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Post by Deleted on Aug 27, 2012 12:47:35 GMT -5
Tell me about your mother..... A saint of a woman.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 27, 2012 12:56:28 GMT -5
I'm glad I'm not a guy. I couldn't get it up with someone I couldn't respect.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 27, 2012 12:58:38 GMT -5
If you were a guy a slight breeze would get it up.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 27, 2012 13:08:48 GMT -5
It seems to be the case.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 27, 2012 13:11:37 GMT -5
It is often a physiological reaction to outside stimuli.
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 27, 2012 13:15:31 GMT -5
The implications of this astounds me! Does that mean that if you stopped respecting your husband, it is okay, because you can just lay there?
I think what you meant to say is that you do not wish to have sex with someone you don't respect. The fact that you are male or female would appear irrelevant.
But, what you actually said is that you just plain don't respect women - so if you were a guy you would never get laid.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 27, 2012 13:18:24 GMT -5
I don't think that's true. Even misogynists find wives.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 27, 2012 13:19:24 GMT -5
That is not what I said. But I would have a lot of trouble given what is posted on here feeling respect for some of the spouses. Yes, I need to feel respect to have sex. I can't just lay there.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 27, 2012 13:20:40 GMT -5
That is not what I said. But I would have a lot of trouble given what is posted on here feeling respect for some of the spouses. Yes, I need to feel respect to have sex. I can't just lay there. Then you probably wouldn't be married to them. I can't speak for anyone else, but I have 100% respect for my wife.
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 27, 2012 13:22:13 GMT -5
Okay - so what is the difference between "being glad you are not a guy" because you couldn't have sex with someone you don't respect? It doesn't really make any sense - except that you think Archie doesn't respect his wife (which I doubt is true - even if he does have one "issue" with her) and Carl may or may not respect his wife.
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Post by raeoflyte on Aug 27, 2012 13:22:31 GMT -5
That is not what I said. But I would have a lot of trouble given what is posted on here feeling respect for some of the spouses. Yes, I need to feel respect to have sex. I can't just lay there. I don't say this to be mean, but is there anyones relationship that you do approve of?
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 27, 2012 13:28:07 GMT -5
People post some really bad stuff on here about their spouses. I admit I get POed about how DF handles his family but I'm also guilty. We do talk about it and come up with compromises that work for both of us. I'm glad of that. But if he lied to me flat out, I'd have a serious issue with it and him. It has nothing to do with men vs. women but equal partners. That means a lot of things to a lot of people but if one person SAYS they are okay with it but then really isn't and then proceeds to bad mouth the other party behind their backs, it's just wrong. Why would you stay with someone you can't trust?
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 27, 2012 13:37:59 GMT -5
Have you all noticed, I have, that WWBG, doesn't say anything bad about his spouse anymore? When he refers to her, he says she USED to be a certain way but now has changed for the better. If he were still talking bad about her, we would be all over him about it and to a certain extent, right fully so. It was mentioned that he didn't say anything nice about her other than she wasn't as bad as she used to be. He either is happier or has decided that airing his unhappiness reaps more bad karma on him that it solves.
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 27, 2012 14:29:39 GMT -5
No - I don't read much of what WWBG says.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 27, 2012 14:49:11 GMT -5
Actually I find it is more the responses that are crazy. Archie is not overly upset about her saying $200 when it was $600, or if he was it has passed. What happens here is someone posts something they find a bit aggravating and a lot of people jump on it and say end the relationship, I'd never tolerate that etc etc etc. Then next week they are the ones posting minor annoyances and being told to divorce their spouse.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 27, 2012 15:49:33 GMT -5
Do you really think some of these things are minor annoyances? Are we the kind of people who. Complain about minor annoyances? I don't think so. Minor Annoyances are DFs water bottles all over the house half finished or his newspapers everywhere. Weird but minor. Major ones are another story. I went on WIR with an issue. People responded and did it well. I got good advice and took it. Made a huge difference in my life. I don't just air grievances because I want to Trash him. Trashing him says more about me than him. When I say something, I want help and advice for neutral parties. No one on here wants anyone's relationship to end. What people on here mostly want is for the complaining to either end or do something about it so you stop complaining. Especially about the same things over and over again.
