but suddenly starts showing up around year 8, when she stopped wearing make-up for you, and your sex life is (at best) routine, and you know all of each other's stories, so sometimes you sit together and don't have anything to say. This guy appears after she is fed up with your dirty underpants, and the fact that after asking you for years, you never rinse the toothpaste spit out of the sink, and you guys have to fuss at each other every time you discuss money because your goals aren't the same. You know she's been unhappy in her job, but not really knowing what to do - but this new friend, makes her smile, and they are going out to dinner. And you are sitting home eating a ham sandwich, with a toddler who is throwing a temper tantrum and the house is a mess. But, you trust her. I think I see what you're saying. But what you're describing I'd call "more than friends." Even if there's no sex involved, you can still be emotionally unfaithful to your spouse. Your spouse should be the #1 person in your life, but not necessarily the only one. But it is a fine line to walk. ...and this illustrates the point, too... one man's "friend" is another man's "lecher"
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2012 14:01:02 GMT -5
Well, if you'd keep your pants on we wouldn't call you a lecher!
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Post by BeenThere...DoneThat... on Aug 24, 2012 14:01:59 GMT -5
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Post by Firebird on Aug 24, 2012 14:02:38 GMT -5
Wow, the last time I heard that term was when I was reading The Crucible. Next time I hear about a couple cheating I am going to refer to them as "the lecher and the harpy." Actually, does anyone write romance novels? That would make a great book title
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2012 14:03:35 GMT -5
Or a band name!
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Post by BeenThere...DoneThat... on Aug 24, 2012 14:04:59 GMT -5
Wow, the last time I heard that term was when I was reading The Crucible. Next time I hear about a couple cheating I am going to refer to them as "the lecher and the harpy." Actually, does anyone write romance novels? That would make a great book title ...it sorta rhymes with "treasure", and I couldn't think of a "friend" word that rhymed with "trash"
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Post by BeenThere...DoneThat... on Aug 24, 2012 14:05:48 GMT -5
Or a band name! ...even better, since a lyre and a harp are actual instruments...
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2012 14:08:05 GMT -5
They're gonna need a drummer if they want to make it big.....
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Post by BeenThere...DoneThat... on Aug 24, 2012 14:10:56 GMT -5
...but of course...
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Post by Phoenix84 on Aug 24, 2012 14:16:20 GMT -5
"when you have significant responsibilities at home, I don't think it's very nice to go out ALL THE TIME with someone of the same sex, either."
That's what I thought too. It doesn't have to be someone of the opposite sex. If you're always going out with your same sex friend while your spouse is at home taking care of the home front, that would be annoying regardless of who the individual you're seeing is. Of course, the same things go with groups too.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Aug 24, 2012 14:16:49 GMT -5
"Seriously, if anyone gave me a weird vibe I would have just called someone that I know to come out and meet me. I could tell within 5 minutes of meeting everyone that I had nothing to worry about, though (except Tina....I'm still not sure about her. ). "
LMAO!!! I was just going to post the same thing about you...get out of my head!lol
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Aug 24, 2012 14:17:38 GMT -5
Wait, what? It's my fault you can't put an address in google maps??? Uh huh.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Aug 24, 2012 14:19:11 GMT -5
"Yeah, but you know people. Obviously they're going to hide their serial killer tendencies around a lawyer! " Unless it is the lawyer that is the serial killer <<gives swamp the stink eye>>
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2012 14:23:00 GMT -5
"Seriously, if anyone gave me a weird vibe I would have just called someone that I know to come out and meet me. I could tell within 5 minutes of meeting everyone that I had nothing to worry about, though (except Tina....I'm still not sure about her. ). " LMAO!!! I was just going to post the same thing about you...get out of my head!lol Hell no! How else are you going to find my house??? ETA: That's right! I even invite my weird internet friends over to my house!!
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Post by imawino on Aug 24, 2012 14:23:51 GMT -5
I've also met up with Meghn and Imawino. I'm still here and OK. You were sooooooooo lucky that Meg was there.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Aug 24, 2012 14:23:57 GMT -5
"Yeah, but you know people. Obviously they're going to hide their serial killer tendencies around a lawyer! " Unless it is the lawyer that is the serial killer <<gives swamp the stink eye>> <<doesn't mention exactly what kind of meat Swamp asked her to put in the freezer>>
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Post by Firebird on Aug 24, 2012 14:24:56 GMT -5
Wait, what? It's my fault you can't put an address in google maps??? Uh huh. Why would I? I was expecting a town near San Jose!!
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