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 27, 2012 16:11:42 GMT -5
Maybe
Absolutely!
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 27, 2012 16:22:27 GMT -5
Thyme!
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Post by swamp on Aug 27, 2012 16:24:35 GMT -5
I used to buy last year's sales/clearance but that backfired bigtime last year, That is what I'm always nervous of. There is just no way to tell when the kid is going to have a growth spurt, or barely grow an inch and then all the savings is just a pile of wasted money. We're also at an age now where finding used clothing in good shape is much harder. Kids actually do rip/stain/ruin clothes before they wear out at this stage. I did that. At the end of the summer my dd was 2, I bought a whole wardrobe of size 4T for the next summer. Next summer she wore a 5T. Whoops.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 27, 2012 23:07:04 GMT -5
I do think that both Carl and Dark go a little too far in describing their personal relationships. They are slightly different situations, though. Carl is venting in a forum that his wife doesn't read. That is both ok and not. If she ever does join, she will probably be pretty pissed; however, it may be good that Carl CAN vent. (I will say, again, though, that you would drive me nuts with your goals that seems to change weekly.) Dark knows Loop has equal access. So he isn't exactly talking behind her back. I don't like everything he reveals, but if it is ok with them (and the mods), I can deal with that.
Online is so one-sided. If we heard the other side of any of these stories, we would probably change our minds. I would love to hear Doxie's husband's post, Crone's boyfriend's posts, and even my husband's posts. I am sure they would startle any of us.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 28, 2012 7:53:42 GMT -5
For sure.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2012 8:13:51 GMT -5
Le'ts remember the culture that Carl was raised in. Immigrants from Haiti who came here for a much better life. Carl has achieved his success thus far by getting his education, and is now attempting to step even further away from his (what we consider) disfunctional family. So I say kudos to him for all he has gained so far. I'd also like to know just who is he going to talk to? One of his whacked out cousins? A MIL who wants nothing more than for her daughter to start popping out kids? He has absolutely NO ONE to help him sort through his thoughts and ideas. Carl is truly a work in progress, and one who is showing us exactly how anyone can make it in this country if they truly want to put in the work. So cut him some slack!!!!!!
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 28, 2012 8:34:59 GMT -5
True enough. When someone has no real friends, he needs his Internet friends that he can vent to. I actually miss my mom because I could vent about DF to her and she'd be ON MY SIDE! The rest of my family loves him more than me so I'm outa luck there! ;D
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2012 8:37:09 GMT -5
Well, that wasn't very nice. I am sure Carl has real friends, but they don't live near him. One of the unfortunate consequences of moving around so much.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 28, 2012 8:40:46 GMT -5
I don't mean it like that but really, who can he can to about these things that could give him advice? Most people keep their finances to themselves except for maybe telling family. He can't do that. You sure wouldn't say anything about this at work, so who can he talk to?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2012 8:43:39 GMT -5
BW: From the posts Carl has made, it seems that his immediate family and extended family are to be his best friends. Again, it goes back to the culture where he was raised. In my family??? No one was considered a friend, and we only had to see each other at funerals or weddings, and those didn't have very often.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 28, 2012 8:44:42 GMT -5
But he can't talk about finances with them or even his worries. I'd be afraid they'd tell my spouse behind my back. He may live them but I don't think he trusts them. Much.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2012 8:47:00 GMT -5
Plus I don't think he wants to diss her to people that know her. We all have people we tell the bad stuff too. Even about our friends. The trick is doing it with someone that will never tell. On here it is about evaluating the risk of the person or people you are talking about finding out. Not much different than when you confide in someone face to face. Except here there is a written record for all eternity.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2012 8:47:50 GMT -5
unless you ask the mods to delete you entire posting history
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 28, 2012 8:48:19 GMT -5
;D
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